No need to stop her from working. You can try this if you are not busy. You know all the afore-mentioned happened because she got a job, so you will have to adjust and try to help her.

Probably on Saturday or Sunday, plan with her on the clothes and shoes she wants to to where from Monday to Saturday. Let it be Washed and ironed or dry cleaned. That will relieve her a little bit from making decisions everyday.

Also, for the food, since she comes back by 10pm, make sure that her food is ready (you can call and ask her what she wants to eat) and when she comes back, tell her to take her bath and come to eat before she sleeps. You can also eat with her and discuss what happened in the office (you know most women love gist). Also, you can chip in that you miss her and would love to spend quality time with her, and If she can make a day out for both of you to that.

Then sometimes if it possible, mostly during the weekend
take your bathe with her. You can occasionally buy her gifts and take her out for lunch or dinner on weekends.

In summary try to do everything with her, plan her clothes, eat, gist, bathe, go out etc. If it possible, pick her from work.

I believe if she sees your sincerity and love, she will react to it positively.

Syllables:
Good morning and happy Sunday to everyone. Please let me remain anonymous and please don't mind my grammatical errors.

I live in the Western part of Nigeria and I am 30 years old, am really confuse about live now because of what am going through in life.

Am so confuse now in life because the load is too much on me, at 30 I haven't archive anything for myself, no wife no land or property of my own just because of these children because they don't have anyone aside me. I tried to do some side hustle to add up with my monthly salary which is now 100k. I don't know the decision I should take now because is not from my heart these children should suffer. I really want the best for them but my fresh is weak and am confuse I really need help. Please move this to front page for me.

Please, don't be depressed or give up. I understand your concerns, and what happened was not expected or planned, but please don't abandon them, you have gone too far to do so.

They have nobody to go to, you are their father, mother, parent, guardian and uncle. You are their everything. Once it is time for them to get married, you are their father, they will not go else where. Their successes and happiness will be shared with you.

In the future, once God blesses them, they will take care of you out of what God has blessed them with.

If you cut them out of your life because of your ambition, which can still achieved in the nearest future or because of what you are going through, and make them
to cry, suffer and resort to ungodly or illegal means to survive, all that you have done for them over the years will be forgotten and the rewards and glory that you are meant to receive, will be given to another and you will be in pain.

I believe God has put you as a guardian over their lives to take care of them. And surely he will not abandon you. You will be fully compensated for doing your part in their lives.

Please, just don't abandon them, you made a promise to them, see it to the end, no matter how long. The blessings, reward and compensation God will give you will wipe away your pains. Do your best, endure and be patient.

I pray God will give you the grace and strength to do so. Amen!