cjane and other that posted after my last comment I didn't ignore your post my child has been very strong I had a very weird dream only to wake up about 2 am and her temperature was high enough to bake bread please spank me as you like but am glad I have you people to talk to because it is obvious that bad thing nearly happen to my enemy because of my sil. she is getting fine by his grace. temper justice with mercy I sincerely thank you all I will make out time to come and reply to everyone's comment tnx.

Ladyguiniver, Gr8fulHeart, itissettled3, Fimbaby, mubzay, I did not use dono egg or fluid, I know that the child is ours. even when I served her dinner this evening she still did same thing I used to do when i was small until I got to age 12, when I was a little child I always cry if anybody start eating before me so my sisters always wait for me to start eating before they ate, is not even as if she does not resemble us completely in appearance. as for why I wanted a DNA? why I wanted to go and do DNA test is that I wanted to just do it bring the result and trow it at her eyes and my husband eyes and let their conscience begin to judge them. and to show whoever she may want to tell same story in my husbands family because the way I am seeing her she is ready to spoil the identity of this girl among my in laws both old and young for just no evidence to backup her suspicion.

see person that wanted to help me adopt and told me that it must be a secret between only 3 of us.hewo is God that even made the adoption impossible that I could not meet up with their requirement. may be she would have done worst thing to me. thank God o.

ooh my God am relieved I thank all of you I thank you people I can't believe I have eaten after reading all the replies, even before Ladyguiniever place the first post the child fell while she was playing I dint other to check on her because it was as if in short hatred took over me but I later went to her and pampered her after reading your words. God bless you all God bless you all for reviving me God pls bless all this people with their own children please God do it for them, I hope you people know what you have done for me so? ewoo chimoo I did not even know that anyone will answer me because am not a member. But as all of you left your Christmas's celebration and come to my aid today I call on God the giver of blessing the God that burnt my clothe of shames to come to anywhere you people are and burn your shame and burn your garment of shame with the holy ghost fire and give all of you triple triple children, blessings according to the way you want. in Jesus name amen.

I thought they are best of friends because of the way they discuss their private matter together o.
Now my sister in law is frowning at who the child resemble, My husband is angry why I told her that I did ivf. am shocked and am regretting telling her and all this behaviour is gradually making my enemy to hate the child that put smiles on my face because this is not the first or second time she will be asking that question who the child resemble but her last WK visit was a bumb with midnight meeting of who the child looks like abi Im father na hausa? that was how she just ask the question swiftly and move to another topic, until she woke me up again early in the morning saying that my sitting room, my bed in short the entire house including television is not flashy you need to replace them when she knows am the kolekole in the matrimonial expenditure. because my husband her brother does not have a steady job. but is like instead of giving me a crown for the hard work she really came to plant anger and frustration in my home in her last visit.
pls if you know where I can do DNA with small money tell me because the way am seeing it she must have told others who supported her to come and say what she said. What will become of my child in this family in future?

Ladyguiniever thank for responding. my pain is not if he want to cheat or if he is cheating on me because I am already used to his months of no s*x for no reason life style since I gave birth. he just avoiding me now moving like a ghost in the house as found out that I informed her sister that I did ivf and is affecting me, and it was when the pregnancy was three months old that the strange girl with her message came up so during argument she now informed his sister his sister now called me and asked me why I was quarreling with her brother but she called she first say how far about your body? so it was during that question I now told her that we have done it and it worked she now rejoiced with me and adviced that I should take care of myself that he will talk to her brother concerning the strange girl affairs. I did not know that my husban doesn't want her to know it was ivf we did because he did not tell me to keep it from her. that was what prompted me to tell her. since she had bn showing interest in my infertility problem and helping us to think of way out.

but anyone that knows their younger sister will know that this child looks like her when it comes to behaviour she behaves exactly like you, her heels does not touch the floor when walking, she hate hot food just like the way you yell when served hot food she does not eat anything beans or leaf just like me.
when she sleep she lies down exactly like my husband, my mum has a kind of set of front tooth which only all the grand children inherited from her
my child's front tooth are exactly like that.

as am typing am all tears simply because I do not have money for DNA test to prove to this woman that her brother who is my husband is the biological father of my child and I am the biological mother (If anyone knows where I can do DNA test in Nigeria that is cheap please let me know i am begging you all)
2. I am thinking of either to give my child away for adoption and quit the marriage because she may be stigmatize by her fathers family if this mummy spread her doubt to them.
3. should I take my daughter and walk out of this marriage then tell her why I divorce story when she grows up?


