Thank you for this I appreciate you. Thanks

bukatyne:
While I agree with others that you are reaping the consequences of your adultery, it is advisable for your wife to move on from the marriage than 'revenge' or become like you.

If she is not sleeping with the best friend, she is expending a lot of emotional energy to maintain the facade and dream up things to 'pepper' you.

That energy is better channelled towards becoming something for her self and taking care of her kids.

You cannot at this stage claim you don't want 3rd party interference if you still want the marriage to work.

The respect and trust you want now has to be rigorously earned as you have broken same before.

Engage her parents, apologise to them for breaking their trust in you and let them help you engage your wife for resolution which would be best done in your absence.

Her parents, not yours: you want true resolution and not 'bullying her into shaping up'.

In addition to her parents, you can also explore marriage therapists and counsellors.

Pussyhole

Sharonstone7719:
God I love these types of posts. You reap what you sow, dickhead.

Thanks for this but don't think it's necessary I don't want our parents involved even though she told her mum abt it

GboyegaD:
I don't encourage involving 3rd party into relationships however, since you value your home, why not involve both parents? If you do that and she insists, for your sanity, biko seek separation in the least.

Bro the women usual style of going tru hubby fones that was how she found out

garriAndsugar:
You made mistake by apologising for cheating

I am a vivid fan of nairaland and will want your help. I'm a man in my early thirties married with two kids. Now the Genesis of my issue was when I was cheated on my wife, before the birth of my first child. I apologized and thought it were cool but she has never failed to remind of it whenever we gat issues. She disrespects me now and even invite her male best friend over to our matrimonial home. And when I told her to stop inviting the man over she refused and threatened me that I wouldn't do anything that she will invite him. She went on and on telling me that our marriage was a marriage of pretence and it will continue that way because of the kids. If not for the kids she wld hv left me. She has no respect, trust for me. She told me so many things hurtful things. Guys is it right to leave the ouse for her and move out or infact am lost.... Please what can I do

AmazingELixir:


Op what do you need her trust for....In reality how many men do you think their spouses have the slightest modicum of trust in.

You yourself know you don't deserve the trust as with most men married and unmarried, the only logical thing you have to do is cut off the sidechick completely.

As for trust it is earned not wished or asked for.

Thanks mate

[color=#990000][/color] SAY BABA. NA THE NORTH START AM

Good morning Nairalander. I will be quick with my story but please I want your honest view to this dilemma I found myself.
I just got married earlier this year and my wife isn't residing with me yet cuz of my house is far from her place of work. To cut the long story short , there is a female colleague of mine who is really into me even though she knows am married. She helps me with anything I ask or don't ask from her and she enjoys having sex with me. She also sends me her nude pictures even without me asking for them. Only for my wife to stumble on one of the nude pix and has been keeping close tabs on the lady without my notice. She will use my phone to chat with the lady just to get more info from her and she will innocently chat vulgar with her thinking it's me she's chatting with. Now my wife has been aware of this for weeks and even made love to me constantly but Neva said a word to me until yesterday when she confronted me I denied it only for her to bring proof of my chat with the girl fixing for us to meet to hv anoda sexual romp. I felt weak and apologized and my wife told me she had forgiven me and still love me but will neva trust me again. And she has been acting cool ever since then.
Guys she rarely talks she is an extremely quiet person and thats what scares me . If she could keep this inside of her all this while and still pretend all was well, plz what should I do to win back her trust?

Well on my part I will say I have no regrets listen to my story:
I dated this girl for 7 years well it's cuz I wasn't ready for marriage. She wanted us to get married but I want financially strong for that though I had engaged her on her request I do . My younger brother based abroad decided to go for his babes introduction just introduction and I went for it without letting my girlfriend to know cuz I do know she wld want to castigate me cuz my younger bro is going for intro ...
I went for the intro and came back but she later stumbled on the picture I took with my family and the girl at the intro. Immediately she called me to tell me it's over btw us and I asked her y she said it's cuz my younger bro did introduction before me that am not yet ready for marriage that's y I allowed my bro to go ahead with his plans .
We broke up Jan and I started anoda relationship Feb . Today being 8 December am already a married man with d new lady. All thanks be to God.

