Playing hard to get:does it determine the level of respect you get in the relationship or does it just slow things down.I see it as a period you get to study the person you want to get involved with but some call it pretence.What do you think

There is no point playing hard. Besides, it can never be described as a period to study whoever you want to date, afterall, you could still study someone in the course of dating. To me, playing hard is as good as saying "ì don't like''. But these days it is expected that you should be able to say what you want and stop the rigmarole. Follow the dictates of your mind and act fast.

there is a difference between playing hard to get and studying someone. i think playing hard to get is just so unnecessary and at the end you still say yes to the guy. if you do not like a guy tell him straight, that there is no opportunity for him, than turning him around and at the end you still accept his request.it makes no sense at all.

not this age. do that and guys will run away from u.

All the replies are right in their own way, but all individuals are different.

I've heard some guys say they lost interest in the girl because she gave in too easily, some will say "na wa, all this trouble for one girl", at the end of the day girls are tired because you don't know what the "real deal" is

I guess if they're meant to be then no matter what tactic the girl chooses to use, the guy will hold up for it and love it. I know my cousin once said, that even though he's more attracted to girls doing some shakara at the beginning, the girl he was dating at the time didn't but he still loved her more than any before

Every method carry a 50:50 chance, so i'll say : just go with the flow

For the records though, some girls do not play hard to get because they want to, in some cases the girl actually do not want the guy but his persistance makes her fall head over heels

The harder a girl is to get, the more valuable because of the time and resources already exhausted in getting her. The cheaper she is, the easier it is to maltreat and dump her. Afterall, she wasn't that HARD 2 GET.


So YES, I think it is necessary.

If you spend so much time and money trying to get something and it turns out to be worthless, won't you discard it?

@thoniaslim,honey i think u r absolutely right,i admire ur concept and sense of understanding, Honestly speaking 2 me,it's not necessary 4 a girl 2 delay wat she knew would definitely give up 4 oneday, atleast straight answer,portrays how matured and understanding u r!!!

Am i right or wrong?

kingkams:

The harder a girl is to get, the more valuable because of the time and resources already exhausted in getting her. The cheaper she is, the easier it is to maltreat and dump her. Afterall, she wasn't that HARD 2 GET.


So YES, I think it is necessary.

Yu r right in a way

hmmm

A friend once made a statement about the new gal in his life as at then,ahhh all my investments.she was going to stop seeing him for a while and he screamed as if his life savings was going down the drain.can you beat that,investment!chics seem to be in trouble,when you take your time then you're forming but when you let the feelings flow,you're cheap

Hard to get ----- and eventually gotten--- prolonging d inevitable ---heard some guys like it (cos she wont seem easy to get---heard some guys like gurls who make dem struggle to get her) I guess its individualistic.

Personally, if i like a guy and hez toasting me, i'l just take some time to know him and then accept d offer if hez ok

Me too mohawk, Im loving your submission.
Well, I think its needless. From my personal experiences it turned out I dont appreciate a girl's playing hard to get but I also didnt realise that some fellows actually like it  
I dont just 'toast' someone Im not well into, so I appreciate it if the 'chase' is over as quickly as possible. Though I agree there are individual differences but girls, dont you just feel better saying things as they are?
When your relationship is built on forming/posing/hard-to-get, trust me, it becomes hard to break out of it when the r/ship gets underway cos you want to maintain your perceived character

Best thing is: Keep the communication lines open always & be yourself

when u are a teenager, a girl playing hard to get fires your testosterone levels and your interest lies mainly in the thrill of the chase.
When u're older, playing hard to get becomes an instant turn off especially when u realise the girl playing the game isnt worth the effort.

Seun:

If you spend so much time and money trying to get something and it turns out to be worthless, won't you discard it?

kingkams, over to you

theres every need to play hard 2 get because ,  a hunter that sees an antelope running towards him will surely run away. so it would only make sense for the hunter to work to get his prey!

Men are not hunters and women are not prey, so that analogy is nonsense. Let's drop it.
Relationships should be mutually beneficial. Both the man and the woman should invest into it equally.

i think it right 2 play, but when someone is goin 2 far, that when all those bullshit is not important anymore,

theres every need to play hard 2 get because , a hunter that sees an antelope running towards him will surely run away. so it would only make sense for the hunter to work to get his prey!

How can you compare someone you want to love, cherish and spend the rest or your life with to an antelope that you'll eat and then go look for another one plain stupid!

kokoye:

How can you compare someone you want to love, cherish and spend the rest or your life with[b] to an antelope that you'll eat [/b] and then go look for another one plain stupid!

roflmao

It's not really bad but you girl play it for too long and the guy in question gets frustrated and decides to go for another Girl who would say "YES" easily.

Am not talking for myself If I was in the position I would still stay with the girl and see if she would still say "YES", cause there is one thing I studied in ladies is that some say "NO" while they means "YES" so it depends on the guy. Patience is the key guys have Patience cause they say the patient dog eat the fatest bone.

playin hard to get in this day and age is such a bad idea, esp. when the girl likes the guy.
I think such a thin is for teens and should necessarily be so.

Guys just be on the look-out, when a lady woos you and she becomes a long thin babe when you come after, run and run like cracy cos it's just a game to her, she's probably using you to gain some social points and l bet she'll ensure that the whole thing is being watched by the people she's tryin to impress.

Every self-respectin guy should take note, if it becomes too much of a game l can bet my life it does'nt worth it!

yes it is

If he is not ready to work hard to get you, he is not worth the time and day.

Men want to eat their cake and have it.

To me it's sort of a test of commitment, to see if the guy/girl is serious about you and not after something else. Speaking from experience it's good to hold back a little at first, give in too easily and you can end up getting hurt. However, you shouldn't take it too far and make them feel like they havn't got a chance with you. If your interested tell them but you should also gaurd your heart (and your wallet) in case they aren't for you.  

genius33:

To me it's sort of a test of commitment, to see if the guy/girl is serious about you and not after something else. Speaking from experience it's good to hold back a little at first, give in too easily and you can end up getting hurt. However, you shouldn't take it too far and make them feel like they havn't got a chance with you. If your interested tell them but you should also gaurd your heart (and your wallet) in case they aren't for you.

FAUX!!!!!!

Whats the point in playing hard to get? Unserious geezers can hold out for 6 months and u think: Yes, this guy is for real whereas he is not!!!
Playing hard to get is a waste of valuable time required to bond. . . .
A gurl playing hard to get for me will definitely suffer in the course of the relationship cos i love getting EVEN.
I must take my pound of FLESH!!!!

Jackal:

FAUX!!!!!!

Whats the point in playing hard to get? Unserious geezers can hold out for 6 months and u think: Yes, this guy is for real whereas he is not!!!
Playing hard to get is a waste of valuable time required to bond. . . .
A girl playing hard to get for me will definitely suffer in the course of the relationship because i love getting EVEN.
I must take my pound of FLESH!!!!

I will get even too then

I suffer you suffer we suffer ooo

Doesn't mean they can't bond and gradually the other person let's their guard down, maybe I'm just biased, but as they say "once bitten, twice shy" .

but honestly i like it ,if not them men will end up calling d babes cheap

What else can a guy suffer after the initial graggs u women give?
Excuses like: Don't talk to me, i am not interested, don't call me after 10pm, don't call me on a sunday and reh reh reh.
It's ridiculous the kinda graggs n defensive schemes women use to cover their blushes.
I can understand when a woman does not like the geezer asking her out. . . . .but why feign lack of interest when u really really like someone?
Must women suffer in silence to test a guy's honesty?