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BigFrog: Dear Op, please, on no account should u stand as guarantor or surety for anyone, especially when money is involve, even for normal oaths form, if the person isn't ur family which u could vouch for, never fill in that guarantorship post. Let him (ur landlord) go look for his family members to stand for him. Many borrow with true intention of paying back, leaving out the fact that, they aren't in control of all variables involve, circumstances beyond their control may arise, hence, causing them to default. When people need ur help over a situation, they act the #puppy way, looking all calm and pitiable, but after such help must have been rendered, they become a #tiger u wouldn't be able to face. Biko, don't dare take panado over someone else's headache. 2 Likes |
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PrinceOfLagos: Not just cheap, but compulsory as well. So sad for the man. 102 Likes 7 Shares |
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bummyla: Growing up in a place like Ajegunle, I used to see it as normal situation then as almost all houses around have same or similar settings, where families, regardless of their numbers cohabit in a single room, all thanks to penury. It was so bad that those who managed to afford room & parlour or two rooms to themselves were seen as rich or comfortable, not knowing it was all suffering & smiling lifestyle altogether. Privacy wasn't even an existing word to me. But as time goes on and I got to change environment, couple with some level of exposure, I had a change in narrative. It was a bad experience I wouldn't want to subject my children into. GHETTO LIFE NO BE LIFE ![]() 2 Likes |
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TVTKOKO: Are u by any chance a CANCER i.e. ur birthday fall between June 21 - July 22? 3 Likes |
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Uyi168: Same here. Most of those were stages. Looking at the boy's countenance, he was obviously looking at the camera. The incidence wasn't even caught on camera (CCTV), but a Tiktok staged video. The guests laughing over it when they ought to have felt insulted is another tip. 2 Likes |
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Ghabz: Ur mistake is attaching emotion to ur buz which is not healthy in such line of business. As far as POS hustle is concern, every customer, just as every operator of the service is a potential scammer. Both the bushmeat and the hunter are liable to be taken advantage of. Since u said u tried calling him with strange number, but he wasn't picking still, it might just be that something unfortunate happened to him that he couldn't attend to calls, but chances of him taking advantage of ur kind heart is on the high side. U tempted him bro which is not ideal with the present situation of the country. At first, he might have the intention of truly sending u the money, but temptation might just get the best of him by having a second thought about u not being able to locate him should he default, and the money would go a long way for his sustainability. It takes moral upbringing, fear of God and high level of discipline not to give in to such temptation with the country present situation. My advise is for u to learn from it, count ur loss and moved on. Thou, it wouldn't be easy to just let go, but that appear to be the only viable option u are left with, unless miracle probably happen that he (corper) eventually fulfil his part of the bargain. Sorry about it. May God reimburse ur loss. 4 Likes |
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Aduke23: U might just be an introvert. Thou, shyness and introversion are too different things, but they are intertwine and sometimes, subjective. |
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EkehPraise:Bro, situation like this is dicey. If they still call to check up and show concern as per u not doing what u used to do for them at a period like this, ur subconscious mind could still term it to them only calling, not just they care, but cos of what they want or expect from u. Or why would they call at a time like this and not prior to it? Bottomline is, u are EXPENTANT which is not entirely good as one tends to always feel disappointed whenever such expectation wasn't met. Too much of expectations is what breed disappointment. Them not getting in touch could even be cos they try to be sensitive about the country present situation as it hit lots of people. Just learn not to be expectant from anybody, and keep doing whatever things that is convenient for u. Give as much as u can regardless of whether or not they show appreciation, urs is to play ur part and leave the rest to nature. Just never inconvenient urself and always make urself priority over any other. 1 Like 1 Share |
