People like you sir are the ones causing the hard to get mentality amongst women.

She paid for your flight and got hotel accommodation for you before you came, speaks volume about that kind of person. Means she's mature and knows what she wants and is not afraid to go for it.

You on the other hand were immature and had to go brag about you scoring to your friends. Ahn Ahn.. You never graduate from secondary school?

Real men don't kiss and tell. They gave it to you in secret. You sef collect it in secret and lock up.

Back to the matter, if you like her, wife her. You just have to tell your friends to respect her, and you have to begin to paint her in a different light in front of them. If you really love her like you say you do, you should try to correct your mistake.

And to the ladies out there like this lady in question, please continue to shoot your shot. Not all guys are this childish.

obowunmi:
If you know how RICH people treat POOR people in Nigeria, you will understand why people do yahooyahoo, wirewire...


They treat them like SHEEIIT..so no one wants to be poor.

Truth is.. Really rich people understand the importance of the people that work below them. Rich people don't berate other people's labour.

Because they know that if those keep people doing their work, they remain rich.

It's someone that got money without working for it that would berate someone else's hustle. They don't understand the process.

Ignore them.

Tunex90:
I wonder why some niggers (guys to be precise) will be Condemning yahoo boys, don't you have sense, your challenge is jealousy, you see those boys and you begin to envy them, if not for yahoo, what will those guys be doing, do you have job provided for them, you guys are so stupid, aren't you in Nigeria, is there Job? If your pained why can't you move closer to one of them and learn it, I wonder why guys reason this way, don't you wanna look good, don't you wanna buy car and good phones, don't you wanna enjoy life, dont you wanna build house, in fact I'm so dissapointed in some naija guys, or do you think there's hope in this country? Have you ever sat down and think why most of your mates are traveling abroad? Do you think about your life at all, most of you hope believeing things will get better and you sit back doing nothing to boost it, politicians are looting billions and you're there condemning yahoo boys! Lemme stop here before some people start to cry

Yes, we all want to look good, buy cars, do stuff, enjoy life. But my brother, stolen money is stolen money.

Imagine, if the hustle that pays you, belongs to a fund keeping a sick person from dying, or to someone else that wants the same ambitions as you, but is working a 9-5 and saving vigorously to achieve it.

Would you wear that Gucci with pride? Knowing that someone else has died because you stole their money? Or when you're taking pictures with that high end phone you stole the money to buy, would you be happy knowing that the guy you defrauded has been ejected from his apartment because you stole his rent?

Ask yourself, would you be truly happy knowing that you caused so much damage to 'look good'. Ask yourself, if you'd want your child to follow your footsteps, be greater than you, do more damage? .

The people that have a contrary opinion are not jealous. There's dignity in knowing that what you have, you didn't steal.

Ask yourself, and answer truthfully.

zinaunreal:


What about the savings of the country's treasury that has been looted in its billions of dollars. You see these thieves everyday on tv dont you? Youre busy throwing judgements on yahoo boys but youre doing so without light in your house and when you wake up to go to church tomorrow the road is horrible (money to fix all these have been laundered out of the country)and youre typing here hoping efcc will eliminate fraud from their N24 billion naira comfortable office. When will you get the picture?

Yahoo boys dont even make up to 1% of Nigeria's problem at all

Have you been defrauded before sir?

Obviously you haven't.. And that's the problem. Between the people looting our treasury and the ones looting our bank accounts, there's no lesser evil, we have to stamp them all out, one by one, as we get the opportunity.

Please help me consider this.. Assuming it takes you a year and half to save 2m naira, with you cutting off all forms of ostentatious living and depriving yourself, because you have a target.

Then one day, you input your banking password on the wrong page and in a flash, the whole money is gone. One yahoo boy has taken it. And spent it all in a week. Went to the club and bought drinks of 1m for himself and his crew, even made videos of them pouring the drinks on the floor, then carried 2 babes and paid them 250k each and spent the rest on an iPhone x.

