10 years after this sad incident, we are still in the same dip shit and unlawlessness what a country!!!

Amanee:


Learn to say No and stick to it

Oh and when you say No please don't make eye contact I'm sure with time you would master the art to stop pleasing people to your disadvantage.

cooooooks:
I think the many negative stories are making him modify but not break his rule.

I also think the rule is sensible. However, he should consider that they met before he went back to the US.

Well, I hope he makes the best decision...three years of dating is a very big deal to me because Some marriages don't even go this long before they Break

cooooooks:
You're being a tad ridiculous.

He said he wants her to come as a student. That is the better option for her too.

Maybe I'm just bothered that he doesn't want to marry her and he is just disguising with that resolution thing. breaking certain rule for people you care about shouldn't be that hard.

I'm still trying to get your point...You are just being a gatekeeper and being selfish. Take this issue to people around you and let them tell you how unreasonable you sound because this should never be up for discussion in the first place . Just free the poor woman abeg because u obviously don't love her.

Poster fear God o. This people are protesting for everyone's right u are here carrying fake news. Just pray the harassment doesn't get to your turn one day.

What exactly do we women want
anyway "God when"?

I think the reason why he doesn't reply your messages on time is because u left him speechless but on a more serious note u need to let him know how u feel. You are either together or not together there is no in between
And stop playing hard to get you said he already asked u out once what else do u want

In case there's another opportunity I'm interested please ☺️. I'm a user interface designer but I'm available for any other opportunity.

dingbang:

bLacKGoLd3:



Why didn't you go to the Father to let him know you had something with his daughter and would be looking to take her out from time to time?

Heck! Why not even man up, so that you can take the place of her parents and have her by your side, as she was with her parents?

If anyone's a kid here, it certainly wasn't the girl who was still under her parents roof and rules, but still tried to squeeze out some time for you.

this here!!!

Enjoy the ride sister Yoruba men are sweet...let's hope his intentions are pure because "scum" is not gender or tribe specific.

Are you looking for a life partner or a trophy wife? Because beauty is not all that abeg. Think about all the values she added to u over the years if u don't feel blessed please let her go! Don't even think about leading her on and trying to find a replacement in the process because even God won't forgive u.

Evangkatsoulis:

If his parents made a different choice wouldn't have existed in the first place.
The only way he would have existed is if he were SS.
Unless you think his existing isn't a good thing in the first place.

what's good about his existence? Caused his parents pain, his friends and even he himself went through alot of pain throughout his short life (he was always sick). Not to sound insensitive but it would have saved everybody the stress if they didn't birth him....

My junior brother lost one of his good friend to sickle cell crisis....a very nice boy with promising future. Maybe his death could have been avoided if his parents made a different choice. Trust me the love u feel now won't be all that when "push comes to shove". may God give you the strength to move on.

A woman that will love u wholeheartedly will love you irrespective of how much effort u put in getting her.....it is left to you to keep being the person she fell in love with.

Thank God for sense sis ....it's a cold world out there a God fearing man is very important.

Just when you think it will get better a new coven of misogynist spring up on Nl daily....everyday women this women that shey u no dy tire ni? Mr poster if u think because a woman doesn't have a formal education then she can't flex her ability in full...lmao I'm here to tell you that you are on a long thing. If you want a wife because u want to control her please just marry a dummy don't come and stress someone's daughter.

pocohantas:


I don't support sexual harrassment of any form, but you don't follow a guy to his house and spend the night if you are not planning to have sex. What were you expecting you both to do all night? Bible study?

You say he was so nice to you? Probably buying you isi ewu and Heineken- you were gulping it down. You didn't know you will pay back?

Watch how you sleep in guys houses and chop their money. There is no free lunch, even in free town.

Sorry about your experience.

sis!

dview001:


Are you not a student of unilorin?

lol alumna please

dview001:


So this girl is a unilorite

what's a "unilorite"

SoloQuine:
Which University do you study?

why are u asking?

Trimque2k1:

na this kind thing dey sweet una

lol

lexy2014:


I have no idea whAt u talking about. U can't talk because u have absolutely nothing to say. I said feel free to marry 3 different men,u have my support. Now u are saying something completely unrelated to my comment

I can see that getting married to 3 different men is the norms where u are from. And Ur initial comment is totally unnecessary and there is no sense in it. I said society blame women most of the time for marriage failure u are here shouting "marry 3 different men" up and down. And for u to keep telling me to marry 3 different men means I'm right because your aim was to shut me up with it. Uncle move along abeg.

Lonelypacifist6:
As if they don't say the same to Divorced men.

my point is that no one should be blamed totally for fall out in a relationship or marriage.There are two adults involved and it's on both of them.

lexy2014:


Which bandwagon? U have my full support when u are ready to get married to 3 different men. Abi u marry again?

there is no point in talking much since u strongly believe it's a woman's fault when a marriage fails.

lexy2014:


Feel free to marry 3 different times. U have my full support

lookat a member of the bandwagon well I don't have anything to say to you.

imiski:
This country Nigeria is unfair to women. If it was a woman getting married for even the second time, she would be labeled as a LovePeddler with bad character that can't keep a man.

they are going to come for u lol...but it's liberating to see a guy think like this. The society is really unfair to women.

SIR0:
IMAGINE!
If a lady can stay with me through thick & thin, forget, nothing would make me abandon her except marital unfaithfulness. Even if she's an illiterate, she's worth all the love.

Call her any names you want,

I would rather choose Jonathan's marital life over Buhari's

Some mentality like OP's may only get a lady out of poverty but may not get her a blessed marital life

thank u for this because no one deserves to be treated like that. It's a relationship anyway so I see no reason why the man can't advice his partner if he feels she is not working hard enough.....I hope op is happy now as she succeeded in putting other females down. I can't even be mad the write up isn't hers sef.

Badb0y4lyf:


Lol I’m not your regular Nairaland guy and I’m sure you haven’t even grown breast when I registered on here also I have been outside of the country dated whites and even blacks from other countries in Africa, the so call rich girls in Nigeria still looks for richer guys so what’s your point Nigerian girl are hungry and opportunist even my sister and mom is so deal with it

okay then my regards to your mom and sis.

movingclouds:

What I dislike most is people stereotyping things... I think truly there are too many girls who fall into that blame, but not all girls are like that.. I haven't been lucky to meet one that's different, but I can't stop doubt the fact that some girls are totally and wonderfully different

honestly I'm tired of that narrative and I'm glad that you know girls are not the same. In all honesty nobody can force u to do whatever u don't want to do and the fact that op went as far as giving her t fare explains that he knows what he is getting into...I wasnt even trying to justify her actions all I'm saying is that he gave her willingly and he should learn to say NO next time if it's to his detriment.