Thanks for your response.

homeboy205:
Firstly you should have scanned the car cos the first one might bring a solid code and the rest will be pending.. what I’m trying to say is that once one coil gives up, just change it all because there is a chance the rest might go bad soon which happened to you. So if you had scanned the car you will get a solid code for the first misfire and the rest pending so you would have changed all at once and save yourself this stress of changing it one by one... Try scanning the car

Good day. My lexus rx 330 had an over-heat last 3weeks, i took it to the auto workshop the found out that one of the fans isnt good hence causing the over heat as well as damaging a water hose/pipe. 2 weeks after all this ve been changed and fixed the car was up and runing again, i realised that the car miss-fires. I took it back to the auto work shop the discovered that one of the coils is not functional and it was changed and all was fine. Few days later same thing happend, another coil dead!! And it was changed. Now another coil (3rd) is not working again!!
Pls auto gurus, what might be the cause this? I need an advise. Thanks

Paying all the bills? Far from it!! She doesnt take care of my bills alone, i handle most.

khreupost=78750940:
First of all,if what u sqaid is true and fair, and with her cocky attitude den i ll say she's either paying most or even all of your house bills(as wit most cases) cuz believe me,she has no iota of respect for u n with due respect,permit me to say shes playing ur role as d MAN in ur home.
Call ur sister back from where u sent her to show ur authority cuz shes has being taking u for granted all dis while.
Show her right where she belongs(as ur wife) and if shes not cool with it den u make d call. Its ur fight now bro or never, its beta to have a happy life dan a disfunctional home for the rest of ur life cuz dis issue will continue to exist in one way or the other(as she believed she has a plan B).
#and d last time i checked,Real men dont run away from dire problems.

Mariangeles:
This your story is so sad and could lead you to depression.

How could you have married such a human being ? Is she even human ? More like a cold blooded reptile

The truth is that you saw all these signs, and yet you went ahead and married her .

My advice for you is to fight for your happiness and peace of mind, body and soul...everybody deserves that at least .
Besides, the environment is to toxic to raise a child .

my dear am so depressed that i ve lost focus, i cant eat, all i do i smoke and drink my life out. I regret ever getting married.

Good day nairalanders, i wish to make this as brief as i can. Please pardon my typo if any. I really appreciate your response on my below thread. https://www.nairaland.com/5147719/wife-vowed-never-forgive-mother.



I am planning on eloping with my daughter because of my wife's unapologetic attitude, last week i went to her shop and told her to help me go down stairs and amend the new cloth i bought new but she refused, citing the fact that she is not in good terms with her tailor neighbour. I was so inbittered because this is same reason she sent my younger sister away from our house. (The both had a misunderstanding cos my sis who stays with us couldnt help her with an errand hence she swore my sis must leave the house else hell will be let loose) she called 2 of my close friends threatning to put the house on fire if my sis doesnt leave. For peace to rain i sent my sis to one of relations house in abj pending wen the heat is over.

That morning i made reference to the drama between her and my sister and left her shop. While i was driving to my shop she called me on the phone insulting me, raining all sort of abuse on me, also claiming she never told my sis to her face to leave, that i was the one that did. I didnt reply her. When i got back from work i noticed she ve already left my room with our daughter to her room. For 3 days she never talked to me neither did i. On the 4th day being a saturday morning she sent me a test apologising that she is so sorry for calling me a fool and such, and i SHOULD REMEMBER WE HAVE OUR CO-TENANT's WEDDING TO ATTEND. I was like, are u sending an apology test cos u want us to attend a wedding together? She said no.

I agreed to attend the wedding with her, but deep inside me i was still hurt. Wen we came back from the wedding she asked me if i will eat i said no. Atleast, i exepect a better facial apology than text message apology, which she never did. That night, after i told her i dont feel like eating, she said ok and went back to her room.

Its 1week now, my wife refused talking to me, and even refused cooking for me. I have been eating in a restaurant all this while. She only cooks for herslf, our 2 years old daughter and house girl. I am so confused!! Is this how marriage is? Am already sick and tired of the marriage that am thinking of ending the marriage..

Am planning of eloping with my baby girl, because i feel my wife cant give her a proper training cos of her attitude if left in her sole care. Moreover she have a life savings which she always brag about, telling me that she is saving cos of tomorrow if an thing happens between i and her in future she will have funds to fall back on which she will use to take care of herslf and daughter therefore men can go to hell. In this vein i wish to get her disappointed, no husband, no child!! Lets see who laughs last.

Easy sir/ma, there is nothing like ogbanje

CoolJul:
u wife has ogbaje.

an unforgiving woman can kill! + a prideful one at that.

one love

sparog:


Op, I'm sorry for being harsh

Thats too hash bro!! hope nobody forced you to comment?

sparog:
Your wife is crazy and mister man u ursef no get sense

God bless your mother

Thanks alot dear.

bukatyne:


Oh brother, I knew I would be humoured , thanks.

Now, your wife NEEDS to grow up faster than I would say Jack Robinson.

She is immature, petty and unwise.

Your sister's response is actually very friendly and instead of the natural instinct to side with you, stood with your wife and supported her in-laws.

That said, you knew her before you married her, talk to her where she understands (in the living room, ozza room, prayer room, bedroom, eating room etc.) and tell her she needs to grow up.

She has a daughter to raise and I am sure she wants her to be of good behaviour.

well, let me drop my sisters part. while going back home after our traditional marriage rite 3years ago, i was chatting with my sis on how the even went, i told her that my in-laws were so hash on me that i was billed a total of 500k, my younger sis on reading this exclamated jokingly that if i ve to pay such amount then when she(my sis) is getting married hers will be 1m. My wife saw the chat and never said anything about it until last week when she spewed it out angrily that she will have been nursing it in her mind and that she will never forgive my sis for comparing herself to her.
I was dazed at this, because i cant even remember if i had such chat. Am so in shock about this, just like someone said above, i never knew my wife have been faking affection with my family over the years.

bukatyne:


Whether she picked the broom instinctively or looked like an entitled princess, 7 months pregnant is not the time to treat her fvckup.

