I dated a lady in my university days who i so much loved and she loved me in return so much that we barely can go a day without each other, she spend money on me while i do same when i ve too, fast forward to a year later i lost my immediate elder brother and left school for about two months, when i got back to school i was still broken by the shock from my brother's death. She missed me and wanted me to get myself back but i needed time, lost interest in sex, being naughty and all that, she couldn't wait for me and lately she started acting funny, i noticed but kept shut till the day i caught her red handed and she confessed the guy was bleeping her, worst part this same guy was calling to beg me on her behalf, what a shame.
I could not hold it, I tried but i couldn't, i can't continue dating someone i can trust, the memory of her having sex with the guy disgust me so much, i can't risk and gamble my emotions, my heart with such a lady so i left, she did everything all to no avail and i was graduating already just like the guy she cheated with too, fast forward to when i started my final exams she and the guy she cheated with brought Police to my house to pick me up that i was in possession of her laptop, that was true cause she had two laptop and gave me one to use for my project, she asked that i return it and i told her to give me time to copy my project and all my data on the system. Thank God i had copies of my project on my friend's system so we settled it there and she and the Police guys with the same guy left. While we were dating sometimes she do assist me with money which i ll jokingly say i ll pay back, somehow i was close to her elder sis who's also like a friend to me, i told her everything and the story got to her whole family and seems there took the whole thing tough on her cause she is the last of seven Sisters, i was bitter, hurt and helpless.
I did something stipid that am not so pleased with, I took 6000 naira from her account and i later realized it was not a good thing so i told her i was the one that took the money. That period i was not having money but later i kept begging her to please give me her account number so can refund the money cause wr live far away we she refused out of bitterness and anger. Three to four years later she's still angry and bitter that whenever i call she ll either ask me to stop calling her, i don't owe her an apology cause she cheated and i can't continue to date and hope to marry a woman i found out she opened her leg for another guy. I don't have anyway to get the money back to her but i can't understand why women can be so bitter after so many years, has anyone been in this kinda situation and what do i do?

DAramis:

From the little you said, it might seem like she is an introvert. And, it is also possible that she is not into you.

Relationship is a 2 way road. If one road is permanently closed, it is no longer a relationship. My advice is not to call her. If she sees your worth in the future, she might be the one doing the chasing.

NB: Like you also, I had a lady that I asked out (calm and cool headed introverted lady) but she gave me three weeks to think over it. Never called and hardly picked call. The last time I met her to help her with something was the day I freed my mind from her. Told her whatever decision she takes, I will definitely respect it which elicited smile from her.

Told myself never to call her except when necessary for some help or otherwise. Liked her as well but that is where it stops.

Exactly she's an introvert but i don't think that's an excuse to not call a guy you claim you love atleast.

NUJABEZ:
I experienced something like this a while ago. We dated for about six months. The first few months were really intense, but then, by the third month, I found myself doing all of the work in the relationship while she didn't bother anymore. That was the first sign she'd checked out. I spoke to her about it severally, she promised to change but never did. I got tired of complaining because her attitude was causing me heavy distress. I took stock of the situation and told myself it was time to move on. I didn't call her for six weeks, she didn't make any attempt to reach out to me. I didn't break up with her though, but what I did around the seventh week will shock you.

Now, this ex of mine worked at a certain establishment I liked to frequent. It's a lounge/restaurant. My female cousin who is drop-dead gorgeous came around to visit us, so one fateful day, I took her to the place. When we got in there, I held her waist, led her to a table, and pulled out a chair for her to sit. Luckily, ex was around and viewing the film in full HD. One of the waiters wanted to take our orders, but ex left her station and took over the order. We placed our orders, but when she brought our food and drinks, I introduced my cousin as my new girlfriend and told ex she was now free to totally forget about me. See film!

She went stark mad. Poured pepper soup on cousin, and broke drink bottle and came after me. Her coworkers restrained her. Me, I just called Inspector, a good friend of my family to come and arrest her. She was detained for four days. Lost her job and all. Flawless victory for me.

imagine, apologies to ladies but i would say ladies re very confused set of people.

NUJABEZ:
Why are you panicking like she is the only woman in the world?