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In as much as I don't support the idea of marrying someone out of it, I must admit u are a very confuse and insensitive person. It's just so unfortunate situation like this is a disadvantage on the female gender. A similar situation is like that of a secondary school girl who got impregnated by fellow secondary school boy, chances are that, such situation could put an end to the girl's education, but not the boy, not cos it's only the girl that deserve to suffer the consequence, nature is just unconsciously in favour of the boy, being a male. Reason I'm of the notion that, we are naturally not equal, gender wise. Nothing like equality between both gender, it's nature's call, not human. Sorry for derailing a bit. Back to the topic of discourse, Op, what I see hear is just a thing of ur mind, u've conditioned ur mind to see her the way u are seeing her, all thanks to the shortcoming (her height) been pointed out by ur family. Female mostly are not tall, only few among them are, in comparison with that their male counterpart. Reason u see force recruitment height requirement for female always below that of male cos they are conscious of such natural attribute. That's ur major concern which shouldn't be. It is understandable that we all have our preference list when it comes to choosing a life partner, u should have stayed away from those (her kind) that doesn't tick ur list, instead of smelling a food u know u wouldn't like to eat. Who does that? Sit urself down and have a sober reflection over the situation. Now imagine the table turns that, u are the girl and she is u, how would u feel if she's trying to pull the string u are attempting presently? Answer this with all sincerity. I ain't trying to prick ur conscience, but just piss over u trying to indirectly shield urself from consequence of an act u both guilty of. She's of marriageable age for crying out loud, it's wickedness to tempt her kind with marriage, then pull out after they must have fallen to one's trap. Moreso, u bringing up the fact that, u once had a bad marriage in time past is a flimsy excuse to escape reality and justify ur intent which is very shallow to think of. No two people, likewise two marriages are the same. U once had a failed marriage doesn't mean that's how it will always be. From ur narration, the girl tick all the box for a responsible lady, except for her nature, height wise. U don't expect 100% from human, but God. If she (the girl) is been called upon to tell her ideal kind of man, u urself would surely fall short of her dream man, but this is life, it doesn't always give us what we really want, but what we probably deserve. I wouldn't advise u on anything as I ain't the one in ur situation, plus I'm of the school of thought that, THE BEST ADVISE U CAN HAVE IS THE ONE U GIVE URSELF. No matter what anyone advise, u still gonna end up doing what u want to do, it's ur calling afterall. U are just here to consciously and unconsciously seek support and justification from people so as not to feel too guilty over ur intent. BUT one thing I can assure u is the fact that, irrespective of ur final decision, u will surely REGRET, I will only implore u to just CHOOSE UR REGRET, WISELY. May God guide u right. 2 Likes |
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dedons: Bro, no amount of consolation or advise from anyone could reverse the done deeds. It's normal u feeling the way u feel as per ur situation, everyone in such similar situation would, but the reality is, the downfall of a man is not the end of his life. When there is life, there is always hope. U might think u've lost it all, but that's financially as u obviously gained experience from such misfortune, whatever u gonna be trying again, u wouldn't be starting from BEGINNING, but from EXPERIENCE which happens to be the best teacher. I pray God in His mercy grant u the strength and zeal to cross this phase. Be strong Sir. 1 Like |
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Op, it's a good thing u didn't yield to her plea, people like that are very toxic. Imagine keeping malice just cos someone is been professional with her business, is that not witchcraft on her part? ![]() People like that would familiarize themselves with u and make u feel comfortable around them, then they strike when u least expect it. Kudos, I commend ur stand. Good riddance to bad rubbish. 21 Likes |
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Reno with his funny antics when it comes to party or politics matter. His sentiments has always been laughable on those parts. He will be shock when PDP Presidential Candidate Ticket goes to #Saraki come 2023. Saraki is a far better candidate than Atiku. |
