Nazgul:
Marriage became useless to men because we abandoned our culture and tradition and embraced that of the Western world.

When you start sleeping with girls from the age of 16 and have a body count of close to 50 girls by the time you're 30, what usefulness do you expect to get from marriage? Truth is even you the man wouldn't value the marriage and would immediately resume your sexcapade after your honeymoon

The only way to restore decorum in African marriages is to embrace back our culture.

Pre marital sex must be seen as an abomination, those who practice it would be banished from their community.

Virginity test should be one of the requirements a girl must possess before marriage can take place, this will reduce promiscuity in girls.

A law should be passed that ràpists would earn in instant death sentence upon conviction. This would reduce promiscuity in guys cos no one would be willing to risk his life for a few minutes of pleasure.

Also there should be laws governing marriages that would make unfaithful partners risk jail term.

Once this measures can be put in place, I strongly believe that marriages would become as rosy as it was meant to be. And wouldn't be useless to both men and women.

Zaheertyler:

Lol ajebo
At 27 your papa never Dey give you your respect even if you Dey him house lol
You know say na lie you no fit clear am say why him go Dey lie against you ..why him go even sieze phone way you buy self
You suppose Dey clear the man with respect
Him go Dey give you your way
But you be ajebo sha

AmazonTopaz:

It actually is an abortion law you dumbo

How on earth is it your business or do you think it is OK to regulate the choices of women,so because some women have celebrated their life choices we should hold that against the other women who did not smile while making that decision right.

Get lost you are a confused being.

AmazonTopaz:

This is why you are a clown because not all abortions are done because of unsafe sex. You want to regulate how adults have sex I am not sure that you are okay up there.

Go and read the reasons why abortion is necessary and why people do it before talking rubbish. It is your type that does not know that even married women have abortions too. Wellbeing of who exactly?

Stop being a sexist crying over the liberation of women.

snookcg:

American is always an example and I am sure they will certainly make a good call now or over time. Democracy allows for the voice of the people to be heard but majority will certainly carry the vote.

AmazonTopaz:

You are just a clown if you ever lived in subjugation you would understand why freedom though not absolute is necessary.

AmazonTopaz:


See this sexist, crying over a sexually liberates woman where is the energy for the male folks who do the impregnating?

MyExpression:


There has to be proof of intent to defraud.
Chats, messages et al.

He is not liable without proof.

Oga, go make entry for threat to your life in a higher police division.

They will assign you an IPO.

You cannot be detained anymore for that case.

Both parties can then proceed to mediation and settle out of court.

MyExpression:


Is there any law against coercion...especially if she's above 18?

I 5hink he should consult a lawyer and then let the lawyer follow him to station to make an entry for threat to his life.

Tulsaguy:
I am sure there is penalty for exposure of private parts in our laws. Violence against persons Act provides jail term and Section 216 of the criminal code regards the indecent treatment of boys, their exposure to what they should not see as an offence of felony liable to imprisonment for seven years. It went further to say you be punished for showing us your private parts. Does it happen?


We have shifted our focus to the section of our laws that protect women only against violence penetration that we all called rape. Whoever commit rape needs to have his head examined and must be jailed for monkey years, whoever seduces the opposite sex too shouldn't be let off the hook.

At the same time, allowing all classes of oloshos & evening newspapers to walk free with their cleavages, camel toes and bum unclothed is also sexual harassment nobody wants to address this. Are men superhuman? If you complain, they tell you to keep your eyes straight and feminists will even put it in your face that what they put on shouldn't be your headache because we have a hypocritical society that protects the girls and leave the boys to protect themselves.

All our fake attention was on helping the girl in Chrisland video get help while we abandoned the boy(s) involved. Those children didn't start today, that's what our hypocrisy has potential to breed. Next thing, as usual knee jerk reaction from reactionary govt. shut the school as if the same act is not being carried out in our own government schools. Go to sango High school to hear stories.




These days, we chose not to remember that men too are being harassed sexually, abused domestically and turtured emotionally.

While I hate everything hisbah police is doing in Kano, I subscribed to the mode of dressing of Arewa babes. We may call it hypocrisy, at least they cover up their own hypocrisy and not throwing it at everybody face.


To retrieve back this society from total collapse, we must begin to teach good morals from home, churches, mosque and school. Govt. must regulate the music industry and fizzle out songs like "ale le ma n fodi, irole le ma n we", all marlians related nonsense must be uprooted from our airwaves and zazu crooners and his ilks encouraged to add life to his nonsense. The nonsense wey we hear don do.

WoundedLamb:


You've explained how the judge ended up freeing the man. And according to your explanation, it's possible the man did it but there wasn't just enough evidence against him. That's OK. I was never disputing the judgment.

If you read the post you quoted, I told the guy that finding the wife guilty invariably implies the federal court would find the husband guilty as well. Then you quoted me to call me an illiterate only for you to come back to argue something I never disputed. I told the dude he cannot support the wife's punishment without implicating the husband. That's the contradiction here and I pointed it out to the person I quoted because he obviously thought it was a man vs woman case where one party's guilt would vindicate the other. The person I quoted was quick to side with the man even without understanding the story. Anything not hold a man accountable was fine by him. And I said if that man appears before the federal court, he's not getting out free.

So tell me how that makes me an illiterate and how this your response full of hypothesis invalidates my submission.

WoundedLamb:


I really tried to make sense of your post so I could, at least, reply. But nope, I couldn't. What exactly are you saying? That the court finding her guilty of not protecting the child doesn't imply the child was actually raped? You think she'll be jailed for even a minute for being accomplice to a crime that cannot be proven? Accomplice to what? So why are the two courts said to contradict each other? Dude, if her husband is presented before the same court that jailed her, he's going straight to prison cause the judgment against his wife has already implicated him.

