Properties / Re: Lady Shares Photos Of Dirty House Of A Benin 'Big Boy' She Visited by MrbonZ: 3:46pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Optimistguy1969: Bad Big boy, bad big boy What you gonna do, What you gonna do when they come for you!" koya japa... |
Business / Re: Did The Attitude Of People Towards You Change When You Became Rich? by MrbonZ: 7:35pm On Aug 18, 2021 |
Kokaine:
Most times when we pray for success, we dont remember to pray against the challenges that come with it.
The most notable of these challenges are feeling of entitlement and envy from friends
The feeling of entitlement is what makes people get angry with you when you do not give them their demands. They come to you for their every needs even up to house rents. And they never understand when you say you dont have. They pick offenses and hold you in contempt.
Envy is something you get surprised with. Its so complex that even the people who have always gorged you on and encouraged you on your chosen path, suddenly get sad when you actually win. They show you everyday how they want to see you win, but suddenly get sad when you actually win. It confuses you, it makes you loose friends and make your heart sink. It makes you value your new circumstances less. Some will actually come to you to say things like this. " kokaine, I'm sorry oh... This is a personal question i want to ask you, how much are you worth, like... Net worth. Account, properties and crypto? What's your net worth "?
A question like that coning from a friend is quite confusing. But you find it safer to downplay everything. To prove to them that you're still human and you still cry over other losses they may not be aware of. Even a song by lucky dube says " behind the mask of a clown lies a trail of tears." They may be seeing what you have physically, but not know what morbid pain you experience from a failed relationship for instance. Or knowing that you can never really tell if your partner loves you. There may be one thing or the other you are striving for. All they see is what you have and use you as a standard for measuring happiness. Some can't wait to see you cry just to console themselves that the rich also cry.
Some praise you endlessly when they dont mean it.
Its quite a wild and wooly world out there. My advice is: if you suddenly advance in your financial circumstances, learn to hide. Learn to maintain a lowkey. Learn not to show off or tell people who shouldn't know. So it doesn't become a challenge to them and make them ungrateful to God for what they have. The evil eye is real. Pray and go lowkey. You will enjoy it more unknown than when you become popular nice write up, so apt the envy part shocked me the most tbh 1 Like |
Romance / Re: My White Neighbors Are Giving Me Attitude by MrbonZ: 12:56pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
BigDawsNet:
Bro no time for familiarity here especially if you arrived in the states from a thousand miles...
Get here, work your ass off..
Who have time for friendship when I have bills to pay... ![cool](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cool.png)
There's time for everything When we get to level to travel around for holidays and meet people...then we can flex Boss way X 100/100 |
Properties / Re: Landlords And Tenants' Rights In Nigeria by MrbonZ: 8:38pm On Jul 21, 2021 |
labelle123: Poverty without dept is richness
If only if possible not to owe any landlord/landlady
What am I even saying sef I say wealth without depth is poverty. |
Phones / Re: Sony Ericsson P990i: How Many Of You Remember This Powerful Phone? by MrbonZ: 7:07pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
kingsceedon:
Guy na all Java phones the thing dey affect, worst website wey make me nearly rent house for computer village because of VIRUS na SHAREMOBILE, this particular website and viruses na 5 and 6, I flash phone that period pass anything, no week wey I no go enter computer village just because of virus Kaspersky says hello |
Sports / Re: Copa America Final! Can We Witness Messi's First Major Title Tomorrow? by MrbonZ: 7:50am On Jul 11, 2021 |
He did it #champions 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Igbos Taught Niger Delta A Bitter Lesson With PIB by MrbonZ: 1:15pm On Jul 06, 2021 |
HandsomeKing: 3% and 13% of what and what? Declared profits, right? Smh.. Know ye that 10% of actual profit can be declared as net profit, and 3% of that sum will go to host communities. Hogwash!
now assuming if #1000 is declared as net profit, then they are giving the oil producing states #30 i.e 10% of already falsified net profit, just multiplying this in millions now, is giving me headache. a shame what this country is, a shame.. Damn! |
Celebrities / Re: DJ And Hypeman, FlexyNaija Poisoned To Death by MrbonZ: 8:04pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
pansophist: Train yourself to detect trails of jealousy from friends, it is indeed, a crucial, self-preservation knowledge to know of. You have to understand that your enemy knows you better than you know yourself. Because he sees blessings that you're oblivious to, but he lacks. I bet you've never consider yourself lucky until you see a blind man trying to cross the road. But a blind man wishes he can see like you.
