Banana is one of nature’s sweetest foods-packed with a lot of surprising health benefits. For most people, banana is only known for its great source of potassium. What is unknown is that banana can actually help combat depression, make you smarter, cure hangovers, relieve morning sickness, protect against kidney cancer, diabetes, osteoporosis, and blindness.

In addition, eating bananas could help lower blood pressure and reduce the risks of cancer and asthma as well,

Unarguably, these might seem too much to be true; but it is actually what it.

Here are some of the unimaginable health benefits of banana


1. Potassium


Although a lot of people know that bananas are very rich in potassium, they still cannot tell the importance of potassium to the human body.. Potassium, as a mineral, helps maintain fluid levels in the body and regulates the movement of nutrients and waste products in and out of cells. It also helps in the contracting of muscles as well as the responding of nerve cells. It keeps the heart beating regularly and can reduce the effect of sodium on blood pressure. Studies have also shown that potassium may reduce the risk of kidney stones.

2. Source of energy


Professional athletes will tell you that when it comes to dishing out energy, banana is king. Two bananas, before a strenuous workout is enough to pack energy punch and sustain your blood sugar. Another interesting quality of banana is that it protects against muscle cramps during workouts and nighttime leg cramps as well.


3. Cures and protect against ulcer

Regular consumption of banana may help protect against stomach ulcers, because over time bananas thicken the protective mucus barrier in the stomach, which prevents damage from hydrochloric acid.

Banana is also known to contain protease inhibitors that help eliminate stomach bacteria which can cause stomach ulcers.


4. Treats hangover


If you were told that banana can actually get rid of the morning inconvenience that comes after the night groove, would you believe?

Well, you should; because a couple of bananas blended with ice, berries and coconut milk or cow’s milk makes a really good hangover recovery drink.

In as much as the better solution is not to drink so much the night before, it is advisable to have some bananas and coconut milk around to help you with the morning trouble just in case.

5. Combat depression

As funny as this may sound, it is actually true. Bananas help overcome depression due to high levels of tryptophan, which is converted into serotonin — the happy-mood brain neurotransmitter.

Eating banana also improves your mood and helps reduce PMS symptoms, which regulates blood sugar and produces stress-relieving relaxation.


6. Fights cancer

According to recent Japanese animal research, bananas that are fully ripe (with dark spots) have been observed to produce a compound called TNF–a.

TNF–a, on the other hand, is a cytokine that is believed to have the potential to increase white blood cell count. This, in return, helps enhance our immunity and combat cancerous cell changes.


7. It improves digestion

How many of us know the importance of fiber? Do we even know that fiber is needed to help food travel smoothly through the digestive tract and also improves our bowel movement?

Well, banana is a great source of dietary fiber, which means they help improve digestion.

Source:https://rayoonline.com/health-benefits-of-the-banana-fruit-you-didnt-know/

After Romelu Lukaku secured Inter's 4-2 win in the Milan Derby in February, the Belgian striker proclaimed,

"There is a new king in the city."

Before eventually finding himself in the best spot to respond after netting both goals in AC Milan's 2-1 victory over Inter at San Siro.

He said "Milano never had a king,", "they have a GOD."



As he returned to San Siro in January, he cast himself as a savior and has been doing miracles ever since.

He appeared as the most influential character in Serie A at 39.



"In Italy, he has shifted the balance more than Cristiano Ronaldo," former Milan and Juventus coach Alberto Zaccheroni 

"It is no coincidence that many young players have grown exponentially since his arrival."



Zaccheroni is right. Ronaldo joined a squad that had already won seven Serie A titles in succession;

It is not Ronaldo's fault that he did not have a big sporting impact on Juventus.



Ibrahimovic has yet to win a trophy in his second stint at Milan but has had a transformative effect on an entire club;

one that has not participated in the Champions League since 2014.



And while his numbers are impressive (12 goals and five assists in Serie A in 2020), it is his influence on the dressing that has been truly incredible.



Milan has the youngest team in the 'Top Five' leagues in Europe, and the experience of Ibrahimovic has thus proved invaluable.

Team-mates have lined up to applaud the striker in each and every training session for the way he leads by example.



Zaccheroni, though, is in no doubt which player has had more influence on Serie A.

"I have coached great champions in my career, from [Oliver] Bierhoff to [George] Weah up to Adriano, but the only regret I have is that I never trained Ibrahimovic," he told Il Giornale.

"He is eternal and I still don't understand why he never won the Ballon d'Or.

"In Italy, he has shifted the balance more than Ronaldo. It is no coincidence that many young players have grown exponentially since his arrival.

"He doesn't just score. He transmits confidence to all his team-mates, carrying the team on his shoulders in difficult moments."



A top-four finish is now a realistic target. Ibrahimovic is even engaging in title talk, which is hardly surprising, of course:

he says they would have won last season’s Scudetto if he has arrived at the start of the campaign rather than halfway through it.



Milan Coach, Pioli, though, is wisely playing down their title prospects at such an early stage of the season, arguing,

"There are currently four or five teams in Serie A that are stronger than us on paper."

Ibrahimovic may not really be a God, but he and Pioli are proving a match made in heaven in Milan.



Source: https://rayoonline.com/why-milan-god-ibrahimovic-is-a-bigger-impact-in-italy-than-ronaldo/

For me, it is pessimism or a complainer what about you?

I don't hang around walking dark clouds, They always drain my energy.

Some call themselves a realist but this life can be a sad place if you look at it the way it is

Life is too short to be unhappy

Fake News - Social media is an almost unavoidable part of our society now — but can we trust it as a news source?
Individuals are more likely to encounter false and misleading information every day thanks to social media.

Social media platforms allow almost anyone to publish their thoughts or share stories with the world.

The trouble is, most people don't check the source of the material that they view online before they share it,

which can lead to fake news spreading quickly or even "going viral."

Because social media is a public platform, anyone including news outlets can post anything without being accountable for fact-checking.

That’s why it’s important for you as a user to be able to identify misinformation vs. disinformation in your newsfeed.

In this article, we’re going to explain how to identify “fake news,” and how you can keep yourself informed and protected from these tactics.