You that has the money has never spent 100k in a single sitting at the club. You use a mid grade Samsung and you're happy, not because you're poor, but because there's a dignity in knowing that what you have, you worked to pay for it.

Now there's an opportunity to bring this guy to book, would you pass it up.. Because politicians are looting the treasury dry? After all, the yahoo boy is not up to 1% of our problem?

Please I want us all to question our conscience. If it's not happening to you, it has happened to someone else. And until we all begin to see each other's problem as a collective one, there's no going forward.

Same would apply to the politicians. It's because we are enabling them with our laissez-faire attitude, that's why the problem persists. When there's no consequence for evil, it would prevail in the hearts of men.

Wake up guys

HeyCorleone:
Funny.

Stopping internet fraud is hard.

I don't support it but what are niggas to do?

The structure of the country is not one that allows legit hustle.

If it was a country like the US or Canada or Switzerland that they are deliberating such issue, it'd be more reasonable. Not here where Jobs are not provided and the environment to create a job is absent. An idle mind becomes the devil's workshop.

Internet Fraud is only normal in a condition like this. Boys should be left alone. Okay they should quit Yahoo and do what?

The system should be fixed first.

Shebi na because dem never nack you once ba?

If for say one day you open your account and your whole life savings is gone.. And the werey wey take am dey use am buy 200k drink for club, dey use am wash hand for ig.. Dey carry olosho for 50k a night.. And all sorts of ostentatious living.. You'd understand..

Until then.. Keep sympathizing with them.. Hopefully one day dem go hammer you too.. Shioor

Pidgin2:


This is very bad advice, OP you will be surprised that it is a secondary school student giving you advice. Nairaland is not the best place to seek counsel

Do you do anything in the house besides eat, sleep, watch TV and have endless sex? Your wife may be overburdened with house chores and she might be too tired to meet up to your demands.

Help her with domestic work or get someone to help her. Try and exercise self control, what if you have to travel away for a month, wouldn't you be able to hold yourself, is sex food, or does it sustain your breathing?

I agree with you ma.. Partially tho.. You are not to deny your partner your body. It's absurd, and it leads to more problems. This man is only baring his mind because I believe he is a good man. Majority would just find another girl that will fill in for madam every other day.

@OP: Maybe she's overburdened with work. She's stressed because you don't help her around the house (maybe).

Look for opportunities to do chores together. Take her out to places she'd love. Be as romantic as possible always.

And when the time comes, don't rush.. Engage in serious pre-intimacy for a long time. You'd be surprised how much your fingers can do.. Forget about yourself. Make it your mission to get her to enjoy it. Observe her body and learn how your touches affect her. Watch out for feedback-not necessarily moans, it can be fake- how she twitches when you touch her. Note how and where you touched her.. Give her head if you can.. It works like magic

Bottom line, try everything. See what she likes and don't judge. Just do.

Good luck.

Mutuwa:


Can't you marry another woman that will yield to your sex demands? Life is too short for one to leave the comfort of his life,in the hands of one woman.

Don't cheat on her.Make plans to marry again.and make it explicit to her,except if you fear the after math.

When has creating a problem to solve another ever worked?

Dyt:


SMH

Like real SMH

Kingsley1000:
the high rate of moral decadence in nollywood is alarming

But Bros.. this is not Lucy Peters and not nollywood nau?


#justSaying

SouthieGirl:


Aww, how sweet! For the record, I'm not looking for a "Henry", so just be you.
If you don't mind a boring friend

Boring people don't do what you just did. Don't mind those naysayers.

I need more people like you in my life.

SouthieGirl:


A long shot, I know. At least I'l feel less guilty for trying to apologise.

I love you already. I could be Henry for you..

hamingra:


Thanks for the English lesson my brother. And sorry for the insult it was in a fit of mild irritation.

If you have ever seen any court document e.g affidavit, you would know that is how they are. What matters is the stamp that bears the seal of the court.