1. Is she not calling because she doesn't have money? Highly unlikely. N100 credit is about 40+ minutes of talk time.
2. Is she not calling because she doesn't know how to reach out to people? Again, not true because she does call friends, colleagues, and family.
3. Is she not calling because you are a boring conversationalist and she prefers to talk to you face to face? Check yourself.
4. Is she not calling because she doesn't feel anything for you? Of this I am 90% certain.

You should prepare yourself mentally and check out bro. There are so many women out there looking for someone like you. Women who will love you to pieces, but what you got to do is put yourself out there. Talk to lots of girls. For instance, if you approached forty girls, you can easily sleep with ten, and find true love in the arms of one.

Give yourself brain. Don't force love.

What suprises me is bro i ve fleet of more beautiful and classy ladies rushing me but i actually want a calm headed lady to end up marrying.

ibkayee:
Reciprocate her behaviour and if she continues she definitely isn’t into you

Thanks that's exactly what am doing now, haven't called for five days and she hasn't as well.

pocohantas:


Lol, I have always been of the opinion that men could want commitment and attention from their loved ones. But they have mastered the act of acting "uninterested", thereby making the woman come at them with all force. It will now look like she is the one desperate for marriage...

Subtly ignore him and watch him come around. Even if he doesn't want it, he will wonder if she is normal.

thanks but am a guy, and the person an referring to here is a woman i love but am confused, she don't contribute anything to the relationship, not even call, i had the opportunity to ve sex with her but considering she's a virgin i declined for the love i have for her.

Wow, I've been duped

I'm in a distance relationship with a lady i intend to marry, am a graduate still hustling/managing and as well hoping for a better job. It took me a year to get this lady to date me after i had to travel all the way to see her in school, we ve been dating now for almost a year but she does not call me and she's not bothered if i don't call, then when i complain about this she ll always apologize and promise to change then sooner she go back to status quo. She claim she has never been in a relationship and does not know how to love to some extent her friends started arranging dates for her with guys, am scared she don't ve emotions or she has some sort of psychological problem.
She's in her early to mid twenties and still a virgin, please has anyone here been in this situation before and what do you advice a brother, do i leave her and move on? Could it be she's not interested or maybe she is seeing g someone else

I've been wondering after someone posted about Civil Defense recruit their staffs and also some other agencies and parastatals, if we the youths can all come together and protest or raise alarm the way alot of guys took up the Coza issue, Senator Abbo issues, i think this people will begin go think twice as regards how there do underground recruitment, fighting corruption should not only be about recovering looted funds but it should touch all spheres.

My presido till 2023, abeg let's start campaigning for Osinbajo/Ahmed Alifor Presidency 2023 already,
2019 election is done and dusted, IPOB pigs would learn from this, if you guys remember i told you all Atiku can only be President on social media but never in this country, i trekked distance to make sure i cast my vote and what you all don't know is that Northern politics is completely different from politics in other part of this country, here in the North it's all about sincerity, honestly and intergrity. In PDP and in the North it's all about highest bidder, and the disgusting part is how somepeople say APC is muslim party whilr PDP is christian party, how stupid and gullible Nigerians canbe to allow PDP propaganda get at them.
Abeg PMB this time help me jail Saraki, Obj and the likes.

Yoy guys re being misled, Smart polled 15k something votes in lokoja while dino pulled 4k plus in lokoja, am not an APC member but Dino is out, am a resident of lokoja, Ganaja precisely

Sai Buhari is a moving train, i wonder how Atiku can win this election, North ll never desert Buhari and there ve the number.

Am not a politician or a member of any party, but let the truth be told, Buhari ll win again, i live in the north and PMB is like a tradition here, even a new born baby ll be shouting say Buhari as early as 5am. Atiku is not popular in the north and one northern State can cancel the votes from three southern States, this is how politics is calculated

No matter what happens, i am not hausa nor a member of APC but i ll never vote Atiku, i ll vote PMB/Osinbajo no matter what, whenever i read posts on nairaland i just laugh because the real voters and supporters of PMB/Osinbajo re not on social media, this man has a cult followership. Atiku only inherited PMB's haters i mean how would any right thinking person think Atiku can unseat PMB, in the north Buhari is like a semi god because of his intergrity, there don't see Atiku as a northerner, am sure atleast half Npower beneficiaries ll vote PMB, atleast half of the women working and participating in the school feeding program ll vote PMB, whoever think Atiku can win this election is only decieving him/herself.
Am not yoruba but my love for Osinbajo i cannot even explain, a very simple, godfearing, charistmatic, energetic VP that ll take over in 2023 by the special grace of Almighty God

