Thank you guys for testifying to my claims.

Tajbol4splend:




If you talking about celebrities, you are off the hood

Are celebrities the only rich people around? Even young men that are not rich and share the mindset of not getting married are increasing in number on a steady

Please the mods should give this piece more publicity Lalasticlala Seun Ishilove Tosyne2much

Tajbol4splend:
Guys arent shying away from marriage, they look to be because they dont have the resources to manage family, barely would you see rich guy intended not to marry

that's not true and you can see from the rising number of guys that are rich but only want baby mamas because they don't see the need to get married since marriages are mainly for procreation and continuation of lineage and family name. Not all of this issue is about financial independence

It's now a trending issue that the young men of nowadays are now so afraid of commitment in relationships and are shying away from settling down into marriages and starting families of their own. Most of the reasons given are about financial capabilities. This is largely untrue because there are other equally important factors such as emotional and psychological maturity. Although financial maturity is given the most prominent focus in our society. Here is to address the male perspective of individual wants from each partner pertaining to relationships, commitment and building a family together.
Men desire women that can give them these 3 vibes - mother vibes, friend vibes and daughter vibes, without actually demanding for it either verbally or otherwise. It's just a natural instinct that man men don't even know they possess or exhibit.
Firstly, the mother vibes. It's a natural arrangement, in most family settings, that the male child gets attached to his mother and the female child gets attached to the father. And most male children evolve into men having this natural love and the urge to make their mothers happy, having realised the worth and sacrifices involved with motherhood, most especially with how the society paints the picture. So when a man wants to settle down, he needs and desires someone who will try and take over the mother figure in his life without actually asking for it. In most cases, a young man makes the decision about who he wants to get married to when he sees a homely young woman that does most duties he must have seen his mother do while growing up. These duties include cooking good foods, taking good care of the home, scolding when necessary and with love and more importantly, showing care and support for whatever hustle he chooses. Afterall, behind every successful man, there's always a supportive and caring woman. A young woman that posseses most or all of these warms his way into a man's heart more easily because apart from just doing these things for the man, he's rest assured that the same woman will raise his family for him just the way he wants it and feels right. These are the motherly vibes that men expect of women without actually having to ask or beg for it.
The friend vibes. Just as we know, as a person evolves into adulthood, we lose more friends than we make new ones, especially when a man and a woman settle down to start raising a family together as the family automatically becomes the main priority of both partners. A man desires a woman that would come into his life and take over some of the duties of his friends. These duties include being there with and for him when he is partaking in his favorite sports, his favorite outings, his business and hustle and every other little things friends do for one another. When a female indulges in sports that are majorly for men, she's accorded respect, and this can be seen when a woman follows her man to watch a football match at a viewing center. Men desire women that would come into their lives and not take away all their favorite activities which they enjoy doing with their guys. Men are not afraid of cutting out on the number of friends they have, they just want to know that their new best friend, who they are planning to spend the rest of their lives with, can enjoy the same things they enjoy doing with their "boys".
The daughter vibes. Let it be known that as soon as a boy evolves into a man, he's bestowed with the knowledge that being a man comes with a lot of responsibilities. And the most important responsibility of a man is to provide for his family. This, he has to start by taking care of his girlfriend and probable future wife. No man is actually afraid to spend on his woman, once he knows that this woman actually belongs to him alone. Our society dictates that a boy has to start fending for himself at an early age which would bring the maturity to understand that he has to be able to provide for his future family too, which starts from taking care of his girlfriend. But nowadays, men don't want liabilities anymore. They want to give where they are receiving.
Relationships of every form are about giving and receiving. Most people don't want to continue giving where they are not receiving. Our current society is filled with the mentality that the only things most of our ladies can give in a relationship is sex and this is very true to a believable extent. Funny enough, the female folk are the ones that need a man to put a ring on it and change their marital status and surname, and that's just the plain undiluted truth. It actually takes more than sex to hold down a man forever. Sex is now so cheap that it can be gotten almost anywhere. This just means that guys are now looking out for more from the female folk before they take the big step of commitment and settling down to start a family. The young men of nowadays desire these 3 aforementioned vibes from the lady they are planning to marry without having to ask for it because they could see these attributes in their own mothers. It's highly likely that most of our young women nowadays are not being instilled with these values as part of their transition into womanhood anymore like the days of our own mothers, but these are values that can be learnt, practised and adopted over time. I am of the opinion that a woman needs a man's respect more than his love if she is ever going to enjoy any form of union with him. It's highly likely for a man to cheat on a woman he loves because he feels he can love many at a time but it's very unlikely for a man to cheat on a woman he respects because his ego is involved in this. These discussed values go a long way in securing a man's heart and ultimately his respect. I honestly hope this article addresses this issue to a reasonable extent and there can be a change in our mindset as we move forward in our love and relationship lives. Thanks for reading.
My name is Olaoluwa Oyeniran, a Philosopher and Public Speaker. Contact details are 08137451122. Email address: laolord4ever@yahoo.com