There are two kinds of fake news:



Stories that are false

These are entirely invented stories designed to make people believe something false.



Stories that are partly true.

For example, a journalist quotes only part of what a politician says, giving a false impression of their meaning.

Again, this can be deliberate, to convince readers of a certain viewpoint, or it can be the result of an innocent mistake.

Either way, it quickly attracts an audience and can become entrenched as an "urban myth."



Six Ways to Spot Fake News


Develop a Critical Mindset

One of the main reasons fake news is such a big issue is that it is often believable, so it's easy to get caught out. Much fake news is also written to create "shock value," that is, a strong instinctive reaction such as fear or anger.

This means it's essential that you keep your emotional response to such stories in check. Instead, approach what you see and hear rationally and critically.

Ask yourself, "Why has this story been written?

Is it to persuade me of a certain viewpoint?

Is it selling me a product?

Or is it trying to get me to click through to another website?

Am I being triggered?"



Check the Source

If you come across a story from a source that you've never heard of before, do some digging!



Check the web address for the page you're reading.



Whether or not the author or publisher is familiar, stop to consider their reputation and professional experience.

Are they known for their expertise on the matter?

Or do they tend to exaggerate?

Remember, even if you got the story from your best friend, this gives it no extra authority – they likely didn't follow these steps themselves before forwarding!



See Who Else Is Reporting the Story

Has anyone else picked up on the story?

What do other sources say about it?

Avoid leaping to the conclusion that all mainstream media (MSM) output is fake. This can be as unwise as following every rumor or conspiracy theory.



Examine the Evidence

A credible news story will include plenty of facts – quotes from experts, survey data and official statistics, for example. Or detailed, consistent and corroborated eye-witness accounts from people on the scene. If these are missing, question it!

Does the evidence prove that something happened?

Or, have the facts been selected or "twisted" to back up a viewpoint?


Don't Take Images at Face Value

Modern editing software has made it easy for people to create fake images that look real. In fact, research shows that only half of us can tell when images are fake. However, there are some warning signs you can look out for. Strange shadows on the image, for example, or jagged edges around a figure.

Images can also be 100 percent accurate but used in the wrong context.

For example, photos from 10 years ago could be linked with a recent alleged event.

You can use tools such as Google Reverse Image Search to check where an image originated and whether it has been altered.



Check That it "Sounds Right"

Finally, use your common sense! Bear in mind that fake news is designed to "feed" your biases, hopes, or fears.

Source: https://rayoonline.com/how-to-spot-fake-news-on-social-media/

Fake News - Social media is an almost unavoidable part of our society now — but can we trust it as a news source?
Individuals are more likely to encounter false and misleading information every day thanks to social media.

Social media platforms allow almost anyone to publish their thoughts or share stories with the world.

The trouble is, most people don't check the source of the material that they view online before they share it,

which can lead to fake news spreading quickly or even "going viral."

Because social media is a public platform, anyone including news outlets can post anything without being accountable for fact-checking.

That’s why it’s important for you as a user to be able to identify misinformation vs. disinformation in your newsfeed.

In this article, we’re going to explain how to identify “fake news,” and how you can keep yourself informed and protected from these tactics.



There are two kinds of fake news:



Stories that are false

These are entirely invented stories designed to make people believe something false.



Stories that are partly true.

For example, a journalist quotes only part of what a politician says, giving a false impression of their meaning.

Again, this can be deliberate, to convince readers of a certain viewpoint, or it can be the result of an innocent mistake.

Either way, it quickly attracts an audience and can become entrenched as an "urban myth."



Six Ways to Spot Fake News


Develop a Critical Mindset

One of the main reasons fake news is such a big issue is that it is often believable, so it's easy to get caught out. Much fake news is also written to create "shock value," that is, a strong instinctive reaction such as fear or anger.

This means it's essential that you keep your emotional response to such stories in check. Instead, approach what you see and hear rationally and critically.

Ask yourself, "Why has this story been written?

Is it to persuade me of a certain viewpoint?

Is it selling me a product?

Or is it trying to get me to click through to another website?

Am I being triggered?"



Check the Source

If you come across a story from a source that you've never heard of before, do some digging!



Check the web address for the page you're reading.



Whether or not the author or publisher is familiar, stop to consider their reputation and professional experience.

Are they known for their expertise on the matter?

Or do they tend to exaggerate?

Remember, even if you got the story from your best friend, this gives it no extra authority – they likely didn't follow these steps themselves before forwarding!



See Who Else Is Reporting the Story

Has anyone else picked up on the story?

What do other sources say about it?

Avoid leaping to the conclusion that all mainstream media (MSM) output is fake. This can be as unwise as following every rumor or conspiracy theory.



Examine the Evidence

A credible news story will include plenty of facts – quotes from experts, survey data and official statistics, for example. Or detailed, consistent and corroborated eye-witness accounts from people on the scene. If these are missing, question it!

Does the evidence prove that something happened?

Or, have the facts been selected or "twisted" to back up a viewpoint?


Don't Take Images at Face Value

Modern editing software has made it easy for people to create fake images that look real. In fact, research shows that only half of us can tell when images are fake. However, there are some warning signs you can look out for. Strange shadows on the image, for example, or jagged edges around a figure.

Images can also be 100 percent accurate but used in the wrong context.

For example, photos from 10 years ago could be linked with a recent alleged event.

You can use tools such as Google Reverse Image Search to check where an image originated and whether it has been altered.



Check That it "Sounds Right"

Finally, use your common sense! Bear in mind that fake news is designed to "feed" your biases, hopes, or fears.

Source: https://rayoonline.com/how-to-spot-fake-news-on-social-media/

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Lack of Jobs in Nigeria Made A lot of youths embrace entrepreneurship in the country.
In these video we compile some of the tweets of Graduates talking about the course they studied and what they do now.


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Men and women want a lot of the same things from a significant other, but there are also some key differences between what each gender needs from their partners to have a satisfying relationship.

Gentlemen, you'll want to pay close attention here because the more successful you are at making your wife feel loved and appreciated, the better your chances of getting your own wants fulfilled as well.