Mastermind777:
Sad we quickly forgets; a thief was stealing and converting your properties to his personal belongings for almost 7yrs, came back begging you that it was the devil and if you give him another chance he won't steal from you. Atiku had the chance to bring positive changes to this country but he failed, the only time he was against Obasanjo was the 3rd term agenda which was not for Nigerians but for their selfishness. Ask yourselves, why didn't Obasanjo probe Atiku when he had the opportunity because they were both stealing our yams.
Buhari might not be the best choice but not Atiku whom had stolen from us and still promised in his campaigns that he will enrich his friends, sell NNPC to who? Same thing he did has Chairman National Privatisation Commission. For Nigeria to move forward we all need to put sentiments aside.

Vote wisely.

Nigerian politicians are greedy, wicked, heartless and deadly.
PDP=APC.

God bless you, u ve said it all, no matter what happens, i am not hausa nor a member of APC but i ll never vote Atiku, i ll vote PMB no matter what, whenever i read posts on nairaland i just laugh because the real voters and supporters of PMB re not on social media, this man has a cult followership. Atiku only inherited PMB's haters i mean how would any right thinking person think Atiku can unseat PMB, in the north Buhari is like a semi god because of his intergrity, there don't see Atiku as a northerner, am sure half Npower beneficiaries ll vote PMB, atleast half of the women working and participating in the school feeding program ll vote PMB, whoever think Atiku can win this election is only decieving him/herself..
I can never vote Atiku so U.S and other international countries ll be ruling over me, i am not APC but i ll vote APC and never vote PDP even in councillorship election.

PMB NextLevel all the way..

Am i the only one that noticed most PDP/Atiku supporters re only active on social media and won't vote come saturday?? All the aboki in my areas re traveling to kano, katsina to vote PMB but most of the ipob zombies ve met so far don't ve PVC.
NextLevel all the way..
I cannot vote somebody to come and enrish his friends at the expense of ordinary Nigerians

ClearFlair:


Wasted sperm that will rule you for another four years so what does that make you?

i wonder, worst than a wasted sperm

Atiku has no shame, now he want us to vote him so U.S and U.K can dictate our affairs to us, PMB till 2023 ..let your godfathers in U.S and U.K that you report to come and vote or rig for you then, since dubai strategy has failed. Just go and ask for refund of your money from the former CJN first. PDP know there ve already lost this election, there re not taking campaign serious and has suspended their campaign because a member of their party, the CJN was suspended..lol
PMB till 2023
Osinbajo+Elrufai/Ahmed Ali 2023

Osinbajo/Ahmodu Ali..2023(Custom Boss)

SAI BABA FOREVER

Sai Baba.. I ll pay 100k to vote PMB if that's the requirement, God forbid PDP ever rule Nigeria again.

Sai Baba till 2023

12M times 12 candidates, pdp has made money o

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Onlyonebuhari:
As at 1999, many things were still working in this country from employment without godfatherism to police uprightness. Agriculture still cntribute a reasnable quota to the national GDP, Operation feed the nation was very much active, NEPA, Good roads, ajaokuta steel industry, Kaduna textile industry, and hospitals were begging graduates for house jobs and internship.
But the enthronement of that little black prisoner was the beginning of the epitome of government recklessness, police bribery, looting and re-looting of national treasury and destruction of existing infrastructures. Suddenly N20k account balance of our elder statesman jumb into billions as if his monthly salaries was from heaven but still forming hero upandan and unfortunately our slippers-wagon graduates are still celebrating him. But how will people know that a man who doesn't care for his family won't take little note of your well-being?
He spent $16bn on power but the 24hrs power supply only abounds in his autobiography "my watch".
Our youths think it's a crime for them to command oil blocs? While all Arabs oil producing citizens get monthly stipends cos it's their right but the wise Ota man is the commander-In-Chief of Nigerians oil wells with our youths as renewable tools. Though he gave u no roads but built one of the finest world library with your wealth but you perceived not. Soon, the coming generation will realised Obj library was built with their wealth......Wole Soyinka *Forced slavery works no more, but mental slavery pays in cash every seconds*
Dele Giwa died of the the first and last letter bomb the world ever known just to free you from self imprisonment, but will monkey ever avoid that poisoned banana?
Getting employment turns hell but that Daura man that gave out over 300000 N-Power jobs without a dime now their enemy! *None of you ever demand the return of a thousand Naira to stampeded immigration job seekers..........They lost the job, the money and their lives.*
Fighting corruption, enhancing security, increasing foreign reserve, relaunching the national carrier and constructing infrastructures is the original sin of a bungalow owned Daura man. We aren't politicians and we do not care about APC or PDP but God unite our hearts with Buhari. We are neither rich nor poor but upon the sustenance of truth! Let all Hilton's tops and oil wells owners rejoice in shame for it benefit not a man to live on wealth of the masses. *Tomorrow never die!* Your court found no crime in 181 charges against Ibori but just 3 charges sent him to jail in The UK, so the celebration of saraki's victory is like the celebration of Satan been holy. This may not change anything about Baba Ota but keep enjoying the good roads he gave southwest mainly the dualized mega roads in Ota.
The environment will only separate the men from the guys! Honesty and integrity will never suffer the test of time.
May God help you to know the truth and follow it!
*onlyoneBuhari*

