My boyfriend has been addicted to
pornography since 1999, about 14 years
before he met me. We have dated for about
2 years now and unfortunately he is still
hooked to pornography.


Yes, he tells me the frequency has
drastically reduced from a daily basis to a
once a month affair. I do not keep count or
care about frequency, but all I know is that I
feel inadequate any time I hear the word
‘porn.’


He is upfront with me and actually lets me
know whenever he has viewed porn and
masturbated to it. He is not letting me know
to spite me but letting me know in agony, so
I could help him. I was OK with being his
accountability partner but recently it got too
much for me to handle.


Trust me hearing about your spouse, who
you want to spend the rest of your life with,
ogling other women is painful. I don’t
understand how I can trust him. He uses
porn to fill a void in his life. For example
when he is depressed, the next thing is
porn.


He is a charming guy and super intelligent.
He is the most intelligent man I’ve ever met
which baffles me as to why he can’t see the
devastating effect porn will have on our
family if he continues. He can’t see it. It’s
almost like he is blind to it. He is also
spiritual but I think his spirituality is
hypocrisy, because I don’t get how you can
be spiritual and still be checking porn.


I am hoping he will get out of it because he
is one of those men with every other thing
right apart from this.


He tells me he loves me but can someone
love you and still check pornography. He
feels entitled to have me understand him.
He is someone who tries to form principles
everywhere and when we started dating he
really grilled me because of my former
hopeless relationships with useless exes.


We’ve moved past all that, but when he
looks at porn, he imagines me in it and my
exes and that takes him in depression mood
which leads him back to porn again. A
destructive cycle. He is a smart man but this
is getting beyond me because I don’t
understand. I hope he could just understand
what it feels like on my side. I hope he
could have more empathy. I hope he could
know that if this does not stop I will leave.

We have a full disclosure understanding in
our relationship. There is no hiding
anything past, present, future. Tell it as it is.

Whenever he checks porn, he tells me about
it. I try to be strong and he professes his
love for me, we pray and we are back
together. He does it again and the same
thing happens, again, again, again. After
about 150 (I’m not keeping count) times, is it
possible for me to be able to still be strong
for him? Is it possible for me to respect or
trust him? Is it possible for me to kiss him?
How do I tell that when he is kissing me he
is not imagining some random porn actress?
I really want this to work but any time he
tells me about porn it feels like a stab in the
back and it feels like cheating or practicing
to cheat. I can’t ever imagine looking at
porn while in a relationship.

This is
something that if I did, he will make a
tantrum out of. I have even thought of doing
it so he can know what it feels like. It hurts
when someone you love is checking out
thousands of naked photoshopped bodies on
the internet.

HOW AM I TO COMPETE WITH
THAT?

I don’t get it but sincerely I can’t stay with
him if this porn does not go away. I’m sorry
I can’t. If that happens, this will be the
worst heartbreak because this guy is what
any woman will dream about (it’s just the
porn aspect that is messing it whole up and
unfortunately porn cascades into everything
else messing and crushing everything else up).

We have spoken countless times on how to
be free from pornography. We have read
books on porn freedom together. We have
prayed together about freedom. The only
improvement I see is that the frequency has
reduced but it still hurts badly. It’s about 2
years in our relationship but I can’t commit
if porn is still an issue. I can’t say ‘yes’. I
can’t say ‘I do’ if porn is still there.

I know the world is not helping with all this
pornified music videos and advertisements
but I believe he should be able to overcome
the temptations.

2016 is coming in a few days. I can’t deal
with this in 2016.

If anyone here has dealt with this before,
can you tell me how you both resolved it.

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Triple MG artiste, Tekno Miles who is a year older today link up with his team mate, Selebolo to cook up a new hit single titled “Maria”. Listen Up! Tekno Ft Selebobo – Maria
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DB Records Boss – D’Banj in a recent
interview has explained the allegation of
song theft leveled by his Music Producer –
Deevee again YBNL’s Olamide .


Recall DeeVee in a series of tweets had claimed
that Olamide stole a line in his Don’t Stop track
from an unreleased D’banj song called Shake
It.