Male bestie spoiling relationships since 1900

Delurdmayor:
Why not get a male for her ...I have a semi adult male for sale if interested

how much

Who wants to mate with my pretty candy

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CAPSLOCKED:
THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE EXCITING, BUT I'M DISSAPOINTED WITH AMERICA. THEY SHOULD HAVE DIRECTED THOSE MISSILES TO BUHARI'S HEAD INSTEAD.

MAD ooooo

DYCHE TO MEET DRINKWATER AFTER ATTACK

Danny Drinkwater will meet with Sean Dyche tomorrow morning to discuss his future, Sky Sports News has learned, after the on-loan Chelsea midfielder was attacked by a gang of men whilst drunk outside a Manchester nightclub.

SSN has confirmed newspaper reports produced today, which say Drinkwater was drinking heavily at the Chinawhite club in Manchester last weekend, when a scuffle broke out.

The former Manchester United trainee was thrown out of the club, before being attacked by several men, leaving him with bruises and cuts to his face, and a badly injured ankle.

Drinkwater has made no formal complaint to the police at this stage, but he’s likely to be out of action for several weeks while he receives treatment on his ankle - that rehab will begin at Burnley tomorrow.

Chelsea are aware of the incident, and whilst they are in regular contact with Drinkwater, they are leaving Burnley to deal with the matter in the first instance.

SSN understands Dyche is concerned by Drinkwater's actions, but he is not planning at this stage to cancel his loan deal and send him back to his parent club.

I know them very well.... The triplets names are Peter, James and John. They used to live on my street at Abata, orile iganmu, Lagos..... Good to see dem again

Basketmouth is now Sir Bright Okpocha, as he becomes the first Nigerian comedian to receive the Knighthood from madame Tussauds Queen of England wax figure in London

Guess who just got knighted by the Queen of England……I’m humbled, God is truly amazing. Your majesty, thank you for the great honor….yours truly Sir Okpocha Bright.

Ace Nigerian producer, Babatunde Okungbowa aka OJB Jezreel is dead. He was said to have died early this morning, June 14, in a Lagos hospital. This is coming just one month to his 50th birthday. A family source claim that his kidney transplant failed completely since last week. Recall that the producer was down with kidney related disease, and consequently was flown to India for a transplant in 2013. On October 21, the singer successfully underwent the surgery at the Indian hospital.After the successful surgery, the producer came out to thank all his well-wishers, especially his first wife Mabel Okungbowa, popularly called Mama J, who accompanied him on the trip and donated her kidney to him. However, in 2015, the veteran Nigerian musician and producer was reported to have suffered a setback in terms of recovery from his Kidney transplant; But he came forward to deny such reports.

He sent out a broadcast message and said: ”Hi my name is Babatunde okungbowa a.k.a OJB Jezreel. I’d like to set the record straight, am at home and healthy with my family going about my normal business. Obviously bloggers don’t research before they post. If they did they would know that a transplant patient will always do routine checkups cus of infections etc. Mmmm nuff said am sure hiptv, orisun tv,encomium,el tv and black jerzie seeing and speaking with me in the past 2 weeks. Wasn’t on a hospital bed or in one! Research proper if it’s gossip worthy or not.”

OJB Jezreel is survived by three wives, June ‘Ama’, Korede and Mabel and many children.

. I lived abroad for hustling trusting God for greener pasture.  I came back to Nigeria February 2012 to spend few weeks with my family and to make sure that my building project in the village was going on as it was in the photos been sent to me by my brother who was managing the building construction for me.

Within that period in 2012, I ran into Mabel (surname withheld by editor). She was my childhood female friend and we schooled together. I so much admire her then but it wasn’t anything serious but I like her back then. When I met her I was so happy even her too could not contain herself, she took me to her place and I met her mum. her father is late,

While we re chatting and gisting I found out dt she was still single so I felt it would be a good idea if I engage her as I have been thinking about settling down. After spending 3 solid weeks with her, I proposed and she accepted and we went for medical check,genotype n blood group includes HIV. Every thing was perfect.

Due to time constraint I had to rush up every thing traditionally and paid her bride price before leaving. I rented a 2 room apartment for her while she continue with her job before I went back to Germany. My plan was to come back within a calendar year for our white wedding but unfortunately, things couldn’t work as I planned although we do communicate on phone n Skype. 

I do send her money monthly for her upkeep and left 2 cars with her. one Volkswagen Bora and a Toyota Avensis that I was using. I also wired almost N4M to her for safe keep. 