That document is genuine for all intent and purpose. Except if you have evidence to the contrary. I would suggest you come forward with it if so

Fair point.

Thank you.

hannyjay:
mumu check d date

You see hannyjay, I looked at your profile and most of what you post is insults. You probably don't have the correct mental capacity to engage in a meaningful discourse without hurling insults at the other party.

Because it's nairaland doesn't mean you can indulge in arbitrary name calling. It's true I cannot do anything to you but it makes you seem less intelligent to people reading your posts.

I'm here to reason with people of intellect and unfortunately you don't fall into that category. Strive to do better next time ma.

Cheers.

PassingShot:

It's you and others doubting the document that need to proove it was written on tge 10th. Why should those believing it prove it was not issued on the 5th?

Does the document look authentic to you PassingShot?

ZombieMYND44:


No proof..how can u also proof it wasn't written on the date signed. Mr Wailer!

ZombieMYND44 truthfully I can't. And neither can you. And that's why pictures are no longer admissible as evidence in a court of law.

On the other hand, if you try to analyse the document, does it look to you as an official document?

charliboy654:

U r even more stupid, how can u prove that this was writing after on the 7th of October? Or do u expect DSS to broadcast the arrest warrant to the public b4 the date of the arrest.

Charliboy654 I'm sorry if I struck a chord.

There are proper channels the dss can make public details of the arrest. Even if they wanted to 'leak' it, don't you think they would have leaked a more official-looking document to a more prestigious website? As against a Cyber-cafe like document to a nameless blog?

All I'm asking you to do is try a little deductive reasoning. I'm guessing you would ask questions if you go to a filling station now and they tell you that pms is now 600/litre instead of taking their word for it.

Cheers.

bayelsaowei:
zombies are conduit for deceit..they can be easily fooled right left and center..

They believe any and everything even when it adds nothing to their life..

Bayelsaowei It baffles me how very gullible an average Nigerian is.

So if I float a blog now and post (Buhari slaps Osinbajo, Osinbajo resigns post as VP) as the subject, quote an anonymous aso Rock high ranking officer and provide a leaked scanned word document showing the VP's resignation purportedly signed by the VP, it probably will make rounds on the internet and a good number of Nigerians will read it and believe it.

It's unfortunate. No wonder Fela had a field day calling us zombies.

enigma2007:


and how do you know it was obtained after they invaded?

I can't say for sure.

And this is the reason pictures are no longer admissible as evidence in a court of law.

To clear any doubt, the dss can release a video of the raid. Let them show us how they raided the houses, how and where they saw the monies and ammunition (if any). Even the army wey dey fight boko haram dey release video sometimes.

They haven't even released an official press statement. People are just losing weight over some blog post that we cannot ascertain its credibility.

Don't get me wrong I am not on the judges' side. I think that you have to follow procedures to bring them to book. This reeks clearly of intimidation tactics. Two wrongs have never made a right.

hamingra:


How can you prove that it was wrtten after the event! Nincompo!

You don't have to insult me to put your point across.

This document looks rushed and has no iota of authenticity around it. If you are conversant with official documents, you should understand what I'm talking about.

I expect that a document of this importance should be written on a letter headed paper.. Which should carry the logo of the issuing organisation at least.

This looks like what someone typed and printed from a laptop and filled out.

Try to deduce somethings by yourself Bros hamingra before swallowing everything you see online hook, line and sinker.

And by the way, the correct spelling is nincompoop.

Shydon:


Could you pls go back and read the search warrant once more. It's gotten before the search. it's clearly signed on the 5th of October while the search was carried out on Friday which was 7th of October.


Na war o for these Wailers...wuna no dey get tired of wailing? You don t have to be too hard on yourselves nah

This has got to be the silliest post of the year. How can you prove that the document wasn't written on the 10th of October?

myklangelo:


Some Nigerians voted against GEJ not because he was corrupt, rather because they were MADE to believe they have a better choice in Buhari, who of note is a massive failure.