Speaking with Media on Tuesday, December
15, D’banj said said several musicians come
to his house, listen to songs he is recording
or recorded and get inspired by it.
He said:

“I didn’t know about the message from
DeeVee but the truth is the truth. My
house is open; I have songs you guys have
not heard. I have songs that I’m about to
release with producers you guys have
asked me to work with. From time,
anyone can come into my studio and
listen to our songs and not just Olamide
can come in. To me, it’s not stealing, I see
it as inspiration.

“This particular one, this is a line I have
been saying for a long time, “Shake it,
don’t break it, it took your mama nine
months to make it.” I actually heard it
from Prince Aremo Oniru. Even Baddo
(Olamide) had played about it saying,
“Baba if you no use this line I go use am
o” but I said I go use am.”

Speaking on his relationship with another
Yoruba-lingo rapper, Reminisce, he
described the rapper as an artiste he likes
for his zeal and hustle.
“Reminisce bad boy o cover mi. Reminisce
will be going on tour with me, Timaya
will be on the tour, Olu Maintain,” he
said.

The pop star Dbanj hosted members of the
media in Ikeja, Lagos to a private screening
of his soon-to-be-released visual EP An Epic
Journey.


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JudgementHammer:
Why ppl no comment this post na. Nawa oh

Thank God U see to it

Keeping

For most married couples, sometimes work
and other issue gets in the way of regular
sex but sometimes couples can be the
reason why they don’t have sex frequently.

This happens when you don’t spice things
up and keep repeating certain bad sex habits
in the bedroom.

According to Huffington Post, here are 5 sex
habits couples should break away from to
become better in the bedroom.


1. Having sex on the same bed your kid sleeps in
or leaving the door open when having sex. You
really do not want to kids walking in on you
and your spouse having sex. Sex is private
and that includes not giving your kids a
show doesn’t


2. Not complimenting your spouse on their sex
moves. Communicating will make you and
your partner feel great.
Let your spouse know how amazing the sex
was, it’ll make them look forward to
another session.


3. Being in the same position all the
time. Sometimes an inspiration is all you
need to to feel better.
Doing the same routine might bore you
both, be willing to experiment.


4. Letting your partner do most of the initiation.
Your spouse may become frustrated in the
long run if you leave sex initiation to them
only.
Sometimes you have to put in your own
quota that’ll make them feel special too.

Thanks for reading
Written By Samuel Onoja

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Exuse me BUT your POST IS NOT NEAT AT ALL, TOO CRAMPED UP FOR ONE TO BE ENGAGED READING IT, YOU LISTED 20 THINGS BUT WROTE THEM LIKE AN ESSAY, PLEASE EDIT IT AND MAKE IT IN A 'LISTED' ORDER. THANKS

hope it is better Y'all

Want to make your sweet girlfriend
feel more special and loved? Use
these 20 great ways on how to make
your girlfriend happy to do that,
every day.
As girls, it’s in our nature to be affectionate and loving.
And when we’re in a relationship with a wonderful guy, we
love being treated in a special way by them.
But more often than not, a guy just doesn’t know how to
treat his girlfriend in a special manner, even if he’s trying
hard to please her.
How to make your girlfriend feel happy
Making your girlfriend feel happy and loved isn’t a
complicated confusion.
In reality, it’s very simple.

You just need to make her feel special and cared for
when you’re around her.

If you want your relationship to be perfect and envied by
all others couples, learn to think from your girlfriend’s
perspective.

When both lovers in a relationship think from the other
partner’s perspective, the relationship can only get better
and more loving with time.

25 ways to make your girlfriend feel loved and happy
A perfect relationship is never one sided. When you make
the effort to please your girlfriend and make her happy,
she’ll involuntarily put in her effort at making you happier
in love if she truly loves you back.

So the next time you’re with your special girl, instead of
holding back, give more. In mutual love, every loving act
gives back more happiness to both lovers.

For starters , use these 20 tips on how to make your
girlfriend happy to pamper her and please her. And I’ll tell
you this, you’ll definitely be the winner in the game of
love.

#1 Surprise her with memorable gifts.

