My aunty's inlaws were offended when she called her husband by her first name because they said that she was not showing him respect.

I felt as though they were even more offended because they thought that at least when they were around, she should pretend and not call him by his first name as she normally does.

I get the impression that 'respect' is required more of women than men in that sense.

I may be wrong.

I think it is funny that what husband and wife call one another, in some families, depends on their mood.

Thanks for your responses.

I remember being younger and never hearing my mother and father calling one another by their first names. But an Aunty of mine calls her husband by his first name which offended his parents.

What do your parents call one another in front of you/family members/in private with one another?

Sweet names or Mama, /Baba, /Darling etc?

Malaika,

Thanks for your reply. Apart from the overprotectiveness, did your parents spoil you? On a day to day basis, when cousins etc are not around, who did u hang out with as a kid? I have 4 other siblings so was never short of someone to speak to and we did not mix much with other kids in the area when i was a kid.

Was it ever discussed, by others, the fact that u were/are an only child?

Thank you for all your replies so far. The search for an only child continues.

I was the middle of 5 children. I think i value quiet more as a result of it.

Please keep the replies coming.

Thanks

I was asking my siblings a while ago whether they knew any Nigerians who were only children and together we could only come up with one. I know that in the West, generally, there appears to be no great pressure to populate the earth but children appear to be very important to Nigerians.

Could you share your experiences of being an only child? Did your parents get any pressure to have more children? Did you ever feel lonely as an only child? Were you more pampered because you were an only child? etc.

Thank you for sharing.

ms ripley

Les pays d'Afrique ne sont pas dangereux. Mais il faut pas prendre des risques non pas. J'ai passée pres de deux ans en France et j'ai pas toujours senti en securité surtout quand je vivais a Grenoble. Il faut prendre des précautions que tu prendrais dans n'importe quel pays.

C'est tres util de visiter des Nigeria si tu connais quelq'un la-bas du point de vue de savoir comment te debrouiller quand tu seras la. Mais si tu connais personne il va falloir te renseigner un peu plus.

J'ai passée six ans au Nigeria jusqu'a l'age de neuf ans quand j'étais jeune. Maintenant je vis en Angleterre. J'ai pris 15 ans avant de retourner au Nigeria et j'étais un peu apprehensive mais j'ai eu une tres bonne experience et vecue pas mal des choses.

Il y a aussi des sites touristiques comme Olumo Rock en Abeokuta et Erin-Ijesha Waterfalls dans le sud. Moi, je connais seulement le sud. Pour en voir plus:

http://www.caboose.org.uk/archives/2005/08/06/osun-festival/

J'espere que tu puisse trouver d'autres personnes ici pour t'aider a mieux connaitre le Nigeria.

Hi All.

Stumbled upon this forum and think it is great. I am trying to start a new post and tried the advice posted above but the new topic button does not appear anywhere on the page. Please help.

Thanks

Dites nous un peu plus sur toi-meme s'il vous plait. Pourquoi l'interet en Nigeria?