nazzyon, u sound as if u don t know some people want to move money from country to country without leaving any trace. That's the meaning of Money Laundering ie money cleaning. So he knows about your mastercard before opting for this option. He aint no fool.

mamajama,yes, it is money laundering and it is a crime. Nobody is supporting or condoning crime in any shape. Point is, I think he's just a courier and definitely had done it before.

Well, my friend plays around. it was just service year fun for him while it lasted

Ofcourse I will leave her. I know I am not childish just that I cant handle it beyond boyfriend/ girlfriend stuff. I didnt plan to go out with her. It just happened remember.

I think this guy was just using his postion and diplomatic immunity to offer service maybe to some drug baron or politician. He's just a conduit looking forward to a 10% service fee for a job well done before it all went awry. Dont call him mugu for he had tested waters before. This just went wrong.

I speak from experience. I have a girl I love and would want to marry. She loves me also. Thing is, my friend went out with her first during our youth service years. This friend then was also talking about things he did with the girl with the boys. I shagged her like this and like that kind of stuff. Now after service year,I ran into her at Abuja and we became good friends and lovers. She has a very good job and is drop-dead gorgeous.  She is hoping that we will get married but thing is, I can't. She is everything I want but each time I close  my eyes, I remember everything my friend said he did with her. Note, they were actually living together then. Funny enough, we don't discuss service year for obvious reasons. I'm uncomfortable with that. I'm still very much close to my friend, her former boyfriend. Most ladies might  think it is not a problem. Let me tell you it's a huge problem for 90% of the guys. Initially, we all pretend as if we can handle it but the truth is we can't. Understand, I didnt know things will get to the level they are now. She is a nice girl but I can't marry her maybe with her former boy friend being our best man.

Oby, I agree with you. It is a syndrome called Napoleon syndrome after Napoleon Bonaparte, he was brief and surrouded himself with grandiose things so that he will not be reminded of his height. Fortunately or unfortunately, most short men dont like short women, fact. ekpele.

Kike001, when you say he is not going to be that short. what do u mean? numeric values pls. How far can you go in numbers compared to yours?

Some guys have hit the point. These days we are all agressive in what we want and that's not bad. Somewhat I agree with hot-angel, marrying sb because he is rich is not bad. Call it  materialism or whatever. Try hard to paint it in a bad light by comparing it with what some guy called "virtue" that doesnt make it bad. However, if you marry one because of riches be ready to give 100% genuine love just as u would if one is tall, handsome or a good singer. Any thing short of this, is "cheating". But, if I was stupendously rich, as a guy I wouldnt marry a nobody. You must have sth to offer. U going to have to bring sth to the table or how many movie stars are marrying a no-body? 1 in a million I gues.  I aint going to marry sb who is bringing only love to the table if I was that rich, that's how aggressive I am. If u love me that much and have nothing to offer aside "love" be ready to be my mistress. That's my point. Love has got 10 eyes these days.

Prof

Some guys have hit the point. These days we are all agressive in what we want and that's not bad. Somewhat I agree with hot-angel, marrying sb cos he is rich is not bad. Call it  materialism or whatever. Try hard to paint it in a bad light by comparing it with what some guy called "virtue" that does make it bad. However, if you marry one cos of riches be ready to give 100% genuine love just as u would if one is tall, handsome or a good singer. Any thing short of this, is "cheating". But, if I was stupendously rich, as a guy I wouldnt marry a nobody. You must have sth to offer. U gonna have to bring sth to the table or how many movie stars are marrying a no-body? 1 in a million I gues.  I aint gonna marry sb who is bringing only love to the table if I was that rich, that's how aggressive I am. If u love me that much and have nothing to offer aside "love" be ready to be my mistress. That's my point. Love has got 10 eyes these days.