Make sure you
never forget your girlfriend’s special occasions, however
trivial they may seem to you. And every now and then,
show just how much you love her by giving her a
memorable gift of love, be it a bling thing or a priceless
gift like a heartfelt letter of love.


#2 Make her friends envy her.

All of us want our
relationships to be perfect, but very few of us actually
work towards making it perfect. Treat your girlfriend with
love and affection, and pay attention to all her needs,
especially when she’s around her friends. When her
friends notice how good a catch you are, her heart will
swell with pride and happiness, and you’ll feel like a real
smooth talker too!

#3 Get along with her friends and family.

To a girl, her
family and her close friends mean everything, because she
shares all the intimate details of her life with them. And to
a large extent, she listens to her friends and takes their
opinions seriously. So make an effort to get along with
her friends and treat them well. She’ll be happy to see that
you’re a big hit with her loved ones.


#4 Don’t ignore her when she’s with you.

Make your
girlfriend feel like she’s the center of your world all the
time, and especially so when she’s with you. Don’t ignore
her because you’re having a fun conversation with another
attractive girl or are distracted by something else. When
your girlfriend is around you, it doesn’t matter who or what
is around, make sure your attention is focused on your girl.


#5 Respect her opinions.

As humans, respect plays a big
part in how we feel about ourselves. When we feel
disrespected by someone important to us, we feel
miserable. And this holds the same effect in relationships
too. Don’t dismiss your girlfriend’s opinions and ideas
without listening to her, and don’t take her lightly just
because *she’s a girl*. In a relationship, both partners
have to learn to listen to each other and respect each
other’s point of view.


#6 Ask her for help.

You may be a big, fully grown man.
But that shouldn’t stop you from asking your girl for help
now and then. By letting your girlfriend see your
vulnerable, helpless side, she’d feel closer to you because
you aren’t afraid of showing your weaknesses to her.


#7 Compromise for her.

Every now and then, compromise
your wants for her needs. If she wants to watch a
romantic movie while you want to watch something else,
give in to her now and then. When she sees how you’re
willing to give up something you like just to please her, it’ll
only make her feel more loved and happy.

#8 Cuddle up with her at home.

Do you end up getting
turned on each time you hug your girlfriend or kiss her for
a few minutes? That’s understandable. But at least once a
day, hug her tight and cuddle with her while watching the
telly or when both of you are lying in bed. For a girl, a few
hugs and sweet kisses feel just as special as a good
round of passionate sex.


#9 Be affectionate with her in public.
Make your girlfriend
feel special when you’re with her in public. You don’t need
to eat each other’s faces off to make a point that both of
you are dating.
Hold her hand, brush her hair away from her face, make
her feel like you’re completely attentive to her needs, and
most importantly, don’t hold yourself back from behaving
in a silly manner if you can bring a smile on your
girlfriend’s face.

#10 Make her laugh.
Humor has a very important place in
relationships. Even when both of you don’t have anything
to talk about, a few funny lines or gestures can make the
whole day feel like such a fun activity.

#11 Make her feel secure.

If you want to make your
girlfriend feel happy in the relationship, you need to focus
on the one thing girls want most in a guy, his protective
streak. When your girl feels secure when you’re around,
and when she feels like she can depend on you for
anything, she’d instinctively feel happier to be in love with
you.

#12 Give her your attention.

When you go out with your
girlfriend, do you stay close to her and make sure she’s
feeling comfortable, or do you leave her aside and catch
up with your own friends?
When your girlfriend is around, always focus on her needs
first before you think of yours. If you need to spend a few
minutes away from her to speak to your own friends,
make sure she won’t feel uneasy when you aren’t around.
Whenever you’re out with your girlfriend, always pay
attention to her needs before yours.

#13 Communicate.
Misunderstandings arise when there is
a lack of communication in a relationship. If you want to
have a happy relationship with your girlfriend, learn to
express your feelings clearly. And every now and then,
spend a few hours talking about each other’s lives. When
you spend a lot of time talking about your future together,
both of you will feel more secure and loved in the
relationship.

#14 Compliment her.