Some Nigerians get easily brainwashed, without faculty of subjective/objecti thinking.

And oil politics actually plays a pivotal role in Nigeria

God bless you my brother.

It baffles me that young, able-bodied men and women who claim they went to school will allow themselves to keep being goaded by the propaganda of this administration. Try to do a little research, put 2 and 2 together and you will see that this administrations stories do not add up.

I don't support Jonathan as a very effective leader, but I know that his administration was made to look bad so as to coerce gullible Nigerians to vote against him.

Think back, tell me when the insults against the presidency started. They branded him clueless, and suddenly all Nigerians agreed that their president was dumb and they ran with it. See where we are now.

ofwest47:
The * I Before Orders * are now crying wolf where there is non. They say when the head is off it will be too late to cry.
Where was Ofeimun in 1962 when the Hausa /Ibo collusion govt colluded to scuttle the well focused forward looking Yoruba nation regional government when they declared state of emergency for no just cause.?
Where was Ofeimun in 1963 when the Ibo/Hausa collusion colluded together to sentence head of the Yoruba nation regional govt. Chief Obafemi Awolowo and other Yoruba leaders to 10 years imprisonment for hook up treason trial?
Where was Ofeimun in 1963 also when IBO/Hausa collusion govt. colluded to exercise the Midwestern Region from the West without similar exercise been carried out in the Middle belt from the North and Calabar _Ogoja River state from the East despite serious agitations from the leaders in those areas the likes it Joseph Tarka from the North and Ken Sarowiwa ,Wenike Briggs and Lulu Briggs in line with Awo's recommendation before Nigerian Independence see Awolowo's Thought to Nigerian constitution 1945 were these people so mentioned not silenced for good by the Hausa/IBO conspiracy.
It is now you are clamoring for restructuring and I said when the head is off it all be too late to cry.
See what the actions or inactions of that time has brought us to Nigeria of today.
And like Caeser "Oh conspiracy where for will thou hide thy eye brows.

My good sir ofwest47, you paint Chief Awolowo as a Saint that has no blemish but you forget the following:

That the Chief was found guilty of embezzlement. He diverted state funds to run his party as he couldn't compete with the Fred Okotie Eboh funded NCNC, and that was one of the reasons for his incarceration.

That lt. Col. Ojukwu tried to reason with Chief Awolowo to join the struggle of Biafria when he broke him out of prison, but he sided with lt. Col. Gowon which led the you as to side with Nigeria during the civil war. If the yorubas and igbos had united against the common enemy then, we might not have had this arrangement of a country today and I think we might have been better for it.

The Chief was responsible for the strategy to cut off salt supply to the igbo nation, causing a lot of deaths due to nutritional deficiency. Many of these deaths were children. This is genocide sir.

After the war, when Gowon said no Victor no vanquished, he mandated the then finance minister - Chief Awolowo to ensure that the igbos were returned to their lives before the war. The Chief in his discretion gave all the igbo men 20 pounds irrespective of their account balance before the war, effectively rendering them poor.

We still regard this man today as a founding father because he championed the cause for our democracy. We even have a university and various streets named after him. But are these actions noteworthy of a founding father?

seunmsg:
I respect Odia Ofeimun but all what he said in this piece is nonsense and very disappointing. Nigerians voted out Jonathan because of his poor performance in office and nothing else. Linking his electoral loss to crude oil politics is absolute nonsense. How many oil well has Buhari allocated since he became president? Silly talk like this will only continue to divide the country at a time when all parts need to unite and demand for good governance.

And to the issue of restructuring, it is very funny that he tried to suggest that Yoruba's have abandoned the clamour after moving to the federal mainstream with APC. Just last week, Yakassai accused Yoruba's of pushing for restructuring out of jealousy and Ibos quickly supported him. No southern leader rebuked him or even try to correct that silly accusation. In fact, Igbos gloated over that thread without remorse. Now, Ofeimum is raising the issue again.

