Get an abortion and spare this child from the suffering it's about to enter because of it's parents carelessness.

No one is going to fund your choice to have a child, what happens after the birth? Will you come back?

No child should have to deal with this nonsense.

Another one again?

Oracleforce:
I think If God is leading you to do sth for her you should go ahead and do it without her not knowing....

Leave the work of an investigator to the police and DSS to do their job...I'm sure there are lots of police and DSS officer on this platform to check her background...

Na so.. Someone's hard earned money?
Nothing like God leading anyone here, do your due diligence if you want to give to avoid stories that touch.
I hope Op's helper finds her speedily.

A man would claim my marriage is happy, I am the leader, I am strong and powerful.. Ask the wife if given the opportunity whether she would marry the same man again, na there truth go begin pour

No formula in the thing because different strokes,different folks. Just treat each other with respect, the way you would want someone to treat your son not daughter. All other things will fall in place jeje except you're married to a natural demon.

Online giving is very dicey especially on NL. Prepare to get burnt back to back.

Once i see a help me post, I now offer prayers and best wishes.

I nor do again abeg.

Good luck to all of una, I hope this is all resolved amicably.

Lol

majesterial:

You call this prescription outdated?

Is that a prescription booklet?
How come the medication is only for very short courses. The risperidone is just for 2 days and nitrazepam which is for agitation is only for 3 days.

So your main medication is escitalopram and gingko Balboa is a.herbal medicine,are there any Nigerian doctors that prescribe herbal meds?

What is thenafter? Is it a medication that the doctor misspelled?

You're basically getting treatment for depression only.

majesterial:


No that 29k was for something else.
I was told to pay double fees for a session I withdrew from.I withdrew because of this ish
I got the prompt when I wanted to pay for this session. And that I had to pay for previous sessions before this.
So I used my 45k for this session to clear the outstanding bill, and had just few days to pay my new fees. It was the last week of payment.
I reached out to divinegrace123 and explained the situation. She asked how much I had already. I told just 16k. So see sent the remainder 29k.
I attached the two receipts.

What info did I withhold from you?

I gave you money to pay for 6 months of your medication.

When I spoke to you on a thread where you were wondering if life was worth living,it was in relation to your medication and supposed illness NOT your projects and needs and you were under the evangkatsoulis username. You send people PM's as Squillaci

You presented yourself as someone suffering from an illness that needed medication urgently not as someone who has other things to spend on with medication as an after thought.

Even neurologist,you've not seen, yet you sounded desperate . Someone that unwell would sort out his health since it's what you're soliciting help for.

The email you are sending to people same thing you use your health as a shield while having other plans.

You haven't opened a thread to solicit for help for this your severe suffering not because of stigma as you claim but because you'd be forced to be accountable. If you say stigma,does anyone know you? No. You're not as handicapped as you claim to be. Huge pointer is your engagement on this thread, your boundless energy plus clarity of mind.I suspect your symptoms are purely psychosomatic.

Anyway,good luck in your future endeavors.You have educated me massively and I am grateful.

He had other needs which he has taken care of as he has explained in the screenshots but I specifically asked for the cost of his medication which he was lamenting about and he told me about 12,000 so I paid for 6 months worth.

I didn't send money for projects and needs,so it is pure deception.
Someone sent you 29k,someone else also sent you more,I bet there are more people.Did you tell all of them it's for your needs or did you say you have an illness with symptoms which you modify at will.

As you can see,I'm not screaming about the money, it's not a big deal. It's the principle behind your behavior and the people who claim to be objective that I find funny.

I attached the meaning of fraud just incase.
Know that I don't blame you at all,you are an intelligent opportunist and you're very good at what you do. It is me that is the fool here and I take full responsibility for my actions.

I believe you should seek help because I know you are ill.

By the way,you sent PMsto my old monikers,lol.

Petyprincess:

I hope so, next time just put them in your prayers

My new name is prayer warrior,I already told someone yesterday that prayer is the master key,next thing I knew,her thread was locked

Petyprincess:

Dear it baffles me also, there are people around you that needs help but they will still come online to help people that aren't genuine nd later they realized its scam. There are child beggars on the street that i will rather cook for nd see them smile. Most of these people aren't genuine!!
With all these stories some people will still send another scammer money tomorrow!!
Maybe it is to show off because i don't get it exactly

How do they even get these scam messages if they don't accept the pm? There is a neighbor that needs help around you, your distance family aren't left out! Why helping anonymous people online that aren't sure they are genuine?

Because some people have more than enough to share and read stories from people which touch them maybe because of the work they do or because they know someone who has suffered too.

The internet connects us all and sometimes we don't have to know a person in-order to understand their difficulties and try to help,same as we do with people we see on the streets too.

It is unfortunate that fraud is the order of the day.

I have learned my lesson and will NEVER make this mistake again.

Prayer is the master key.

majesterial:

The endgame is that I really do wish to see neurologist, do brain scans. I didn't mean to defraud anyone.

Good luck with that. I hope your helper meets you speedily.

majesterial:


The symptoms I have are really terrible.
The usher work was in 2016! Half of the symptoms I have today were not here in 2016. Many of the symptoms I had in 2016 are not with me today. From 2013 to 2020 I may have experienced close to a hundred different symptoms. Some come and go sometimes without any treatment, some stay.
I don't think you can understand the symptoms. My doctors didn't fare any better.
I don't think you have encountered anybody who runs mad for minutes after eating pepper(symptom now gone), or any body who gets short seizures when they conjure a mental image or when they focus on a visual stimuli(new symptom since september last year). Do you know anyone constantly processes auditory noise instead of signal thus barely able unable to understand speech(symptom recently subsided). Unless you have this symptoms, you can not understand. I can only try to describe.
This specific manifestations of my condition are what makes them unbearable.
I have asked questions on many forums. I have never met anyone with diagnosis of depression, psychosis, anxiety disorder who had any of these symptoms.

How does any of this justify what you've done/ what you're doing ? Your description sounds like someone that should be ontop of a bed unable to do anything but you've been here writing flawlessly for the past 24 hours without fail.

@ the bolded if all organic conditions have been ruled out,then you should Google pseudoseizures, you can add it to the list of symptoms for those you want to obtain money from.

Some people have non epileptic seizures as a response to traumatic events or severe mental stress.The cure is psychotherapy .

It's nice people have kept him talking.

I have said that I believe the OP has problems,i do not believe the symptoms are as severe as he makes out in order to garner sympathy and obtain money.

The symptoms he says he has are not as debilitating as he said.He claims he has cognitive deficits that make him unable to concentrate or function,but he has been able to work as an usher in the past and he has been able sustain enough focus to robustly defend himself with flawless diction and barely a tense out of place.

The cocktail of meds which he is abusing by the way keeps a person drowsy , and could even end up being fatal for his heart but clearly,that is not a problem here.

Crazy thing is by taking such high doses of medication,some symptoms go and side effects now stay with you,then you try to cure the side effects by taking too much of another medicine,then collect extra side effects again and the cycle continues..

Another possibility is that the illness is psychosomatic and all in his head,this is why psychotherapy is invaluable .


I like that he keeps talking because he is showing us how the mind of a callous and fraudulent /dishonest person works and I am benefitting greatly from this expose.

This is his belief: I want to buy a car and I have a headache.If I say I have a headache,people will pity me and want to help me. When I get their money, I can buy a car and there's nothing wrong with that because I truly have a headache.

He has shown he feels entitled to money because what he has is not enough for him,and if you are idiotic enough to help him out,it's on you.


Some people through rough upbringing ,lack of love and care develop traits like lack of empathy and have a poor inner sense of what is right or wrong.

This kind of person does not have a conscience. If he lies to you so he can obtain money to use as he wishes,he truly won’t feel any moral qualms (as he so clearly displays) .

There is no medication that can cure it and no amount of talking will change it.

The people that support such an act and see nothing wrong with it are even more dangerous than him because he can use his issues as an excuse but you that says it is ok,what's your excuse?

People on here are truly sick.

majesterial:

As stated. I sent pm only because of anonymity.
I don't want the stigma of mental illness.
About my claims of being retardded, I am not retarrded in the normal sense of the word. Many of my faculties are been inhibited somehow.
You have to experience it to understand.

As I suggested earlier,you probably do not have the emotional bandwidth to understand that your actions are wrong and I won't bother to explain.

I actually have to manage people like you sometimes and that's the reason why I felt some empathy when I read your story and asked you questions .

I do hope you get well soon,the important take away here is that people are more informed and will seek a thorough background check if they decide to help anyone going forward.

I hope you have a good evening.

@ stenon
I would ignore if I were you.

Do I think this person has an illness? Maybe.But this person also has sociopathic tendencies added on as you can judge from the lack of remorse or even the inability to understand how wrong his behaviour is ,sending random PMs to thousands of people knowing that some will feel terrible and try to help.

People like this believe the end justifies the means and will probably say you were not forced to give. This person is a predator and thinks everyonelse is stupid and fair game.

It is very likely this person started off really wanting to get rid of the illness but soon became accustomed to obtaining money and he became a professional beggar to sustain his livelihood.

This person is intelligent and has been doing it for years with little tweaks here and there in the story and as you can see the person has dropped the claims of being 'retarded' and has switched back to very coherent and painstakingly smooth English in comparison to the con he tried to pull some pages back.

In the end,the message is out there for everyone to see and draw their own conclusion.

NL is filled with crazy people,so upon all this my ranting people are sending PM again for money.
There's nothing I won't see

majesterial:

I remember asking u funds for the software training, but that never materialized. That was never false.
The only person that has sent me any money through someone is Oseoji through pocohantas.
If you are not oseoji, then maybe you mistake me for someone else.

Yes,I am the mugu that sent 72,000.

You sounded desperate and I felt really bad that you were suffering so much.

I stupidly thought that relieving you of the burden of buying medications for at least 6 months would reduce your suicidal tendencies and I was prepared to do more.
I could have given 72k to.people who don't have food to eat,I feel so much regret.

Funny enough,you've sent PM's to my old moniker,you probably didn't know it was me.

You are very well written so stop making those mistakes in your writing..going through your history,your English and maths solving skills are impeccable.

Your own explanation of symptoms are second to none so what's all this?

Not all mentally ill people are slow,so stop acting film.I feel more anger at you for trying to insult people with mental health difficulties who have had no choice in their suffering.

You are very smart,I hope you get what you deserve.

Stop mentioning my name,let me carry my L in peace.

From today,Prayer is the master key for any online requests.

jornwhite:




i don't want to believe the essence of these thread is to deter people from helping or rendering assistance, rather the motive is to sensitize noble minds, clear all doubts before helping esp. on an open forum like these, situations like medical bills or school fee or rent can be sorted without even giving the money to the victim, if we say make we close eye make wicked people pass, innocent people go die n we won't even know.

This is my personal choice.
I will never render assistance again to anyone on NL.
A lot of them run elaborate scams to the point where verifiable documents are forged.
I'll leave online kindness to others and donate my prayers.

There are lots of family and friends in need,it's better to focus on them.

Mindlog:
Hmm, the scammer researched on neuroleptics to come up with that prescription.

Not just that but a very plausible story with symptoms.He did his research well and is of above average intelligence.

I will NEVER help anyone on NL again.
From now on,PRAYER is the master key.

I think there should be a comprehensive list of scammers and their account numbers pinned at the top of every section to avoid all this.

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@Divanona
Your sole focus should be on making yourself great not someone else .Are you allergic to greatness?

I know I'm being blunt but you seem to have a Saviour complex towards him while you've not even managed to sort out your own life.

I understand he is the father of your son and you mean well but you should have a look at your priorities and learn to put your wellbeing and that of your child first.

He's an adult ,he can be in the life of his son while sorting himself out without being an additional strain to you.

If you want to marry him just to give your son his last name,that's solely your choice and not a problem but you can't turn back and start crying about suffering.

Divanona:
That was an act of kindness from him which I appreciate deeply in my heart. But i did more for him as well.

So what's your motivation then? You haven't mentioned what exactly you aim to achieve with this marriage apart from increased financial burden.

You haven't said he's wonderful or ambitious or a wonderful father to your child.

There's nothing positive other than your son's excitement ,that's why I'm struggling to see where your confusion is coming from.


Marriage these days is a calculated decision not some romanticised leap.of faith,this one you're wide awake and leaping into problems .

Remove sentiments and put your thinking cap on. Hunger + Marriage or Single Mother and managing.
Nothing criminal in both options, it's all a matter of personal priority.

[quote author=Divanona post=94381028][/quote]

So what's your motivation then?

You can barely feed your child ,can you feed him and house him too without being resentful? He should be coming to part alleviate your burden not add extra problems to your life.

I'm sure it's great to see your son so excited,but excitement doesn't translate to food,neither will excitement put a roof over your head or pay school fees.

You both can co-parent peacefully without marrying and he can be a father to his son while you work to give your child the future he deserves.

Nothing wrong with any of your opinions,it's just worrisome that she is inflexible.

If she wants you to foot all the bills,will she do all household chores 100% without your input?

If you want her to foot bills are you going to take your own share of chores too?

If she wasn't this rigid,you both could have agreed to a middle ground and agree to who does what.It's not that hard.

There are men who love women like her and there are women who will love a man like you.

You both should move on,izz ova.Be grateful that you both realised early that you're not compatible.

Nothing stops him from being a father to his son,paying visits,hanging out now while he sorts out his own ,from a distance while you both begin to court again if you want.

You said he wants to take responsibility,how?
No income,no accomodation,no job, nothing.

He paid your school fees in the past so I guess it's payback time but just remember,it's not your job to be his Messiah.

Is it you that will sponsor the marriage abi manna will fall from heaven?

I bet pastor somewhere has told him that the key to unlocking his fortune is by righting the wrong he did to you and his son..he will disappear like he did 8 years ago if after a few years he's still in the same situation.

I hope you have a good job or business to take care of 3 of you and any additional kids because this looks a suffer head manual loading.

This is 2020,marriages are formed to pool resources and get ahead ,not to go 100 steps back(all things being equal)


I wish you all the best.

You know what's up but you don't want to say it out.
You know what your real worry is
Good luck ma.

Evangkatsoulis:

Thank you so much sir. I received the aid.

About the low mood, I have had it since my preteens. Over 10 years ago. My distractbility issues started late 2014.
I am yet to check with a neurologist tho'. I will try to do that next week.
I will go through those links.

Usually,it's best to rule out possible physical causes of any illness before making a psychiatric diagnosis.
I hope things improve for you and I wish you the best of luck!

Evangkatsoulis:

I used sertraline, then fluoxetine, amitriptyline, and now imipramine.
The distractbility started december 2014. I didn't have it before 2014, and it has disappeared temporarily when I took coffee on four different occasions, but its response to coffee has failed to be reproduced consistently.

Yea, as a child I lost interest in things easily. Lots of unfinished projects. I needed to be stimulated a lot.
I would be unable to pay attention in classes like biology, economics, chemistry, agriculture(mind numbing subjects) if the teacher wasn't a funny person.

Thanks for replying

Did the low mood come before the distractibility?
I asked a bit about your childhood for a few reasons..It sounds like your problems started when you grew up.
You have used a fair amount of antidepressants .
The combination of imipramine and risperidone could cause CNS depressant effects.. feelings like your brain is slowed down etc but in a way that helps to relax you and reduce anxiety.

I hope you've seen at least seen a neurologist just to make sure that everything is fine neuro wise and if in doubt, get a second opinion.

With your medication now sorted for some months , i hope you feel better and able to manage.
I know with depression the world does not automatically become a wonderful place but maybe there's a small reason for it not to feel so bleak?
If you have not tried online CBT for your mood, have a look at the link below, also check out the ones for anxiety.
I am hoping you can access them from Nigeria, they have downloadable workbooks,if you cannot please let me know.

You may find it silly at first but you could just try and see if it's useful

https://www.nhsinform.scot/illnesses-and-conditions/mental-health/mental-health-self-help-guides/anxiety-self-help-guide
https://www.nhsinform.scot/illnesses-and-conditions/mental-health/mental-health-self-help-guides/depression-self-help-guide

Evangkatsoulis:

Sir, I am taking imipramine and risperidone, with vinpocetine for the dysthymia/SAD.
Yea, I have read up on hyperacusis.
The hyperacusis has been reversed completely. Amitriptyline eliminated all of my sensory issues i.e hyperacusis, hearing loss, sensitivity to heat, agitation, etc, but did nothing for my cognitive and mood issues.
The hyperacusis was a mental problem, not a physical one.

The main symptoms I have now are the working/short-term memory deficits, distractibiliy/attention span deficits, loss of inner speech,loss of visualization.
But the most devastating symptoms now are lowered auditory processing( similar to sluggish cognitive tempo), heightened auditory pareidolia, and distractbility. These three symptoms have fvcked me up real good.

A friend of mine is getting in touch with you for further information.
Glad to hear the hyperacusis is gone.Did you try other antidepressants before imipramine?

The distractibility and short attention span,were they there before these other symptoms?

As a child,were you easily distractibile /hyperactive ?
Was paying attention a problem then?

Evangkatsoulis:


Sir, my diagnosis was dysthymia, with social anxiety disorder.
The risperidone is there to boost the effect of the antidepressant.
I was given B complex, nicotinic acid and folic acid for the tinnitus.
My meds cost about N12000 a month.

Hiya,thanks for replying.
Are you still taking the medications? What anti depressant are you on and is the combination helpful to you? When last did you take your medications?

The hyperacusis, is it still ongoing? It is horrendous to be that sensitive to sound and i think your mental state would only amplify it.

Have you researched on hyperacusis and management?

Have you tried noise cancelling earphones?These tend to filter out noise and let you hear properly without the over sensitivity.

I'm trying to see how you can be helped so would appreciate an answer to my questions if you can.

@evangkatsoulis

Your symptoms sound very severe.
What is the diagnosis ? I see you are on risperidone which is an antipsychotic,does it help?

What is the cost of your medication?
Have you sought out help?

The problem is that stopping and starting antipsychotics reduce their efficacy.

What treatment were you given for the tinnitus.

This whole thread made me feel awful so I cannot imagine how you the writers even feel.

I am sorry ,so sorry for all your suffering.

Can you all just write what would make life a bit more bearable for you? If you say what it is you need then maybe someone can look in and help bearing in mind that help could be a one time thing but at least to pull through this phase.