Most people rather than work hard and be like their ideal (the subject of their envy), they would rather obliterate the person. To envious people, you're a reflection of their shortcomings, their failures, and perhaps, been unlucky. Only but few individuals have the inner strength to overlook and not burn with resentment, bitterness and burning anger to inflict damages to others.
Do you think Cain will be able to kill Abel if Abel knew that Cain was envious of him, and understood the nature of envy? I don't think so. The problem I see here is not the deceased been envied, but for him to be ignorant or perhaps, careless with handling envious people and brining them close. They should be permanently, irreversibly, and irreconcilably ghosted. Envy, just like anger is a natural and a destructive emotions, don't accommodate it and most importantly, train yourself to detect it.
Words on marble,,, always watch the actions of those around you with intensity, notice subtle shades, change in character because they won't tell you that they are envious of your success. Like jcole said "watch the ones around you, they'd be the one to envy you " once had a an alleged friend refuse coming inside an apartment I rented while I was still young, albeit I got a bigger one than the one he had. I ghosthed his ass straight up since then. Be smart the street don't like you. 5 Likes |
Romance / Re: Most Men Will Marry Runs Girls by MrbonZ: 4:10pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
drmikeadams: if u born girl child now,just know say na 22ND century olosho u just got...argue with ur data Factz |
Romance / Re: Most Men Will Marry Runs Girls by MrbonZ: 4:09pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
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Health / Re: Sleeping With An HIV Positive Person by MrbonZ: 4:26pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
Sunkyapogee: Masturbation is the best.. Free and safe while you wait for marriage. Omo ogbon OG |
Politics / Re: ANALYSIS: Will APC Settle For Zoning As 2023 Draws Closer? by MrbonZ: 5:38pm On Jul 02, 2021 |
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Religion / Re: Kano Hisbah Bans Use Of Mannequins For Display Of Clothes By Tailors, Boutique O by MrbonZ: 5:26pm On Jul 02, 2021 |
egennie: If there is one reason why I find it difficult accepting democracy and Christian religion is because of the way it bring down your innate survival instinct and drive it to a barest minimum. It tames the brave and savage aspect of man that truly makes us humans. Our forefathers were brave and fought oppressive people to a stand still. But now, democrazy and Christianity has been used to make us become social media cry babies and big grammar speaking idiot in the face of intimidation and oppression. . I agree with you bruh but there are always two sides two a coin, such as the evil democrats perpetuates under the guise of providing freedom or whatsoever that it entails, we must also be aware that some people can't be allowed to manage (govern) themselves or else they will self implode. |
Family / Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by MrbonZ: 12:37am On Jun 18, 2021 |
Krak:
That offer is too microscopic. Oh lawd too "microscopic " lemao ...enlarge your microscope lens naah... comments been cracking me up ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) |
Career / Female Bosses by MrbonZ: 11:21pm On Jun 17, 2021 |
I just want to know if I am the only one to notice it, some female bosses are usually overtly arrogant, abusive and overbearing and most times they bring their family problems to work and can't deal with the stress that comes with working.
This is not a misogynistic post just an observation from me. Do you guys also experience this. 106 Likes 10 Shares |
Career / Re: Old post by MrbonZ: 10:23pm On Jun 17, 2021 |
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Career / Re: Old post by MrbonZ: 10:22pm On Jun 17, 2021 |
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Romance / Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Guy by MrbonZ: 4:48am On Jun 12, 2021 |
blackboy: Girls have no regrets in turning down a guy or not giving a guy your number. Be it he makes it big or not. What will be yours will be yours. Many girls have had their lives messed up cause they cannot say no or resist giving a guy their number. 18 or 25 or 30, dont be pressured. Im married to a lady who told me no at first. When i got to know her better i understood. Kwontiue giving them your number like radio station or emergency service . Guys will just use you to shine or shine you and call you cheap or a LovePeddler. Kwontinue keep saying yes and turn yourself to pass around. from your write up I can deduce that you're still immature,going by what you wrote two adults have glaring feelings for each other, but one decide to obviously play the hard to get game and you are here saying that will save her from getting used, who is using who and who is getting used. 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: What Are The Values You Hold So Dearly? by MrbonZ: 3:27am On Jun 12, 2021 |
nauto: code decode the message |