Good Morning Jzhane,

Well done for the good job that you do with helping relationships. I can tell you alot of people like me are getting blessed from reading your blog. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. I love him and I think he is a very good man. He inspires me and cares about me. I do have a little concern though.

When we started dating,It didnt seem to bother me when my boyfriend would choose my clothes for me anytime we want to go out. I thought it was really romantic. But as we continued,I found it rather weird. Sometimes in the morning,he will be texting me and asking me what am I wearing today for work. He compliments but most time, he will say no,it does not show your curves well. Its not nice on you,etc. I relied on his opinion on dressing cos he is an Actor. So I was cool with it. I thought he was trendier than me.

However,these days,I find it controlling that .....................

https://livelystones.com.ng/how-can-i-be-suretrue-love-or-is-my-fiance-trying-to-control-my-life/

Sure, there is going to be favoritism when his kids comes

CaptJeffry:
Sad truth is he will not change the way he treats them even after marriage. As a matter of fact, it will get worse when he has his own kids.

Loving you without accepting your kids is a red flag though I won't blame him much considering the society he lives in.

God is our help.

But not just women that sleep around.

Some married men too flirt.

CaptJeffry:
This sh1t here is why many men are scared of marriage. Imagine a married woman sleeping with men recklessly to the extent of getting pregnant.

The day God will touch the heart of hospitals to reduce the cost of DNA tests, 90% of Nigerian marriages will crash.

Idiotic woman, go and eat the corpse of your husband. Fool.

How does this relate to the discussion above

IdeyFindWife:
Indian 3some, with ur short pencil d!cks?

Ah, that must be like watching kiddy p0rn, right.

Somebody call the parents

Dear Admin,

After almost four years after graduation as a pharmacist,I couldnt get a good paying job. All I got was this job at a local pharmacy where they were paying me so little. I decided to go abroad and study for my masters. It would be very expensive but Uncle in Boston offered to accommodate me to make it less expensive for me. So I moved to Boston last year to begin my masters.

Uncle Ike is my mother’s cousin actually,not like a sibling really. He is a divorcee but lives with his American fiancee.His ex wife and kids moved back to Nigeria about four years ago.When I arrived,his fiancee was nice to me and all. She is quite younger than him. And pretty too. Maybe in her thirties and Uncle Ike is in his fifties.After I settled down,she actually introduced me to her friend,Sheree. A very attractive African American lady,we hit off quite well. I dated her about three months before my troubles began.

My Uncle’s fiancee began to show me some attitude and I was concerned that she didnt want me around. I met her to ask her if I offended her in any way and she told me she is sorry that she didnt mean to be annoying but that she and my uncle are having issues and she may have unknowingly transferred her anger to me. I accepted her apology and I decided to be nice to her,offering her encouragement anytime I saw she was down or sad from her issues with my Uncle. I didnt ask her what the issues were, I figured it was their private affair.

One day,my girlfriend Sheree told me she would like to us to have a thresome.Its common in America. I was intrigued. I told her I was game. I felt she would suggest a total stranger for the thresome cos that is how it works best.But to my surprise,on the day she planned this,the person she invited turned out to be....Read full story from.

https://livelystones.com.ng/its-my-uncles-fiancee-her-friend-the-devil-the-deep-blue-sea/

Dear Admin,

After almost four years after graduation as a pharmacist,I couldnt get a good paying job. All I got was this job at a local pharmacy where they were paying me so little. I decided to go abroad and study for my masters. It would be very expensive but Uncle in Boston offered to accommodate me to make it less expensive for me. So I moved to Boston last year to begin my masters.

Uncle Ike is my mother’s cousin actually,not like a sibling really. He is a divorcee but lives with his American fiancee.His ex wife and kids moved back to Nigeria about four years ago.When I arrived,his fiancee was nice to me and all. She is quite younger than him. And pretty too. Maybe in her thirties and Uncle Ike is in his fifties.After I settled down,she actually introduced me to her friend,Sheree. A very attractive African American lady,we hit off quite well. I dated her about three months before my troubles began.

