 Family / Re: Is 700k Per Month Too Small? by Miyovwe: 9:04pm On Jun 29 |
ruffhandu:
Hello people,
Please I need some advice.
We live in PH, and have 4 kids. The oldest is 10 while the youngest is 6. I give my wife 700k every month, and this includes general upkeep and maintenace and fuelling of our car (Lexus 330). I don't drive the car (I dey leg, while she uses it to run around, which includes school runs and her business).
I no dey chuk eye for her business. Bu I am getting frustrated as she still makes me believe that the money is not enough. I pay electricity bill (band A) and house rent (3m pa) yet every now and then she puts bills on my head. It is driving me crazy.
When I tell her to list out her expenses so I plan with her, she picks offence. I am really tired of the whole thing and don't know how else to approach the issue without causing too much problem. I know some men whose salaries are 250k-300k in PH, yet they are surviving. Meanwhile Odanz from twitter dey do 30k housekeeping money dey feel big on top🙄🙄 mtscheewwwww! |
| Health / Re: Groom Dies Few Hours to his Wedding by Miyovwe: 8:46pm On Jun 29 |
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| Family / Petrogas by Miyovwe: 2:52pm On Jun 28 |
Good day all.
Please does anyone know the organisation called Petrogas? Does the company really exist ? Do they work offshore on ships?
Or they're scam?
I'll appreciate kind responses 🤲 |
| Phones / Re: The Xiaomi Thread. by Miyovwe: 10:40pm On Apr 27 |
Sinachi100:
Good day fam
Any solution for these👇🏽
Is this a Redmi 9? |
| Family / Re: If You Used These Perfumes And You're Not Married Hmmmm... by Miyovwe: 3:57pm On Jan 12 |
olatunjithomas:
How about Wishbone?? I used this too, loved the fragrance... |
| Family / Re: If You Used These Perfumes And You're Not Married Hmmmm... by Miyovwe: 3:55pm On Jan 12 |
DesChyko:
There is a white body spray then, I think the name is infinity or so. Lemme see if I can see a pic of it.
AHH.. Got it!
Malizia UOMO 😁 I used and loved this perfume then. 1 Like |
| Celebrities / Re: Actress Julianna Olayode Tenders Public Apology To Funke Akindele by Miyovwe: 10:50am On May 28, 2023 |
YOUTUBE9ja:
This Tinubu administration will favor everyone. My advice for Nigerians is to start a YouTube channel on CELEBRITY GOSSIPS and earn in USD. Let me teach you how is been done , mention me if interested, hold your 1k o Interested. |
| Literature / Re: My Husband & 1 (18+) by Miyovwe: 11:32pm On Mar 18, 2023 |
frankwriter:
Episode 10
~ Mary’s POV ~
I Had Just Five Days
Five days until John and I went to see a fertility specialist. I had heard John schedule an appointment a week ago. To say I was freaking out would be an understatement. The thought of going to the appointment had my heart racing. Then my racing heart would trigger small panic attacks. Luckily, most occurred when John wasn’t home. They mainly happened when I had nothing to do except listen to my thoughts. I hardly slept, usually due to anxiety. I was trying to remain calm and happy on the outside. But inside of me, I felt uneasy and, albeit, guilty.
I spent much of my thoughts thinking about having a child with John. Whether he would find out my secret stash of plan B pills, or he would find out I cheated by kissing a stranger. He would only know if he suspected something or found the note Abbey had given me. The note I carried with me everywhere. As foolish as it sounds, I had nowhere else to put it. I wanted to call him but at the same time, I couldn’t. I was a wife who wasn’t sure whether I wanted to have a child with my husband. Yet, I was so tempted to call the man to hear his voice just so I could remember his touch.
I'm so ashamed to say that when I was alone, I pleasured myself in many ways by thinking of Abbey. What kind of wife spends her days bringing herself to ecstasy at the thought of another man? The thought of his lips on mine as I felt butterflies in my belly. The memory of his hand gripping my throat so I wouldn’t escape him. I was so engrossed in my fantasies of him.
There came one fateful day my husband arrived home unannounced. He found me lying on our bed with my legs splayed open, moaning in pure bliss. Two of my fingers rubbed my clit as my right hand played with my breasts. When he spoke suddenly, I screamed withdrawing my fingers from myself.