To Feel Loved

Everyone wants to know they're loved and wives rarely tire of hearing the words "I love you" from their husbands. But showing your spouse how you feel can be equally important as telling her.  Actions really do speak louder than words. In fact, the best ways to express how you feel are usually in simple, seemingly unimportant acts like giving her an unexpected hug or holding hands when you walk together.



Understanding and Forgiveness

There will be days when your wife will make mistakes or when she'll be difficult to be around. No one (and that includes you too) is perfect. She both wants and deserves your willingness to understand and forgive her. Remember that no relationship, and especially marriage, can be sustained without forgiveness. Women especially want you to understand that the hormonal fluctuations that impact her mood are very real. So don't make fun of her or say she's "crazy" when she's got her period or is pregnant or going through menopause. Be empathic and understanding instead.



Real Conversation

Don't let your conversations with your wife dwindle to nothing but talk about your kids, your job. If that happens, it could be a sign that your marriage is in real trouble. There's lots more to talk about beyond the practical and the superficial. It's critical for couples to discuss their feelings and emotions on a regular basis. These deep and real conversations are the "glue" that will hold you together and create the intimacy married people desire.



Quality Time

Having quality time with your wife and kids isn't something that just happens. You have to make these moments of connection happen by both arranging for them and then following through. Spending time with those you love has to be a high priority for you. It's also important to remember that the woman you married is your wife, not just the mother of your children. Never stop making an effort to romance and date her. After all, that's how the two of you grew close in the first place. Common activities lead to shared feelings and help strengthen your bond.



To Hear "Yes" More Often

No wife likes being turned down. While occasional rejections are understandable, habitual negative responses are another story— and not one that often ends well. Constantly hearing "no" can wear them down and cause resentment that pushes them away from you. That's not to say that you should become a pushover and say "yes" all the time. But try thinking twice before automatically saying "no" and you might be pleasantly surprised at how it can improve your relationships. Research shows that the more you respond to requests in a positive way, the happier and more satisfying your relationship will be.


To Be Heard

It's really disheartening for a wife to share her thoughts and feelings with her mate and then realize he didn't actually listen to her. Your wife wants you to not only listen with your ears but to listen with your heart. In addition to hearing the words she speaks, it's important to be open to what your partner has to say, even if you don't agree with it.In general, men who respect their wives' opinions have much happier marriages. And, guess what: Often times their wives will be right!


Affection

How often do you say "please" or "thank you" or give your spouse an unexpected kiss? Unfortunately, some married couples forget that being kind to and affectionate with one another are keys to a successful marriage—they help feed the relationship and keep it strong.

Think about when you were boyfriend and girlfriend: These were behaviors you probably did regularly. There's no reason they should stop when you're married. In fact, they may be even more important once you tie the knot.


Help With Daily Tasks

One of the main reasons couples fight is conflict over who's doing what around the house. Chores and child care are not the sole responsibility of your wife. She shouldn't have to ask you to do your share around the house. You will be a hero in her eyes if you readily help when asked or—even better—take care of some chores before she asks.

Bonus: You may benefit in the bedroom, too, since studies show women feel more sexually attracted to partners who pitch in.


A Day off Now and Then

Don't fuss about your wife taking a day off a couple of times a month. This means she'll be free from worrying about what's happening with the kids, the house,and you. She deserves this break in her schedule and she needs to provide it for herself in order to be emotionally and physically healthy.


To Take Care of Themselves

It's not a stereotype that men are terrible at taking care of themselves when it comes to their health: Research shows it's true. Men are particularly stubborn about seeing doctors. Perhaps you feel invincible or that it is a sign of weakness to see the doctor.

Whatever the reason, all that "persuasion" your wife has to use to get you to go to the doctor isn't fair to her—she's your lover, not your mother. A better philosophy is that caring for yourself is the path to caring for your family.



Source: https://rayoonline.com/10-things-women-want-from-their-husbands/

It's no surprise that sex is super important to men. Most times, men will admit that it's number one on their list for what they want in a marriage .

However, many men have other desires outside of sexual relations or emotional needs.

Husbands don't always ask their wives for what they want, and many have thoughts and feelings that they keep to themselves. For instance, some men feel a sense of responsibility to take care of their wives financially, even if she earns more or they've worked out a dual-income contribution to the household.

This example creates pressure that affects the relationship, so understanding his inner world will open you up to a world of understanding and opportunity.


Affection

While sex remains very important for most men, many simply want to experience more affection. Whether it's holding his hand in public, leaving a love message on his voicemail, or massaging his shoulders, showing that you care about him through actions of fondness will touch his heart.

Try different ways to demonstrate how much you care about him by being warm. Simple things you can do include telling him how much you love him, cheering him on when he's feeling doubtful, and telling him you're sorry when things go wrong.

You can always go ahead and give him an unexpected kiss or a little flirtation, too. Experiment with romantic and emotional affection to see what really makes him feel whole.

Belief in His Capabilities

Many men think it's important for them to protect and provide for those they love. Let your husband know that you believe in his talents and skills and are supportive of him.

Your encouragement is the most meaningful of anyone. The most crucial thing you can do is make your man feel like an adult and not a little a child.

Test what makes him tick by giving him a little control (as you are comfortable). For instance, you could put him in charge of directions for your next road trip. Little things like this develop trust between you two and give him a sense of responsibility in the relationship.


Understanding

Men want to know that you "get" them and research suggests that feeling understood is an important part of a good relationship.

They are often more logical and like to problem solve. This has a value and creates a balance between the women who are generally more emotional and in touch with their feelings.
One of the ways you can both show that you understand each other is by making a commitment to talk daily together.

Plan a daily dialogue exercise where you take 20 minutes to ask each other positive questions.

This could include things about what attracts you to one another, your favorite date together, or what your partner's favorite quality is.


Appreciation and Affirmation

Most guys like to be patted on the back. One way to do this is by complimenting your husband often. Rather than over-doing it, make sure it's genuine and sporadic throughout the week.


Acceptance

We all want to be accepted for who we are and don't want others to try to change us. Men are often hurt and angered when their wives try to change them, in particular. If it concerns their health and safety, it's understandable, but superficial characteristics aren't necessary to bring up.

Less Chatter

If your husband is tired, involved with a project, or just generally isn't up for a chat, don't push it. Women can be especially chatty sometimes, so it's important to carve out time to talk with your husband.

