Valentine's close again.  This time, it's on Sunday.  I'd like to know what your ideal valentine day would be like.  Then i'd like to know how in reality it will be.

For me, fantasy:  Dump the kids somewhere (anywhere) a day before or just leave them at home, lodge into a hotel with hubby. Go to church on D day, then spend the whole afternoon in bed.  Have a candle lit dinner and maybe a movie, then go back home the next day. Bliss! 

Now, reality: Go to church, normal afternoon with kids and all, then dinner out and a movie.  No hotel, no sleeping in, 

how about you?

Tough Love
desperate housewives,
Reba

H2O2:

what ahve you done in reciprocation?

well, used to be real romantic too, but sincerely, what with kids and all, it's cooled down a bit too. i know, i know! it shouldn't. but that's reality. (sighs). I need to step up.

I love SA Lady's tips. most guys aren'y into dates and all, but if you let him know how you really feel and go out of your way to make his own day very special, he'll definitely want to out-do you.
@fhemmy: yep! we do attach a lot of importance to birthdays and anniversaries. that's just us for you. good that you celebrate wifey everyday, some other guys need a push up.

Cockyzy:

@mixie and nixie: will you choose a romantic guy over a funny and cocky guy or you would want a guy that have got both attribute? Lucky me! I dont know why but my instinct gets me to thrive being romantic and irrestible to them girl that why i dont like girls getting to know me better cuz they gona be so addicted.i aint champion and am open to learning new ideas.What can a guy do to be considered Mr.Romantic?

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oh yeah? girls gona be addicted? good for you. I'd prefer a combination of the two. sense of humor is a must and romantic is just too good to pass up.

my hubby was real romantic when we were dating: sending romantic text messages, sending flowers, holding hands and really making an effort to make me happy. now, oh well, the chase is over, so even though he's still romantic, he just doesn't go overboard anymore.

@ poster: first find out if she truly has a bf or just posing. if she truly doesn't have one, then I would say you just let her know how you feel, but don't pressure her. Be her friend, be there for her and let her know she can count on you at all times. once in a while, you can chip in a remind her you love her, but no pressure. eventually, she'll be comfortable with you and if she really likes /loves you, things will just flow from there. well, this works if you ain't in a hurry and have time on your hands. if you aren't young (or if she isn't young either and needs to settle quick), then the pressure thing might be your answer.

great article and real good advice. running a family most of the time takes up our entire time and we forget everything else. thanks for sharing.

I definitely think on the average, women are more romantic than men. we are very emotional beings and we love to be loved, so it's just natural that we are more romantic by nature.

Don't get me wrong, guys can be romantic too and the romantic ones are 'really' romantic. but if you were to sample 10 girls and 10 boys, i think you'd get 7 romantic girls and 3 romantic boys!

I'm rolling with laughter at all these responses.
seriously Onyema1, as a woman I can tell the lady is just posting you. She values your friendship, probably doesn't want to lose it, but doesn't know how to tell you that that all she wants.  you should have a straight talk with her like MrBrownJay said.  Hopefully, she'll come out and let you knwo what she thinks.

@MrBrownJay.  meen, you sound like this is your daily job.  you into professional counselling?

Remii:

@mixie, encourage him to work out regularly, if workouts are not regular he may snore worse on the day of workout since he would be tired from painful joints. Make his diets healthier too by dropping off fatties, It is not enough to give up siting heredity, trend could be broken, lol, you just need to work on it. all the best.

thanks dear.  will do.

@ikpuru 1234, try and not think about it if you can, just pray about it.  little things like this can start making you irritated and everything else will start going bad.  focus more on the good things and prod him gently to start working out.  hopefully, he will.

@remi. yes o! he works out once in a while. it's actually hereditary cos his whole family snores, so there's a limit to what he can do.

my dear, i know exactly how you feel.  my hubby snores too.  do try the earplugs.  they work.

you can also try going to bed before him, then let him come in later after you've slept off.  i'm also a light sleeper, but i noticed that if i sleep before he does, then i won't hear him when he comes in.  the only thing wrong is if i happen to wake in the middle of the night for a pee or drink, then it'll take another 20/30 mins to get back to bed. 

I'm hoping i'll get used to it, though it's been more than 3years now.  the one thing i know is that sleeping on different beds will affect the rest of the relationship, so that's not an option for me.