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A man is not dead, even if he stop breathing; he is dead, when his dignity is snatched away from him. A man without money is a man without dignity. Poverty is one of the worst things that can ever happen to man. We should just keep fighting against poverty, and not against fellow men. 30 Likes 6 Shares |
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Mercychen: U need not be hard on urself nor nurse d thought of her not valuing u or distancing herself away 4rm u, that's far 4rm it. D fact is just dat, u guys shared same placenta, but ur personality differs. 4rm ur narration, u claimed she has friends, but 2 u, she is d only u got; she is even a family woman already, but u are yet 2, such is just one of d mystery abt twin and one of d ways God uses 2 naturally preach 2 us which is, d fact dat two individual shared same placenta (twin) doesn't mean they are destined same way. Please, don't be mad at her by trying 2 distance urself since that's what u perceive her doing, just keep being ur real sef. U guys are just opposite, personality wise. So, try and enjoy d similarities u both share while celebrating ur differences, 4 what u are experiencing with her is normal. Just as sm1 earlier said, u both aren't kid anymore, so don't expect d bond u shared while growing up 2 remain dsame as circumstances (life) just av a way of shaping such, d earlier u realize dis, d better. Save back her contact, and stop being too expectant 4rm her as it's obvious ur expectations are what has been trying 2 grow sm hatred 4 her in u. U reaching out 2 her frequently is what u find comfortable doing, she might not on her own side, that doesn't mean she love or care 4 u less, but means u guys aren't same personality wise. She's ur blood, don't trade her 4 anything please. U can still talk things out. Visit her as u used 2, in d course of ur gisting, bring up d case nd pour ur heart all out 2 her, let her know how u feel about d way u feel she's treating u, with that, u would be calm. U might even be surprise about her own submission on d issue. Once again, keep being d sweet self u've always being. Had it be she is an outsider, I would av supported d notion of u distancing urself away 4rm her, but NO, she is ur blood, ur second half. May God be with u both. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
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ITbomb: Sir, there is nothing 2 pursue in this regard cos there are no concrete evidence 2 back up d claim. Those who pursue scammed incidence are those with evidence like CHATS, CALL HISTORY that shows d transaction was carried out. What evidence does Op has 2 defend himself? Anything that is not in WRITTEN FORM i.e. A WRITTEN AGREEMENT is a lost battle, unless nature just choose 2 vidincate d victim. Even court don't hold mere words as valid, unless in cases where there is eyewitness (even with that, there would still be doubt cos eyewitness could be bride or coarce 2 support d complainant). Plus, if he should choose 2 pursue it, he might end up spending more than what has been lost, likewise wasting time that he would av use 4 a more productive task. |
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Lesson learnt. Thanks for sharing. My own bad experience was when a customer, one of this network marketer came 2 me 2 help transfer 2 his account so he could use 2 buy their product which he needed 2 do ASAP, there was error while trying 2 do so using my Mobile App as d bank service was poor that moment which made me conclude d transaction wasn't successful, and since d customer in question was in haste and I had other customers 2 attend 2, I had 2 return his money so he could try somewhere else, lo and behold, an hour later, I received a debit alert 4rm my bank 4 same transaction I assumed 2 av failed. There was no way I could contact d customer. So, I went 2 my bank 2 complaint, was told d transaction was successful. I hoped 4 a week 2 see whether d customer would comeback 2 acknowledge it, but NO, he didn't, even after confirmation 4rm his bank that he did received value 4 d transaction. I had 2 learn 4rm my mistake, count my lost and moved on. It's one of d hazard of this hustle. |
