Well, I will definitely disregard your comment. It was my fault that I disclose my previous problems and some of u guys can't understand or reason if you're not in the person's shoes. Hence, I will disregard any other documents from anybody. I don't care if you re-quote my message, I shall call upon my God before I asked humans for help.

The problem is SOLVED, i do not need your contributions anymore. Thanks to people that have given valuable/mature/scriptural contributions to the thread, God will always remember you whenever you call upon him.

Shallom
Nellydamz

@Magz-I'm BAFFLED! I actually don't know what to write back to your comment. If you want to comment, it's nice to be constructive rather than being rude and you're the one that was judgemental. It is well!

I'd like to see you get married to a girl when you think you're not fully ready yet in every way. SEX should not be the only reason of getting married.

Suggestions from you should be disregard.

Shallom

@ tasty, that's not very nice. I'm very sure that he is not giving it to someone else.

@Sparta, he's completing his masters and i'm in final year of undergrad. so we don't want to get married yet, there's no point in rushing to marriage only because of sex urges. As u mentioned about money, we have to be financially ready, first & foremost spiritually,amogst others.

God has been doing wonders in our relationship. There are better things to do than to have sex. we are still both focusing on our courtship for now.

Thank you for the valuable contribution. We are still going strong and improving, we haven't had sex by God's grace.

I never @Superboi. We have stopped going to each other's place. We meet in an open place and God is helping us.

Thanks kolopin for your post, very encouraging.

Thanks Sery.

To people that i've contributed positively to this post. God will continue to bless u all and also he will send divine help concerning your situation

Thank you very much for your comments. Appreciate it! Keep it coming

@Uche. PLS HELP HELP!!
I NEED HELP FROM EVERYONE
what's with the emotion? I'm guessing, ur trying to tell me that he shouldn't have done what he did with me, right? (d msg that u highlighted in bold)

Keep the suggestions/opinion coming. I'm very grateful.

We did set rules about not sleeping over n visit should not exceed past 10pm , however, we broke it. God spoke through both of us during intense prayer that we have to stop going to each others places till we r mature enough to understand why God wants relationship to be holy.

About saying my man is a hypocrite, i don't know about that.  He used to touch me and that was because he wanted me to learn to say no, which i did tried hard n he scored me 6/10 anyways i gave him the opportunity to do stuff with me which he didnt want to do but he did it bcuz he loves me n he thinks i will go for an outsider.  so my guy not trusting me is that,  he thinks that  if another guy is trying , with me, i will find it hard to say 'no'. But i know that i will say no to other guys.

What am i so vulnerable? is it because i've had sex before? isn't it better for me to have someone like my boyfriend that cares a lot, virgin n he's ready to help whenever i'm ready.? he wants me to decide on my own bt he's ready to help.

anyways i will take some of your advise on board and I know that God will continue to help me overcome my biggest fear. I will sure put satan to shame

* He did say that we will get marry in few years bt i don't want us to rush into anything.

Hi people, it’s been ages that I have been on this site. I have a terrible problem that is affecting myself and my true love. We’ve been dating for quite a while and we are both Christians that serve in the church fervently. The pastor knows about our relationship. Anyways, to cut the story short, I’m not a virgin any more due to foolishness in my past.

My man is a virgin but I’m leading him astray by kissing him all the time and last night I slept over his house and we nearly had sex and he said he doesn’t want to and he doesn’t really respect me any more and he doesn’t trust me with other guys . He also said he won’t propose to me until I stopped all my sexual desires act. A man of God has already told me that if one partner is not a virgin, it will be difficult as d non-virgin might lead d other one astray and I do not want that to be portion. I want to abstain in any formal of sexual sins be ye kissing, u name it all. But I need help!

Helpful Nairaland members! I need help, how can I renew my mind and also to stop enforcing my sexual desires unto my man if not I will loose him which I don’t really want to. I’ve already told him that I do not want to lead him astray and he’s better for him to break up with me because if I’m not in a relationship, I wouldn’t do anything.
Your suggestions are welcome! Even if it is to stop visiting him for a couple of month, I wouldn’t mind.