mukina2:

I do not allow the little girl( she is 4) to watch dangerous ones oh, she will want to try them.

We watch Tom and Jerry, 64 Zoo lane, masupulami, Ferdy,and some other very kiddie cartoons. Also the Kiddie shows teaching them how to count, spell,Nursery rhymes and so on. no power ranger kinda thing oh

Nothing like those ones oh, i know her very well to know she will want to do like they do.
ordinary tom and jerry, when i was not watching her, she wanted to feed the tv ( give jerry Juice after tom took his milk) Imagine if she watches any power ranger kinda thing.

did you say tom and Jerry.?
tom and Jerry is one of the most violent cartoons ever

melidee:

efani what do you want your kids to b mixed for im mixed and lifes hard have black kids or white kids not mixed kids cause they do not belong in anywhere. all my kids are black nigerian i would not have mixed kids. i dont think people know the concequences of mixed kids only they are cute and good looking but thats all

says how , you?
what do you know about mixed kids?

And the posters friend thought that white women are easy lay or what,.
this is the most useless trend i have seen so far

am not sure that i will like my people to have to ask my husbands permission for ever move i make concerning them.
i will not like my in laws to ask me. its embarrassing.
besides that its like keeping him on a short line. i hate short lines

i think husband should be able to cook too.
what if the wife is sick or not in town?
i do not want to eat rubbish just because am sick and my husband cant cook

her brains.
every otherthing degenerates with time.
her looks make things easier for her.
but a good looking woman without a brain is useless

Funseeka:

It beats me when the people that are against a mother-in-law coming into the son's house especially when she is ill and needed medical attention are potential mother-in-laws. If I understand Outstrip & Co, you would not have any problem if in future your daughter-in-law refuse you staying with them (in your son's house) for the period you may need medical care.

i can only speak for myself prevention is better than cure.
personally i would try to be a mother in law and not a monster in law.
i would not be happy if my dil  dose not let me in.
but i will also feel bad if i force my way in and ruin their marrage

be careful its not a scam.
next they will be asking you for money to treat your "father"

Would you like the poster to take your advise at the risk of loosing his mother because he took your advise?

i do not recall giving any advise. i asked you a question and there is a difference between a question and an advise

mabaker:

i would not have married that kind of person in the first place.
i do not see why a couple have to ask permission for their mums to visit.
and i will not allow my mum to interfer in my marrage and i would expect the same from my husband.
a man and woman leave their parents house to go and start their own family.
it should stay that way.
if i had an interfering troublemaker mother in law i will not be happy about her coming.
but if i love my husband i will endure it.
if i do not love my husband , i will be only too happy to have an excuse to make a big issues out of it and if need be move out of his house

this is what i had to say about the topic my advise.



and please don't call me darling that is pretty rude. i do not recall being rude to you .

If the wife does not see reason and leaves.
You can be certain that others will get involved like pastor, family and friends.
The situation can be amended and reversed

till now it was only you that suggested throwing the wife out.
and now you are talking about bringing her back after making it clear she is not wife material

over my dead body is a statement one makes just like that.
i wounder what the mil must have done for the wife to be so angry.
you pass a judgment without knowing the history of the couple.

what if the man takes your advise because he read it here?
could you want that to be on your hands?
will you answer to that to the lord your God (since you have quoted the bible )

mutter:

Mabakar.
.

In this case the poster has not drawn our attention to any problems his mother might have to justify the womans action in the slightest.
In this case the marriage is doomed for failure sooner or later, if the woman is not ready to compromise. What will be the next issue where she puts

in this case the poster has not faulted the wife in anyother way

mutter:

Answer
Should the man risk his mothers death, because a senseless woman is ready to pack out with the children.
Did the Shepard not leave 99 in search of one.
A woman like that is she a role model for the kids.
If you can answer these questions you have the answer to your question.

was there talk of the woman moving out?
you suggested that he kicks her out and i wanted to know from you"what about the children" do they stay or do they go.

the Shepard brought the lost sheep back to the others as far as i know.


you write the man should kick the wife out .you have not answered the question "what becomes of the children"?

if he is a man he can bring in his mother without asking his wife and see what happens.
why kick the wife out?

mother in law problems are one of the most commen problems in marrage.
if every man kicks out his wife for his mother we will have no matrimonial homes soon.



Am i married to my son?

mutter:

Mabakar.
children belong to both parents not to you alone.
In a case were the marriage breaks, the only consideration is the children and their welfare.
In this case the poster has not drawn our attention to any problems his mother might have to justify the womans action in the slightest.
In this case the marriage is doomed for failure sooner or later, if the woman is not ready to compromise. What will be the next issue where she puts her foot down?
Mabaker I do agree with you on one thing, the asking should just be a formality. It should be taken for granted that the parents are welcome in the home.

that dose not answer my question.
should a man put his children behind his mother?
in other words should he subject his children to "brokenhome" children. just because of his mother?

i have a question.
should a man also put his mother before his children?

if my husband kicks me out i will go with my children.
if i lose them in a custody battle then my children are losing a mother.

i am a strong believer in equality.
but that one minute knelling down to give him a piece of cake will take nothing of me.
if i really love him i will do it.
do not forget everyone is watching.
no one will later talk about how the bride knelt down.if alt all how she did not will be a topic.
one may say " i do not care about what people say about me". but in this case we are talking we and not me

at what age is early for you.?

there are proprieties that are inherited by tradition from first son to first son over the generations.
then there are proprieties that a man built himself. these propities can be divided.
a man can also make a testament but only for his personal estate

i would not have married that kind of person in the first place.
i do not see why a couple have to ask permission for their mums to visit.
and i will not allow my mum to interfer in my marrage and i would expect the same from my husband.
a man and woman leave their parents house to go and start their own family.
it should stay that way.
if i had an interfering troublemaker mother in law i will not be happy about her coming.
but if i love my husband i will endure it.
if i do not love my husband , i will be only too happy to have an excuse to make a big issues out of it and if need be move out of his house

that only lasts short termed.
in the long run the girl will get fed up.
silly girls think that a man that is jealous and strict must really love them.
but by the time they are married and settled the will not be happy with the situation.
there are more ways to prove you are a man.

agabaI23:

So those friends of mine who are 23 or below and have locations as Kesingston, hackney etc do not live in civilised country?

Or do you mean that only the information of people above 25 can be extracted with their DOB's?

those above have more to lose on the average