Things got awry when a Ghanaian boy I harboured in my apartment in Cologne put me in trouble. I never knew he was into white powder/meth and was caught on transit to Swiss. That was how my problem started. I was apprehended by German BKA in a deadly raid as co roommate and accessory after the fact. 3 lives was lost that day because some guys in our building resisted arrest including a police officer.

All my traveling document were seized based on when their investigation will be over. I was detained by the North Rhine-Westphalia narcotics department and from there we were transported to Hamburg, charged with attempted murder of police agents and dumped in detention. I was denied bail because I was a repeat offender cos of some silly mistakes I made earlier. to make matters worse, my papers expired while I was in detention and that robbed me of some basic rights like access to phones. I had means to reach my wife. The lawyer that was assigned to me was a drunk and this whole drama lasted for 3 yrs during which I spend every Euro I had after which I was deported this January and I came back home to Nigeria with out my wife knowing. I wanted to surprise her.

I went to her apartment only to discovered that she no longer live there. I went to my mother in law place, and met a shocking news of my life. She welcomed me rudely and told me that her daughter has remarried since I abandoned her here for a white woman, I couldnt believe my ears, She told me that the marriage was legally dissolved and that the dowry I paid on her awaits me in customary court, that am free to collect it any time. She was shouting and cursing me. The neighbours heard her voice and come out and a small crowd formed. The disdain on her face was a surprise to me because this was a woman that called me mi kekere ti o dara ọkọ (meaning my small good husband). I later heard that the new man marrying my wife is rich and that explained why she was acting all uptight. I told her my mind and called her a disgrace to motherhood before I left. The neighbours who came to her aid also berated her.

I asked around the neighborhood before I traced my wife to her new home at Emmanuel street Iyana Ipaja, I knocked on the door and a gentle man opened d door, l introduced myself to him and he asked me in and call Mabel that she has a visitor.

Lo and behold she came out with a heavy pregnancy. She froze  I couldnt control my self, I broke down in tears. I asked her what happened to my baby because she told me that she was pregnant after I left and she told me that she lost the baby. The new husband was shocked and It was obvious he wasn’t aware she was married before talk-less of being pregnant. I told the new husband every thing that happened and the shocked man pleaded with me to leave his house since I was putting his wife under emotional stress. 

The man was a gentle man. A real matured man. He collected my number and asked that we fix a meeting with the family members of the three families involved present so we could sort out the issue. He apologized to me and told me that he was deceived and she didn’t know anything about the previous marriage. he meeting held last 2 days being Sunday and the man says that he is not interested in the marriage again because a woman who could withhold such information back can commit murder. My wife’s kinsmen denied being party to the new marriage or the dissolution of mine. They claimed that my mother in law connived with one dubious uncle in Lagos and collected the new bride price in Lagos and then proceeded to the court with news that I abandoned my bride for a white woman hence they granted the dissolution.

My pregnant wife was just sitting their crying as if she was the victim. She would beg me and beg her new husband. I really don’t want her anymore. All i want are the two cars I left for her them, The N3,600,000 I gave her to keep and the N200,000 i gave her mother. 

I am writing this in so that our women especially mothers of this generation will buckle up and stop misleading their daughters. My wife is not a strong willed person and from all indications, Her mum was using her as meal ticket. Men should shine their eyes and learn from my sad experience, Most Nigerian girls are  not interested in love or commitment anymore. All they hear, think and see is money. Thats why they no dey carry ear hearsay the guy dey abroad. If this woman truly loved me. What is 3 years? yes, she didnt hear from me but for Gods sake I was married to her and It wasnt like we were boyfriend girlfriend. Every single day I spent in jail, I thought about her and was thinking of how she would be struggling to raise my child. I would have forgiven and taken her back if she wasnt already pregnant for another-man. that was how much i loved her. She claims that the Money I gave her was stolen by fraudsters who scammed her with Juju but I am not buying any of that. I am only asking for legal options and opinions on how to recover my cars and my money.

She said she's so angry right now i’m tempted to break up with the love of my life.

1) he didn’t tell me he was saving to buy a car, he just drove to my compound and was looking at my face, I kept my cool.

2) My so-called boyfriend decided to call me today 3rd January and that’s his first this year!! I didn’t get any new year wishes. I confronted him, he apologised and all but ladies and gentlemen, the era of Men being non-challant is over.

