the truth is sometimes bitter. Women with attitudes like yours are DEFINITELY the type you don't want to ruin your life by taking to the altar. That you WILL end up a slob if you ever cross the marriage barrier is without question.

Instead of you to answer the question I drew from your premise, you  are busy picking a quarell with the gorgeous one this sunday morning. I need answers plz cos you should've known by now that I've grown a thick sklin for your types. What is it this morning? Hot and nowhere to stick it in? try vaseline abeg.

@ NEEDLE LADY
How did you come up with the 90%?

From the Nigerian dept of statistics and sarcasm.

By Cyclone5,
In a world where there are more women than men?!

Do you have any proof of the above statement because i see more men in Naija walking the streets broke with a hard winnie than chics. If men can come around surplus pussy like that, why are they busy chasing other man's nyash? The law of demand and supply here is flawed if you ask me. Yeye!!!!!!!

By cadet,
Baby, you can be anything, as long as you know you'll be castrated too. You still don't get it do you? Lady, you can even grow egusi balls, as long as you know whatever you give, it'll be given back twicefold!

What is the meaning of twicefold? Is it english or latin?

By 4Him,
Stop shouting. Before you blame married men for cheating please look inwards. Nigerian women don't believe in making an attempt to look good the minute they are married.

So you are saying that married Nigerian women in nairaland became slobs after marriage, right?

Its not easy to see your luscious secretary everyday at work when your own wife has transformed overnight into an overweight, nagging madam.

That is why you are not an animal. Human beings should have control. Next please,

A good percentage of Nigerian men don't cheat, that you've been unfortunate to be surrounded by serial cheaters is not my fault.

Good percentage sounds fair to me afterall, 10% is still good, abi?

I can boldly declare that ALL the men in my family are committed and faithful to their wives, many of them running close to 20-30 years now.

Whatever! Because you follow them around or you are God that sees all and discovered they don't sleep around. How many married men can even accept they sleep with ashawo unless they are busted. I hope they'll start the TV cop programme in Naija where they bust men that solicit prostitution and you'll see whether some of your friends will not be caught. Speak for yourself abeg, some men can even sleep with animals here. Bestiality didn't come up in the dictionary out of mere imagination.

Am here to watch, Needelelady, just be ready to get castrated too. But then, this is the net, you no get power to

I'll first of all grow amala balls before qualifying for your neutering. I rather remain a pussy than a he goat.

HOTFUNMIFIRE I dey hail oooo

Me too honey, Iyawo nko?

Some people has different perspectives of how long to take in a relationship far from what I believe in!

Everybody cannot share the same ideology with you, that's life. Some women even bless their new man the first night while some will hold tight to the treasure until he says I do. One thing is clear, never let a man sleep with you unless you really need that sex or he's walked you to the altar. Sex is a female weapon over men, we own it, control it, and disburse it at will. Even if you are married, you can still put your husband on sex time out if he misbehaves.

come needle lady,i bind that spirit in u,that spirit that makes u open up threads that makes people quarell in it

No spirit involved miss. It's a direct testimony that men can go any lenght to suppress any woman that threatens their cesspool of corruption and power.Inglorious bastards!


I'll make sure I castrate 4Him, 4Farts(uch2nna)  and  4Play in no distant time. They are the greatest  chauvisnist pigs I've ever seen.

Yes O, All men can't be 4Him or 4Play. . .there are some who are 4Real

Yes oh; OziomaTv, Sly, Pataki etc are for real but all these 4Him, 4Play, 4sex,4nyash etc are really fake ass men.

By uch2nna,
Is he from mars? Cos u make it sound like men fro planet earth are all assholes

He's the knight of my shining armour and  gorgeous Funmi is God's blessing to men. No, not all men are assholes, some are good while a large proportion are punks.

By laisefaire,
I guess if you werent self-proclaimed independent, you will find a guy who you can truly depend on.

What do you mean by dependence? I depend on my boo for emotional needs but not financial, likewise, he's not a moocher because I won't harbour one. Hello?

@pointylady
Your statistics is just too low!! 90% men cheat? add another 8 abeg!

Naah, there are still real men out there. Every man cannot be 4Him or 4Play.

@ Needlelady
I think it would be a cold day in hell before u have anything good to say about men

Wait until I post the poems I wrote for my boo.

I cannot understand what the problem is.  If you don't want to have sex why in Gods name would you date a guy and not let him know that from the get go?

There is someone for everyone whatever you choose ,choose well,  

Must sex be part of dating? I think tradition only allows us to consumate marriage and not dating.

@Needlelady

I disagreed with you like as @4Him has said it all! You picked WRONG NIGERIAN GUYS who are SEX-MANIC and moochers!!! Sad for you not know THE DIFFERENCE!

I didn't pick anybody. He knows he's lying because all these sugar daddies that troll our campuses in Naija  looking for  young defenceless females to  prey on did not come from Ghana.