Despite my shock and embarrassment, John took my being vulnerable as an invitation. He spent the next hour sexing me from behind, taking pleasure from my body. I wasn’t even enjoying it but the sudden image of Abbey appeared. Suddenly I was getting wet and turned on as John thrust inside of me. For the first time in years, John made me cum that night. More like my imagination had.
I felt irritated after we had stopped. I was John's wife, not Abbey's.
Damn, I wasn’t Abbey's at all. We only shared a single kiss. But the kiss we shared was like no other. I had never experienced a kiss so full of desire. Neither has a man ever looked at me the way Abbey did as if I was the only woman on earth.
Although I loved John, he had never looked at me in such a way. Not as a girlfriend and not as his wife. Does it mean our love was lost? Our fire? It was as if I was having a constant battle with myself. I love John with all my heart, but the way I felt with Abbey for one night, was inexplicable.
Gbenga had said that we could be friends, but could we? I knew we would be close to crossing a line, but I wanted to be selfish. I knew this makes me a terrible wife until recently. Maybe, just maybe, I can be greedy. Just this once. I won’t cheat on John again, but maybe I could see Abbey one last time. Just to get him out of my system.
Holding the note in my left hand, I reached for my phone with my right hand. I knew John wouldn’t be home until late and I could pick up takeout on my way home. Decision made, I began dialing Abbey's number.
***
The sun was still rising, the trees stood tall as a warm breeze ruffled their leaves. The atmosphere there was peaceful and safe with a few children laughing in the playground. Their parents watched them closely as they talked with one another. Despite the cheerful atmosphere, it was a solemn sight to see. It had me wondering about my future. If I would be a great mom since I was already a poor wife? I was there, sitting on a bench, waiting for Abbey to arrive.
I was meeting a man who wasn’t my husband. A man who made me feel things I shouldn’t as a married woman. A large part of me wanted to run and go back home, possibly forgetting ever meeting this man. And go back to my mundane life of being John's wife. Would he ever forgive me if he found out?
My husband had quite the temper that’s developed over the years. He had episodes where he would get upset and ignored me. Or sometimes he’d yell, scream, or be ignorant. But those I can tolerate. I knew how to appease him and make him less angry with my body. But would that be enough if he caught on?
No, there's nothing to catch on to, Abbey and I are just friends, I said to myself.
And there he was, the man himself walking toward me. He looked as dashing as ever, even more than my fantasies. His black hair swayed along with the breeze as he took long, confident strides toward me. It was as if time had stopped, yet he was the only one moving; fast, trying to race with the wind to reach me first. I felt my eyes widen slightly as he became closer.
Oh! God, should I stand or sit?
I wasn’t sure what to do out of frazzled nerves. I wanted to see him so badly, but there I was rethinking. He looked delicious, dressed in denim jeans and a shirt with three buttons open. It was an upgrade from his work attire, but even then he looked just as attractive as he does now. I grew self-conscious of how I looked dressed in a plain yellow dress. I had my hair in a bun so they wouldn’t get in my face.
I hope I looked nice enough for him.
No, what am I saying? He said we could be friends which I agreed with at first. Earlier, I decided that today would be my last day seeing him instead. Just to get him out of my system. Besides, maybe he’s a terrible person outside of being a server. Or he only kissed me that night because he felt bad that I was sad. Maybe he agreed to be friends because he thought I was lonely. Yet, as I tried to paint him badly in my mind, I knew it was wrong.
I was trying to convince my heart to stop feeling for a stranger. I knew those thoughts were trash, and I wanted him as badly as it seemed he wanted me.
But was it just lust?
Too caught up in my head, I didn’t notice Abbey standing right in front of me. That was until I smelled the manly scent of vanilla. And his shadow blocked the sunlight that was tanning my skin. Looking up, his eyes glowed brightly in the early afternoon as smiled down at me.
“Mary,” his voice was like silk, easily liquefying me.
Just from inhaling his intoxicating scent and hearing the words that came out of his mouth, I had only one thought. How could we just be friends? I stood up abruptly, causing him to take a step back. The top of my head barely reached his collarbone. I was face to face with his seemingly ripped chest that was covered by his shirt. Swallowing harshly, it took everything in me to pull my gaze away.