My Uncle’s fiancee began to show me some attitude and I was concerned that she didnt want me around. I met her to ask her if I offended her in any way and she told me she is sorry that she didnt mean to be annoying but that she and my uncle are having issues and she may have unknowingly transferred her anger to me. I accepted her apology and I decided to be nice to her,offering her encouragement anytime I saw she was down or sad from her issues with my Uncle. I didnt ask her what the issues were, I figured it was their private affair.

One day,my girlfriend Sheree told me she would like to us to have a thresome.Its common in America. I was intrigued. I told her I was game. I felt she would suggest a total stranger for the thresome cos that is how it works best.But to my surprise,on the day she planned this,the person she invited turned out to be....Read full story from.

https://livelystones.com.ng/its-my-uncles-fiancee-her-friend-the-devil-the-deep-blue-sea/

really?
atleast there be a percentage or you use Buharic word, out of 60% , alot are uneducated . looool

DOUBLEWAHALA:

too much expending

exactly to avoid wrong accusation

Beke2020:
You should arrest him on his wedding day if u sure of ur story

dont really think so.

Beke2020:
Sure, he might change, just my second thought

These facts should not blamed on the youth but on the government.

You provide a platform to encourage the youth.

Our education system is rubbish.

No matter what report or article you write, the youths condemn it in totality.

Antoeni:
Buhari as an honest man who does not prevaricate has only given a voice to a glaringly challenge which others know but too afraid to mouth it because of political expediency.

Statistics

DOUBLEWAHALA:
women are always responsible for their husband's death

Violated !

If you are sure of what you are saying ,then involve the police.

Hope you are aware that its injustice to accuse one unlawfully ?

z11111:
Good Morning ma,

Cyrstabel and I have been friends since our days in Covenant university. She is a really nice girl. Her father,is a pastor. She was brought up in a very grounded family. I love and enjoy her family,the closeness and the love and trust. Sometimes,I wished I was their daughter. Myself on the other hand,I come from a broken home and life was tough but I made it through . I know I am a little rough on the edges cos of the way I was raised. I was not like Crystabel. I knew boys quite early but Crystabel kept herself even up to marriage.

Tomorrow,yes this tomorrow is Crystabel's wedding. Its supposed to be a happy one. But I am not happy at all. Its not because I am jealous of Crystabel but because something very bad happened yesterday. Crystabel's house has been very busy with alot of wedding planning activities through out this week. Her bridal shower was on Wednesday. Her traditional wedding is today. I went to her house yesterday from work to help out. I and many others stayed with the family until very late yesterday. Tade,Crystabel's fiance was there too.I was ready to leave around 10pm. Myself and a cousin of Crystabel. The Uber we called was running very late so Crystabel asked Tade to please drop me and Tolu off.

We first dropped Tolu at Ajao Estate before Tade started to drive to take me to my place at Maryland. we were all chatting. When we dropped Tolu, the chatting took a different turn.

...read full story and other stories on the blog :

https://livelystones.com.ng/violated-in-less-than-48-hours-to-their-wedding/

Your ability to detect when English is murdered. I felt you are an English professor .

Lifeofpolice1:
who told you I be English teacher

Wisdom !
thumbs up.

Destiblack:
ososa, only God saves through Jesus our savour. let the sleeping dogs lies, give birth to the baby and conduct a DNA to confirm the real father before taking any decision. u might never tell d father by assuming is one of ur bosses.which of the boss any?

This is not in any way justifying your actions,you were wrong on all accounts and I hope you have truly repented and made amends with God.

See a counselor or therapist to address your addiction,you cannot live like that anymore.

Beke2020:
Good evening ma,

I work in the same company with someone who introduced me to your whatsapp group. Though I have not been commenting,I read all the posts everyday. ma,please I need your help and your counsel. I know what I have done is really a heavy sin but I have been asking God for forgiveness. I just want to seek your advice because I dont want to die without telling anyone the truth.Please dont judge me. If you want to post on the group,its fine,I know you will not use my real name.

