Tasha7:

Fast forward a few weeks later, my husband left the bathroom to put out the garbage and accidentally left his phone in the bathroom playing music. This is significant because he has never parted from his phone from the day he arrived. He sleeps with his phone beside him. He showers and uses the bathroom with his phone beside him. When he cooks, he keeps his phone beside him. The day in question, I went into the bathroom and locked the door shortly after he left the bathroom. Side note: I only lock the door bc sometimes he jokingly sneaks up on me to scare me while I am in the shower, so to avoid being snuck up on, I sometimes lock the door. I digress. I commenced using the bathroom when I noticed that hubby left his phone on the side of the bathtub with Nigerian gospel music blasting. I was shocked! It was the first time he was separated from his phone! I didn't touch his phone and started using the bathroom. Within 15 seconds, my husband started knocking on the door saying he really needed to use the bathroom and wanted me to open the door. He was saying he really needed to pee. I asked him to hold a minute, because I was on the toilet. He said he didn't believe me and then things escalated from there. He started pounding really hard on the bathroom door, demanding that I open the door because he really needed to pee. He was eventually pounding so hard and yelling to the point where he started to lose his voice! I was freaked out! I told him to hold on and I would be done in a minute! But he wouldn't listen and eventually broke open the bathroom door by force...there is literally a large crack down the bathroom door now. I was shocked. Beyond words. Once he broke down the door, he quickly did a scan of the bathroom and saw his cellphone was right where he left it. I didn't touch it. Then he was more calm. He then reiterated that he really needed to pee and went into the shower, pulled the curtain and turned on the water.

Brother panicked real hard.



Consider yourself un-married. Nobody will be able to tell you what is really going on but you won't like what you will discover.

Your focus should be on the discovery so that you find your peace. Until then he will deny, manipulate and lie like there is no tomorrow. Nigerians learn to lie for survival to avoid their violence inclined parents beatings in the name of 'spare the rod spoil the child'.

The mind fvckery he will put you through will be enough for a life time. Be smart!

KanwuliaExtra:




I don’t understand this jail matter o.
Never did. Just weird.
Anyway, stop brainwashing.
Not good for your cyber health.

Lockdown in a lockdown tings.

Brainwashing is very rewarding.
And I am very effective.


I guess I have discovered my calling and purpose.

KanwuliaExtra:


Enough sisters to do what?

To represent ...
Too many people in prison can make you forget their names.
Let me do it in an organized manner with system and style.
I have been brainwashing Nairalanders since morning.

KanwuliaExtra:


Hell hath no fury. . . . . Than a fellow woman scorned!

Lord help that bytch!

I would respond but I don't have enough sisters and I don't know how to do this ...

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KanwuliaExtra:

My motivation for this thread is “that thread”!

When other WOMEN especially spend time gossiping about others and putting them down to make themselves feel better.

I keep burning satanic candles all over their lives!

LMAO

Mariangeles:


For the sake of curiosity and that your laugh, I must
Make I for no lost...

KanwuliaExtra:


Well, we all learn.

There are certain IDs I wlll NEVER engage on or off NL. I have learned they serve no purpose but rife and strife! Unless they approach me FIRST. Or, they use other “fake ID” registered within the past 5 years.

She will learn also.

Las las , she go dey arrrrite!
Say a big hello. Just when I was beginning to “decide” her.

To avoid them she will have to remember their monikers or notice that some are avoided by everyone like COVID-19.

It is well. Just another lockdown.

Mariangeles:


Noted. Thanks.

Try to google it anyway.

KanwuliaExtra:


Whaaaaaaat?
Who imprisoned your TWINNY?

For WHAT?

Let it put this way, she is just bad at sarcasm.

My twin sister Kaamisha says hello from prison and asks what your motivation behind this thread is.

I have seen a program on which Alicia and her hubby's ex were giving an interview together. I absolutely admired their interaction and how they related to one another. Pure maturity.

Simple solution: Don't have sex!

Jessicafyne:

What?!! Where were you guys during the colorblock trend in the 2010s? It was everywhere!!

I was there but don't remember this year, I was drunk on love.

Arthur2021:
OK ...sorry for my assumption.

We are just learning everyday. Keep speaking your truth,there are thousands if readers that learn from it

You too.
Thanks for your contributions.

Arthur2021:
so why don't you accuse ladies that open threads like "ladies,dont date broke men" or "dont keep a man baby if he doesn't marry you" an unsolicited advise?

How do you know I don't?

cococandy:
Thank you

@bold, much hasn’t changed. Instead we usually have 12 hour days. Rarely do we have have 16 hour days. But continuous side education and holding a family together (for some of us) is still part of it . Respect to Mary Mahoney. Respect to merahki. Respect to me . Respect to all of us

Arthur2021:

OK...if woke women can advise other women to be woke,why can't traditional women have the right to advise other women to be traditional?