To be continued…
Frank The Writer
Please, Like, Comment, and Share!!
Don’t be a ghost reader
Your stories are quite captivating 🤜👍don't stop writing please. Thanks. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Family / Re: My Newly Wedded Wife by Miyovwe: 12:57pm On Mar 16, 2023 |
Mindlog:
What do you want to be told? 🤣 🤣 Good question! |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Miyovwe: 11:10am On Mar 01, 2023 |
Cutehector:
hahahha.. As a matter of fact, as long as the people supporting tinubu are not in his pay roll, they are the most useless clowns in Nigeria. Exactly! 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Miyovwe: 9:48am On Mar 01, 2023 |
Cutehector:
yeah, a quick swipe at the streets and nobody is jubilating. Thats to show you the mood of the people.
Well i'm igbo. Ahhhhh igbo kwenu! Kwezuenuooooo!!!!! 💃 😁🎊 People aren't jubilating? Eyaaaaa. Even the APC fans wey vote and rig in the thief aren't jubilating? Okurrrr, I guess dem don kuku realize say their wahala don multiply now.🤣 Nawa. |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Miyovwe: 9:10am On Mar 01, 2023 |
Cutehector:
Good morning Miyovwe... .
Naah i dont actually.. I believe you jare. I still believe Obi would have been better. You're yoruba? |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Miyovwe: 8:30am On Mar 01, 2023 |
Cutehector:
aww. Oya na..no wahala. When you visit lagos again, holla. Good morning sir, and congratulations 🎊 🎊🎉🎈You have a new president 😁 |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Miyovwe: 8:42pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
Cutehector:
aww. Oya na..no wahala. When you visit lagos again, holla. Alright sir. I'll try. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Miyovwe: 6:04pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
Cutehector:
aahh...you mean you havent? You are really missing.. Its actually in lekki.. I plan visiting there soon. Its an games arena where you can do bowling, etc.
You should visit there.. 
Yes o.. I couldnt cope with the mentality over there. Ohhhhhhh, I'm not in Lagos anyway. Lemme bookmark the place for future visits 😁 😂🤣🤣🤣Their mentality! Northerners are something else really. I wonder Wetin dem give lugard chop wey make am lose guard join dem to us! |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Miyovwe: 5:52pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
Cutehector:
oya o.. I like fun too.. Ever visited rufus and bee?
I migrated from one yeye balablu state like that.. Niger state. Where's rufus and bee at? |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Miyovwe: 5:52pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
Cutehector:
oya o.. I like fun too.. Ever visited rufus and bee?
I migrated from one yeye balablu state like that.. Niger state. Rufus and bee, where's that? I've never been there. Oh Niger state😄Abokis weren't treating you well there? |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Miyovwe: 5:25pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
Cutehector:
amen. So what do you do for fun? Miyovwe Any fun activity around me is okay for me. From where did you migrate to Lagos? |
| Family / Re: See The Left-over My Wife Gave To Our Daughter by Miyovwe: 5:22pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
GoldenJAT:
Problem for Nigeria plenty!! We go solve your own later!! Na turn by turn we de solve issues now!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂Ewelekeeeeee! |
| Family / Re: In Need Of A Co-parenting Partner by Miyovwe: 5:14pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
hello. I am intrested. I am a 35 year old single man not intrested in marriage but I want to have kids. I am looking for a independent lady to walk down that road with. But financial and emotional suppose raising the kids would be shared. But you have to pay your own bills. Please send me a mail on nelson.adegboye@gmail.com if you are Intrested. This is beautiful to read. It's refreshing to see someone who understands what the OP really wants. 1 Like |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Miyovwe: 3:53pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
Cutehector:
hahhahaha... He is not my latest president, i Reject it.  Well, we plan to install Gbadebo as a message to Agbado. That is a good plan, I hope it comes to pass. E go pain dem wella.😂 |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Miyovwe: 3:12pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
Cutehector:
oh glad you aren't with them anymore, toxic places of work can drain one emotionally. I am sure you have gotten a new place of work then.
Oh yes, i am in lagos too. I've been in lagos cummulatively, 3yrs.