Consider expressing yourself in additional ways to your friends, other family members, or through alternative ways like art, journaling, and online forums.

You definitely don't want a relationship where you never talk. Communication is important, so when you really want to chat and get intimate, check in with him to see if he's up for it. If he's busy, you may need to schedule some time with him so you two can get back on track.


Respect

Creating a loving and memorable marriage starts with respect. One of the best ways a wife can show her husband that she loves and respects him is by actively listening to him when he talks, and not interrupting.



Free Time

Almost everyone has a desire for some quiet time alone, and a moment to re-energize, regroup, and reconnect with themselves. When your husband first gets home from work, you can give him this space by allowing him to unwind without any chatter or questions.

On his days off, be mindful of his schedule by not planning too many activities. If you really want to do something with your husband on the weekend, consider picking one day on the weekend, or making plans every other weekend.


Trust

Trust is vital to the success of any relationship.5 Couples build trust in healthy relationships by being honest with each other, communicating often, and learning how to fight fairly. It takes time to build trust.

Over the years, you two will learn how to keep promises, be yourself, and show how much you love and appreciate each other.



Companionship

Hopefully, you can say that your husband is not only your lover but also your friend. Staying friends and companions throughout the years require that you find ways to make quality time to be together and have new experiences.

Source: https://rayoonline.com/10-things-men-want-from-their-wives/

Always Be Your True Self to Have a Healthy Relationship.


It’s natural to feel tempted to present only the attractive, agreeable parts of yourself – we all want to be accepted, and even admired, by others. But the bigger the gap between the image you project and the “real you”, the less at ease you will feel – and the more fear you may have about being found out. People who comfortably and openly share their “true selves” are typically happier, more at peace with themselves, and often enjoy healthier relationships. By letting others really know them, they open themselves to other people who can truly relate to them.

When those people also share their true selves, a healthy relationship will develop through honest sharing,
so the interactions will feel good and will naturally lead to a sense of closeness.


Because they each feel accepted for who they really are, the relationship helps them to feel even better about themselves. If serious problems arise, couples who acknowledge the problems and address them together will nurture an even tighter bond.



By contrast, those who stop showing their honest reactions when conflicts arise – denying problems and presenting only agreeable responses – risk allowing unvoiced negative feelings to grow.



Consider this example:


After a long day at work, Stephanie returns home to eat dinner that her partner Daniel prepared, without engaging in conversation. Then she goes directly to bed, not even offering to help with the dishes. While Daniel is sympathetic, he is aggravated by how this is part of a larger pattern of Stephanie taking him for granted. As a real people-pleaser, he did not say anything, though it has led to a growing unhappiness in their relationship.

Finally, the next day, he is honest, sharing his hurt and frustration with Stephanie.She responds defensively at first, but they eventually address the problem constructively. Of course, just as Daniel risked rejection when he shared his unhappiness with Stephanie, you risk rejection when you open yourself to others.



No one likes being rejected, so this takes courage. And the more emotionally close you feel to someone,the harder it can be to leave yourself vulnerable. So, for instance, as hard as it is to be rejected by a potential partner, it can be harder to risk rejection by a longtime boyfriend or girlfriend. And the stakes are even higher when you make yourself vulnerable by risking rejection by a spouse.So, ignoring problems and pretending to be happy is completely understandable.

This may even work fine in any particular situation, but over time, you may find the distance in your relationship growing, until you wake up one day to find that your friend, partner, or spouse is basically a stranger to you. Or, in a new relationship, by faking your best, understanding, interested self,  you may find that you are in a relationship that really doesn’t work for you.


To clarify, being your “genuine” self does not mean that you need to share every thought and feeling. It is wise to assess each relationship for how close you want to be and how safe you feel. Also, you do not need to share your emotions in their rawest form. In fact, it’s important to be sensitive to the other person. This all involves a delicate balance.  But when you are your genuine self while paying attention to how much is appropriate to share, you will feel greater inner peace and nurture emotionally close and healthy relationships.



Source: https://rayoonline.com/do-this-to-have-a-healthy-relationship/

When most people talk about happiness, they might be talking about how they feel in the present moment,  or they might be referring to a more general sense of how they feel about life overall.

What Is Happiness?

Happiness is an emotional state characterized by feelings of joy, satisfaction, contentment, and fulfillment.

While happiness has many different definitions, it is often described as involving positive emotions and life satisfaction.

Two key components of happiness (or subjective well-being) are:

The balance of emotions:

Everyone experiences both positive and negative emotions, feelings, and moods.  Happiness is generally linked to experiencing more positive feelings than negative.

Life satisfaction:

This relates to how satisfied you feel with different areas of your life including your relationships, work, achievements,  and other things that you consider important.



Happy people still feel the whole range of human emotions—anger, frustrastion, boredom, loneliness, and even sadness—from time to time.

But even when faced with discomfort, they have an underlying sense of optimism that things will get better,

that they can deal with what is happening, and that they will be able to feel happy again.

Happiness isn't a state of constant euphoria. Instead, happiness is an overall sense of experiencing more positive emotions than negative ones.


How to Know If You're Happy

While perceptions of happiness may be different from one person to the next, there are some key signs that psychologists look for when measuring and assessing happiness.

Some key signs of happiness include:

- Feeling like you are living the life you wanted
- Feeling that the conditions of your life are good
- Feeing that you have accomplished (or will accomplish) what you want in life
- Feeling satisfied with your life
- Feeling positive more than negative

Types of Happiness


Aristotle made a distinction between two different kinds of happiness:

hedonia (Pleasure)

eudaimonia (happiness is derived from seeking virtue and meaning)


Some types of happiness that may fall under these main categories include:

- Joy: A often relatively brief feeling that is felt in the present moment
Excitement: A happy feeling that involves looking forward to something with positive anticipation
Gratitude: A positive emotion that involves being thankful and appreciative
Pride: A feeling of satisfaction in something that you have accomplished
Optimism: This is a way of looking at life with a positive, upbeat outlook
Contentment: This type of happiness involves a sense of satisfaction

While some people just tend to be naturally happier, there are things that you can do to cultivate your sense of happiness.

