olawalehenry:

But it does not augur well cos I believe its the responsibility of the man to approach the lady and tell her his mind.

what i meant to say is that it should be the other way round. The man should be the one proposing...you can't be heard to say thata wife should be the head of the family! ...it can't be Mother,child and father,but...father,mother and child. Have you seen a couple addressed as Mrs&Mr.....its Mr and Mrs.

Cutehector4u:
gud advice... But right now i rily am not chasing any girl , wana use this period of time to get up, do smth significant, get a job, grow in wisdom and strength...in money likewise..den i beleive d girls would be troopin in like a swarm of bees

ah....now here is a MAN!

With that mentality,...you are headed for the top! Stay blessed.

I admit,some people don't have the strong mental ability to deal with some serious shit...but come to think of it @Op,you depend solely on an online therapy to mend your problem.
I think you have some other deep issues,apart from what you mentioned here,you seem to have trouble "GROWING UP". I don't think being a man is only when you can do stuffs or handle pressure by yourself,but admitting that you have a problem! You did admit you have a problem,but this is barely the way to solve them. I'm quite certain that majority of the issues that are being brought to Nairaland Romance section(for one) are fictions,and some of them only have onet motive: TO GET SOME ATTENTION.
I'm also certain that among the majority of topics that are real,only few takes the advice of respectable NLders who take their time to type what they assume is going to help! I'm not saying that your topic is a lie,what i'm actually saying is...if it is true,find physical help(therapy)...i don't think people listens to the advice of someone they can't see. Secondly,like someone said in this thread:there are shorter ways to get an information across than an epistle,lol....well,here is me keeping it short...HOW OLD ARE YOU SEF?

HBD....long life and P

Cutehector4u:
am too tired of being nice...i now set boundaries, tell them the truth as i see it witout mincing words....

if i had a dollar for every gal that says "not interested"..GOD knows!
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Well,i hv had my own shares of 'No',but it doesn't deter me,i have had more yes than No though,i mean...much more yes! When a "NO" comes(in what ever way it does)...i take it as a bad day and move on! If you keep this things in mind,it kills your confidence.

.i'm not a Keeper! So,i barely get hurt.

Well,everybody gets kinda rejected,but i'm not that blunt in approach(i'm kinda a patient bird of prey),not too patient,but PATIENT....so i barely get rejected,and when i do...it's not that bad!
But the closest came when a girl told me,''I KNOW ALL ABOUT YOUR GAME,I'VE BEEN TOLD...AND YOU ARE NOT SEEING MY PANTS'' ....have others,but this is the one that really got me.

Cutehector4u:
Ur a nice guy and i see u as a friend....na so my head begin to dey bust..be like say mk i shoot myself.....buh hell no, i must break a girl's heart for that....i must pay bak for wad dey hav done to me

forget that bro...don't think like that.

3cycle:

Check my profile.

hmm..ok..i just hope you are really tall cos i will trace you and then...maybe if you are really a virgin,you might have a chance with me

misshoree:
what do u think of then?

it's sometimes kind of a pride thing....an as*shole will always stick it to your face one way or the other that he is dating your sister! Secondly,i won't tell u to imagine if you were a guy,but i'm going to contradict myself: it will feel extremely awkward hanging out with a friend you know might be having s*x with your sister.
It all depends on the mindset shaa.

julisa2020:
hmmmm...to me
1.its kinda inappropriate especially if shes hes kid sister.....
2.because guys dosnt want their sisters to experience/go through what other girls face in their hands...
3.because they know their friends well enough to know that they're not good for his sister(s) (ie if his friend has a nasty behaviour)

your number is one of the reasons,but i don't think it's because of what she might go through,i mean,one can't expect to go through life protecting her sister from birds of prey.....so better one you know than others.

misshoree:
They know what they do to other girls and they won't want a reciprocal result

....that's not what most of us thinks shaa..

NORM

temigracie:
....@Tymax....

..Approaching a guy is not always the best thing to do......So many things is always at stake..Her self-esteem, her pride as a woman, it might soil her personality etc....

...African guys have this silly mentality when a girl approaches them.....They believe they are desperate, they believe she s cheap and so should not be appreciated......They believe a hard-earned gf should be respected and appreciated....Makes me remember a certain yoruba proverb wc says, 'Oogun taba fowora, eeyin aaro loun gbe'..

..In her case, there s enough competition already....This nigga has lots and lots of admirers.....She only has a slim chance of getting his attention....

..I dont understand why some babes wont allow things to flow naturally....If he is gonna be urs, he is gonna ask you out or seek for your attention instead...
#kiss...

hey lady,no offense,but if you keep portraying Africans in this negative way,then i don't think we have any hope of growth....MENTALLY!

I'd like to think that in your mind you are not generalizing! Also,i should think that as an African(i'm assuming you are one) and one that believes we have a very poor mentality,you include yourself as one! Come to think of it,what makes you think that the guy in question don't think Africans have poor mentality and hence doesn't think in such way!
My dear(don't mind me) ,i'm not trying to attack you or your opinions,because as this is a forum,but i just think you are wrong about that "MENTALITY" stuff. Every African is not the same,some of us tend to grow in mentality,some of us are naturally grown in that aspect....! Thank you. CHEERS.

This Op sef,how can you get him...and suddenly you just want to be friends...lol! You don't know what you want,i suggest you find a guy that thinks like you before this so called hot guy devours ur heart.

More like how to keep living in the past! What if your ex adopts the same method...u two will look like a couple of ediots who never stopped loving each other.

Ok! fine!...can you now concentrate on your choice and let us make our own choice! The opposite of slim is not fat in this context right? What of the girls in between?

Look my friend,i'm not going to criticize you,because some of us are kinda fragile in this love issue,you just have to try and get back on your feet,but No matter how much of a cliché u think this is,it's the truth: MOVE ON!

Franchise21:
So dey even jerk off wiv detergent? Wonderful!!!

lol

natureboy50:


Like seriously?

kidding! He needs help....research shows that people like this are bound to put their sick thoughts into effect in their mid tweenties or early thirties! Quick help.

I dey kum,mk i wipe nyassh

Too much detective novels and american movies...this guy should be hanged b4 he kills someone.

This technique sucks.....too long for a desperate lady!

If gals do believe that,what we would have is lots of boys jerking off at the nearest sight of water and soap,detergent or vaseline,and if boys believe all these,we would have a high rate of lesbianism and dil*do sale.

If she is not very taller than Chinedu ikediezie....big turn off

I would like to think my boo would be worth more than that....i'm single right now,so i'll keep that thought till then.

Oh man...u r quite fragile! 2years and you are just gonna give up like this? IMO..u r making a mistake,but maybd you should dump her,who knows..she myt hv found someone else when you were in school and decided to keep you for supplies. But then again,u r a student,u no get.

5minutes

Fake.

Now another guy who wants to believe what he thinks! Phewww! Bitches..lol,i like that word.

SMALLPENIS:
the wife, we men are doing women a favour by marrying them..., a favour with benefits

lmao very funny! U no dey do anybody favours o,unless say u marry an over aged woman.