FRANCISTOWN:

If it roared like a lion, walked like a lion and hunted like a lion. It is definitely a lion.

waht if it's a tiger

DonBenny77:
She's really not into fashion design like it's not productive it's just a cover/ front to meet clients for hookup. The business financing the fashion is clitocurrency because that gain from design can't sponsor a flamboyant lifestyle.
I met a girl sometime ago she we started talking she said she sells ladies handbag. I thought I had met a productive lady a week later I asked her if I put 200k in her business can she refund me in 3 months without interest i really didn't mean to loan her just wanted to keep her in her toes and she declined she preferred to be billing me regularly while i provide

most girls nowadays are low key involved in hookups. there's nothing new about it. Nairaland even posted a video of some of them bragging about it last year


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6v-PXdeL2tc

You shouldn't be surprised

here's the story


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RSZk4iXrPcM

hope it helps you out

Bonab:
In the West,the decision to marry is between the man and the woman. The parents doesn't necessarily have to give their consent. Though some of them do it out of respect for their parents, especially the blacks, Indians and Asian families living in the West.

However,in our African clime it is an important tradition to introduce your intending spouse to your parents and to seek for their blessings.

The challenge is that sometimes they may disapprove of our choices of partners and this is where many people are confused on what to do. I often get this kind of cases and it is really a difficult one to handle, especially when the couples are deeply in love with the hope of tying the knot some day.

I have heard of couples who eloped to a different location against their parents wishes and settled there as married couples. Some did it and it eventually worked out fine for them, while others regretted that action.

First, parental blessings and consent are very important, because as a parent you wouldn't want your child to make mistakes in marriage.

Your parents may disagree with your choice of partner for the following reasons.

1) As a result of their findings. Some of them do a thorough background check of the family that their child is going into,because some cultures and families maltreat women a lot. Some practice strange traditions that are un-christian. Some dig deep to find out what you do for a living beyond what you have told them.

2) Observation - through their interactions and observations they may reach some conclusions about your partner. E.g He/she is lazy,rude, arrogant, disrespectful, wasteful with resources etc

3) Social class/Financial standings. Some outrightly rejects your choice because of the low social class or their poor financial standing.

4) Ethnic/Tribal sentiment: some reject your choice because of some prejudices and negative sentiments they have about other tribes. The prejudices are flamed by their negative encounters they have had with other tribes or negatives stories that people tell about others. This is even made worse by Nollywood as they keep repeating some negative narratives about different tribes, which sometimes may be fictitious.

5) Intuitive/instinctive decisions: some parents may tell you that their heart doesn't accept this person even though they don't know why.

The list goes on,but this are the major reasons

What do you do,if you find yourself in such situations.

1) Depending on their reasons, appeal to them,make them see reasons why you chose him/her and assure them them of your love and respect for them even after you have tied the knot with that person.You can involve people they respect so much to speak to them. Getting angry and defying their stands complicates issues.

2) Take time to analyse their reasons. Believe me sometimes they're saving you from serious issues that could arise in the future,which with your current emotional state of mind you're not able to see clearly because you're in love. Some go for thanksgiving after their exes dumped them, because they are now analysing the issues logically with no emotional bias.

3) If you're currently dating with the hope of marrying the person in the future,know that it is disastrous telling your parents every little thing that is happening in your relationship, except if the matter is so serious that you need their input.

Telling them every little thing about your partner will form an impression in their heart which can be negative or positive,hence when you now officially introduce to them your partner for marriage, they'll base their decisions on what you have told them so far,even though you may have exaggerated some of those stories due to your emotional state of mind.

4) For the ladies - when you and your man have exhausted every amicable channels to appeal to the guy's family and they still refused,think careful if you still want to proceed with marrying him in defiance to his parents wishes. I said this because some families are very violent and fetish, they may deploy every means possible to fight you. It is better to marry into a family that loves you than to believe that you will one day win their hearts. Some have succeeded in such situations, while there are some that are still facing severe hostility from their in-laws despite being married for 20years into that family.

I have seen situations where the in-laws violently stopped their daughter in-law from attending her husband's funeral, because they said that the lady forcefully took their son and now has killed him.

