LedRock:
How can men use women for sex when they are both contributing their sexual organ?

Based on the inner hatred you feel towards women it’s quite obvious it takes lots of lying and manipulation to have sex with a woman. So that’s how you use them.

The OP is right, this forum is filled with hate for women. It’s beyond disgusting...

These generalizations are nuts... Majority of the Nigerian men in the US are doing great for themselves. They work in IT, are engineers, doctors and business owners. Sure, success is not a guarantee for all but my goodness it drives me nuts to see black people dogging each other.

Presa Canario is hands down the best protection dog. They are also gentle with children of the family

Your comprehension is way off. Women have been and still are paid less than men across the board. That has nothing to do with employment numbers it has everything to do with sexism...

I was slightly amused by your fascination with being the bearer of all these untruths but that has worn off. I won’t waste more time interacting with someone who low key has an inferiority complex with black people in America, otherwise you wouldn’t be such a hater. Hater as in jealous, you know jealously like the white people that you uphold feel every time they see our melanated faces. We’re just amazing and dope, despite all the disadvantages historically and today.

You are foul. Just like every black man in America is not destined for jail or a deadbeat, I know every Nigerian male is not a yahoo boy, woman beater or womanizer. Every black woman is not ghetto, a baby momma or unfeminine, and Nigerian ladies are not all gold digging ashawos, bleaching their skin or selling their babies....

I’m done exchanging with you.

Philosopher1979:


ALL THE THREE REASONS ARE RIGHT.
BESIDES YOY ARE ONLY CONFIRMING THE THURD REASON
IN FACT IT ALSO AFFECTS THE MEN AS MOST BLACK AMERICAN MEN GREW UP WITHOUT A FATHER AND THEY ALSO END UP IN JAIL

Is it crack that you smoke? Please do your history, real history. Better yet come to America. That is absolutely untrue. Black men are convicted disproportionately but no most black men don’t end up in jail.

Even with African American women being the most educated group in the country there is still a wage gap. Black men still remain higher earners usually. Stop watching rap videos and hood movies. All the men that I know are educated with high earnings.

Stop the madness and perpetuating white superiority. You’d be surprised at what we are taught about Nigeria. Not the truth about colonialism and white greed that keeps the majority of citizens deeply impoverished. I’m talking about the same stereotypes you’re perpetuating...

Hmmm... a lot of you are completely off with your theories. African American women are the most educated group in America. Is that ghetto, is that less feminine? Absolutely not. We don’t beg all day to chop someone’s money we are out here getting it. As far as single rates, those numbers are off as well. Yes, there is mass incarceration. However, f what you see on television there are plenty of educated black men. However, as with anything when you have access to different environments and people-sometimes the preference of race based dating (dating your “own” only) isn’t the only priority.

The stereotypes we have been forced to believe about each other Africans or AA is insane. Just because there is a myth about Africans being unclean, immoral etc -sounds similar to what you’re told huh? Doesn’t mean it’s true. At all.

Try again.

Thank you for your replies. Give him the benefit of the doubt and keep my guard up? I wasn’t looking at him with one eye open before, it was all growing love. Now I’m in a position where I will be questioning myself and him. This will be hard to do but I’ll try.

I will refrain from judgement and see how he leads the situation because I do have feelings involved already and I actually don’t mind the idea of a child. It’s actually perfect. It’s the secretive thing that I’m trying to get over

He’s Yoruba. I didn’t want to call him or any man that, which is why I blotted it out a bit. Just wrote it because I’ve been up all day looking at videos and I came across the term. He wears the full beard, sweet words, dresses nicely, etc almost like the ladies were describing him. Yet he hasn’t had the chance to hurt me (yet).

I have been getting to know a man from Nigeria the past few months. He just told me about his child yesterday. I’m so confused. I planned on visiting soon and was asking the basic questions “will I meet your family.” When he replied “possibly” I had to pry. We had already had this discussion but I asked again: Are you married? No. Girlfriend? No? Anyone who thinks you’re in a relationship? Again, no. He did say “I have a son.” I asked why he didn’t marry the mom, he said because it was something that just happened. Not in love, he takes care of him, sees him when can, etc...

I love children, he knows I want a family. We have talked about goals and possibilities if things between us progress. Why didn’t he tell me about his baby then? All that time I just didn’t know he already has one-sister wife and all� He eventually was supposed to get where I am-he said he would bring his son to live. All in day this was unloaded. Do women really let there children leave the country to be with their dad and his new woman?

I’m trying to understand his hesitation in telling me right away but I’m also now upset at who I thought he was. He’s with his friends a lot, which I was thinking nothing is wrong with it-he’s single. Now to know he spends so much time talking to me or hanging out I’m puzzled and feel like crap. Children are supposed to come first always... even worse, could he really be married and never spend time with his wife. We video chat all night and day it seems. I want to visit Nigeria so badly still but I’m trying to know if I should break things off before or after I get there. I proceed in seeing him will the sweet words cause me to lose my sense? Right now he’s not seeming worth it, despite what I thought was a connection.