Please the mods should give this post more publicity. It's one of the intelligent conversations that are really worthy of gracing Front-page on Nairaland.
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Please the mods should help me push this to front page where it gets more publicity. Thanks a lot.
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Seun

CHOICES
Our life is a total product of the chances we take and the choices we make --- Ola (2018)
Using what goes on in a boarding school as a perfect example: the usual chain of command and use of power by the senior ones over the junior ones and the strong preying on the weak, I believe that there can be a change to the narrative if everyone could be made to see beyond the ordinary surface.
Not everyone is born bad, the experiences of the past play a major role in determining the response a person will give to present circumstances. A student that was preyed upon in his junior years would in turn respond to the experiences gained and be the kind of senior that preyed upon him, trying to find a balance in his soul.
When a person undergoes a tough experience on his journey to an higher ground that would afford him to be in control of such a tough experience, with another person at the whims end, he's left with the choices of continuing the cycle of torture or bringing the change that would lay the foundation for seeing a new set trend of peace and tranquility. There now comes the battle in his mind about which of the options set before him to take.
The reason why we humans are higher than the animals is because we possess a functional brain and a sophisticated mind that does all the decision making for us. The most interesting thing about the human mind is the ability for it to be trained and configured just exactly the way we want it to be. We can always be the change we want despite the enticing antics of continuing the cycle of what used to be the norm. The maltreated junior ones today can rise up to be the loving seniors tomorrow, thereby eliminating the cycle of hardship, replacing it with love.
This can also be applied to every aspects of our daily lives. Anywhere we are receiving hurt instead of love, we have the choice to train our mind to give out love. To many people, it might not be an easy thing to achieve, but I can testify that it is very achievable. The first step is the realization of the fact that we always have a CHOICE.


My name is Olaoluwa Oyeniran. I'm a Philosopher and Public Speaker.
Contact details are:
08137451122
laolord4ever@yahoo.com

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1beat:
I saw this coming ....


don't be deceive the albums was not produced within 48 hours as claimed but days
the album is one way traffic
the album make many people to know that olamide dd not have voice, young john wicked producer is just a slang not that wicked

- most of the beat look alike even some look like sample of previous work eg MaMa kiss Daniel pro. young John.
not that young John is not gud but can not produce full album ( what you don't hv you can't give)
the following producers can't produced full album if they do it's will look like ,, maleekberry. Terry G, K-solo , young D, fresh, young john, 1beat etc
article is still coming on that

- by January olamide needs to quickly release 1or 2 single produce by pheelze to cover dis wasted effort because some downloaded it, listen and delete immediately.

I rate the album 4/10

olamide is not upcoming or artists that is managing we don't expect anything from him but good. to meet international standard he his
- is not properly arranged, lack gud lyrics
- lack vocal approach, lack peasantry backup
- noise more than before
- the album is just directed to one story line Omo wobe, olosho,party,rugged life, Omo ..no motivation, no correction, no messages to government about the states of economy, education, etc

I love olamide x young j respect .. God bless team ybnl

don't mind my English ....

I love your review. I'm a staunch Olamide fan, but I also deem this album below Par.

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For those posted to Oyo, copy the link, paste in address bar of your browser, then remove the "www" and load it.

Kindly in troduce yourself with your moniker there jare.

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symbian123
yemsai
Lilyjoe567

NiggaBoi here too

Try to upload your testimonies as proof so as to boost your sales

What's this for Heaven's sakes??
This is just the height of cruelty.
People should always do background checks on their potential maids before hiring them.