I am 31 years old. I was abused as a child by my brothers’ friend. I got exposed to s*x quite early. My parents were not always around,so it was me and my four siblings. We did alot of things children should not be exposed to. When I was 17,my landlord started to sleep with me. He would give me money and anything I wanted. I was his girlfriend for almost 3 years. My upbringing was rough ma. I thought having s*x with anyone is just a way of life once you just have the urge to do it. I also realized that it gave me what I wanted as a woman. I used it to pass most of my exams in my HND.

When I started working,I had a boyfriend but he was not the only one I was sleeping with. I was just not used to the idea of only one sxual partner. That would not be enough for me. Two years ago,I met my husband. He was a business man who shuttles between Nigeria and China and Turkey. He was into importation. My relationship with him was fine. He never suspected I was seeing other people cos he was always travelling. And to be honest,I am not a bad person,I just am a little addicted to sx. I treated him very well. Its just that the times he was not around,I was with another man. I knew how to disguise my business well.Last year,October,my husband proposed to me. We got married in November.

After our wedding,my husband traveled but came back again in December for Christmas. He traveled just before new year. I found out....Read full story from

https://livelystones.com.ng/confused-and-feeling-guiltyam-i-responsible-for-my-husbands-death/

Good evening ma,

I work in the same company with someone who introduced me to your whatsapp group. Though I have not been commenting,I read all the posts everyday. ma,please I need your help and your counsel. I know what I have done is really a heavy sin but I have been asking God for forgiveness. I just want to seek your advice because I dont want to die without telling anyone the truth.Please dont judge me. If you want to post on the group,its fine,I know you will not use my real name.

I am 31 years old. I was abused as a child by my brothers’ friend. I got exposed to s*x quite early. My parents were not always around,so it was me and my four siblings. We did alot of things children should not be exposed to. When I was 17,my landlord started to sleep with me. He would give me money and anything I wanted. I was his girlfriend for almost 3 years. My upbringing was rough ma. I thought having s*x with anyone is just a way of life once you just have the urge to do it. I also realized that it gave me what I wanted as a woman. I used it to pass most of my exams in my HND.

When I started working,I had a boyfriend but he was not the only one I was sleeping with. I was just not used to the idea of only one sxual partner. That would not be enough for me. Two years ago,I met my husband. He was a business man who shuttles between Nigeria and China and Turkey. He was into importation. My relationship with him was fine. He never suspected I was seeing other people cos he was always travelling. And to be honest,I am not a bad person,I just am a little addicted to sx. I treated him very well. Its just that the times he was not around,I was with another man. I knew how to disguise my business well.Last year,October,my husband proposed to me. We got married in November.

After our wedding,my husband traveled but came back again in December for Christmas. He traveled just before new year. I found out....Read full story from

https://livelystones.com.ng/confused-and-feeling-guiltyam-i-responsible-for-my-husbands-death/

Samuelgr8:

loooool.

I want to learn so you wont need to RIP ENGLISH again. Is it not good to learn ?

Lifeofpolice1:
my brother this post has long na

Why bring issues now

I beg am so tired since I came back from work and besides I can't write biko

Another word is confusion.

Samuelgr8:
It's indecision or not knowing what is good for her

Are asking a question or making a comment ?

Mr English teacher .

Lifeofpolice1:
will you force me to point out the fault

its well

unicorny:
after fucking away your life...you are still lucky to find a guy that wants to wife that your bolehole pvssy and raise those your children...what else do you Want..he should be playing hide and seek with them abi....

#teamVirgin...single mother kor....the baby daddy will still be hitting that pvssy at will.o....

serious dilema

miracle956:
I guess u are in a dilemma

pedrilo:
So u want him to come and carry deji's load abi?
The reason I will neva hav anytin to do wit single mums

Any one that criticizes or point out fault without making correction is an illiterate .

Lifeofpolice1:
RIP to English language

Beke2020:
Too quick to jump into another relationship. Why are u like this?

Do you know how many people have died from domestic violence? They died at the hands of the one who claimed to love them.

z11111:
Hello admin,

Please hide my identity. People will judge me for what I am about to say now but I have thought about this long enough and I believe that it might be the right decision for me to take but first,I want to seek your advice to help me make a more objective decision.