Even though I am still unconvinced about how restructuring will make us a better and more united nation, I think southerners must learn to take a position on the matter and stick to it. Restructuring can only be achieved through a united southern voice. Yorubas alone cannot champion the cause. SE and SS must also admit that they want Nigeria restructured and the call is not out of any jealousy.

Bros seunmsg.. You haven't heard of any awarding of oil blocks because that is what they want. For it to remain as it is. All oil block licenses were to expire this year-2016 and redistributed to new people, of course at the discretion of the GCFR as there is currently no law that governs the awarding of oil blocks in Nigeria - the current holders made sure of it through the senate.

I can tell you with good authority that 98% of oil blocks currently awarded to individuals are to people from the north, and they have had this privilege since the military rule.

Jonathan's rule might not have been very effective but the man tried to do things the right way. He didn't award oil blocks to his own people just because he had the power, but because he believed that come 2016 his people would have a fighting chance. But the cabals that always fight dirty gave the dog a bad name to hang it. Now we have seen that the change they promised us is very pseudo.

One of such powers from the north got his oil block in 1993 during Gen. Abacha s rule. He allegedly averages 4billion NAIRA a month. He's dead now but his family is richer than borno state where he is based and they still have controlling power over the oil block.

Many of my friends like you tell me that Nigeria's problem is not related to oil politics, but I don't agree. With such control comes a lot of money which brings a lot of power.

Ginaz:
The only thing a lady needs to clean her lady part is just ORDINARY WATER. Even on her period, use just water to wash.

Someone told me 2 years ago and I was like, e go smell na''. One day i used a feminine wash, summer eve's and got a terrible bad reaction. I kneel down and said, God as I treat this, na water I go use from now on."

I started using water last year September, it's been one year now I've been using plain water, and let me tell you "ITS THE BEST. No smell, no discharge, no irritation, no itchy, just fresh V. I use just ordinary water even on my period days.

I feel so fresh down there, I bought a towel I use only for wiping, I don't use my body towel. Rinse with water after urinating, change pants whenever I can and sleep naked. Sleeping naked helps air circulation and it keeps yeast infections at bay.

Hmmm, water is life. I'm a proof. I drink lots of water on an empty stomach too. God is Good o. Water for life. Give it a try sister, and your life will never remain the same.

Love the sleep unclad part.. It does improve air circulation

haryomikun:
Hmmmm... Let's say the 'lazy women' don't get married, another story will come up again that its the devil and a spirit wife that's holding their future husbands.

The world is too 'male-oriented'

Why didn't he advise women not to marry lazy men. The blame is always on the women. Always!

If nah man matter now, they'll start saying 'Stick with him, his life will be better'

Check my signature for an interesting read.

And if dem born your phone well, call me woman wrapper

Brov..get all the facts..he also said women shouldn't marry men without jobs.

Quite frankly, I don't see anything wrong with what he said. If you don't cook for your husband, he eats out. You expose him to outside elements, other women willing to cook for him. He eats, loves the food, starts getting attracted to the other women, cheats on you once with them, then another time, then many more times. Then you blame him, because he can't control himself, meanwhile you are the root cause.

Same goes for a man who has no job. I don't see how you intend to provide for your family. A man that can't provide for his family can't have the respect of his wife, no matter the love they think they are in.

I think what the pastor said should be the blueprint of any marriage that plans to succeed.

Cheers.

fellis:
Hmmm.

Na wa o.

A girl telling you not to initiate sex when she visits means that she wants sex?

A girl coming to charge things in your house without wearing hijab and niqab means she wants sex

Hian!
#todayilearned

You better don't be caught napping..an average sharp guy would put the moves on you in these conditions..

I don't see why a girl that knows I'm single will come to my house at night dressed provocatively because you want to 'charge your phone'. If you're not looking for something else..you'd at least wait till morning or go somewhere else..

myfantasies:
Tank you

Just tell him u r cold nd d rest is history

No need for all dese ten list things

Telling him you're cold is part of the ten ma.. are you cold now?.*wink*