Women love compliments. It makes
them feel more appreciated. If you like something about
your girlfriend, let her know about it. It doesn’t matter if
it’s something about her personality or about the way she
dresses, if you like it, say it.

#15 Let her know you’re lucky to have her.

Did you have
to woo your girl for a while before she finally accepted to
date you? Always let her know that you still love her just
as much as you did when both of you first started dating.
And more than anything else, let her know that you have
never taken her for granted and never will. If you feel
lucky to date such a wonderful girl, remind her about it all
the time.

#16 Be chivalrous.

Chivalry is one of those big positive
traits in a guy that separates the ordinary men from the
gentlemen. Always be chivalrous around your girlfriend,
and learn to treat her like a princess. She’ll definitely love
your courteous side and all the pampering that comes with
it.
#17 Involve her in your life.

If you’re serious about your
girlfriend and see her as a big part of your life, learn to
involve her more in your daily life, be it for get-togethers
or a night out with your friends. When you invite her to
spend more time with you and your friends, you’re letting
her know that you’re serious about her and the
relationship. And emotional security always makes any girl
in love a much happier girlfriend!

#18 Call her unexpectedly and sweet talk her.

Love
shouldn’t always be predictable, especially when it’s a
happy surprise. Drop by at her place or at her office out of
the blue with flowers or a small gift. Call her up when she
least expects your call and remind her about how much
you miss holding her in your hands right at that moment.
In love, if it’s a happy feeling, share it. It makes all the
difference between a happy romance and a bored one.


#19 The little things in love. Big birthday surprises and
anniversary celebrations are always memorable.

But to
keep a romance alive, you don’t always need those big
gestures all the time. It’s the little things in love that hold
a relationship together better than those big gestures.
Indulge in sweet romantic gestures every now and then to
please your girlfriend. It’ll definitely make her appreciate
your relationship a lot more.


#20 Make big promises and keep them.

Do you promise things to your girlfriend? Do you make little assurances about planning a surprise birthday party or about the future? Make promises all the time, but make sure you
fulfill them even if it takes years to do so. Nothing feels
more special to a girl than to know that her boyfriend is a
man of his word. It makes her feel more secure, and most
importantly, it makes her feel happy to be in love with you.
Sometimes, it’s the smallest of romantic
gestures that can bring the widest of smiles.
Use these 20 tips on how to make your
girlfriend happy and she’ll definitely
appreciate you a lot more for being such a
special guy to her.
We’re trying hard to create better relationships in the
world. But we can’t do it without YOU!
Did this feature help you better yourself or your
relationship? You can change someone else’s life too!
!


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Tallesty1:
Davido what are you up to



@OP, he's not responding.

Lolz

flexxyworld:
O.B.O

BADDEST

Davido of HKN GANG also known as O.B.O posted this
hillarious picture on his Instagram page this afternoon.
He wrote:
'IT WORKS....'

Or has Davido started manufacturing cream.

What Your Say.....
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Nigerian Nollywood veterian actor Chinedu Ikedieze
popularly know as “ Akin” is +1 one today.
Here what he wrote on his Instagram page:
It’s my birthday! I’m plus one today! I tnk God
for His grace n wisdom upon me! Wishing
myself more Heavenly blessings…! Pls
friends, remember me in ur prayers …
#Allcelebrities #bday #smiles#gunners4life
#arsenalfcfans
#alibabagcfr#chineduikedieze
HAPPY BIRTHDAY BROTHER..

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Just when we think the industry has run out
or short of tricks to thrill us fans with,
there’s a dramatic switch up of things, as
in… in very epic manner and these strings
of happenstance sometimes leave us with
our mouth agape. The way the
entertainment sector has transitioned time
after time, leaves even much more to be
expected as newer years come and go by.
It’s been a long jolly road from the years of
2face Idibia to D’Banj, MI Abaga, Wande
Coal, Wizkid, Davido, even Tiwa Savage.
And as we enter yet another season where
we take stock count of who did what and
what we loved the most, we’re thrown into
a dilemma of choice over who reigned
supreme considering it’s been a tough year
full of activity and drama, this 2015.
So we’re taking time out to yarn about The
Artiste of the Year (2015) and without further
ado, Toyo has decided to award “ Vic O ” – the
greatest!
You just laughed out loud, right?
While Jim Donnett and ‘Sola have pitched their
tents with Olamide Baddo , aL Yhusuff is
sticking with Burna Boy but Yomi thinks it’s
rather well-deserved for Yemi Alade .
Now pick a turn and tell us who your 2015
artiste of the year is.


