GurlFriend:
I see a bunch of threads here created by guys who see nothing good in the women folk, but if I start writing about the evils that men commit, the mods may move the thread to the literature section.

My Experience

I am pretty, well kept and groomed and at an age where although I may not be a spring chick, I am still young enough to attract attention from guys in their early 20s who have no qualms about toasting their elder sister's age mates. I have had my fair share lovers but I am currently sworn off men till such a time I recover from the trauma of my latest experience in the hands of the 'ejaculating gender.'

My now ex, let's call him Kingsley was supposed to be a godsent. He is fair, heavily bearded, handsome and a single father. He is also terrible in bed. TERRIBLE. He doesn't last more than 4 minutes, and once he reaches the four minutes mark, he spurts his disgusting seed into the condom and goes limp for the rest of the time with him. Even if I squeeze and massage his small member like bitter leave, he will remain limp like golden penny noodles.

That did not stop me from giving two years of my life to him because I genuinely loved him and felt I could cope with the terrible sex; man shall not live by nacks alone. I had met his family, he had met mine, we were literally 5 and 6. We fixed the wedding for January 8 next year. I'm looking at the stupid IV as I'm typing this.

So we closed for the year at my work place on December 24th and I decided to spend the evening with him. We had agreed that no more nights over till the wedding since it was barely a month away, so we might as well start living right before God. None the less, I had closed by 2pm, I didn't look forward to spending the whole evening in my hot apartment alone so I, against better judgement went to his place and let myself in. His line of work doesn't give him the luxury of closing early like me, so the apartment was also empty but he has a generator and AC.

I settled in, began watching movies on his laptop. I don't know the devil that pushed me to leave the film I was watching to start snooping through his files. In my two years of dating I have never gone through his phone or PC because if you cherish your peace of mind, never snoop through your partner's devices otherwise you will see things. What you are looking for, you will find it.

He has this folder in his laptop called 'Don Quixote.exe' which I see all the time. I asked him what it was some time back and he casually said they are program files and if I mess with them, I will disorganize his laptop. The same devil I had earlier mentioned pushed me to open Don Quixote, and behold, what did I see?

Gay porn. Man nacking man. Woman nacking woman. My fiance is gay, I think. Or bi-sexual. I don't know. My hands are shaking again.

I'm so hurt. Photos upon photos of homosexual and lesbian contents. But this is not where the story ends.

After the initial shock of these disgusting photos, I was confused, shocked, disappointed. I quickly shut down the laptop, prepared dinner (Indomie) and cried myself to sleep on the bed because I'm a very emotional person. I took Lexotan so I could sleep.

Around 10, I think, Kingley came back. He didn't know I was in the house because I left the lights off. He, however didn't come back alone. He came back with a guest. A male guest. I know this dude is his lover because I know him from the office and I have always been suspicious of his sexuality. What kind of masculine man wears purple skinny jeans and wiggles his bum when he thinks no one is watching? I also saw a TikTok video of this guy dancing, wiggling his bum and twirling his dreadlocks?

That is the colleague Kingley brought home by 10 in the night.

Anyway, Kingley walked into the bedroom, saw me and the guilt written all over his face made me ask him who was in the parlour with him after hearing another male voice. When he couldn't give a coherent answer, I went to the parlour and saw Uncle Purple Skinny jeans. Now added to the gay porn I discovered in his laptop, you will not blame me for having a meltdown. I yelled, screamed, cussed, threw his ring into the toilet and flushed it. I ordered Uber to my parents house that night and spent 25th chopping breakfast with tears.

Two years, with a bi-sexual man. Or maybe he is gay himself. I don't know. He has been begging me not to expose him to his family, but it's too late. I have told my family and they intend to formally let his family know that their daughter cannot marry a 'confused' man, as my father says.

What do men want?! Two years of my life, plus all the wedding expenses, gone down the drain. I am so heart broken and humiliated.