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Improper planning which lead to poverty among married couples is one of the genesis of this vices. Funny enough, the society has consciously and unconsciously accept it as the new normal where it's now something of proud and showup for those who engaged in it (yahoo yahoo). I read somewhere here on NL about an undercover Jounarlist who discovered somewhere around Lagos where parents go as far as borrowing/saving money to buy Laptop for their wards which are mostly JSS and SSS students for the purpose of this fraudulent acts while they appeal to do reigning champion (the senior yahoo guys that are seriously cashing out) to put their wards through, some pay for the service just to get them have their wards tutor and mentor in the act. Even some Landlords would prefer renting their house out to this set of people cos they know they are lavish with spending, Albert the money coming to them through easy route. Road side sellers, hotel owners, shopping malls, eateries and the likes now lobby for areas dominated by them (yahoo dudes) cos they knew they are in for numerous turnup. Now adays, an average Nigeria lady wish is to get a yahoo boy to date, some of them (ladies) would and willing to support their bf hustle through spiritual help by volunteering themselves. Some ladies even encourage or nag their bf into such vices. Go to institutions, a 100L, 200L, ND students using iPhone 11 when her parent couldn't even afford Android phone, all thanks to her yahoo boyfriend. Parents now serve as spiritual backup for their wards in such acts. These are people we all have and see around us, but we dare not talk nor point accusing finger at them, else people would see you as the gullible one or enemy of progress, that's even if they didn't go as far as violently attacking you. Back in school, I had my landlady laying curse on SARS over their raid of yahoo boys at a junction closeby cos her son was/is one of them while claiming whether it's their money yahoo guys are syphoning, she was supporting her son and co with confidence like what they are doing is normal and right. Within me, I was weeping and couldn't talk, but just watch with awe while pretending like they got points, I had to rather keep mute than condemn them in their present cos believe me, they could go as far as harming me should I openly condemn such act. The government are not even helping matter as they aren't tackling the menace the way they ought to have. As far as the country is concern, WE ARE ALL AS SAFE AS WHERE WE ARE PRESENTLY, we never can tell what could happen the next minute. Lot of girls/ladies has been turned into walking corpse as they are just as empty as a doll, all thanks to ritual carried out on them by the yahoo goons. These are ladies that would come up to be wife by an innocent nigga who was never a part of the shenanigans. Most of their strategy has cast that they now resolved to defrauding fellow Nigerians. Causing lot of havoc to genuine individual making their money the legal way. Just days ago, an hardwrking lady who is into graphics design was sent money by one of her client to buy some items for a job, the money running into 100k, unfortunately, her account was wiped, the fraudster withdrew 70k and 28k consecutively in couple of minutes, she wasn't even alerted nor received debit alert email as she normally used 2. She came 2 me and narrated her ordeal, she was so down narrating it, if not for self control and it being an open place, I bet she would have wept seriously right there. I didn't even know how best 2 console her than suggest her on what she could do even though her chances of recovering is 50/50. I felt so sad for her. I fear for the present and future of the country. We are in for a long thing cos this and other social vices has come to stay in as much as we hope and pray for resolution. May God help us. 2 Likes |
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It's either u are PISCES or CANCER, which are u should my guess is right? |
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frozen70: See, Op can't leave dem alone cos d issue isn't just about dem, but d society at large. D people dat were nd still tormenting nd terrorising d society, causing mayhem are as a result of settings like dis. Such is d genesis of crises like kidnapping, banditry, arm robbery, yahoo yahoo nd oda social vices we r battling in d country. I grew up in Ajegunle, nd I can tell u dat, situation like dis aren't far fetch ova dia, nd dose kids birth like yesterday r d one disturbing d peace nd harmony of 2day. If Op nd evri1 chuz 2 turn blind eye 2 dem, we shudn't be surprise if kids like dem grow up 2 polute d society which wud now bounce back 2 evri1 as we already experiencin, den d vicious cycle continue. 6 Likes 4 Shares |
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Op, I guess u are a CANCER by Zodiac Sign i.e. June/July born which instigated d emphaty nd simpathy in u. From ur narration, u are in debt, so u plan 2 help sort out a friend's problem (debt) with d money u wud av use 2 sort out ur own debt, hmmm, it show hw compassion nd caring u are which is gud, but at times, using one's head in situation dat has 2 do with money is very important. D said friend is indebted 2 u already, so if u choose 2 bail him out by making his debt 2 u accumulate, be sure d total money is an amount u are willing 2 forego if u really want 2 maintain d friendship u both share. OR u myt just borrow him part of d money 2 offset part of his debt, provided it convenient u. All in all, don't inconvenient urself just 2 mk others convenient. 1 Like |
