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Lmao, monster ke! No oo, not like that! she's christian Najyin: |
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You know when the entire physical attributes of a person does not appeal to you? That's how she explained it. Even before agreeing to anything with him, she is already having doubts of herself which is not a good thing. Najyin: |
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why? teeowl: |
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I must say that I am also learning a lot, please keep them coming. Sincere appreciation to you all!! Please there is no need for harsh words and verbal attacks, no one knows it all. Thanks |
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Hmm! holyFRED: |
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There is a catch to the story I forgot to mention. She was introduced to him (paired) so it started from a blind date. Eberex: |
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Sir, I am just helping a friend out so I think I will rather you speak with her outside nairaland if she is willing, I will ask.. I will get back to you, really appreciate your concern. one question please, are you married or have been in this situation in the past? Thank You ADESTALK: |
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she does not want someone that the world admires but someone she herself admires and finds attractive. I am telling you this lady is a good lady. sunsewa: 1 Like |
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To her, the guy just has a face and even his physic does not appeal to her.. Came across as irrelevant to me too but on second thought, I understand her concern shiinihost: |
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she does not see him as weak and sex has not in any way been mentioned here. Only physical attraction is the problem, please take note! she does not sleep around and is a devoted Christian.. shiinihost: |
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Hmm! At least you were physically attracted to the wife you eventually married? true? ProfessorPeter: 2 Likes 1 Share |
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Very true, I appreciate your comment. But we cannot ignore the importance of physical attraction. You know if you are attracted to someone, even if the world says that person is ugly, their opinion wont matter to you one single bit... Agree? She does not keep a large circle of friends and is not that outgoing so the idea of wanting to show her man off like a trophy is clearly not the case here shiinihost: |
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Hmm... So you tried tushing him up, please can you elaborate on the things you did? or at least some of them? does this mean you were not able to or he just was not tushable? or no matter how you tried, the attraction did not just come? You made a point which my friend raised too, that ever since they have been speaking, she still cannot bring herself to be attracted to him.. I know this lady to be reasonable, responsible and God fearing which is the reason why she does not want to 'manage' and turn a blind eye to the fact that she is not physically attracted to him as it might be a problem in future because for her once she gets married, it is for life. she wants to be content with her man as she recognises married life is not smooth daraj: |
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They are not dating. They have just been good friends and have been considering and speaking about being in a relationship/settling down for a while. ogaprime: |
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Just had a phone call from my female friend, she is also now reading all your comments. Says Thank you to everybody. Me too I say 'Thank you People'.. Especially the experienced (married) ones, no disrespect to the singles! ![]() ![]() |
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This is the major reason why she is confused. she says from her observations of him and what she knows of hi qualities, he will give her the longevity in marriage that she desires. However, her problem is herself, since she is not physically attracted to him that it might become a problem in the near future and the last thing she wants is to manage her marriage. She desires to be content with whoever she ends with and not manager because he is God fearing.. StPete: |
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No she is not dumb, thank you. Appreciate your contribution harristo: |
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suit yourself sir, you don't have to believe. thank you snowprince07: |
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her major concern is the physical attraction, she just isn't satisfied or comfortable when they meet family together. it is a major bother to her as she says she wants to always confidently show off her man and it doesn't mean she is looking for the finest guy, just someone that appeals to her (Her Words). Get it? LadyJul: |
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Your reasons please.. It is just the physical attraction that is her major concern. she says she doesn't mind dealing with every other imperfection as she is not perfect herself. But she is not just physically attracted to him in anyway mommyice: |
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Not neccessarily femi4: |
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I apologise faith551: 2 Likes |
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lol kay9: 25 Likes |
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My sister I can confidently tell you that she is mature hence the reason for even considering him.. God fearing man no easy to come by o! if you agree with me. Thanks faith551: 3 Likes |
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I had a very interesting discussion with a female friend and she told me that she is in a dilemma on whether to marry a certain brother.. these are her reasons 1= He is ready to marry her although well behaved but she is not attracted to him physically and is not sure if she will ever see pass this... she said she will not be proud or comfortable showing him off as her partner 2= she only feels she likes him because he has the fear of God, has future prospects but she will rather keep him as her friend She does not need him for any form of financial security but says she is confused and needs advise especially from married people, she does not want to go through any marital breakup Open to all, please advise 3 Likes 4 Shares |
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This lesson from the poster's story cannot be overemphasised but sadly enough, I tell you people that some ladies that are reading will still not take heed and they will still make this same mistake. So much to say regarding this topic but i'll just leave it at the above. They say 'A Word' is enough for the wise. Many times I wonder where the Love our parents displayed back in the days have gone, when they loved purely from the heart with no material attraction attached. My father was still in the university when she met my 'hustling' father with no car, small money and what have you although handsome but she said she looked beyond that, that I was his heart that won her over. She even said she left a well to do naval officer back then for him as that one never had time although he loved her and he didn't show promising prospects of being physically present for his family but my father will 'EVERYDAY' from his part time teaching job, stop over to check up on her and drop something no matter how small for her or he must buy something on his way even if it is biscuit. Fastforward, today they are still together with 4 children and wealthy and the naval officer, equally doing fine but one wife in Nigeria and another one in the US. its sad that our girls and ladies of nowadays have dumped true love and what defines it for IPhone 6, Oniru beach, The Place and small nonsense money.. When even God our creator has said 'never despise the days of little beginnings' and I add Little Beginnings with Love as Foundation, 'translation' God is Love. 7 Likes 3 Shares |
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