I agree that the wife is a drama queen sha. She is Nigerian for goodness sake and knows the expectations of her husband's family. If the husband shield's her from them is another thing altogether.

How do you hold a 2yr grudge against your MIL because she asked you to sweep the mirror you broke? If she was talking about her biological mother, I hear. In fact, I wouldn't sweep it if my mother asked me to in that state. If my MIL did, I would jump at it. .

The OP should humour us and tell what grudge the wife has against her SIL.

lol, so funny

bukatyne:


Whether she picked the broom instinctively or looked like an entitled princess, 7 months pregnant is not the time to treat her fvckup.

I agree that the wife is a drama queen sha. She is Nigerian for goodness sake and knows the expectations of her husband's family. If the husband shield's her from them is another thing altogether.

How do you hold a 2yr grudge against your MIL because she asked you to sweep the mirror you broke? If she was talking about her biological mother, I hear. In fact, I wouldn't sweep it if my mother asked me to in that state. If my MIL did, I would jump at it. .

The OP should humour us and tell what grudge the wife has against her SIL.

My dear i ve sat her down so many times begging to let go of any grudges, my wife is a very prideful woman, since i married her she hardly or ve never said sorry to me when wrong, she ve never agreed that she ve hurt someone before. our last quarrel was on january this year. We have to involve her pastor. The woman came to our house to make peace, she told my wife to apologise to me but my wife blatantly refused till this day. I have to say sorry her to her for peace to rain. She always boast of keeping malice till eternity.

Bluette:
u have to sit her down and talk her into forgiving your mother, beg her and apologise on behalf of your mother. Apart from her bending which could be so difficult due to her big stomach, she might at that time be experiencing some pain or discomfort which could cause the mirror dropping from her hand. My sister pregnancy wasn't easy at all, she had to even live with us cos of d husband's busy schedule, as old as my mum is, she was worried for her case because it's pain after pain for her till few days to delivery, so imagine her breaking a mirror and my mum asking her to sweep, that is wickedness! yes, your mum may not know how she's feeling from d inside especially d first pregnancy ish, but u can't judge her by saying she's a Christian blablabla. She was seriously hurt and most "hurt" from people we love or we r close to pain a lot. I think God wants it to be settled that's y she voiced out, and u are in the best position to say sorry. I guess if it was ur father, she wouldn't have been angry, I think she's angry because ur mum is a woman who knows how pregnancy is.

Thanks so much, for your contribution. i wasn't there when it happened, though my wife told me about it sometime ago but i never took it serious, i never knew she ve been in pains about it all these years until last week. I dont know the tone at which my mum used in telling her that, and i dont wish to ask her how it happened because it will deeply hurt her, because i know how much she loves my wife

crackhaus:

If you want to find out how right or how wrong something is, don't ask ONLY women.

Just like your wife, a lot women will judge a personal situation based on how it made/makes them feel.
Anything that makes her feel good has to be right, anything that hurts her feelings must be wrong; there's no rationale behind it.
Your mother in that exact same scenario feels what she did is right, and your wife feels otherwise.

As a son and a husband, how did you access the situation?

First thing I would want to know is exactly how (tone) your mother told her to sweep the broken glass. Was it commanding, was it gentle, what words did she use?

Second thing I would want to know is what your wife did immediately the mirror fell, did she act like nothing happened and was going about her business, or immediately felt remorse and instinctively (forgetting she was 7months heavy) rush to get a broom?

Either way and whichever answers you get, the broken pieces of glass MUST be swept off the floor.
The important question remains, who amongst both of them should be responsible for doing it assuming there was no one else around that could have been sent to do it? I'm sure you know the answer already at this point.

Being 7months pregnant is not enough reason to have hurt feelings over clearing up glass that fell from your own hands.

my dear, my sister's own is so laughable that i feel so ashamed to write it here

Florblu:
Why is your wife so hard on herself? If it were her mum that told her to sweep the floor won't she sweep it?

I'm sure your mum and sister would have forgotten about that small incident but here is she holding on to 3years issue.


I think she's always sleeping whenever your pastor is preaching that part of the Bible that says "Remember not the things of the past". Record it and add beat to it, let her put it on repeat

I got married to my wife 3 years ago and the marriage is blessed with a baby girl. My wife took in during courtship and we decided to take the relationship to the next level, i took her home to meet my mum and she fell in love with my wife at first sight. Few months after the introduction we got married. Since then all have been well with the marriage until i started noticing my wife's uncanny feelings towards my family (esp my mum and younger sis). Last week, my wife and my sis had a little misunderstanding which i tried to settle between both of them, one night before going to bed i called her up for a brief discussion hence settle the rift between them. During the discussion my wife bluntly told me that there was something my mum and sis did to her that she will never forgive and forget. I was shocked!! ( this is a woman i go to church with every Sunday).

I told her to tell me what my mother did to her and she said it happened 3 years ago when she was 7 months pregnant when visited my mother. She was holding a mirror, which mistakenly fell down and broke into pieces, my mum told her to get a broom and sweep the broken pieces of mirror which she did. Now, my wife's pain is that my mother is so wicked to have watched and allowed her to bend down and sweep with her 7 months pregnancy because of that my hates her.

I was shocked to the marrows, i am still in shock because my mum loves my wife so much, she prays for us and often call my wife to check up on her. Please women/mothers in the house i wish to know if my mum was wrong cos am so confused about this.