I don't get it. Why the emphasis on the age as if once you have hit the 3 0 as a woman you have to be running helter skelter to be with any man.

Maybe she left you for the same reason a 24 year old would have left you which is she did not feel the relationship was right or the love wasn't growing. duh,

The fact that you are 2 years younger does not automatically make you her dream guy.

@Desthan
If more men were like you there would be so many happy women around. Honestly you nearly brought tears to my eyes,

I'm so happy you posted this, honestly I'm in the same situation.
Its soooo much harder than I tought.
Was with my ex 2 1/2 years were very close, thought he was the man of my life.
Within 3 months he met old class mate , suddenly wasn't happy in the relationship left me for her and treated me like dirt.
I was like   Oh my lord, Is this real?
Went through serious depression for over 6 months but great help from family and friends.
I left relationships for over a year. when men approched me instead of being flattered I was so angry, scared, resentful.
Then I met this amazing guy over 8 months ago and he is everything you can expect in a man.
Nice, sweet, Godfearing, caring, ambitious, educated and focused (My ex was jobless for over 2 years). He threw himself fully into the relationship, wanted to introduce me to his folks within a month we met but I totally stopped him on his tracks. I was quite harsh, very jealous and really just a general pain. I suspected everything he did or said always checking on him and picking a fight for every little thing.
I have now realised the sort of person he is but am I'm afraid alot has been ruined down the line. He still loves me very much but he's not as nice and caring as before. The relationship has been strained and I'm just praying everything will sort itself out.
Do not make the same mistake, its more difficult than I tought but there is really no point going into a relationship if you can't give it your all.
People are different so go for it girl.

Eheheh, Perche ti rode cosi tanto? you should try some anger management classes, they are apparently really effective.
You see, thats the problem. You can't even write in English.
Vedi, se ero una prostituta non avrei problemi ad ammetterlo su internet perche tanto nessuno mi vede ne mi conosce.
Translated " If I was a prostitute I would have no problem admitting it over the internet because no one sees or knows me".
I grew up in Italy from a very early age, I'm a Christian, studied and now work in I.T.
I value my body very much, thank you so no need to sell it.

God Bless you too. 

I don't need to prove myself to you and the fact that you need to resort to insults to make your point just shows you lack self esteem. I'm very well educated, have a great job in the UK and speak Italian and English fluently so am no dumbass. You can hardly write or speak in either language.

I'm afraid Siena is right. I speak perfect Italian and I can assure you your italian is rather abhorrent .
I'm quite sure you translated it via web but even then it wouldn't be this bad.
Sorry

I live in the UK and I'm Nigerian but my boyfriend is not.
We have been joking a couple of times but now it has become serious.
He keeps making fun of the fact that Nigerians are mainly known for fraud (419).
I used to laugh about it and say anything worth doing is worth doing well.
I do not believe in generalizing but I am trying to make a list of Nigerians that have acheived something good and made valuable contribution to this world.
I came up with Wole Soyinka as nobel prize winner, Chinua Achebe as world reknown african novelist and critic and Ngozi Adichie also who won the orange prize for writer.
But I need more name in any field chemistry, business, politics, entertainment,
I need to prove to him we are a nation of distinguished brains if we want to.
Suggestions please?

Most of you guys are F.u.cked up in the brain. Kiplement now I understand why you have serious issues if you are ready to insult your own mother in a forum, I'm sure you r like 12 yrs old
If you do not have the maturity to deal with a situation why get married in the first place,
Marraige is for men not animals like you or kids that when they do not get thier way start fighting and punching each other,
I've lived in Europe all my life and I cringe for the women that will end up with you villagers like you.
Really just grow up,
Even here in London you are known for being agressive and violent and because of the few idiots people unfortunately sterotype. I mean if you can beat up your wife or a girl you claim to love what can't you do to others, Sincerely I hope you guys rot

I've never heard such a load of nonsense.
If he cheats I'm out. What if he goes out andc atches HIV and brings it back home?
ABEG,
Apart from the fact that if he has done it once he WILL do it again no matter how much he crys and begs its just remorse 'cause he's been found out.

And lets stop with this "oh, men have so much tempation out there"
I'm a female and for every offer of pussy he gets I get 10 of d.i.c.k so PPLLLEEEAAASSSSEE,

Whats wrong with you people? what happened to looking after each other?
If the wife goes out and catches HIV and bring it back home what kind of brother does that make you?

Please just make sure you have your facts right and then confront her in front of him.
Getting married is not by force, if you still feel like messing around don't get married. You owe some loyalty to your brother so please just pray and tread carefully.

and some people should really learn english. what kind of grammar is "Does the brother complianing?"

You do not marry a guy because "husband is scarse" you do because you love him and believe he is the right person for you. The wedding day is just the beginning of a lifetime togheter at least if you plan to stay married. Follow your heart and pray and you will make the right choice.

Jim Iyke is sooo overated. I mean i know normal working class Nigerian guys that are so much more goodlooking than him.