I remarried again last year in June. I was married to my boyfriend of 10 years. We were married for two years before we divorced. Lets call him Sani. Sani was the love of my life. My true first love. He was everything I dreamed off. Hence we dated right from secondary school to uni and got married in my final year. We have a beautiful son too.The only problem we had was that we were always quarreling. And most times this leads to physical violence. While we dated,when we fought,Sani will come and beg me and I will forgive him and we move on. But after marriage,anytime we fight,he will refuse to apologize. This really put a strain on our marriage and in anger,I filed for divorce. I was so angry that he didnt fight for us anymore.

After the divorce,I met my fiance now. Lets call him Amin. Amin and I have been dating for about seven months and he has proposed to marry me. He is nice to me and my son. When Sani realized that I was getting serious with Amin,he began to try to win me back. One area that Sani knows is my weakness for him....Read full story from:
https://livelystones.com.ng/my-ex-husband-excites-mehe-is-fun-dangerous-but-my-fiance-is/

whonamehelp:

sleep with the man.
please, use a condom to avoid infecting your husband with Hiv.

come here !

fine,you av posted the rest story , whats your advice to the poster ?

lestat:
Rest of the story





Good Morning Ma,

I want to thank you specially for the good work God is using you to do on your blog. How you are helping people with problems,the godly advice that you give. I applaud your consistency. I dont know whether anybody is paying you but I want to tell you that God will reward you abundantly.

So I read one of your stories last two weeks where a woman is married to a man that is sick for almost three years and she wants to leave the marriage. I cried when I read that because I am also in that same situation. All the responses people are giving,they really encouraged me. But I decided to write cos some people dont seem to understand how hard it is. You cannot imagine the trauma a woman who is married to a vegetable is facing.



I got married about five years ago. I was pregnant with my first child when me,my husband and two other people were travelling to the East for Christmas had an accident. My husband was the one driving. One person died,the other person sustained serious injury,my husband to was seriously injured. He was in coma for almost two months. I even though I was seven months pregnant,my injuries did not affect the pregnancy. I was put in intensive care though for one month cos they feared I would go into after shock and maybe loose the baby. But God was faithful,I had a CS on the eight. God gave us a healthy baby boy,we called him Chukwuegbuka.

But my husband was not so successful, The accident left him in the hospital for the next one year. He was at the time completely paralysed from his waist down. He could use his legs,he couldnt stand or sit by himself. He would poo and pee on one spot. It was very difficult for us. After a year,he was discharged for us to go and manage him from home. That was three and half years ago. Since then,my husband has progressed from being in a wheel chair to using a walker but the sad part is,he does not have any stamina for intercourse. He can cuddle me,we kiss and all but thats all. I know many people will say I should be grateful for this but the truth is,its the hardest thing I ever faced in my life.

I havent been with any man. I have urges. I cry every day. My husband too feels frustrated about his condition. Sometimes he goes into depression. We talk about this and my husband has even given me go ahead to sleep with any man I choose as long as I use protection. But my heart cannot do it. We are Christians. I cannot betray him. I feel like he is saying that ti make me happy but if I actually do it,it would break his heart totally.

Ma,I read all the comments to the other lady,some telling her to be patient,that God is testing her,etc..I mean,that is good but the truth is,at the end of the day,we are humans. And I will not blame her if she goes to find a man to sleep with her. Even my family has held a meeting and decided that I move on. The doctors have said that my husband will not even be able to father another child, the accident made him impotent. He can never be able to make love to me or any other woman for the rest of his life. I am 26 years old. Is this what I will endure for the rest of my life?

Every day I cry,every day I ask God why..sometimes,I am angry with my husband. I curse the day I met him but I look at my son and I am again thankful. Your readers may give me the same advice that they gave the other woman. But I want us to be all truthful. Look at the situation again,this time very objectively,putting yourselves in our shoes. If it was you,what would you really do?

More importantly,since my husband has given me go ahead to meet with other men,do you think I should go ahead? Surely,wont even God understand? Please help me answer these two major questions. For now,I am trying,but I dont know what tomorrow may bring. I dont know how much longer I can stay strong.