I honestly have never met "these nigerian men" you talk about. Those i know are faithful committed men willing to make sacrifices for their wives.
Men will look outside not because they can't get enough sex but because the woman inside is failing in her duty to keep the marriage well oiled.\

Either you are purposely denying the obvious truth or you passed through the Nigerian society without the society passing through you. I expected to to at least know a little because it's mostly women (young women) that can attest to this your hilarious claim. 90% of Nigerian married men cheat, 1/2 of the remaining 10% do not cheat b/c they can't afford it and not b/c it's morally wrong and your response can only hold water if and only if you hang out with the remaining 5%.

Just to reiterate, marriage is more than sex. Very important - if the girl doesnt stimulate you sexually then no point dating her, but you're still willing to wait as long as she wants before you broach the issue of sex.  

I agree, if only those men can also agree with you.

I think needlelady has serious problems with relationships.

Do you have to be naughty this sunday morning? You've suggested I'm lesbian, I got  emotional issues, no man, broke etc. What else can you suggest? i'm a transexual? I think I occupy your mind always and fulfil your luscious fantasy. It's allowed but in moderation because soaps can be  expensive now.  I think it's time for another trip to the bathroom, hommie, bearing in mind that Funmi is in her bathrobe. Dreamer!

Can you guys desist from speaking vernacular abeg so we can know when y'all are planning a coup?

Celibacy Is The Way! It's Working For Me!

Do your thing girl, that's the safest way to live now. Don't ever trust them men even your husband.

There are MANY PROVERBS 31 MEN out there humbly to seek for wives!

Can you get a handful even in this nairaland? No. Men will be men.

That is why most men walk away look for matured experienced woman who understand male perspective without criticizing or judging them. NO DRAMA, NO MATERISTIC, NO GOLD DIGGERS!

I disagree,  most Nigerian men are not interested in your perspective, they are only interested in how fresh your body is and how they can insert their winnie  in your  slot machine , that's why they waste their years chasing college girls when their dutiful wife is at home putting their lives together. They only think of perspective when thy need a wife(whome they'll eventually abandon sexless at home while chasing honey bunnies in the universities and high schools) pathetic!

Urhhhh!. . . .I will never in ma life. . . .beg for sex
What for? . . . . .besides, there are many fishes in the ocean. . . .(Ti omo dudu ba ko mi . . .Ma ya fi pupa ropo) Means if i get dumped by a black chick. . . .I'm sure u can finish the rest. . as omo ijesha). . . .its as simple as that.

Wouldn't it be better to ask her why she did that instead of walking away? That means that you view her as your  sex object and not your better half.

By Anduai,
You have to be careful. Guys have needs, they really do. Some guys want sex once a week while some will not need it till thy kingdom come. we are made differently. Must unmarried guys in their early 2oties need sex often. if u don't want to loose this guy why not ask him what his needs are. Good luck

Women are always careful while asking that question because men always have needs and 80% of the time it's sex. Haba, can't men take their minds off sex for once and communicate? I enjoy communication more than sex in a relationship.

Talking from experience. . . . .

Yep and most women I know. Women derive a special joy from watching great men on their knees begging for kitten.

As long as i can wait,it may be years days months whenever

You are saying as long as you can hold yourself(irrespective of how he feels). Isn't this a proof that men has no control over sex?

Are you saying I've to mastubate if my state of randy fall in the days of no sex?

Suppress it, that's why Goid created you in His own image and likeness but created animals differently.

Hmmmmmmm! Need i remind you that this is not mandela. . .
OK what if she gives it up herself in like 2 to 3weeks without me asking for it?

Dream on, no woman will do that.

Sex is sweeeeet! . . . .you know it. . .  . . . . . .I know it. .  . . . . We all know it. .  
2years is a long thing. . . . way too long.

No amount of time is too long when you love someone. Winnie Mandela waited for 27 years without sex.

WHY IS IT THAT LADIES OPEN MORE THREADS AND ASK MORE QUESTIONS ABOUT SEX THAN MALES

Because guys jump into sex just to thrill themselves but women do not jump into sex, they crawl towards it, view it from every angle, ask questions before tampering with it.  You wonder why guys always die on top of a woman or go to jail over sex.

Are you oblivious to the fact that sex is sweet? 

I know, including cake, ice cream, wine, poems, music but women cannot follow those things to the grave no matter how sweet they are like guys do for sex.

It is not unreasonable to ask a guy to wait for two years but[b] it is unreasonable to ask a guy not to have sex for two years[/b].

Why? what is commitment? Can't you stay off sex for even 5 years if yur girl/wife is separated from you by either distance or iron gates?

Lmao!!!

Guys agreeing to sex timetable from ladies.

Orisirisi, I keep reading.

Lol, una get choice before? I keep asking myself why guys can't say no sometimes, is it that sweet that they can't resist it?