Tips to be naturally happier, include

Enjoying the Moment :

Focus on practicing gratitude for the things you have and enjoy the process as you go. 



Reframing Negative Thoughts:

Reframing  negative thoughts isn't about ignoring the bad. Instead, it means trying to take a more balanced look at events.

When you find yourself stuck in a pessimistic outlook or experiencing negativity, look for ways that you can reframe your thoughts in a more positive way.



Pursuing Goals In line with your passion:

Achieving goals that you are motivated to pursue, particularly ones that are focused on personal growth and community, can help boost happiness.



True Happiness isn’t a goal that you can simply reach and be done with.
True Happiness is a constant pursuit that requires continual nurturing and sustenance.

Source: https://rayoonline.com/what-is-true-happiness/

You want to be in a committed and Serious Relationship, but it never works out. People you meet are too needy, or too distant. Or, perhaps they are immature, clueless, too old, too young… the list goes on.

Or maybe, just maybe, the problem isn’t out there, but rather inside of you. If you haven’t committed to a relationship, it might be time to look at yourself.

Despite your conscious desire to be in a serious relationship, you might be doing things that undermine your efforts to find that special someone.

Consider how much you relate to the following five signs that you might be keeping serious relationship s at a distance.



You don’t really know what you want in a relationship. 

You say that you want a committed relationship, but what does that mean to you?

What would a committed relationship look like?

And do you really want that life?

Without a clear idea of what you want and your fears or concerns, you are at the mercy of whatever thought or feeling happens to hit you at any given moment.

The result can be lots of confusion, and sending mixed signals – to yourself and your partner.



You can’t imagine a lifetime of being happy with your current partner.

This may show that you are having trouble committing to your current relationship, not necessarily that you have a more general commitment issue.

In this case, it is essential that you reflect honestly on whether your partner embodies enough of the qualities you are looking for.

To gain some insight, ask yourself whether you and your partner share values, religious beliefs, and financial priorities.

Even if you are in love, your hesitancy to commit might indicate that there are some aspects of your partner that make you question

whether you can create a happy future together.

Or, if you are not in love with your perfectly good partner, then that by itself might explain your trouble committing.



You consistently choose other activities over spending time with a partner.

Do you lose interest in partners after the initial excitement of the relationships fade?

If you consistently tend to become more lax in reaching out to your partner or making an effort to get together,

then you are not doing what’s necessary to nurture a strong relationship.

And if you stop following through with promises, then you are even more actively undermining your relationships.

Even if you think you want a relationship, your behavior says otherwise.



You want to be happy and have fun.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to enjoy yourself, but “keeping it light” will not lead to emotional closeness.

You simply cannot nurture a healthy committed relationship while avoiding the deeply personal.

So, if you avoid sharing personal information, learning about your partner’s thoughts and feelings, or talking about your connections,

then you are looking to enjoy a more casual relationship – despite what you might be telling yourself.



It’s all (or mostly) about the sex.

If you are passionate about sexual intimacy, but are not so interested in emotional intimacy, then you are again working to develop a more casual relationship.



Do you recognize that some of these signs describe you?

Then it’s time to think again about what you really want in your life and what is motivating you now.

Despite keeping your distance, you might truly want to be in a committed relationship.

For instance, you may have not met the right person, may simply need more time dating, or may fear closeness.

By gaining clarity about such issues, you can work toward overcoming those hurdles and eventually nurturing the relationship that you want.

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Abusive relationships aren’t defined only by physical violence.

Abuse comes in many forms – emotional, psychological, sexual.

And, though you might think it would be clear when someone is being abusive, abusive patterns can sometimes be hard to spot – especially for the victim.

If you question whether you (or someone you know) is in an abusive relationship, it can help to know the signs:


Psychological and emotional abuse:

Abusers often undermine their partner’s self-worth with verbal attacks, name-calling, and belittling.

They might humiliate their partner in public, unjustly accuse their partner of having an affair, or interrogate them about their every behavior.

In addition, they often keep their partner confused or off balance by saying they were just kidding or blaming their partner for “making” them act in these ways.

They might also fake caring in public, but then turn against them in private.

As a result, the victims frequently feel confused, incompetent, unworthy, hopeless, and chronically self-doubting.



Physical abuse:

The abuser might physically harm their partner in a range of ways, such as grabbing, hitting, punching, or shoving them.

They might throw objects at them or harm them with a weapon.



Sexual abuse:

Even in a committed relationship, it is not permissible for partners to force sexual acts on their partner.

Any act of forced sexual activity (not just intercourse) is abusive.

Treating a partner as a sex object is also abusive.


Threats and intimidation:

One way abusers keep their partners in line is by instilling fear. They might be verbally threatening, or give threatening looks or gestures.

Abusers often make it known that they are tracking their partner’s every move.

They might destroy their partner’s possessions, threaten to harm them, or threaten to harm their family members.

Not surprisingly, victims of this abuse often feel anxiety, fear, and panic.



Isolation:

Abusers often limit their partner’s activities, forbidding them to talk or interact with friends or family.

They might limit access to a car or even turn off their phone.

All of this might be done by physically holding them against their will, but is often accomplished through psychological abuse and intimidation.

The more isolated a person feels, the fewer resources they have to help gain perspective on their situation and to escape from it.



Economic abuse: 

Abusers often make their partners beholden to them for money by controlling access to funds of any kind.

They might prevent their partner from getting a job or withhold access to money they earn from a job.

This creates financial dependency that makes leaving the relationship very difficult.



Using children:

An abuser might disparage their partner’s parenting skills, tell their children lies about their partner,

threaten to take custody of their children, or threaten to harm their children. These tactics instill fear and often elicit compliance.



As you consider this information, whether you know your relationship is abusive or think that it might be,
try reaching out for help by talking with a family member or friend that you trust.


It is important to know that you do not need to remain in any relationship that makes you uncomfortable, confused, or scared –
whether or not you think it is “abusive.” Help is available to you if you reach out for it.

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Many factors influence whether your sex drive is on full throttle or at a standstill at any age.

From day to day, you probably notice changes in your sex drive, brought on by everything from your cycle to exhaustion from working long hours.