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“The king of New Hits a.k.a Mr Nawti, Mr
Olu Maintain is Back with a brand New
Song “Chop Knuckle” featuring the king Of
new Dance and catchy phrase in Africa Mc
Galaxy.
Mr OLu who recently released a song with 2
face idibia titled Cinderella is about to
reclaim his spot as the ever reigning king of
New Hits in Africa.
READ MORE:- MC Galaxy Spotted in the
Studio With Swizz Beatz Recording ‘Sekem’
Remix
This Gyration song is produced by Mr Lekki
and Mcg Entertainment newly signed
producer Emmani.
Chop Knockles with your friends and love
ones while you groove to Mr Olu maintain’s
new hit “ CHOP KNUCKLE”.”
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Yemi Alade releases a single off he album to
be released in 2016, downloa dne enjoy Do
As I Do produced by Selebobo and featuring
Dj Arafat.

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8 and 7 Loading

We are pleased to present you the official
Kitnaija Top 10 HOTTEST SONG OF
2015(#hottestsongsof2015)
Here we go boom!!
10. Adekunle Gold – Sade

While this was the song that shot ‘Kunle
into prominence, many of us seem to have
suddenly forgat that “ Sade “ was an afro
remake of popular English boy band, One
Direction’s Story of My Life. Well, what can one
say really? ‘Kunle owned this song like it
was originally his and Lord bless his voice
for this stellar offering!
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9. Korede Bello – Godwin

Mavin Records starlet, Korede Bello broke
into newer, higher realms with his monster
hit “ Godwin “ . The song was well-received to
very positive reviews and critical acclaim,
even clearing our doubts about his star
prowess (that’s if we had any at all). Don
Jazzy sef is such a genius potter, molding his
clay into the finest shapes.

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Watch out for 8 and 7 Next..


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MKO4ever:

There are always women out there.....

Hmmm!!

Simple and clear! Do you agree with the
boss chick?

Ghanaian stunning actress, Juliet
Ibrahim took to twitter to share why men
would always cheat on their women. She
wrote:
Wondering why a man will cheat?
Simplest answer among all others:
because there’s always a woman out there
willing to cheat with him #facts

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SurefireAsoOke:
Dnt look down on pple if u don't like their shoes. In otherwords, she's showinhg us her baby shoe




For Aso-Oke, Check my signature

Lolz....

Recently Tiwa Savage, SMD first lady was
blast on Instagram for posting a picture or
her baby leg .
To be honest Tiwa Savage and Teebillz (her
husband) are carrying there self to much in
this industry, if not why will she share
picture of her baby leg only…This is
seriouse oo.

She(Tiwa savage) has been been hiding her
baby since when she was delivered and
refused to show her up, the funniest part
was whenTeebilz shared their baby “ hand”
Or why will they do so, I take this as a
seriouse disgrace and rubbish no Nigeria
Entertainment Industry.
So I will hand over to you Kitnaijas if she
Rocks this her style or Sucks.
Drop your comments!!!!

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Looks like Nollywood megastar Omotola
Jalade-Ekeinde is a fan of D’Boo,
a.k.aHarrysong.

The 5star Music artiste shared a photo of
himself singing to the 37 year old actress at
a recent event and she looks in admiration
of him.
Harrysong explained how Omotola helped
him during the trying times of his career. He
captioned,
“SHE WAS ONE OF THE BLESSED WOMEN
THAT INSPIRED,ENCOURAGED AND
PRAYED FOR ME WEN THE HUSTLE WAS
TOUGH FOR ME ON THE STREETS OF
LAGOS..GOD BLESS U MA”
Harrysong and Omotola worked closely
when she wanted to venture into music


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