First of all he is short and if most ladies met him on the street they would not even look twice. Just cause he's "famous"

Terence Howard, Will Smith but my favorite is , Morris Chestnut, mmmm, yummy

Sincerely, Tarts like you are just so brainless. " We r soo in love no doubt about that", continue decieving yourself

Wake up and smell the coffee. You are good for a Bleep and thats it.
He has a girlfriend so you are either stupid or deaf.
I 'll just go for both.
And he is a pig(hope his girl is using protection). Who knows how many men and women dogs like you two have slept with and what you've caught.

Its PROSTITUTES like you make this world a tough place to live in.
I just can't beleve how low some girls will steep and what kind of moral-less people my nation is breeding.

More than 85% of nigerian shout and proclaim thier belief in God and go to church or mosque but I sincerely don't know which bible or koran they read.
It is definetly not the same bible I read.
Even without religion basic morals and common sense should tell you how far you can go.

Even the responses are like justifying this slapper as if it is acceptable to "fall in love" with a married man.
It is not. Thats why men respect us less each day, why should they?

As for you Play, I really wish you fall in love, meet the man of your dreams marry him, have 3 or 4 kids and then when he opens his own business and goes one day in the office meets a slut like you and dumps your ashewo black ass.
You will know how it feels.
You can then come back and advise other young stupid girls like yourself when they ask foolish questions.

Wow. It continues to baffle me how nasty and unfaithful people can be. I normally just read through posts but this one really touched me.
I pray God will give your friend strenght through this period. I have gone through similiar grief and I know it is not easy. Under no circumstances should he take her back.
First this is not a one night stand but something that had been going on a while. She hid the number under a girls name and she got caught in the act. She lied throughout. She brought another man into her marital home. I mean how bad is that??
All she feels now is remorse. She never loved your friend in the first place. She is probably freaking out cause she hasn't got her permanent stay as yet (takes 2 years). Sometime God is so merciful he spares us pain that could be much worse later (years togheter and kids)
All this excuses on cheating for men and women is nonsense. If you love and RESPECT someone u do not cheat end of story.
I was in love once and when other guys tried it on I used to smile in me as I knew and cherished what I had. No matter what even if we argued I was never tempted cause I belived we were soulmate. Unfortunately he proved me wrong, very wrong and I learnt never to trust so wholeheartedly but I do believe in faithfullness in a relationship.
Everybody should read thier bible well as you are allowed to seperate in case of adultery.
She gave her body to someone that is not her husband and broke the vow she made.
If they just married in the registry office and not in church most churches would not even consider it valid.
This lady sounds like a scheming, manipulating person.
Obviously there are 2 sides to a story but I live in England and I would not at all surprised if she had planned to do this for documents and agreed with her ex(expecially if he is nigerian too). If he feels like forgiving her I would admire him. Really.
Anyway loads of prayers for God's direction and I hope he does meet someone that will be faithful and loving if he decides to move on.

Answer is simple, You don't

No way. I hate it when people do not think seriously of thier decision, she tought grass was greener on other side. Sorry Babe, Life does not work like that. Obviously there are 2 sides to a story but you sound focused and serious and certainly deserve better than someone that runs away when she finds(or what she thinks) someone better.
Goodluck with your career and look forward not back.

Sincerely its like we have been with the same guy. Nothing when I met him. I can proudly say I really looked after him down to pocket money, learning to bake, shopping, etc.

But you are different in he was a better person when he was with you and I'm sure because of the grace of God in your life he was doing well. After that he tought he was probably too good for you.

I really wish you the best. The reason I say do not go back is Men rarely change.
He did not even think of much he hurt you. He had found new pussy.

Of course now he loves you and he is all over you. He went out there and realized the lost probably the best thing that happened to him. The grass is not always greener on the other side and when he had finished sexing the other girl and looked deeper he did not find what he tought was there. What goes around comes around.
God bless and guide your ways.

Please, Please, Please do not even think about it.
I have been in Exactly the same situation. 3 years toghether and I mean always toghther. Promised me heaven and earth.
My first relationship , Loved him soo much. He did not even have a job and I was working, studying and taking care of his black ass.
One day he leaves the house (actually kisses me goodbye) does not comeback. I call him and he tells me over the phone it is over.
This guy swore on his mun's life he would never cheat or hurt me. How Naive I was.
Never been so hurt in my life. It was like having my heart ripped off.
He met an old friend from Une , they got it on for 3 months and our relationship was history.
I lost 15 kilos in 2 months. I picked myself up and been facing my career since then.
Would I take him back if he came begging?? HELL NO!!!!!!
Imagine you married him had 3 kids and he left (because he will), the pain you felt will be x 10.
It hurt but I thank God nearly every day it happened and the same should you.
He is selfish and he it is only because he is losing you now he knows how " Precious u r"
Never look back. He is ex for a reason.

Because they think men are bothered!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!