What you probably don't detect so easily is the way your libido changes as you get older. But it does, thanks to a host of factors.


What is driving your sex drive?

Stress “is the biggest sex killer,” Jennifer Landa

Your feelings about your partner and your relationship can also affect desire. A strong relationship, and one that prioritizes sex, helps drive libido, notes Dr. Thoppil.

Your lifestyle. Healthy habits, like eating a balanced diet, working out regularly, and getting enough rest, influence your mood as well as your overall health .

Levels of sex hormones such as testosterone , estrogen, and progesterone all naturally start to reduce as youget older,

and that plays a role in desire, arousal, and orgasm.


Your sex drive in your 20s

Like so many other bodily drives and functions, your sex drive when you're 21 or 28 is typically pretty strong.

That’s due to a combination of reasons. For starters, your relationships may be fresh and new, and as

Dr. Thoppil points out, “desire is often strongest in a new relationship.”

Also biology is on your side. “The biological drive to reproduce is in full force,” says Dr. Landa.


Your sex drive in your 30s

If your craving for physical intimacy reduces during your 30s, don’t be surprised.

Testosterone is on the decline during this life stage, for starters. “This dip can cause a natural decrease in sex drive,” Dr. Landa

This is also usually a busy decade for women, full of career building, adulting, and responsibilities like parenting young kids.

“These can be exhausting times, and many women would rather catch up on sleep instead of getting dolled up for a night of wild sex,” points out Dr. Landa.


You sex drive in your 40s

Hormonal changes can hit hard in this decade, as women enter perimenopause.

5-10 year stretch before menopause sets in, your ovaries gradually stop producing estrogen.

During perimenopause, hormonal dips are common. And those fluctuating hormones can affect your sex drive, mood, and even the sensation of sex

and how it physically feels. That's because when estrogen production slows down, your natural vaginal lubrication might too

But it's hardly all bad news. For many women, their 40s are a sexually liberating time of confidence and exploration.

Kids may be older and more independent; careers are established.

You know your body and what turns you on by now, and you're more likely to speak up about the strokes

and touches you crave to bring you to orgasm.

Source: https://rayoonline.com/how-your-sex-drive-changes-in-your-20s-30s-and-40s/

Special Anti-Robbery Squad (SARS) or Federal Special Anti Robbery Squad (FSARS) as lately known is a unit under the Police Force Criminal and Investigation and Intelligence Department headed by a Deputy Inspector General of Police.

SARS is one of the 14 units in the Force Criminal Investigation and Intelligence Department which was established to detain, investigate and prosecute people involved in crimes like armed robbery, kidnapping and other forms of crimes.

A BRIEF HISTORY OF SARS

Special Anti-Robbery Squad (SARS) was established in the year 1992 by former Police Commissioner Simeon Danladi Midenda. The unfortunate incident that led to the formation of the special Anti-Robbery Squad took place in Lagos State of Nigeria where Col. Rindam, a Nigerian Army Colonel was shot to death by a Police Officer at a checkpoint. The army on getting wind of the information dispatched soldiers into the streets of the State in search of any Police officer. This unfortunate incident resulted in the withdrawal of Police officers from checkpoints, security areas and other points of interest for criminals.

Some police officers even resigned from their duties as police officers while some disappeared into thin air. Due to the absence of police for over two weeks, criminals and crime rate increased rapidly in the State. The then Deputy Inspector General of Police – Simeon Danladi Midenda then formed a unit known as Special Anti-Robbery Squad with only 15 officers operating in the shadows without the knowledge of the army while monitoring police radio chatters. However, after months of dialogue, the Nigerian Army and the Nigeria Police Force came to an understanding and official police duty began again in Lagos. The SARS unit was then officially commissioned in Lagos following a ceasefire by the army after settlement.

In the year 2009, after several years of operations the squad grew in number and strength, which led to the spread of the squad into more States in Nigeria. The unit however had several ill reports ranging from human rights violations to extortions of the innocent citizens and even extra-judicial killings by members of the public to the office of the Inspector General of Police (IGP). The IGP Solomon Arase announced on the 7th August, 2015 that as a result of the reports from the general public, the unit would be split into two units which includes the Operational Unit and the Investigation Unit to curtail cases of human rights violation.

The Presidency through the Vice-President of Nigeria Prof. Yemi Osinbajo acting as the Acting President of Nigeria in the absence of the President of Nigeria who was abroad on sick leave, made an attempt on the 14th August, 2018 to reform SARS. The acting President ordered the “overhaul” of the controversial police unit SARS with immediate effect following reports of human rights violation. The acting President ordered the Inspector General of Police – Ibrahim Kpotun Idris to reform SARS as well as carrying out an independent investigation after “persistent complaint and reports” that concerns human rights violation. After the order, the IGP announced that the unit would be renamed Federal Special Anti-Robbery Squad (FSARS), a new head of the unit would be appointed and also the provision of human right desks officers to check reports.

On 21st January, 2019 the new Inspector General of Police, Mohammed Adamu ordered the immediate decentralization of the Federal Special Anti-Robbery Squad. The unit was centralized from the force headquarters in Abuja since its inception, the IGP also stated that the DIG of Force Criminal Investigations Department and Commissioners of Police in each State would be beheld accountable for actions of the FSARS.

SCOPE AND DUTIES OF FSARS

As earlier stated, FSARS is a unit of the Police Force established to detain, investigate and prosecute people involved in criminal acts like armed robbery, kidnapping and other forms of crimes.

The squad being a unit in the Police Force is regulated by the Nigeria Police Act, 2020.

Section 1(a) (b) and (c) of the Act states – The objective of this Act is to provide for a more efficient and effective police service that is based on the principles of : accountability and transparency; protection of human rights and fundamental freedoms; and partnership with other security agencies.

MODUS OPERANDI

During its formation, the Special Anti-Robbery Squad was known to operate covertly. SARS operatives were not allowed to be on police uniforms publicly carrying guns. They were given unmarked vehicles with sometimes no license plates or private plate numbers during duty.

CRITICISM

The public had raised a lot of concerns about FSARS and their general mode of carrying on their duties which range from harassment of innocent citizens, extortion, intimidation of the public and extra-judicial killings by the men of the FSARS.