What do you define as telling? Giving advise based on experience and ones own school of thought or forcing and belittling others to do heed to your ways

I don't speak for 'woke women', I speak for myself. I can't even stand this terminology 'woke'. Puts me off.

To your question:

Me opening a thread like this and telling other ladies to live like the ladies I gave examples of. Simple.

Correction:
Unsolicited advice.

Mary Eliza Mahoney (1845-1926)

On March 3, 1878, Mary Mahoney was accepted into New England Hospital’s graduate nursing program. During her training, Mahoney participated in mandatory 16-hour-per-day ward duty, where she oversaw the well-being of six patients at a time. Days not requiring ward duty involved attending day-long lectures while simultaneously devoting time to her studies. Completing the rigorous 16-month program on August 1, 1879, Mahoney was among the three graduates out of the 40 students who began the program and the only African American awarded a diploma. Upon her graduation Mary Mahoney became the first African American graduate nurse.

In a 40-year career, Mahoney directed the Howard Orphan Asylum in Long Island, New York, and was a founding member of the group that became the American Nurses Association.
After retirement, Mahoney continued to fight for minority rights and in 1920 became one of the first women to register to vote in Boston.




Cc: For Merahki and Cococandy (my ladies from the medical field, our heroes in the time of Covid-19)

Arthur2021

There is a difference between being traditional and telling others to be traditional too.

cococandy:

Exactly.
Like this guy is doing

My thoughts.

gowonmaharajah:

most of the ladies in support of the op are probably evening newspapers with no hope of getting a man, or lesbians.

hahaha

It pains you?

sisisioge:
Somehow, as always, we have successfully missed the point about this thread and turned it to a gender war. I think what OP is just trying to say is that women(which is her focus, otherwise, she would have included several single men's profiles as well) should be free to explore the option of singlehood without societal stigmatization. If being married makes you happy, go for it. If staying single makes you happy, go for it. You choice shouldn't stop you from procreating, loving or having a fulfilled life. It's that simple.

While people like Bukatyne should be allowed her views without ridicule(sebi na her views), people like the OP should be allowed theirs too. As their are countless failed/unhappy marriages, there would be several failed/unhappy singlehood too...may we just choose right. EOD.

I am glad it has not escalated (yet) and I acknowledge that some posters are keeping the discussion classy. If anyone goes off the rails, they have themselves to blame.

All I wanted to do was show that women can choose or by some circumstance happen to live single and still have a sense of fulfillment and what is more leave a long lasting legacy. I also wanted to give these women a face because they are too often dehumanized on this forum. I think I achieved my goal and much more. I delighted in the celebration of these women and I know that their stories are a source of inspiration, which I didn't seek but found.

cococandy:


Because it doesn’t happen. I mean I’m not everywhere on Nairaland so maybe in some obscure section where I don’t frequent, it happens. So I can’t swear it basically.

But some posters are trying to categorize anti-misogyny posts as anti-marriage posts. Two separate things. Unless there’s an underlying message that misogyny is needed for a marriage to be a good and successful one.

Women are not ridiculed for getting married. If that ever happens anywhere it is an extreme exception not the norm but it is the norm and everyday reality for women (and men) to be ridiculed and verbally abused for being single past a certain age.

cococandy:

women on this forum belittle others for being married? Are you confusing this for posts that push against women who encourage misogyny and practices that benefit men to the detriment of women?
If you find one post that says women who choose to get married are this or that (insert something negative) I’ll be the first to the tell the poster to desist.
However it is not the same as when a post that encourages misogyny is pushed against. (No reference to anyone in particular.)

I am yet to see it too.

Arthur2021:
you were banned? Why?

I am not against anyone speaking up against norms. There will always be dissatisfaction in life with a practise or norm,that is why we have movements coming up everyday...its not wrong to fight for a cause(within the confines of the law)

My point is that some people depend on society approval before acting.

Why die in a marriage you are a punching bag instead of moving out because of norm?work on your self confidence!

By the anti spam bot for posting another example of an unmarried woman. The anti spam bot is a bot, makes mistakes.

I agree with many of the points you have raised on this thread and I appreciate your contributions (except for the insults you rained on my lovely fie.rry) and I have been asking myself the same questions over and over again. Part of it is simply our need to belong, be accepted and appreciated. Part of it is fear. Another part lack of resources. Topic for another day.

mrblessed:
It is not impossible but do have what it takes to be richer than Donald Trump? Your choice of President Trump is a giveaway, because he inherited his wealth from his late dad. Why not aspire to become our "local" Dangote? At least, there is an element of grass to grace entrepreneurial stint in his story. Again, your choice points to the cardinal message of this post: our uncritical, sheepish obsession with anything and everything Western.

You missed the point.

gowonmaharajah:
I don't subscribe to this,baby.you can't simply relate this to our own Africa.no,it can not just work
stop feeding us with all this western bullcrap.

It can't work because you say so?