Prof

Apologies if i'm off-topic. I have neither the time nor patience to read all the thread before saying sth. Why is it that whenever a house-help or a gutter person is being married, it is the man not the woman (mostly) going for the house-help? I skimmed through some of the replies, and most female respondent didnt see anything wrong with that. Reverse positions and your guess is as good as mine. My take is that the story of cinderella is meant for kingdergaton kids not for a mature and analytical mind. I hear ppl talk about love. Who loves who? And why? Then again, if having a househelp as a wife will make you happy go for it. I'm not against it just thinking aloud!

Prof.

These days, we are all aggressive about what we want. And it is not any different with women. Guys want trophy gfs, wives and so on. Now, the question is, how many ladies here can genuinely love and marry a man shorter than they are. I am not saying short ppl are not to be married. Just that, ladies these days want  tall muscular guys as  husbands. What happens to the not-so tall and muscular guys? The word "taller "means you are about 4 inches (and above) taller on bare feet not some high-heel induced height. Honest replies pls.

Naijaprof

This is primarily directed to Nigerians that are either currently living or previously lived overseas. Yes, we all know that there are bad Nigerians just like there are bad Americans. Nigeria as a country has be getting a lot of bad press over advance fee fraud and internet scam. For sure these things are real. A small percentage of Nigerians both at home and abroad  thrive in these ugly activities. Thing is, no hardworking Nigerian condones crime in any form or shape. Personally I do not. Innocent Nigerians always do receive unfair treatments because of the activities of a few other Nigerians. I  for one find it always frustrating trying to, say, make a payment online on a website and then seeing on the  same website a notice  mostly in upper case letters that credit cards with  Nigerian billing addresses are not accepted. An example is the ETS website for online payment of GRE tests. Of all the countries in the world, one country is singled out for this kind of treatment . Whether this is fair or not considering that crime is not a native of any one country is a matter for another day.

I dont know if any of you have noticed that whenever a group of Africans are together discussing Africa and African issues particularly in the UK and US, they always start and end their talks on Nigeria. I can bet you that it is all about negativities emanating from the country that stinks to high heavens. I do not have an issue with anybody discussing what. But when people throw things at your face and go on to be sarcastic about happenings in Nigeria, I find that rude. Yes, I am not proud of that aspect of things in Nigeria but you can bet on your life that I am a proud and smart Nigerian flying the flag high. I find it rather uncharitable and sometimes uncomfortable that other African brothers and sisters always pass unsavory and derogatory remarks about our great country. Is that how they see us all? Such blanket labeling of every Nigerian as a rogue is entirely unfair. I always advance that we are a country of 140/150 million. And that the percentage of Nigerians indulging in these activities is inconsequential because of this. You wouldn't be surprised that the percentage is lower when juxtaposed with that of most other African countries. It is just that we are too many. Just as there are  loads of Nigerians doing exceptionally well in their chosen fields of endeavor there is this other tiny minority doing despicable things wittingly or unwittingly.

Please I wanna know how some of you handled or intend to handle situations where  issues on Nigeria came up in social gatherings particularly negative ones. Did you just keep quiet, defend your country without necessarily condoning with crime or do the "unpatriotic" thing of condenming your beloved country which could seem an easy thing to do in the face of it all. Do not get me wrong some non-Nigerians are very objective and constructive in their criticisms. They just deal with the issues. But some do not. Is it that they do not know how to talk without making anyone uncomfortable?

Honestly, I am beginning to avoid African social gatherings because of this. I hope it is not just me being too sensitive. Or what do you guys think. Share your views all this one. Why do they hate us? 

Prof.

Does being a Professor mean you can jump into anything and immediately know it?  You punkass! Read what i said, I aint got time to waste tryin to figure out sth that should have been made very obvious from the outset. That's what the site is all about! Starting new threads and posting replies. More user-friendly that's what I was hittin at. Not who I am. I can be Thomas Hobbes or whatever. You get me!

Prof.

This site is far from being friendly. Sth as common as starting a thread is a huge task. Seun or who ever should make it easier for people especially new lads in the block to post. Nobody's got all the time to waste tryin to figure out how to start a thread. Before you guys start, I know I am off topic here! Just frustrated trying to post a new topic.

Prof.

Thanks

Pls I will appreciate it if sb show me how to start a thread.