These beeches ain't loyal

row2ray:

I support women being employed and able to afford their own stuff but
This makes me think you are a woman wrapper because even the females aren't female feminists

Hahaha. I'm not a woman wrapper. I just have empathy towards the equality of genders.

Nov6:

thank you, but i never asked for an explanation.

Lol. Decently savage.

[quote author=Nov6 post=61347853][/quote] Male feminism is more like trying to understand the female psyche from a male's perspective and not just bashing and degrading them with every chance we have.

This post needs more publicity please. The Mods should help move it to FP. Lalasticlala Mynd44 Seun

lovelygurl:
I laughed at the male feminist loool but op, I do agree with you. Being a feminist is not restricted to one gender, just say you are 1. Male feminist sounds so funny

Thanks. I just felt like I have to say it as it is.

Afam4eva:

A lot of women have become educated and are pulling their weight just as much as men are, so it's their prerogative of an individual basis to decide what they want to do with their life. Contrary to feminist shenanigans, women are more likely to want to be subservient and cared for. This maybe due to either their nature or a learned skill from patriarchy. Even here in Nigeria, a lot of women who are highly educated are not afraid to leave a career they would have had in a heartbeat for marriage. While some others will pursue career to the detriment of marriage and family. it's a case of personal choice and we should allow people to make their life choices.

Well, I have no other choice than to submit to your well constructed response. The whole thing that I'm preaching here is the understanding of the concept of choice. Seems like many female children in our society nowadays are not aware of the choice because the society says so.

tosyne2much:
That's just the kind of society we find ourselves bro

It's really sad.

Afam4eva:
We're brought up to have divergent views on life. While some think education is paramount, others think that without marriage, they're not fulfilled. We should not always try to force our school on thought on other people. Not every woman will be financially independent. So, let's leave those who think marriage is supreme to follow their heart.

I acknowledge that it's a general ideal that the woman is subservient to man almost throughout the world. But wouldn't the purpose of getting an education be defeated if every female were to choose marriage over a potential glowing career? Why then should they go through the rigors of getting an education in the first place?

I have come across a sizeable number of ladies and I always love engaging them in different types of conversations. I'm a person that's so focused about making a good living for myself so I'm always interested in seeing everyone around me successful and doing great. But it really breaks my heart every time I ask my female friends what they picture their future like.

The first thing they always talk about is getting married. They got me thinking and I got to understand why. The average African girl has been brought up with the mentality that marriage is the greatest achievement for them. That's why we have a lot of females feeding off men and depending on them for everything.

Our society not having enough independent females is one of the major causes of abuse of women. I'm always happy when I see females excelling and doing well in their various career paths and family life. But I guess the mentality of viewing marriage as the greatest achievement for a female has to be abolished. Our society will be better if we have as much successful females as their male counterparts.

My name is Ola, and I'm a male feminist.

Pls the mods should help me push this to FP.

Very sad that the same Femi Adesina can no longer write an honest article like this.

NiggaBoi
OAU
Food Engineering
2016/2017
Kano, Abuja, Edo.

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Thank you.
I seriously hope the mods will give me a better platform for people to see me.
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Hello Nairalanders. Kudos to this forum for the many solutions to people's problems on a daily basis. This is my first thread actually and I would appreciate credible feedback.
I am a person that loves speaking to an audience and I know that I'm really good at it. I'm a fresh graduate and I want to delve into the world of Public Speaking but I don't know how or where to start from. Please i need people knowledgeable in the field to direct me. Thanks
Please the Mods should help me push this to front page
Lalasticlala
FynestBoi
Mynd44
Seun

What if they can't finally find their charger

Okijajuju1 post=?? 47205189:
Withdrawing the charges is smart..

That way they can go back and do their homework properly and re-charge them.

Well, I have always discovered we always want who doesn't want us. I left my ex when I discovered she wanted out already. Always nagging and being unfaithful. This babe being one I was so much in love with. Guess, immaturity and not knowing exactly what she wanted played a major role in her decision making back then as she tells me now. She is back now after being treated unfairly by the ones she ran after, but who am I to say her punany is no longer worth hitting. PS: nothing like being in love with her now sha

this is a really good news for the G-boiz out there. this should make front page