Personally, I would not touch it with a barge pole. Some women experience dysmenohrea during this time (me included) but would not want to change things. Some would, and that is their choice. It is a free world.

It is really shameful and I think the government should do something about it.

Lagos be like Abuja Not in a million years!!!!

tenik:

hmmm the truth is that shop right is really nice for a naija scene but things are damm expensive, maybe when we have more competitors we would get cheaper prices

It is understandable when the average shop there costs 4.5 million a year in rent. This does not include service charge. I can't understand why it is the only one in Lagos or even the whole of Nigeria. What are the mega rich waiting for to build more of these so that prices can come down - and give we poor people a chance to rent shops there.

Sorry to deviate from the topic

Nicer:

i can tell u confidently that many of us have stayed back and made it and we're better off than many people in foreign lands working two or three jobs to survive.we travel from time to time and see what many nigerians are going through over there.

WORD!!

Nigeria is a land of opportunity. A place you can really hit the jackpot if you persevere. Despite what people say, life for the most part out of Nigeria is dreary, boring, loney and desperate. Where you work for the taxman and live among people who are very cold. Long live Nigeria!!!!

ha:-x

Are you for real? I don't believe you are as your story doesn't quite add up. You keep contradicting yourself!! You don't need anybody here to tell you what to do. If you want to stay with him then do, if not go down to Abuja and get the marriage certificate to file the divorce. You don't even need him to agree to it and it wouldn't cost you that much as you don't need legal representation.

Not everyone in the UK is stingy. If they are it is hard to see why as calls are very cheap. For a call card costing only two pounds and fifty pence you can spend up to 180 minutes on a call to Nigeria. It is definitly cheaper to call from there than vice versa so I always called.

Cooljade

Good on you for taking the job.  Your family and especially your children will be much better for it!! It will be hard on them but they will cope especially as they have one parent with them. Children are more resilient than we give them credit for. I'm sure they will adapt, but I will advice very regular communication with them.  As a parent I will do the exact same if I found my family in the same predicament. Just hold your head up high - you are making a sacrifice that any loving mother and wife will make. Remember that your decision is not a selfish one but for the good of your entire family, so be proud of your self. I wish you good luck and God speed

ladykay:

Ollie, I think u can get value for your money and have lots of change left if u patronise another school.  There are so many good schools run by professionals where u wont pay half as much.  i think u can make a change - even if u're here temporarily, and I don't think u should worry about them being disadvantaged, the curricula is not inferior.

Thanks for that. I am seriously considering a move as I can't see why I should continue paying for poor service.

Aesthetic surgery is not all about getting your boobs enlarged or facial surgery. There is so much more to it than this.

If you are content with the way your body looks/is, then all well and good. But there are other people who want things corrected on their body because it actually affects their daily living.

Point of correction - it is not about depressed people either. Any plastic surgeon worth his/her salt will not operate on a depressed person. He/she will let you know before hand that surgery will not make you perfect but will only improve on what is already there. It is people who have unrealistic expectations of what aesthetic surgery can do that get depressed after the event. Good surgeons will not also operate on an obese person, he/she will advice you to go and lose weight.

I am proud to say that I have had plastic surgery and there is a great improvement and I will not hesitate to have more should it be required. Plastic surgery is a risk and should not be taken lightly, it also carries a lot of other risks which should be fully weighed before contemplating on having anything done. But if you do your homework well and chose a good surgeon, hopefully the risks will be less. Do not go for the cheaper option. My surgeon is one of the best in the UK.

What about the okadas and drivers driving the wrong way? Re the bridges, I fully agree. Sometimes when I am driving over Ikoyi bridge it actually shakes. It scares the hell out of me. God help us!!

Private schools in Nigeria are grossly over priced and over rated. Take my childrens school - Lagos prep in Ikoyi. They charge you a non-refundable development fee of 1000 pounds per child even if your child is there for a day. Their school fees per term range from approx 950 to 1300 pounds. All for what? There is nothing special about this school. The front of the school is full of pot holes and gullies  which fill with water when it rains and believe me only 4x4's can negotiate it. Even though they were made for that type of terrain, believe me they sometimes struggle. The school is rich enough to sort out the road - even a mere sand fill

Teachers assisstants take classes sometimes, which shouldn't be the case
They have chess as a core subject when it should only be an after school activity. They claim to be running a British curriculum but nowhere in Britain is chess a core subject.

All they are after is money, money and more money. Recently they changed the PE kit without so much as a notice and parents are expected to shell out yet again. The money miss-road-parents are ever happy to shell out for this and that. What ever they ask for one parent is ever so willing to shell out. It makes me sick! If I were getting value for money I would not have minded. My children are no better educationally attending a school that charges over a grand a term in fees.

I am now stuck there as if I go to another so called private school I will have to shell out an astronomical amount of money on 'development fees'. If I were not in Nigeria temporarily I would not dream of sending my children there. I just wanted them not to be at a disadvantage when we return.

The poster asked for an honest opinion.

This Muna, isn't he the one with the very wide nose?

No way. That will be like a death sentence!!

Same thing happened to me years ago. I didn't usually check my bank statement regularly. My pay was usually credited by BACS on the last working day of the month and as I had a healthy overdraft I was spending normally with a debit card. When I discovered this 3 momths later I informed my employer who let me keep the money anyway as it was their fault. (rich company). Boy, did I think that Christmas had come early?  It was a large amount of money!! 

Sorry, the market for Nigerian attires/materials is saturated in London. I doubt if you will make much money if any

@lucieo

Like someone said before you must be extremely careful so as to fall victim again. Have any demands for money been made? If so, please do not send any money.

As for coming to get married in Nigeria, I would not advise it as brides have been held ransom before. I am a proud Nigerian but these things have happened and continue to happen. Just err on the side of caution. Good luck

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salsera:

that's d koko of the matter

Your wife joining you 3/4 of the way into your course is different from the you being a married student and she following you to England

Not to burst your bubble but I doubt they'll give you.
If you had finished your course and had an immediate prospect of a job then they would be in a hard place to refuse

If you want her to come why not simply let her apply for a holiday visa.

VOR, AKOLAWOLE , INPUTS PLEASE

P.S do u remember moi in the thread about visa refusals
well i was refused again, and i appealed but its been 3-4 months now and i haven't heard anything

I agree with this poster. Applying for your wife to join you at this stage will set alarm bells ringing at the IND. Infact you might jeopardize your application for extension of your stay to work. The best thing to do is for her to make her own application to visit and not link it to you. Secure rights to stay to work first before applying for a depandant visa. Remember that with visa applications nothing is guaranteed even if you are the only person with that qualification. Which I don't agree is the case, but that is by the way.

Jerry! Jerry!! Jerry!!! I love the show

This is a non story!!

Very slim.