In May 2010, Amnesty International disclosed that it would be suing the Nigerian Police over human rights abuse stating that the Special Anti-Robbery Squad in Broken, Port Harcourt arrested three bike riders and detained them for over one week while being “beaten every right with the butt of a gun and iron belt”.

On 20 May, 2010, a Federal High Court in Enugu State, ordered the then IGP – Ogbonna OkechuckwuOnovo to produce a Special Anti-Robbery Squad officer who had gunned down a 15-year-old boyin High School. According to the SARS officer, the teen was mistaken for a kidnapper.

Following several reports of human rights violation by members of the public to the office of the Inspector General of Police, on 7th August 2015 the then IGP – Solomon Arase announced that it would be splitting the SARS unit into two units.

In September 2016, Pulse.ng complied a report on Nigeria Police brutality with the heading “Meet SARS the Police Unit with license to kill”.

The report highlighted the brutality and ignorance of the rules of engagement in the Special Anti-Robbery Squad.

On 10th August, 2019 while SARS operatives were on a raid in Ijegun area of Lagos State to arrest kidnappers in the area, operatives of the unit fired several shots in a bid to subdue the kidnappers and during the course of the action a stray bullet hit a pregnant woman, she reportedly died on the spot. An angry mob was said to have lynched two police officers on the spot.

On 21st August 2019, four (4) FSARS operatives were arrested and charged with murder after being caught on film manhandling and then shooting to death two suspected phone thieves in broad daylight. The two suspected phone thieves were shot dead after they had been arrested.

A LAWYER’S PERSPECTIVE Of The ENDSARS Protest

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President Trump claimed on Wednesday that catching the coronavirus was “a blessing from God” and portrayed as a miracle cure the unproven therapeutic drug he was given after testing positive last week for the virus.

In the video released Wednesday night, President Trump , whose skin appeared darkened by makeup

said he had discovered, without evidence, a new drug that suddenly made him feel better and could do the same for everyone else with Covid-19.



“I call that a cure,” said Mr. Trump, adding that everyone should have access to the not-yet-approved drug

for “free” and that he would make sure it was in every hospital as soon as possible.

According to New york Times , hours after the video was released,

Regeneron said it was asking the Food and Drug Administration for emergency authorization to make the drug available.



The company has received more than $500 million from the federal government to develop

and manufacture its experimental treatment as part of “Operation Warp Speed,” the federal effort to come up

with viable vaccines and treatments for the virus, in order to help distribute it once it is available.



But although Mr. Trump had said hundreds of thousands of patients would soon have access to the cocktail,

Regeneron said in a statement that it would initially have only enough doses for 50,000 people.


“I think this was a blessing from God that I caught it,” Mr. Trump said,

apparently referring to the fact that he had learned about the benefits of the drug as a result of becoming ill.

See Video: https://twitter.com/realDonaldTrump/status/1313959702104023047

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The hashtag #EndSARS is trending on Twitter, Videos shared recently on social media appear to show SARS officers extorting money and even shooting people.

Nigerians want SARS disbanded.

Many people are also using the hashtag to share stories of brutality attributed to the police unit.



SARS Officers should focus on cases of armed robberies, kidnapping and other violent crimes not

young men with dreadlocks, ripped jeans, tattoos, flashy cars or expensive gadgets



Although Nigeria's inspector general of police has banned the notorious unit from carrying out stop and

search duties and setting up roadblocks.



Facebook users shares new dress code to avoid SARS Harassment.

Source: https://rayoonline.com/how-to-avoid-harassment-from-sars-officers/

Originally, the 2020-21 summer window was supposed to begin on June 10, closing on September 1.

Due to Covid-19, however, it was forced to open on July 27, a day after the end of the Premier League season and it ended on October 5, 2020.

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Ben Chilwell was coveted by Chelsea throughout last season, and specifically by Frank Lampard to be his first choice left-back.

This summer Chelsea were offered several players for that position but the Blues decided to put all the eggs in the Chilwell basket and

eventually signed him, despite the 23-year-old carrying an injury.



Chilwell joined all the other summer signings in talking up Lampard’s crucial role in his switch from Leicester for West London.

In a press conference chilwell said

“I spoke to the manager and straight away got that feeling that you want to play for him and you want to win for him.

He won a lot of silverware here and I think it’s important to play for a manager that loves the club I’m joining and

knows what it takes to win trophies here.

“That has been a big reason why a lot of the players have joined.

His man-management seems top, even the boys who aren’t playing will say that as well, and tactically he’s very good.

He just seems like a really good guy who you want to do well for and that was the main reason I wanted to come.”


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Many wondered why Werner, who scored his first Chelsea goal in the first half, chose not to step up to the mark.

Werner opened the scoring inside the first twenty minutes with a low drive that caught Hugo Lloris out.

Despite having a number of chances, Chelsea failed to increase their lead against a weakened Spurs.

New signing Sergio Reguilon made a mistake in the lead up to the first goal but made up for it with

seven minutes to go.

The Spaniard sent a teasing ball into the box for Erik Lamela to slot home at the back stick and take the game to penalties.

Spurs successfully dispatched all of their penalties while Mount saw his clip the post and go wide to send

Jose Mourinho's side through.

Dier was handed the Man of the Match award as he inspired his team to victory in the game.

Frank Lampard revealed after the game per TeamTalk

"We spoke to the players,

"You work on penalties and try and have a plan but it's very difficult to know.

"Timo had some cramp at the end and Timo would have probably taken one so we had to adjust around that."



Mourinho made nine changes from Sunday's 1-1 draw against Newcastle United due to a congested fixture list.

They welcome Maccabi Haifa in the Europa League on Thursday before traveling to Old Trafford on Sunday to take on Manchester United.

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Here are the ratings of how Nigerian footballers performed this week across Europe top 5 Legues  this weekend according to Whoscored

Wilfred Ndidi (Leicester City) - 7.8

Twice jockeyed Wood well to avert one-on-one chances, but was dragged out of position too often, and was too quick to dive in, leading to a handful of Burnley opportunities. Rodgers will be relieved Evans is back for the next Premier League game.