thanks alot, you ve spoken well and with this comment, there's hope that no everybody can be fooled, am surprised when i see people celebrating obj and pdp that openly apologized that there looted the treasury dry for 16years, some idiots ll blame buhari for not coming to drop food on their dinning table so there just eat, some fools re celebrating coalition of old desperate fools pursuing their political interest, when ll some people ever ve sense, if not for anything for npower alone, for even thinking of the unemployed youth by the grace of God my vote is for PMB, that means he even ve the youths at heart and means he can do more, a man which such intergrity, no record of corruption should be celebrated and encouraged but instead some fools and ingrates re here ranting, blaming like they don't know no matter what, God that brought PMB ll still ket him triumph come 2019

our sense of reasonning is too myopic and we re easily fooled and decieved, that's thw problem some of us ve.. u re shouting buhari must go and u want to vote in a party dt apologized dt it looted the country's treasury dry for good 16years, some mumu re celebrating the merger some desperate old politicians formed to pursue their interest, a coalition formed to remove PMB instead of a coalition to bring about good governance, when ll some Nigerians ve sense for God sake

Ayomel:
Lies upon lies . To point out just one Abuja - Kaduna road is a death trap for now worst then when GEJ was there, What are they saying please ? This administration is even corrupt than the former administration . Nigerians becomes poorer, dirtier, nigerians are now committing suicide.
THANK YOU FOR THE LOVE U HAVE FOR THE COUNTRY WE REALLY APPRECIATE WE CAN MOVE ON FROM HERE COME AND BE GOING.
Clueless set of people

cheap lie, you re the dirtier, poorer and i ply that route everyday, Abuja-Kaduna road is okay and not bad as you make it look mr saddist

what re we to take along please

gecko is poisonous and kills, please she should not just throw the soup away but burry the soup

pedi:

That can only happen If igbo distance them self from love of money, is it not same Rocha's who build a mosque for Muslim?? Is is not same igbo man in calaba that give 1mlion to Muslim to build Islamic headquarters, many Muslim are converting to Islam for just selfish reasons and what they will get, you hardly see or hear a northern who is a Christian convert to Islam,but when ever you hear of convert check you will see is either and igbo person or yuruba!!! My prayers is that we all should stand firm and propagate the gospel of Jesus Christ, if not 25 year is even to far, just watch out if Buhari win second term In office, just yesterday and Friday in jos Fulani attack a village and kill people, no security men on check point, and you think there is no agenda on ground?? Pls wake up, in Christianity we have nothing like am igbo Christian, house Christian, Yoruba Christian, if it get worse we all will be consume.

please listen to yourself with your chicken brain, muslims were attacked on friday Jummat day in Jos, how is Buhari islamizing Nigeria with a pastor as his vice, why re we too stupid and politicians keep using people like you via religion, wake up and wisen up, free yourself from this mindset..Christians and Muslims re one and we must learn to resist any politician turning us against each other

We re muslims, we love Prophet Muhammad S. A. W, we love Jesus and we must stop allowing desperate politicians to divide us, we re one and we ve to stop being a prisoner of this extremist movement by our politicians to use religion to win elections, we re not fools and as vibrant youths we ought to know no single perosn can islamize ir christianize a country like Nigeria, government comprise of both muslim and christians and let's stop getting brainwashed please