Is it free?

Have you decided to take some time off to become a housewife so you can raise your kids before going back to work? Have you halted your career, your studies or a business so you can focus on raising a family first?

It is not uncommon to see women decide to put their personal growth on hold while they tend to their families.

When women make this sacrifice, most have the intention of going back to work, their career or studies. Many set a target of 2 years, 5 , even up to ten years and beyond. They planned to get back.

The reality is, not many of these women went back to work, their careers, businesses or studies.

What are the Factors That Can Stop Women From Going Back to Work, Career or Businesses?

Circumstances that are likely to stop women from going back to the workplace, career or their own goals include but are not limited to:

multiple births,

unplanned pregnancies,

family demands

religious and cultural expectations

lack of motivation

fear of fitting in

fear of being judged

Lacking degrees and certifications

not having an-up-to-date skills

Recently, women are making a great comeback after being housewives for specific periods. Read the story of a housewife who went back to work after 19 years.



9 ways Housewives can Keep their Dreams Alive and Make the Great Comeback

1. Keep your Fantasies up

Humans are more likely to go after what they fantasized and imagined always. Thus the saying, whatever the mind can conceive the hands can achieve.


How can you keep your fantasies up?

Daydream about your dreams

Imagine going back to whatever you have abandoned and the things you can achieve.

Write down these fantasies and look at them often

2. Set Goals and Talk about them

Goal setting is paramount if you plan on achieving a great comeback after being a housewife. Do not keep these goals to yourself; share them with others- a spouse, a relative or a friend. We feel obligated to achieve aspirations we shared with others because we wouldn’t want them to perceive us as failures.

When we talked about our goals, we feel a sense of satisfaction because talking about them trick our minds into believing our goals are realistic and achievable.



How to Set Goals for your Great comeback

Write down your goals and paste them where you and your members of family can see them.

Never be afraid or ashamed when other see them. It motivates you to achieve them

Set SMART goals: Specific, Measurable, Accurate, Realistic and Timely

Be proactive: take consistent little steps towards your goals. These steps will in time result in one big result that you will be proud of.

3. Be in touch with Reality

So much would have changed since you left the workforce, business or studies. Always find out what is new, and stay abreast.

Read more:

https://housewivescenter..com/2022/06/how-housewives-can-keep-their-dreams.html?m=1

PlayMaker14:
That should be Acrimony...

It was as if I was the one playing the lead role..

I love that movie. It looks so real. I have watched it many times. I love the characters

We need to start taking our health seriously. We can not leave it to chance. We have to be proactive. I have meant with him once on a personal ground

You said neither your nor your wife lacks anything and that you live comfortably yet you don't have 1.5m to try IVF? So much for comparability.
Hormonal imbalance is treatable. Go to a good fertility hospital and start your treatment.
Forget about another woman, you will regret it. If you want kids, start working it out now, those telling you is just three years, before you know it, it will 10. God forbid. Start treatment, have faith in God and be patient

BenevolentD:
Not in any way condoning those miscreants but yahoo and thievery started long ago. "Go to the village ahead of you, and at once you'll find a donkey tied there, with her colt by her. Untie them and bring them to me. If anyone says anything to you, say the Lord needs them." Mathew 21:2-3 If this is not thievery/yahoo, I don't know what is.

He didn't say steal , he said bring and tell the owner I want to borrow it . He didn't say say bring any donkey he had a particular one in mind and he knows the owner will ask. Do you know how strong the law against stealing was those days ? It was an eye for an eye. So Christ borrowed the colt for his triumphant entry hant and it was returned for he won't ask his disciples to keep them or tie it in his own house . That's what the message means but because it was written in old English and for the fact that you want to make mockery your heart is closed to understanding.

Onenaira,.I have tried reaching out to you through the number you gave but it isn't reach able . I will like to have a chat with you ,.you seem to have abandoned your thread and your sister isn't opening. Please.quote.or try sending me a mail

I don't like interfering into husband and wife matter . It is always a long one but for the kids. Obviously, she is an illiterate that why she doesn't know the value of education. How dare she use the kids education as her weaponry? And the husband not breaking all hell loose on this matter means he is slow .
Op, if you can, please raise alarm , involve social services if you can or get family members involve . These kids are wide-gap away from their counterparts and they are suffering even mentally watching other kids go to school.
Your brother should shake that lady , do "madness" for her . Threatened by telling her to go . "Yimu" she will not go anywhere since she is financially incapacitated. If you don't like a place fight it out why refused the kids going to school ?