Yes, gotten somewhere better. Thank God. Lagos people, regards to your latest president 🤝. |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Miyovwe: 3:03pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
Cutehector:
i imagined how you felt losing that 10million naira sales deal..so painful mehn. Still with the company? Yeah, very painful. Nope, not with them anymore. You're in Lagos? |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Miyovwe: 2:57pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
Cutehector:
that's awesome... Seems you were born in Lagos? I took a swipe at your diary.. Tell me you have "japad" My diary? Thanks for the reminder, I didn't even remember I had a diary in here. I haven't japaed o, I'm still here. Though I wish I can japa especially considering the events of the past few days. |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Miyovwe: 2:09pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
Cutehector:
and may i know what it means?  Well, I actually don't know the meaning cos I'm not really well-versed in the language. I just liked the name and decided to use it as my moniker here. |
| Family / Re: Have You Ever Been Embarassed By Your Child In Public? Please Share! by Miyovwe: 2:07pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
Richy4:
Honestly, I could still recall her innocent looks with curiosities written all over... what came through my mind was that maybe she used to attend birthdays with jesters or jokers that may have been painting themselves with different colours... In her little mind, it can't be possible to be African... Yeah, I get you very well. I guess as she grows older she will get to see that the creator made us in different colors😁 |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Miyovwe: 2:05pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
Cutehector:
Miyovwe
Wow ...what a unique name  .. What language is the name from? LOL 😂 It's Urhobo. Good afternoon. |
| Family / Re: My Cousin "Disowned" Her Son. by Miyovwe: 2:04pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
Zupay:
My cousin's son has been a source of disturbance to me for the past 2 weeks.
The background story.
My cousin got pregnant with him when she was 19 but the father who then in his mid 20s denied the pregnancy in the presence of both families and went on to claim the reason he gave her money to procure an abortion was because he was only one of the guys sleeping with my cousin at the time (which was a blatant lie) and it was his own contribution.
My Uncle and Aunt (my cousin's parents) had to accept the guy's denial and solely took care of my cousin's pregnancy. Her son was born in 2007 and bears my Uncle's name, he was taken care of by his grandparents, uncles and aunts as his mother went back to school and graduated. My cousin got a better paying job in 2015 and moved out of their family house with her son, who is presently in S.S.2.
The biological father resurfaced sometime last year in May, starting to make claims and all. He went directly to the boy's school to introduce himself and starting meeting the boy, buying him things without my cousin's knowledge until the man showed up at my uncle's house with some of his relatives but my uncle didn't receive them.
The boy was becoming rude to his mother, talking back at her, telling her he would push for a change in his surname to that of his biological father, became cold to his grandparents etc To cut long story, he moved to his father's house in August of last year and resumed school from there. My cousin (his mother) was seriously sick in October of last year, this boy never bothered to call on his mother despite knowing of her illness and he has a phone he uses freely.
My cousin (his mother) relocated to the UK early this January, on a skilled worker visa as she works in a children' home and have made up her mind to refocus on getting married and having other kids. Her son has been calling her, which she has never picked also sending her long stories of how his father's wife have been maltreating him even in the presence of his father and the father would say nothing. Pleading with the mother to bring him over to the UK to live with her (her visa allows her to bring her son to the UK easily since he is under 18) but my cousin have not been replying him and this boy has been disturbing me to talk his mother on his behalf as I am very close to my cousin.
I have spoken to my cousin severally and she insisted she has washed off her hands where her son is concerned, that she doesn't want him around her as she needs to live singly and have a relationship that would lead to marriage, that she really wants to settle down.
I have told the boy to concentrate on finishing secondary school but he seems obsessed with wanting to relocate to the UK though my other cousin (his mother's younger brother) has confirmed that the boy is having it rough living with the father, his wife and other children.
I believe his mother has a right to have a new lease of life.
This boy is always messaging me asking for updates, I don't know what else to tell him!
Block him off. Block off his every means of reaching you. Some people would never learn from other people's experiences until they experience life themselves. Let him continue to experience "real life" with his father and his wife and work out his future from there. His mother has every right to move on to get her own life(relationship, marriage, more kids etc) back on track without the ungrateful son! |
| Family / Re: Have You Ever Been Embarassed By Your Child In Public? Please Share! by Miyovwe: 1:10pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
Richy4:
This thread has stayed for long like Methuselah..Well I have never been embarrassed by my kids in public but by a little girl..