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I'm happy for you Sir. May it keep multiplying. 1 Like |
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I can see tinz 4rm her point of view. Almost all her life, she has been experiencing things done 4 her which made it comes so easy that she start 2 nurse d feeling of not being independent. Such feelings of not being able 2 do things her own way or understand how it feel 2 independently achieve/attain a feet. She want 2 do things herself and av d inner feelings of satisfaction nd boastfulness that, indeed, I did this all by myself as against d usual push and input 4rm her parent. But she failed 2 realize something which is the fact that, SHE'S BEING LUCKY AND SHOULD BE GRATEFUL 4 IT. D one who coined d phrase, 'DIS LIFE NO BALANCE' got inspired by situation as hers cos d life she is complaining about is what most out there wishes 4. Most of those she envied by their success stories would choose her kind of life over what they went through 2 attain their success, but life was not just being fair 2 them 4rm start. Never should she forget d fact that, those set (her envees) were coined and conditioned 2 pass through rough path which then shaped them 2 what they now are. Circumstances got them rugged and gave them d zeal 2 push through even though not all that went through such path survive it nor has a success stories 2 tell, but circumstances which try 2 be fair on her own path never got her prepare 4 such life path, and if she try force it, she might break. D rock a weight lifter/body builder would move without feeling workout, should a non weigh lifter dare it, he/she might regret such attempt. If she still insist on her conviction, it's fine she is about 2 go 4 service, let it be an opportunity 4 her 2 carryout her mission. I'm aware d parent would influence her posting, regardless, wen she get 2 camp, she should pal with her P.O 2 mk sure her posting 2 PPA isn't influence, but let nature tk it cause. So, hopefully they post her 2 a school 2 teach which is likely nd should mk sure 2 stay at Coper's lodge or d house allocated 2 them by her posted place, 4rm there, she can start living on NYSC Allawee while she save as much as she can, d Allawee is a pay 4 her effort, by being prudent wif spendin, she must av been able 2 save sm amount, den after service, let her start her journey 2 hustle things herself wif it. Though, her parent could be sending her money since they have her account, let her act like those money doesn't exist. So, if she try d path and realize how uneasy it is, biko, mk she turn back ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
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Tobam7302:Then without any iota of doubt, u are obviously an INTROVERT. It's ur nature; it's ur identity. Instead of wallowing in self-pity, why not channel those energy in tkin advantage of ur strengths such as creativity, then u follow my suggestion nd other ones u find useful on d thread. U can start 4rm d book I recommended, it gonna help ur situation nd mk u appreciate ur being while guiding u on how 2 cope with ur concern. Don't mind those condemnin nd claimin u are suffering 4rm low self-esteem or lack confidence whatsoever, most of dem are extroverts nd will neva understand u cos 2 them, everybody ought 2 act d way dey do (like extroverts), any deviation wud mk dem tag u ol sort of names like wat I earlier mentioned. Introverts do understand dem (extroverts) 4 who dey are, but same can't be said abt understandin introverts. In fact, it's very normal u feel worried over it, an average introvert who is yet 2 discover or understand his/her personality feel same as we are mostly surrounded by these extroverts who tries 2 force dia personality on us by expectin us 2 be just like dem. Dey (extroverts) r d dominatin personality which put dem at a more advantage ova us. Just in case u couldn't get 2 access d book by Susan Cain, u may WhatsApp me on d number attached 2 my signature so I can share u d PDF. Also book like, 'WHY U ACT THE WAY U DO?' and 'HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE' by Dale Carnegie, books like those wud help u nd guide u on how 2 cope as an introverts. Got pdf of dose books on my archive. |
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2horsePOWER:Bro, I sent u a PM, but yet 2 get a response. I'd like 2 mk an enquiry 4rm u. U may drop ur number or beep/WhatsApp me via d number on my signature. Tanx |