Your advises are most welcome. Please dont judge me,try to put yourself in my shoes first…God bless.

From Anonymous,

its seriously wrong .

IAMSASHY:
d wife is jst bin carried away by her money, it's so wrong 4 a woman 2 say Dat her money is hers alone, d financial responsibilities in a home cnt b carried by one person alone, both of dem ar dere 2 support each oda, marriage is nt jst meant 4 everybody ,one really needs 2 b very careful b4 saying "I do" wt anybody

some culture are very crazyyyyyyyyy

Adasun:
Cockhold culture

wen u were entering the marriage ,u didnt anticipate that this will come ?

liquidlove2018:
Hello All,

I am very encouraged by what I read on your platform. This has motivated me to send my problem. God punish poverty. I never wish anyone even my enemy to be poor cos if you are poor or as a man you cannot take care of your own family,you are completely finished.

I met Ajiri five years ago. She was working as Contractor to my company. I work with a manufacturing company as a Store Officer. She was about 31 years at the time. I used to admire how hard working she was as a single woman. She seemed to be doing well for herself. So,I was like her insider friend for her business since she was supplying things to my company. One day,we were gisting casually and I asked her why she is not married,she said no man ask her. They all want to sleep with her and want her money but not to settle down. I told her I liked her but I dont have money like her,she was like,love is not about money.

Long story short,we got married like almost seven months later. My wife is also from a very rich family. So like our wedding,they sponsored everything. Since our marriage,cos I am in school too,its my wife that has been taking care of all our finances in the house. We talked about this before we got married. She said,she didnt mind to support us until I finish school and get a better job.

But since we got married,......

https://livelystones.com.ng/god-punish-poverty-my-wife-treats-me-like-a-slave/

very serious issue

ORAGBON:


Dear Lively Stones,

Last year,my marriage of two years crashed because my wife, Lydia was not straight forward with me when it comes to money and financial matters in our marriage. When I met Lydia about four years ago,she was working with a manufacturing company while I worked with a one man business as a marketing officer. Lydia was earning more than me at the time and frankly speaking,I never saw that as a hindrance. We got married two years after dating. That was when I started noticing the change in Lydia’s character when it comes to money issues. Unfortunately,like a year and half after we got married,my company was not doing too well hence they were late in paying our salaries for several months. While I dated Lydia,I tried my best to provide all it took to woo her. In the first year of our marriage,I noticed that she would always ask me for money to buy everything she needs in the house even though she was earning higher than me. I used to ask her why she does not contribute to the welfare of the house and she would reply me that her money is her money and my money is ours. That she is training her younger ones and sending money to her parents every month. Well, I did not bother too much,I tried to do what I could. However,in the second year of our marriage,when I started having financial difficulties,I couldn’t meet up with most of the responsibilities. That was when Lydia became something else. She would complain and rain insults on me for not giving her money for cooking or other up keep reasons. I used to explain to her that I didn’t have enough as before. She refused to understand and instead complained more. One time,our house rent was due,I asked her to borrow me some money to make up for the house rent but she refused saying that she had borrowed money from her place of work to augment some of the house keeping expenses she made. Anyway,our landlord gave us quite notice and we had to move into a one bedroom apartment from our three bedroom apartment.

A few months later. I ran into a friend of my wife’s family who has been like a family friend too. We met actually in a bus and we got talking,catching up during the bus ride. As we spoke,we talked about family life and he congratulated me on our house that we were building that was almost near completion.

I was stunned!. I asked him: ”what do you mean by our house”?. He responded that he was happy for us that we were almost completing the building of our house in Omole phase 2. I told him,I didn’t know what he was talking about. He obviously realized that he had said something I didn’t know about,he then asked me to speak to my wife. I pressed him further but he said he may have said too much.

When I got home,I asked my wife what the family friend said by congratulating us on the building of our house. She looked shocked.....see more




Source: http://livelystones.com.ng/my-two-year-old-marriage-crashed-because-my-wife-of-this/