Semi Ajayi ( West Bromwich Albion ) -  5.4

Demonstrated his pace and athleticism to burst past Digne and deep into the Everton half from deep, but the defending - which admittedly was a struggle for side a man light - parted like the Red Sea in the second.


Odion Ighalo ( Manchester United) 5.7

Came in late and had little impact on the game



Samuel Chukwueze (Villareal) 7.5

Samuel Chukwueze provided an assist to help Villarreal secure a 2-1 victory over Eibar in Saturday’s La Liga game.

Villarreal started the game impressively and with only four minutes into the encounter, Chukwueze could have helped his side open the scoring in the fourth minute when he dribbled past his markers and sent in a through-ball but his effort was not well utilized.



Victor Oshimien (Napoli) 6.7

After a goalless first 45 minutes, Napoli boss Gennaro Gattuso took off Diego Demme just past the hour mark, bringing on Osimhen, and it did not take too long for the Nigerian’s presence to be felt as he took a slight touch off Lozano’s cross which fell into the path of the club’s all-time top scorer Mertens, for the opening goal in the 64th minute

Napoli suddenly came alive and they doubled their lead in the 77th minute courtesy of Insigne who tucked in the rebound from Lozano’s shot that was palmed away by Parma goalie Luigi Sepe.

Osimhen had an opportunity to score his first goal in sky blue colours not long after but his effort was wide off target. He crossed a nice ball for Mertens in the 84th minute, but the Belgian’s shot from outside the penalty box was well handled by Sepe.


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Sam Sodje has urged Nigerian players to make every attempt to play in Premier League, the world’s most “prestigious” competition.

Sodje thinks the Premier League gives the Nigerian players home and abroad a strong chance to display their talents.

“The Premier League is the best league and every player in the world not only Nigerian players should work hard in order to get a chance to appear in the League,” Sodje told Brilla FM.

”Not just Nigerian players, I think a lot of footballers at the moments will prefer the Premier League because of the attention and opportunities that come with playing in the league. It’s prestigious.



”The Premier League gives every footballer a platform where people recognize your talent easily and fast, I will advise every player to come to play in the premier league”.

The 41-year-old centre-back spent two years with Reading after joining the side in January 2006 before he moved to Charlton Athletic.

He also played for Skoda Xanthi, Notts County and Portsmouth before he ended his professional career in 2013.

Sodje, born in England, made his debut for the Nigeria national team against Romania in November 2005 and had four caps for the West African side.

Source: http://rayoonline.com/nigerian-players-should-make-premier-league-switch-sodje-advises/

Former Queens Park Rangers forward Eberechi Eze, Brice Samba and Said Benrahma
are the only in the PFA Championship Team of the Year.


Eze was named in a three-man midfield that parades Leeds United’s Kalvin Phillips and West Bromwich Albion’s Romaine Sawyers.

The Anglo-Nigerian put up remarkable performances which saw him account for 13 goals and eight assists.
That saw three awards tumbling during QPR’s end-of – season awards for the 22-year-old.

He scooped the Ray Jones Players’ Player of the Year, Junior Hoops Player of the Year, as well as QPR’s Supporters’ Player of the Year.

Source: http://rayoonline.com/eberechi-eze-makes-team-of-the-year/

Here is a list of top 5 African EPL stars with a point to prove this season according to GOAL


Nicolas Pepe (Ivory Coast)

It was always going to be a major ask for Pepe to repay the £72 million Arsenal parted with to sign him from LOSC Lille, even if he had managed to have a hand in 33 goals during his final season in France.
Five goals and six assists isn’t a dreadful return—and there were even some outstanding performances—although much more is expected this season.

Daniel Amartey (Ghana)

Amartey hasn’t had the best time of things since signing from FC Kobenhavn midway through the Foxes’ title-winning campaign, although he could still be a useful rotational option for Brendan Rodgers…particularly considering Leicester’s Europa League participation.
The versatile defensive player netted in City’s 1-1 friendly draw with Blackburn Rovers on Saturday, but can he prove that he can make a success of things at the King Power Stadium?

Alex Iwobi (Nigeria)

Alex Iwobi contributed one goal and zero assists during his maiden season at Everton, a truly risible return for a player of whom so much was expected.

Admittedly, he struggled to find his best position during what was a transitional campaign for the Toffees, but still, for a transfer fee that may rise to £34 million, he surely should have offered a greater end product.
At 24, there’s still time for Iwobi to turn things around, but it’s imperative that he finds his best position at Goodison Park. With James Rodriguez now at the club, competition just got turned up a notch.

Jean-Philippe Gbamin (Ivory Coast)

Another 2019 signing who’s failed to win over the Everton fans, Gbamin has injury to blame for his struggles on Merseyside.
The Ivory Coast international suffered a litany of injury setbacks during his maiden season in England—having been crocked after just two starts for the Toffees.

Initially, a thigh problem was the cause of his inactivity, but his return was pushed back and then pushed back again.
Even now, he isn’t due to return until November at the earliest…following 16 months on the sidelines.

Mbwana Samatta (Tanzania)

Samatta scored on his Aston Villa debut against Bournemouth, and there were hopes that he would be an ideal replacement for big-money injured frontman Wesley.

Ultimately, he wouldn’t score again in the Premier League, making little tangible contribution as the Villains beat the drop.
Had Villa not stayed up, that final-day miss against West Ham United could have proved much more costly, and it was telling that—upon football’s return following lockdown—Samatta had been usurped by rookie Keinan Davis.

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Nantes winger Moses Simon has come to the aid of Obagaji Agatu community, local government area of Benue State by donating boreholes.

According to The punch, The head of Obagaji Agatu community, Chief James Ocheche, explains how the area has relied on stream and rainwater to meet their needs before the intervention of Simon.

“Early this year, a brother of Simon said he [Simon] is concerned about the source of our drinking water and other social amenities in the community,” Ocheche said,

“He was sympathetic enough to sink three boreholes as an individual. You can see that he is a boy who wants the development of his community. May God lift him up.”

The project is one of numerous embarked upon by the 25-year-old this year.

He reached out to Internally Displaced Persons of Southern Kaduna, donating clothes, food and drugs, paying for their free medical service and N500,000.

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