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Tobam7302: U might just be an introvert from ur description. It's who u are, there is little u could do as ur personality is ur identity. Since u are in school setting, u might start by joining a forum or club in ur school where people get 2 introduce themselves at every meeting, it wouldn't be easy at first, but with time, u gonna improve. I am an introvert too, and what I suggested was what helped me 2 some extent till date. Thou, it didn't tk away d introversion in me, but made me improve at canvasing with people. As an introvert, one need 2 learn 2 fake being extrovert 2 survive this extroverts dominated world. Stuff like those do get me exhausted on a daily, but I do return home 2 recharge and prepare 4 d next day. I recommend u also read d book by Susan Cain titled, 'QUIET, THE POWER OF INTROVERTS IN A WORLD THAT CAN'T STOP TALKING'. Meanwhile, are u Pisces or Cancer based on Zodiac Sign? 5 Likes |
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Observe ur environment and look out 4 what is lacking OR what is already in existence, but poorly manage. U can start from there. 1 Like |
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Havilaah1: In my opinion, I don't think his actual reason 4 withdrawin is d excuse he gave as it very flimsy nd childish at d same time. I guess he is no longer interested in d relationship nd just lookin 4 a way 2 bail himself out. No mata how much u try, he can neva understand ur person, we introverts are d ones dat easily understand extroverts nd see dem 4 who dey are, but same can't be said about dem. Ol I see is just a lady (u) trying 2 force herself on a guy who doesn't respect her person just cos she is afraid of d future. Afraid abt wia 2 start 4rm or get 2 see anoda guy who wud be interested in her. It's just unfortunate, challenges like this are what introverts (male nd female) face when it comes 2 relationship. We are mostly unlucky with it as we are in a world dominated by extroverts who wud expect we see things 4rm same lens as them, any deviation wud mean u are weird nd abnormal. I just hope nd pray u don't regret a future with sm1 wif a shallow reasoning like ur suppose guy cos dis is a major redflag which shud been overlook, cud lead 2 regret. It's not nd wudn't be easy as 4 u being a lady, society nd family expect sm1 serious (relationship wise) 4rm u since u've kom of age. Pendin d time d situation calm, I'd urge u channel ur energy in2 smtin productive nd let nature tk it cause while u put ur mata in God's hand. Let him be 4 d time being, if u guys are meant 2 be, one way or d oda, u wud end up 2geda. Stop working urself up nor depress ova it. It wudn't be easy, but u can always try. 4 Likes |
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Vicfacebadoo: As par bank reversing money back 2 sender after debitting him/her, it do happen. Can't say about other banks, but that of GTBank I am so sure about cos I've had such encounter with their customers on more than one occasions. A situation where they debited the sender while the suppose receiver wasn't credited, but the money was later reversed back 2 d sender, I guess it's network palava. Just ask ur client politely about d possibility of d money being reverse back 2 her after u must av waited 24hrs without being credited. Since u wouldn't want 2 go in2 d stress of requesting statement of account 4rm ur bank 4 clarification, ur Mobile App should be handy here, just check d transaction history, if it's not there, just know d money wasn't sent successfully in d first place. U may want 2 screenshot d transaction history 4rm d suppose time she (ur client) sent u d money till 24hrs after. |
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zinodizt:Na market I price, I no kee pesin ![]() Aje, kogba..lobatan |
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integrityhomes: 250k job in Nigeria, not cos d money is enough, but cos I wud rather stay back here in 9ja dan Japa ![]() ![]() Guy man no need be in d U.K b4 e go fit dey O.K. 1 Like |
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Shey e gree 150k plus pay on delivery? |
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just2endowed:Bro, I didn't even bother 2 watch video neither did I tk my time 2 read 2hru d write-up, but d topic, nd 4rm it, I cud deduce d summary of d story plus convince it's a gullible act 2 bliv such stunt. It's just simple logic. Among ol d wonder God cud do, it's now throwin down a white clothe 4rm heaven down 2 earth dat He wud av done. We bliv anytin, nd evritin in dis part of d world. Dat is why organized religion nd d organizers r cashin out big, ol tanx 2 dominant of gullible pipu. As 4 d Hossana write-up u referenced, I bet it's just a brand identity incription 4rm d original owner of d clothe. It's even stupid 2 think or bliv such has any spiritual attachment or came 4rm heaven as dey painted. #BlackPeopleWithBlackBrain ![]() |
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