Everybody please help me how do I come out of this saga. will my child be a member of their family without the stigma of her or them calling her ivf child that they are doubting. please help me I have not eating since morning no apetite Christmas has turned a sad day for me.

To my surprise the little girl is asking me why am not smilling today :' I dont know what to tell her.

Had I knowoooo I would have leave this marriage when I did not conceive please people bring in your piece of advice before I do foolish thing because am totally down emotionally now.

my husabdn noticed my depression and asked what the matter was and I told him that I dont know why his sister is always saying that she does not know who our child resemble is it because she knows about our ivf success? To my surprise my husband screemed did you tell her? and I said I tought she is aware since you two always talk about my pregnancy failure on phone so I told her during that time we had fracas over the girl you were charting with on phone, when she asked me how far? I said but please pardon me I tought she is your best among your relatives because of the way she hovers around you and you two always talk even in the mid night. as am typing now My husbabd is not at home she does not talk to me, he only tell the little girl when ever he is going out. had I know he did not tell her about the ivf I would nt have tell her
I happily told her because I thought we are all in same boat heading to getting pregnancy.

all this while i didnt know that my husbabd did not tell his sister that we have done ivf that resulted to pregnancy.

the problem on ground now is that each time my sister inlaw come to our house she always lament that this child do not look like them
I thought it was a joke, until she came in just last week and asked me if I have not gotten pregnant again and I said no
she now narrated how one of her friend was troubled by the witches ih her husbabd family for 10 years and they used a surrogacy to get their baby she kept saying the child is a replica of the man a photo copy of the daddy she pursed for a while and said but this your baby sef who does she look like is her father an Hausa? and immediately she continued with her gist about her plans to erect a bbusiness because she will soon retire I could no longer talk I didnt no how to caution her because her question was very swift. we went to bed the next very early in the morning she caaled me and told me that my house is too dull, that I dont have modern equipment in my house, I made her to understand that her brother does not have a permanent job he hustles so all the expenses is on me more over I have not recovered from the ivf expenses in the morning she travelled back to her location so I was so upset, confused, tired,

My sister inlaw has been allover me since I got married, she even suggested adoption when I could not conceive after 8 years
at the end it did not work, we did iui 2 times it did not work. so she suggested ivf to I and my husband. which we rally round sold some of my valuables and god help it worked at first try. but this time around we didint tell her that we wanted to start, she was only aware of the iuis that dint work. But I thought my husband have told her that we got pregnant because she was always on phone with him. when the pregnancy
was three months a lady brought problem into my home by sending my husbabd some romantic texts mesages and my husband sudennly changed negatively, the last message I saw on his phone read even if I get pregnant for you I wont abort it I swear. I confronted her cos I know her in person and my husband became very angry. during the scuffle I started spotting later it stoped at the same time my sister inlaw called she said how far? then I replied it is three months old now, she said have you registed for antenatal I said yes
and I told her what am facing because the pregnancy was gradually becoming a bad news to my husband due to the text message saga.

save a soul, am gradually becoming hypertensive with my bundle of joy. :' :' I am a reader of nairaland am very sorry I did mot join this group since years. please I need a way out of this saga in my home.

Mummy blendy77, Mr. Iwangobio and any other person that disclose their successful ivf story to a close or distant relatives please come to my aid.

My child is 2 yrs.

Happy Christmas great mothers and fathers of this thread, please I did not mean to spoil your merriment today, I have been planning how I will
spend this Christmas in a good mood with my family but just few days into Christmas some one I thought was giving me a great support
when I could not conceive have turned out to become my nightmare.
it has gotten to the extent that my husband who has been in a happy mood that we planned how we will enjoy our Christmas together
forgot that today is Christmas the problem has so weigh him down to that extent of forgetting that today is Christmas.