I was once eating @ work canteen.... suddenly, this little white girl about 3 or 4yrs just came from no where in front of my table... Normally I no say many white kids no dey get " longathroat"
She looked at me for few seconds... Then the thing she did shocked me at the same time embarrassed me.. she just touched me on my hands.. In her little mind, she thought I painted myself black...
She was hoping that the black colour will rub off of my skin and stained her palm,.. An invitation / time to play in her little mind ... I was just looking at her with a smile.. when nothing came off, she was wondering why not... She touched me again.. nothing...
Then her father who probably was ordering something to eat and didn't know when she disappeared came and dragged her away.. Her innocence and curious mind got smiling ☺️
Wow, this was somehow sweet to read. I could imagine her innocent curious look. I would have winked and smiled at her as she was dragged away. |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Miyovwe: 12:55pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
Cutehector:
I want to derail this thread and i need a chatterbox to do that.
Who is available for a 10page discussion in here. Meeeee 👆 |
| Family / Re: Today Is My Traditional wedding by Miyovwe: 12:38pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
mrrobz:
I am so happy to say I will be finally marrying my soulmate please pray for us 🙏 Congratulations 🎈 👏 🎉 I wish you marital bliss. 1 Like |
| Family / Re: Long Distance Marriage: How Do You Cope Married Couples In Similiar Situation by Miyovwe: 12:31pm On Feb 28, 2023 |
Honeydenz:
That's the kind of marriage am in right now, am in Delta state asaba my husband resides in Edo state. For four years now it's been like this, both of us been working apart and with two kids I can tell u it's not easy for me expecially. Asides d wahala with my two daughters (children getting sick and only me running around d hospital, dropping them in school combined that with government work) I think I prefer it. Ask me Why: NOW I will highlights d pro and cons below
PRO
1.NO FIGHT OR QUARRELS AS SEEN IN MOST COUPLES LIVING TOGETHER
2.FAMILY MEMBERS FROM BOTH SIDE FIND IT HARD TO INTERFERE IN YOUR MARRIAGE since both aren't living together, they rarely visit so they find it extremely difficult to draw conclusion on you or your husband's behavior.
3.MOST MEN BECOME MARRIED BACHELOR, you have all the time and resources to still execute plans u would have executed if u were still single since u have a working class and supportive wife who is not actively dependent on you for survival. You can proceed with ur MSc degree or Ph.D with little or no challenges
4. YOU MISS EACH OTHER ALOT
CONS
1.SEX LIFE IS ALMOST ZERO
2. IT'S A MORE EXPENSIVE MARRIAGE ARRANGEMENTS (I rented in asaba, he rents in Edo, I buy gas in asaba, he buys in Edo, I cook in asaba, he cooks in Edo, almost everything in our house in asaba is also there in Edo) I haven't mentioned transport money for frequent visits and recharge card money for lengthy calls
3. ROOM FOR INFIDELITY expecially from the husband's side. You re practically treating new infection all d time and u can't remember sleeping with any other person other than your dear husband.
4. ACCIDENT OR KIDNAPPED since he's always shuttling two states (Godforbit sha)
5. DISTRACTION FROM WORK (for example my husband is starting to contemplate on starting a business instead of working under someone. because when our kids are seriously sick, he's uncomfortable and take excuse frequently from work just to come and visit which most bosses don't like)
6. PREGNANCY/TRUST ISSUES, you are constantly afraid of your hubby getting another woman pregnant or you getting pregnant for another man, and this type of pregnancy can lead to marriage failure/divorce if not handled carefully. using myself as a case study, am constantly afraid my husband might get a girl pregnant and she gives birth to a baby boy while I have two daughters, am yet to bear him a male child.
SO IF YOU'RE SOMEONE WHO LIKES THE TRUTH AND CAN HANDLE IT, THESE ARE THE BASICS COMING FROM SOMEONE ACTIVELY INVOLVED IN A LONG DISTANCE MARRIAGE, SO IT'S LEFT FOR COUPLES TO DECIDE. THANKS FOR READING!!! Welldone ma, more grease to your elbow 💪 💪 1 Like 1 Share |