You probably think the court of law is Nairaland where y'all argue without logic.

cococandy:


so how was she supposed to protect the girl from rapists if the rapist is unknown?
This society is so chronically and maliciously anti woman it’s nauseating.
Okay let’s say the man didn’t do it, why was he not convicted alongside the wife for failing to protect the child, was the child not his responsibility too?

Turns my stomach

WoundedLamb:


Whatever she's accused of? From all indications, you don't understand any bit of this report but you're already fast to call out the woman. Do you think this is a case of woman vs her husband where one party's guilt vindicates the other? Do you even realize why the judgments are said to be contradictory? Her guilt implies her husband did rap.e the child. Do you guys ever take a break to hold your fellow men accused? Wow.

odinson1:
Women Basically want 3 things
1. the Power and Authority of a man
2. The Privileges of Being a Woman
3. The Accountability of A child.

I pity those ignorant, naive men who are fighting for Equality for women. Those idiots don't realize that they are being cheated,the woman you are fighting for,is trying to overthrow your power. She will expect you to man up and fight for her,or Provide when times are hard. But when times are good,they will drag equality with you. Take the Russian/Ukraine war as a case study. The women are allowed to leave,but the men are mandated to stay. Not a single feminist came out to say women were being Relegated (because they are weak,which is true).
You know why? It is because times are hard,it is war,so they don't have the luxury to be fighting for equality now.

habsydiamond:
Make u a create prison for trans too now.. Are u going to wait until dem give every woman belle finish for there.

TONYE001:


Please, may I ask, are you conversant with academic writing? Every published work has a "Methodology" section where all the procedures of the research are explained, including the source and type of data and the data analysis method. This is so because it is crucial that any research work can be repeated anywhere in the world, anytime.

You can follow my sources and see their methods (+statistical analysis).

TONYE001:


My article is about gender-based violence, true, BUT debating MY gender is INSIGNIFICANT.

My profile reads that I'm a male and you accused me of being a female. Do we now leave the important issue of DV and begin to debate about my gender? Na. That would be a waste of time, effort, and online space.

See?

TONYE001:


Oh boy! First time in my life someone calls me a female! Interesting.

My other thread is a work of facts; go there and you'd find published works I put together.

Instead of name calling and all, I really wish you drop opinion. It's rather sad that you resorted to questioning my gender.

This account has been here since 2013. No one ever doubted my gender until today.

A gender debate is too insignificant compared to the situation we have at hand. Since you consider my submissions emotional, I doubt we can have an intellectual engagement.

Have a nice time.

TONYE001:


Please point your readers to where I implied the bolded.

Secondly, I don't know your level of education but if you consider YouTube videos superior to published research works on standard, global journals, you may need to revisit the rudiments of academic writing.

Just to add: I actually cited a local publications in that piece.

Connected1:

I don't do presentation.

Women are the ones who cry and wail most times, those raised by their mothers can tell you that, if a mother feeds the home for a day, she would make the immature children believe that the father isn't doing well at all and he leaves the home responsibilities for her.

Many Children grow up with that mentality and they foolishly hate their fathers until their own children do same to them, then they realise the mistakes.

You will never hear a Nigerian man wail and complain that his sick/pregnant/tired wife leaves the house chores for him alone, men do it without raising an alarm.

We hardly complain, we leave that for women, it's their nature, we aren't trying to win them in that.

You all know Nigerian men don't admire equality in their homes but you try to force them to do it, you try to force and instill a white man's culture in us, that's pathetic, the West and America is open, go there get married to their men, but I don't think they want you guys.

That's one of the reason women hardly get married these days, you want the man to do traditional marriage, church wedding and reception too, it was never so in the old days. Money wey I go take buy Land or do investments, I go carry am go do Sataka because I want to please a woman who would verbally abuse me when the marriage life starts and there's no money to run the home.

Too many women go to church but don't understand the teachings of the bible nor do they know how to use it to run their homes, all they know is to call one small boy Daddy.

We should all go back to the old ways, I don't see the usefulness of these churches anymore.

Rubbish.

TONYE001:


Don't get, please.

Where are the emotions? What I put up there are facts and you say I'm emotional?

Wish you'd present your facts too and not attack my person.

TONYE001:


1. The article above has no point against correcting a child and sending children on appropriate-for-age errands; it is entirely against every form of DV, including a wife assaulting her maid.

2. I agree, family values must be revived and this was captured in the article.

3. YES, a husband should not request for food from his wife when they both return from work (both exhausted). The husband and the wife must help each other in preparing their meals. If the husband gets home before the wife, there's nothing wrong if he prepares the meal before his wife returns and vice versa. You see, when there is true love, understanding, and maturity, this, really, would not be seen as a big deal. It's just like a brother living with his sister who decides to fix dinner before his sister arrives ..

4. Do you also know that husbands request money from their wives? Why do you think it's only wives that request money from their husbands? Anyone can request money from anyone! A husband cannot be in cash all the time. Sometimes, unexpected expenses happen requiring extra funds or something. Couples don't necessarily have to wait until a request is made; couples should give freely, whether or not there is a need.

5. These are not necessarily rules. These are etiquettes of peaceful living. Anyone can work the above points out by applying clear reasoning and first principles.

6. "So many women that you see talking back at husband's calls their pastors daddy and and even see nothing wrong in submitting to his rules and regulations but turns to tiger in their matrimonial homes" - sadly, this is true.

7. The article is not just my opinion, sir. As you can see, it's a product of research. The article did not isolate the horrible economy and the society as the reasons of DV (they are very MAJOR reasons though). The article identified many other reasons.

Thank you.