we've been goin out 4 a little over 3 yrs now and everything is really fine
for some reason he wnts 2 cum 2 d same uni as me and him being him would definitely wnt 4 us 2 stay together

wht do u guys think?

Even if you move in with him, it is always good to have a place of your own no matter how small. Just as a back up . for some time. specially if you are still in school

thnx

moving in with him is not a crime but i tell you that it will definately cause over familiarity between both parties, which might make him loose the much adored respect he has for you. Should believe you are still courting or going out  whatever, So Do look well before leaping, think of the future because courting don't equals marriage. Any thing can happen!

gen87,

Don't move in with him yet. I don't think you guys are ready for that at this point in
your relationship.

1 more reason why he should not marry you! Why should he bother with marrying you when he already enjoys the benefits of marriage for free?
Very soon he'd be bored and looking out for someone else to fulfil another fantasy of his. More than 50% of live-in couples in the US end up breaking up, a word is enough for the wise!

unless u ppl are beyond poor, dont move in with him oh

see them and their mouth like dont move in with him. move in if u trust him.

No try am or ,

Sounds like a good idea but i wouldn't advice you to do that, you people should have places of your own. it makes the relationship more fun.
Being able to visit him and him visit you, i'm not just looking at it from the fun aspect but it might cause some problems you wouldn't expect.

my dear,
thats not a good thing to do at this stage of your life.as someone earlier said,he will surely dump you or at hte most,wont marry you.he cant stay with you for years while in university and marry you.he will turn u into a sex machine and dump u

Its not every boyfriend you have that you are going to mary any way.
Thats why its also good to have a place of your own like i said b4 as a back up.
If staying together dose not work out , then they were not meant for each other.
All of you that assume the man /boy will dump her.
Think about this, she may be the one to dump him on getting to know him better.

mamaput,i agree with you.

If Gem Is Nigerian as i assume she has to reckon that her people will come and visit.
Parents are not fools, they know that their children , drink smoke and have sex, but kids do not have to rub it in.
A small place of your own is good to receive family members.
It is possible that even the little sister may want to come and stay.
An not saying hide it only do not rub it in.
Its good to have a place of your own .
At such a young age do not play the permant wife .
Take time out for your girlfriends and when they stay over than at your place.
Or when exams are round the corner.
You can spend as much time with him as you want but once in a while go to your own place.
So that he will also do things for him self.
Not that you will end up even washinghis clothes

gem87, i beg you in the name of God,dont move in with him.i am a guy and i know what all this is about.please.if you have your house,he could come see u anytime but staying with a man you are not married to is not advisable. i am sure your parents wont be happy to hear that.protect your integerity for God's sake.i wish you the best

@gem87
[b]i have given my own opinion an would add;  Ask yourself this question "a you ready for this challenge & its future outcome" if yes. Let your heart lead you. Wish you .[/b]Aja to ba fe sonu ko ni gbo fere olode

it is not african for a girl to move in with her boyfriend,because the boy will disregard u and one day he will definitely throw u out,that will be a big blow and great shame to u. so as an advice to young girls out there dont move in with your boyfriend.cheers catch ya

But its okey to sleep with him and go home that same day?
Its okey to have sex everyday as long as you go home.?
I know people that have got married. people that knew themselves through secondary school and university.
If he says he no want later then he will only use it as an excuse.
What i know its in very rare cases that people marry their childhood friends and the university will open a door to a whole new world.Both of them will meet different people of different races and different outlooks.
So lets not go so far as to think about marrage?

mama put!!! at 42 u shouldn't be advising d girl to even move in at all. na so you go advise your own pikin!!!!!!!!!!!?

Ho yes i will .
Better than running off with sugar daddy or fucking around.

Please lets not fool our selves we all know what campus life is all about.
Infact i will even sleep better at night knowing that my daughter is in good hands and the boy is taking care of her.
But thats me.
My daughter has had a boyfriend and she travelled with him for 3 weeks to Montenegro.
Even when his Mother Travelled she moved in with him for a month to help him out because he cannot cook etc etc.
They are no longer together but it has nothing to do with them living together.
But she has learned through the experience what she will take from a man and what not.
She knows today she will never be with a man that cannot cook or clean.
And she knows that asny man she gose out with has to respect her at least the way he respected her.And took care of her (And by that i do not mean money wise)

@mamaput
please! you are from which tribe mamaput

You did not answer my question so why should i answer yours.

mamaput,i trip ooooooo!haba!which kind example you wan leave for young people on this site,dey fear GOD o!

Women should know the man they are /want to marry better.
Be4 a dream becomes a nightmare.And there is no way out.
They are having sex already . So the time of the day dose not matter .
Even today better MY DAUGHTER sleeps in her boyfriends house than come home on her own in the middle of the night.

Its either a yes or a no _{To SEX} and anyone that says yes to sex should not pretend as if there is a more Moral way of having it.
Why give a fake advise just for (What sake).
Nigerians have always been good at pretending.
Some daughters bring home there sugardaddy goods and the parents act as if the believe the stupid story the daughter tells them were she had the goods from.

Someparents send there kids back to school with so little pocket money and fool them selves their daughters are managing that little money .
But when its slapped in their face they will shout the loudest and point the longest fingers.

[size=16pt]NO NO NO NO PLS DON'T[/size] do this wrong move

my advise 4 u is dat u guys shld brake up till u finish from the university becos its bad enough dat both of u re goin to d same higher institution and u still want to stay 2gether before both of u know u will be sworn enemies 4 ever, so in a nutshell babe DONT EVEN TINK ABOUT IT.

Sex  outside marriage is frowned at in every society.
From a christain point of view, it is a sin. Living together before marriage is "self abuse".
My sincere advice to you is to avoid it.
There is nothing good waiting for both of you at the other end of the tunnel.

mamaput:

You did not answer my question so why should i answer yours.

[b]there exist no questions in your post , she dont have to sleep with sugar daddies of course & i dont tink she mentioned that .[/b]Its a simple case.

This is one topic that has really drawn reasonable contributions from fellow nairalanders