It's ridiculous really!

Case in point: I purposely showed my email address in my profile to be a bit adventurous as its something I wouldn't normally do in a forum. Within minutes (5 minutes tops) of me posting the OP on this thread, I received an email from a zubeyr deda (zubeyrd@gmail.com) saying:

***Hi Hope you well just read your post on Nairaland and felt you might be the kind person I m looking for you seem genuine in your search and so am I so just want us to get  to know each other and hope everything work out well   feel free to inquire if you have any questions Sincerly Zubeyr---------------***

Well I was like here we go again, the freaks come out as usual. But I replied anyway because like I said, I put my email on display so what else was I expecting. So I said:

***Where are you from Zybeyr deda? How do I know you're not one of the ones to be avoided? You didn't answer my question on the thread. Moving in for the kill are we?-------------***

I'm an advocate of 'benefit of the doubt' but this was already ringing bells for me. He can't construct a basic sentence being one of the clues. Well he was quick to reply and actually LOL at his stupidity. Here:

***Lol I definitly not of the.ones to be. avoided I live and work in New York city I didn't answer your thread because I m just as serious as you and looking most people there are immature teenagers I figure we can get to know each other without being distrubted so where u from ? and where u live Miss --------------***

You can find a lot on the internet! A search on his email address was the icing on the proverbial
cake. Don't know if I'm posting this correctly but here's Mr Zubeyr deda on

Http://www.lagos-nigeria-real-estate-advisor.com/samira-zubairu-nigeria-female-escort-comments.html

Just 5th of Feb this year in the comments section for an ad for Nigeria Follow, he he says

**contct me on zubeyrd@gmail.com based in the USA visiting abuja soon***

So this is exactly the reason I came to start a thread about this issue. I thank everyone who contributed so far. But I think this is a valid thread closer! Mods!

All the people out there looking for any sort of friendships online, do so at your own peril! I personally wouldn't recommend it

Thanks for your replies. I think the problem could be that half of the people are no good and the other half are scared of the no good ones. I'll try not to be put off but its going to be hard.

My reason for choosing no love as a username was because of the whole wahala. I'm not actively using nairaland as a searching ground oh! Abeg! LOL

It's 50/50 I think, make sure you get to know each other properly before you get hitched. All the best!

You can get practically anything online, literally anything but it seems impossible to find real love. I feel really sorry for people who have put themselves out there in the hopes of meeting that somebody only to end up being used/abused in one shape or the other.

It would be nice to be able to join a dating site and meet someone that you could get to know without worrying about what lies they're telling about themselves, most of the time, it's a whole lot! There really isn't any sure way of preventing lies, is there?

I've always been interested in meeting someone special online. Someone who can stimulate my mind without wanting to stimulate any part of my body or bank account! It seems its all about sexx with most guys online these days or money transfer love. This is so wrong! Don't get me wrong, I'm not implying that every guy online is like this but it from the few times I tried to give it a go, these were the types I encountered. I personally don't think there are any good men available online. They must all be taken or something!

I would like some advice please. I want to know if there's a recipe to finding online love. I am not talking about advice on keeping an online relationship but rather a HOW to guide on fishing out the good ones and flushing out the crap.

Thanks in advance