This is how he got me. He said his father was from Trinadad and his mother was from Florida. So I figured it would kinda be like myself, my mother is from the northern states and my father is from the southern states. My father had an accent even though he lived longer in the northern states than in the south. I picked up the accent just by being exposed to him so I went with his theory. Since this man had an accent and he was convincing with it. Now that he has proposed marriage to me I have seen his sister and niece by webcam. He said he would take his computer and let me meet everyone by webcam if that is what it took to make me stay with him til I can meet them in person. He knows he is still in the dog house so to speak with me since everything he told me for 5 months was a lie. He has been making it his business to "come clean" with everything. He stated that his father wanted to see me, I guess to give his blessing on this union. I told him he needs to tell his parents exactly what he did to me 1st so that they know fully the situation. The reason why he gave me a fake name, fake age, fake background, and even fake photo was that he did not think I would be attracted to an nigerian man. He is very attractive, but he is a bit insecure. I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop. I know somthing else is going to happen, but I don't know what. Should I cut my losses now or stick it out to the end? And if I do stick it out, are there some special customs for outside women to marry an Nigerian I should know about?

Hi, I am an african american woman who lives in the states. I really need some advice. I met a nigerian man on the internet and have been talking to him for at least 6 months. I do not claim to be an easy mark, but I will explain my situation. When I started to communicate with this man he mis-represented himself as another. He said he was from the states working on a contract in Africa. He had a good paying job, not married, no kids, close to my own age of 37(he said he was 41). Something kept bugging me(a gut instinct) that said this man was not telling me the truth. I could not prove it, but one night it bothered me so bad that I got up out my bed to go searching on the internet to do a background check. With the fake name he gave me nothing never came up, but I still couldn't shake that feeling of being duped. So I kept searching til I found him on another dating site. Now finding him on a dating site was no biggie, however he had been proposing marriage and being together forever. This dating site however tells you when the site had been originally set up and it gave a date while we were still dating. I kept the information to myself for a week while I decided what I wanted to do. I confronted him with the information and of course he denied it. Finally he came clean about everything once he knew I was through with him. He is 27, he is employed but he is from Nigeria, he is Yoruban and I have a friend from Nigeria he tells me he is just trying to scam me. But my thing is why take it this far just for a scam. Once I caught him in his lies he could have easily just dropped me. He has not. He has spent the last month trying to make it up to me about his lying. He has even went as far to send me a copy of his passport with his information on it in good faith. He wants me to come there to marry him, but I cannot fully trust him yet. He has a long way to go before I do. I have since forgiven him of his lies so that I can be forgiven. But here is my question...is there some sort of custom that Nigerian men need to marry in their country? He has stated he wants to marry with his family in attendance. Lets be real, the plane tickets alone is the cost of the engagement ring and wedding set.Plus the cost of getting the visa and passport is quite expensive. He is not a rich man. I am a divorced monther of one ten year old son with an elderly mother I care for. That is a far off distance just to get married in 6-12 months time. For the other women out there who have jumped the broom is the jump really worth it? He also wants a child. I have had my tubes tied due to complications from my son's birth. It can be reversed but that is another bone of contention I anticipate will be a problem later on. I cannot conceive the idea of marrying in Nigeria then waiting months for him to move here to the states. Has anyone else encountered this type of situation. What are some of the local customs for marrying a Nigerian man? When I ask him questions he cannot give me alot of details. I do not want to walk into this blindly. If someone could respond please do so.