5) Pray over it. God will reveal to you in prayer if it is actually his wish for you to be yoked in marriage to him/her. If it is his wish,he will divinely move the mountains for your happiness. Even though Pharaoh had refused that Israel should go and serve their God,yet through miraculous ways God liberated his people.

But if it is not God's wish as he would reveal to you in prayer, I will advise you to let go.He may actually be using your parents to save you from marrying the wrong person.

Please share your story on how you were able to resolve this kind of dilemma when you encountered them,so as to help others who are currently facing it.

there was a video i saw on nairaland a few days ago about an anambra girl whose parents weren't in support of her dating her boyfriend from imo state. i'll try to find it and link it here. I guess she got good advice

hmmn. people still dey marry

Teymanhenry:


😆 are you for real? I know Spec or specification means identifying something/someone base on a certain characteristics or qualities. The question was, what are those specs he was looking for that you have?

for real?

I have a friend who is a chronic cheat

He cheats on his girlfriend whom he has spent over 9yrs dating

I got to be friends with the girl through my friend on their second year of dating

This friend of mine isn’t well to do, the girl has paid her dues and even sleep on the floor with him and go through hard times with him but why he continues to cheat on her is what I don’t understand.

Atleast if I don’t know, I know three girls he has impregnated but it was terminated.

I know his three present side chicks as we speak.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EU3zIpAEQ64

The main chick everyday complains to me but hey! You don’t expect me to tell you to quit a relationship with my guy.

I say some words indirectly to her and she isn’t catching the clues I give to her to quit that relationship. Over the years I have given her clues upon clues for her to move on and find love elsewhere but I think she is blinded by love and not even catching all the clues

I can’t openly tell you that my guy is doing shit here and there. You see the signs, you know the girls and the pregnancy, I give you clues yet you still sick advise or want me to talk to my friend

Yes I do talk to him Every time but had to stop talking let him as a man make his decisions.

Over 9yrs with someone and in the next 5yrs he doesn’t seem like who still has intentions of settling down with her. To think that his new side chick has taken him to see his uncles and parents , starting marriage talk is disgusting. He is playing the new side chick too and his family

You're faced with a tricky decision.

Is your current man prepared to marry you? If he is, and finds out you're still going on dates, he might dump you.

I think this should help you decide whether he is worth staying with


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RJ2ulJMb_pk

Le me know if this helps

OP, you need to be able to weigh skills people/markets want?

you can baking, IT skills, Digital marketing but how do you find people willing to pay for your skills?

I will suggest you listen to this first, then make a decision based off the advice you're offered within it


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7GHXkCsJ2fc

Let me know if it helps.

These people are not serious. Have they even listened to the breakdown about how much it costs to live in lagos and other cities?



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xM_5QXrPiIo

50,000 in lagos feels like 5000 in Kaduna

Verbtips:
So,yesterday evening i was enjoying my liesure time out side,
when i overheard tie conversation of my
nieghbour daughter with her friend.
instead of reading and discussing how to pass their unified exam and get promoted
to ss3,
but that's not the case
they were talking about boy that has approached them both past and present,of course what really makes my spirit tremble
was when my nieghbour daughter commented that "any guy that keeps disturbing her she gonna lock him and turn him to her atm card".
omo na so i carry my chair enter my apartment.

They've been listening to the folks on this


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6v-PXdeL2tc

It even gets worse

instead of arresting people openly confessing to scamming like the yahoo boys below, they will be chasing ordinary civilains


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f0r4pp-u_uI

Mosi loved Temi, but her parents didn’t. They thought Temi was strange because he always wore his hoodie, even indoors. But Temi was more than that—he was an artist with eyes as dark as midnight. Mosi’s heart chose him, even when her parents disapproved.

In their cozy room at Ebute Metta, Temi and Mosi painted their love story. The cold air outside couldn’t touch them. Temi whispered promises warmed her soul.

Mosi decided: she’d choose love over judgment, weaving vibrant colors into their shared canvas.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RSZk4iXrPcM

What should she do?

Thomasemeka:
it means they've been scammed by the bank


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f0r4pp-u_uI
there's no difference between the bank and the young men here.

interesting...