Fine I did wrong years ago,but gone are the days when someone tries to pay back a sin I committed in my youthful restlessness.I have apologised,cried, begged, I became humble by force, I realised my mistake yet he hasn’t gotten over the fact that I left him because he didn’t have money when actually his possessiveness and lack of trust made me wanna always run out.

He can’t be pained after 4years,its better I dump him now before he drops another bomb! But to be honest I do love him a lot, a whole lot. I’m angry and confused

This is the text my wife sent to her ex;

Hey, seeing u 2day gave me immeasurable joy. I was overwelmed with emotions n I fought tears as soon as I set my eyes on u. What really happened dt we cudnt fix? Am very happy in my marriage n am sure u r happy in urs too. Yet, I really can’t 4get d genuine love u had for me.That love dt made u keep ur hands off me. Am very proud of u my Special sweetheart. Dts y i simply can’t 4get u. U r indeed special to me.

Hoes will always be hoes

How will u feel, wen u find out that the money ur girlfriend was using to cater for u, paid ur house, furnished it and most times give you money. How wld u feel if you later found out that the money was a stolen money she has being stealing from her place of work bccuz she is the accountat in d firm. She even lied to me abt her salary and never told me that she was stealing d money she used in paying my ouse rent and furnished it. Nairalanders pplz what is ur suggestions on what I shld do?

Ooooohhh Fans of Manchester Divided, Mourinho the the specialist of division is coming to scatter ur Unity.

Yes oooooo Chelsea is so @ the bottom and they will still go down more. See the blues playing in division 2 next season

Thank you all for ur contributions. I have no choice than to stick to her.

But brother, u knw hw women are.
1. She knows we are agemates d respect won't be there is we eventually ties d knot.
2. Because I was financially dependent on her don't u think I have lost my pride as a man to her?
She doesn't hesitate to remind me that she rented and furnished my ouse. Don't u think that's an eye-opener to what she will turn out to be when she has my ring on her finger?

I met a girl after my service year in 2013, but then she wasn't working, we met and started dating. Two months to our relationship she got a job and has being supporting me financially because am still yet to get a job. She rented an apartment for me and even furnished it, she pays all my bills including feeding and clothing me. But all she wants in return is to get married to me though we are age mates. Nairalanders if u were in my shoes wld u walk her down the aisle bcuz she has being supportive or wld u marry a girl that's ur age-mate

Grow up

Here are pics of an incident that happened in my area last two Saturdays. A guy went to his friend’s place with his babe. A few hours later, the girl came out screaming rape rape rape. And later the guy came out too screaming help help help. The girl had blood on her clothes and then she was given a cloth to cover herself. But when the guy came out with blood on his body everyone was shocked and that’s when we knew the girl bit off his penis and this was done with her teeth. The guy was taken to the hospital but when they got to the hospital they realized that the other part was no longer there. They had to come back home to look for the remaining part, but by then its dead, though they stitched it he’s still in the hospital. Photos attached…
Now the photos are quite graphic so viewers discretion is advised…

Men!!!Men!!!Men!!!
So complicated,
So confusing,
So hard to please.
If u try 2 pls dem, u re cheap. If u
make
love (sex) to them, u're a
LovePeddler. If u
don't, u re playing hard to get.
If u show dem u love dem, u're
too
emotional.
If u don't show it, u don't love
dem.
If u give them attention, u're
bugging
them, if u
don't u're with other men. If u
demand
for
attention u're a nagging
woman, if u don't u're not
understandable
If u dress sexy, u're attracting
other men
If u don't , u're awkward & local.
If u cook & wash their clothes
u're
desperate
If u don't, u're not a wife
material.
If u go to club/party, u're too
exposed
If u don't, u're naïve.
If u re beautiful, u can't stay wit
1 man
If u're ugly, u're not up to
standard. If u're
independent, u're chasing men
away
If u're dependent, u're a liability:
If u try 2 satisfy dem in bed, U're
a sex
addict
If u don't, u're making sex
boring. If u'r
pregnant, u
want to trap them: If u're not
pregnant,
u're not a
woman or might hv damaged ur
womb
If u ask men for money
U're too demanding
What do men really want? Does
that mean
they
don't even know what they
want? They
can be
so annoying!!! GOSH!! please,
answer dis
question: if
u are a man pls be sincere, WHAT
DO MEN
REALLY WANT? But if u are a
woman, IS IT
TRUE?

Hello everyone, am Louis and am new here. Plz could someone put me tru on what this site is all about plz. Merci.