I don't want to say men are scum because I have a wonderful father and loving brothers, so I will leave it. I'm done with men.

GurlFriend:
If you are gay, why do you want to ruin an innocent woman's life?

MicroSweet:
Lived together in a University hostel with a bunkmate for a whole session but never noticed that dude was gay, not until I returned from a holiday and saw him being mobbed and beaten to a pulp. Dude was bleeding: he was caught in the act of homosexualism.

And I began to reminisce on how I once caught him applying a medication on his bruised penile cap. I also recalled that he has always been visited by only male students. I was naive and uninformed, and so couldn't connect the dots.

He was top in his class, a first-class material and a force to reckon with in his field of academics. Unfortunately, the shame of that discovery drove him out of the school before graduation.

stiles009:
Every minute of delay before you test for hsv is dangerous. If your assumption is right and you're indeed hsv positive, then you will commence treatment and save your family and friends unnecessary hassle. But if otherwise, you mind will be at rest and you can resume your normal life with less worry and more caution.

My point is, go test yourself and ascertain whats really wrong.

To those saints castigating up there, remember: "let he who is without sin cast the first stone".

xendra:
there's always a price for every recklessness and this is yours. I hope it's nothing serious and you learn, I guess you felt she was too white/clean to be infected uh! You know how "white girls are the best" it's the baby I really feel sorry for. poor baby

OkunrinOloro:
Hopefully, the answer is Yes. You do have AIDS. You'll die a lonely and painful death and no one will mourn for you.

Mynd44:
People here saying a company has no business going through your social media accounts before employing them or their social media life is private and their employers have no business with it are naive.

And I find it hilarious

When trouble happens, the headlines won't say something like "Mike Ignatius says men should not cook at home" or "Niyi Ajayi thinks women are not equal to men" nah.

The headline will read shit like "Treeline Bank staff say women are not equal to men"

Then the opening line will be "A staff of Treeline bank with handle @ Mike Ignatius has come out to say that women are lesser than men……."

Then the brand managers have to start running around to do damage control so their brand doesn't get dragged because of one staff

Wait until you see a picture of yourself on the biggest Nigerian blogs with shit captions like "Treeline bank staff drinks himself to stupor, is this due to the stress of working in a Nigerian bank?"

Then the bank has to spend millions on the brand

Of course, it is your private life. But are your employers/potential employers willing to expose themselves like that?

I don't think so.

Reminds me of when that bank staff threw a calculator at a junior. That bank suffered……

Wait until you see a picture of yourself on the biggest Nigerian blogs with shit captions like "Treeline bank staff drinks himself to stupor, is this due to the stress of working in a Nigerian bank?"

Then the bank has to spend millions on the brand

A lot of people are weird.

Go through their media and in one, there is a picture of them with the name of their company everywhere, branded cloths and all and in the next, they are tweeting porn.

Cool if you work for Pornhub but certainly not an auditing firm


In summary, your "job" with your company does not end at 5:45 when you close, it continues because you are an ambassador and as much as you deserve some chill in your life, you should also try hard not to hurt your company by your actions.

Every positive action leads back to then but people will see the negative more. That is what makes the news and the headlines will be screaming their name in block letters.

Righteousness89:
Papa will be nodding his head at What Pmb has turned the Nation too..

Papa will be nodding his Head at Pa Sagay and pa igbokwe who said madam Kemi who committed forgery should be retained becos she is doing Magic...



Papa Happy Birthday Sir...

I Thank GOD for keeping you for us this Long and I pray that you make Peace with him so that Once you Close your Eyes here, You will be with JESUS in HEAVEN..

Happy Birthday Sir

SarakiBukola:
Once upon a time....

I witnessed where a dick-snatcher who returned an albino diick to a black guy at Ojuelegba bustop

uboma:
This is not enough.


Garus Gololo should be arrested and persecuted for the inflammatory speech against the office of the Senate President.


Only this will deter a repeat in the future.