See opportunity! I have been singing lullaby on this so hubby could dance to it . God knows I will give it my best !
Since she is like this before pregnancy.it means when baby comes she will have perfect excuse . Just close shop if she isn't interested , sell off so you can savage what is left .
Pregnancy is not easy but we see pregnant woman managing their shop business even till the day of delivery . Except she is going through high risk pregnancy, she has no excuse !

Thank you pastor uche. Your message was timely and a blessing to me . It is God speaking to my questions. God bless you

The ones with real money will not reply so guys like the poster above don't commit suicide .
We are crossing over with something better than last year, now that's growth not competition with someone else .

This is so much loss on the family. May the Lord keep pastor Taiwo going faithfully in his race for the kingdom. Condolences

The private sector bastardized the teaching profession thinking .just about anybody can teach . In overseas , you go through rigorous training to be a certified teacher. So they have to pay you well to keep you because they know that not every one can teach . Here in Nigeria even a secondary school leaver can be toss straight into the classroom to teach these are the ones that messed up the psychology of children. They are paid between 10-15k they are not professionals and they are readily available to just fill the space of appearing to get paid not to teach and touch the hearts of these kids

Guy , I have no pity for you. The man was right to come use violence on you because if he had not you don't sound like someone who has got his shit together to move out. You mean you resigned without having a place already? Whoever gave you this advice no serious.
The man is right having an okada rider work as an educator in a school is wrong. All shade of wrong . You are supposed to be a model for the little kids . If they see you riding they will think aspiring to be a bike man is okay. I won't put my kid in such a position neither will I put my business . Is denting really.
I do not look down on okada riders they have their own usefulness in the society and contribute to the country's GDP but you can't mix both jobs . A government school would be better not private.
You should have planned to buy bike and give it up for higher purchase .
I have two colleagues who did that and they have bought up to three bikes making profit.
Forget case and leave the apartment is not your father's. The man was even kind to give you some days . Since you resign you were supposed to leave that day you dropped letter
You don't have the right to December salary you were supposed to give at least one month notice ahead

realtalk19:


All those also require proper facilities and planning. Don't forget children are involved

Did you see where I said she should get a proper education? The business of caring for babies and young kids isn't a child's play .
And I said if they have the money

I wonder how you sit down and concoct these stories , I used to believed you but your frequency dampen their credibility.

Mods do not push this to front page as it is devoid of moral credency . How can you be telling your story of immortality- living with a woman while in school- with so much exhilaration as if that makes it right.
What lesson are you trying to teach ? Encourage others , young lad and lass to do same with the hope that as long as it leads to 'life' marriage then it is right ?

No , it is not . Keep your concluding story to yourself . If any mod moves this to front page , then for once I will conclude that we have lost it .

uthlaw:
Why can't you open a shop for her to be selling foodstuffs...must both of you work under person in the name of not staying at home?

Not everyone wants to be a market woman . Some want to dress well go to some official environment and show.their talents .


Op, don't settle for less , she can keep trying.other places while she manages that . I think it depends on the area you reside , schools in my area pay teacher up to 50k .
But if you have the money, both of you should work towards starting your own creche then a child center or school. But make sure she gets proper education.

As long as you know deep down you have no grude against him but for your sanity sake would rather he stay at arms length, then keep him off ! Your mental health is more important.
Not all family should be part of us expecially if they are toxic

Nairaland men are aproko and chuchu. The op said married women but men here have hijacked the thread . You men are really sex starved no wonder you are always bashing women .
No woman has commented . You lot have chased the matured married women away with your constant red pill � talk. What you have left is immature below 18 single girls here who give you back your own banter

ahnie:
What of me that hasn't had sex close to a year?

Close to a year ? But ahnie you are married. That means you are the one denying oga.
I am voracious when it comes to sex , I can't stay one month without it. Highest two weeks when I'm annoyed with oga

Life , I don't know maybe it is only in Nigeria, but these days it seems the only thing valuable about humans is how much they have . