Kobojunkie:
* There are churches that teach their gullible followers that the mission of women in life and marriage is to birth and raise what they call "godly" children.

* there are churches that teach doctrines that deceive their gullible with messages that suggest God needds their children to grow His Kingdom

* ofcourse almost always teach that the married are more blessed and favored by God

I can go on , but if you examine the population growth curve in Nigeria over at least the last 40 years, you will find that the huge rise happened right about the same religious organizations began gaining more and more freedoms in Nigeria to practice and to spread their doctrines.

* There are churches that teaches that, but I haven't seen those churches that will tell you to birth children in large quantity, that's what am saying.
* that's true, but they still didn't suggest you birth to the level you can't cater for.
*still true, that's one of the teachings I hate most about people who claim to be spiritual and quote to you "he who finds a wife findeth a good thing and favor in the sight of God" making some Sh!tty girls believe they are favor to men.
Marry most of those church girls and you are doomed.
I fear church girls alot.
In conclusion, if you check population growth in Nigeria, the northern hemisphere has a higher population growth, and you know they don't practice Christianity and that's a different ball game altogether.

Michelle70:
I don't think they teach whatever they like, I feel they teach what the people likes.

There are some temples, prayer houses, catholics, deeper life churches that preaches the bible as it ought to be, but those teachings are not sweet to the ears, rather it is the teachings of financial breakthrough that people enjoys.

That's why u may not find deeper life churches more often again but can find 3 living faith church just in one street, churches that is more interested in first fruit that code of dressing.
Back in 90's, who burn u to carry skirt weh short pass ur knee enter church. Na skirt weh deh ankle level girls deh wear

You are right though, still, those "pastors" teach what they like because they are as gullible as their followers, and you will see piece of sh!t that's no where near to righteous will be making all noise about the kingdom of heaven and how is a great follower of God.
That's one of the reasons I hate these noise makers in the name of Christianity and spirituality, you go to so called churches and you see choristers and church leaders dancing a zlatan dance step in the church but they will tell you they are magnifying God.
Alot of sh!ts being carried out by "our daddy" and their sh!tty followers in the name of Christianity. People want to bear the name of God and live the standard of devil at the same time

Kobojunkie:
If you did deeper, you will find that the high rate of unemployment is part to blame on overpopulation and overpopulation itself is in many ways linked to religion, your churches part and parcel of with their doctrines that claim that what God wants is for all to multiply, when in fact God meant message for the fruitful.

Unemployment can also be linked to under development, if you look at it critically, churches don't actually teach having many children(I haven't heard that though), people who has plenty kids are not really church people, in essence what am saying is this, people tends to assume God called them because some finished their first degree and no work so they become so religious and before you know, they have a church or ministry as they call it and because they are confused people trying to feed from religion, they teach whatever they like and people in their abundance of foolishness follows in all totality.

DaddyRochie1642:



Oga to Slap you dey hungry me

I already said come and slap me, what are you still waiting for?

DaddyRochie1642:
Anybody that tells me that money is Vanity Upon Vanity should be Slapped mercilessly

Money is vanity upon vanity, am in my house come and slap me.

Most part of the Christianity we see these days are just lies and fallacy, and this happens as a result of high rate of unemployment amongst the young population, as a result many of them resort to "ministry" and preach or do whatever they like in the name of serving God, these "pastors" will tell you anything to get money out of your pocket.

saphiere:
A sin of one man you say? How many rape cases have been posted on this platform this week? How many was done by men?

Tell us how many was done by your father and brothers and your question is answered.

For me I will say you need to first and foremost decide in your mind you really want to stop it, you can kick a woman out even if her body is so alluring and she is offering it to you, self control comes into play, the decision to change is where the journey begins, you have to think through and through and decide, in this life the moment you are being successful or look good women won't stop coming to you, you attract them naturally, self control matters, you control your d! ck, it shouldn't control you.

Very interesting thread, reading it this morning was a sort of delay but I had to.
For me, there are no written rules anywhere about what to ask and what not to ask, so I ask whatever I feel and I will answer whatever you like, be it on a first date or whatever, a lady once asked me for some money some two years ago, the sum was quite and a close friend was getting married and we as friends and associates had to turn and for me he was really close so I had to do better coupled with an ongoing project I couldn't let that money out that day not even the next day, so I asked this lady what do you want to do with that money, me trying to ascertain if I can delay it for like 3 days, her reply was, "don't ask a girl what she wants to do with money", that was the end of that conversation, if a rule says I shouldn't ask you what to do with money that rule should also tell you not to ask me for money. In a nutshell people especially ladies feel embarrassed when certain questions are put forward to them, so "gentlemen" didn't want them to feel embarrassed again so they put up those shitty rules, for me am not a "gentleman".
It's not as if they don't enjoy these conversations but getting into it they feel weird, I met a lady who was 28 years old, at her age with the kind of upbringing she had, it's embarrassing to her to talk about sex, she can't tell you on chat she wants to shower, never, she can't tell you she is pressed, any discussion that will lead to boobs or booty, or private organs she avoids like plague as a result of that she doesn't even know what the words like "body count" "Mouth Action" "head" means, all the guys in her life knew her like this and kept that standard, they were trying to ask her out she was turning them, when I came into the picture, I had to defy the odds and make her talk about those things and exposed her, till we called it quits I didn't ask her out (some of those stupid guys have been begging for years) but to her I was like the best thing that happened to her.
She was always in a rush to bring up such discussions because to her surprise she enjoyed talking about them.
Nice write up Op.

advanceDNA:


This is not red pill.... redpillers don’t feel they don’t need women in their lives... they just don’t let women control or use them...

this pill is black pill...very black...

That's funny

You sound like you have a point, but as things stands, if there are no visible changes here in 10 years, in other parts of the world things are changing in that same 10 years, did I miss your point?

I don't know if this is a red pill thread, but for every living soul in life, both male and female, don't ever tolerate what doesn't give you peace.

streetzdreamz:
Lols. Her mum obviously didn't know those stuffs won't keep a real man, might attract them but definitely won't keep them.Nothing beats natural, if it's a must you modify, do it with sense and let it be moderate. Well, whatever they do is their kettle of fish sha.

Moderate is ok.
Anything outside moderate is big NO

streetzdreamz:
Lack of class? Maybe it's because of their own condescending remarks they give each other. Most men don't care about wigs nor know the worth of those wigs. But you'll see ladies fight all tooth and nail to wear an expensive wig all because of their own gender. (they said they ain't dressing or making up for us ) They just want to pepper themselves. I think it's immature though, dressing or living a life to please others or seek validation from others. There should be nothing more comforting than knowing your partner digs and cherishes your natural looks. I mean, you won't even have to go through any trouble in being appealing to him. But I guess they know why they act the way they do, because I'll never understand it.

The moment you are wearing a hairy cap that can be pulled off in the name of wig, you are making me angry, I hate artificial girls alot, when all your dress sense aligns with everything artificial, then we can't be together, when your attitude is artificial we are also not compatible, one of d reasons I admire these deeper life babes and their dress sense, just look natural you for once nobody will die.
Sometime late last year I was with a lady I know from years ago, the fingers she put on, she is not d artificial kind, she said her mom told her it's because she doesn't fix nails and shine up that's why she is not getting a husband.
Imagine nonsense.
I kept my cool, and said OK.

Toks2008:



I am literally laughing out so loud oh my days.

It's irritating when the lady sitting across you on d table is stylishly trying to drink water and when she wants to anything in her mouth, she has to show you her teeth because she doesn't want to ruin her make up, the funny aspect was when I took her out in a cold weather, and her make up stained my milk color sweater, FFS this sweater is more expensive than your make up.
And this babe look so cute without those make up.

Rita005:
Thanks a lot. I really like him but his marital status is troubling. I sure will be careful about it. His mom is so interested in him getting another woman cuz she was never in support of his decision to marry his wife. I appreciate your advice.

I thought I left this page already, and my browser is returning me to this refreshed story and I had to read all over again, it's obvious you have made up your mind, you can't imagine losing him, after all we are all judging him because we don't know him, and your reason for posting is for people to strengthen your resolve in chasing after him, you are a banker and doing simple logic is difficult for you?
How difficult is it to divorce in Nigeria?
I agree he is good, his attributes and achievements are quite commendable but
If he wanted a divorce he will kick her out a long time ago, what if he was only giving d woman time to put herself together and then using you to keep body and soul together?
It's easy for a successful guy to play around with Nigerian girls, I am talking from experience, you can camp I'm Enugu and flex repected babes and move to Akwa Ibom (my most preferred destination) and when you are done you move on, he has built a castle in your head, I advised a lady that was close to me like this sometime ago and she had d audacity to tell me life is a risk, when she was weeping, I simply told her life is a risk.
Be wise!!!

ImoleNaija:


You must be a real man.

Well everybody has to suit themselves sometimes I guess.

streetzdreamz:
Tell a lady she looks beautiful, you like her better without makeup and wigs and you'll see her countenance change. Like if that's not a compliment I wonder what else a compliment is. One should ordinarily feel good at such remarks, I mean I'll feel good if my natural look gets a compliment rather than an enhanced projection. But they mostly feel insulted. Sometimes I wonder how they interpret words.

She feels maybe it's a sign of lack of class or whatever to be without wigs and make, This wig caused alot of disagreement between, am not cut out for this shit babe, she won't listen, so I had to suit myself, come on let's go out, she will put make up or whatever to the point that I won't feel like talking to her, how can you make up to the point that drinking water becomes difficult, who do you want to impress?
Me?
Am not impressed, nothing suits my eyes like a woman on natural hair.

At 26,the world ahead of you is larger and full of better options to be entangled in this mess, that thing that's making your thoughts go wild, if I were you, I would calm myself, you think he is everything because you chose to see "everything" in him.
Be wise my dear.

I told this lady sometime ago that I prefer going out with her with her natural corn rows and no make up compared to her wig and make ups and she was like who does that?
We stopped going out till we ended d relationship.

Just as different clothes are meant for different occasions, we all know those underwears are meant for different occasions.

Whoever taught you that men are not great house keepers must have been high on something.

With the number of girls littered I'm the society, you are looking for a family scandal abi?
Be wise

Something I always tell people, when a woman loves you, you won't explain to people around that she loves you they will know, in this situation you are finding it difficult to explain to yourself that she loves talk more of other people.
Let me tell you a story, I have this gentleman friend who is also a nairalander but never really comes online, he had this girl he was wasting his money on(be probably don't know what to do with it anyway), This lady never call him on phone, anytime she calls it's always to say "call me back" and when he calls back she is definitely making a request nothing more, and he has to pay the airtime she used in saying "call me back" one day I was called upon by d lady and she slammed 250k on my table, she called the guys name and told me he is insulting her, if he thinks he has money or wants to insult me because of money then am not cut out for this, as disrespectful as d idiot was, she left d money on my table and went away, I went to this gentleman and said, brother what happened, he said she is stupid, "do you know this lady has airtime to talk comfortably to other guys and even have money to give other guys whereas the most simplest call she couldn't make to me?" to cut long story short, I was with d money two nights later, d stupid girl called me to apologize for her behavior that they have reconciled and she was mandated by her guy to apologize to me, they have broken up now at d edge of marriage, when a woman loves you, she will do things within her power for you, it's glaring the b!tch you are hallucinating about don't give a damn about you, using you to solve her problems and she will dump, go and beg her and date her again, but write this at the back of your mind "She will dump you when she is ok"

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Guest2008:

I'm not happy myself because I've never seen my mum in so much tears.. She cried like a baby, it wasn't a good sight at all

You calm yourself and try to control the situation.
In this situation a heart to heart talk is better

Seems you are devastated yourself.
Try to find out why he went into smoking in the first place, from there, you know where to go.
So many teenagers these days are lost all in the name of civilization.

Talk to your niece about it, make her comfortable so she can confide in you, then from there you lecture her about life and the consequences of making wrong decisions and if possible bring to her knowledge valid examples.
I know a 16 year old girl who went blindly into love and romance with a guy of same age, today she is 23, the psychological trauma she went through has negative impact on her till date.
Guide your niece, save a soul, most teenage boys don't know what they are doing in romance and don't take it to heart, your niece has more to lose than that guy.

NigeriaIsGreat:
I'm not a lady bros. I'm a full flesh guy. Since you've insisted, i can prove that to you

Your cup of tea

First and foremost, there are certain things that are needed to make a successful marriage ceremony aside the bride price, I once attended a marriage where the bride price was #500 but the guy actually paid for other things that made up the event, now if the support happens to be the other expenses that makes a successful ceremony it's fine depending on the view of those involved , but whatever is the bride price in actual sense should be paid by the guy provided he wants to marry according to the African culture.
A side observation****
You ladies support whatever culture favors you, since culture is culture, it's not the African culture for a man to help you in chores or open doors for you to pass, it's not the African culture for a man to seek his wives opinion but rather treat her like a subordinate, it's also the African culture for a man to marry as many wives as he wishes, I hope you abide by these cultures since culture is culture.

Ekejoestar:


Story teller

I tell real stories though.

The last girl to complain that I know of this problem is 5 months pregnant now, the one before that, the son is 7 months old now, the one before that has a son who is 6 years old now.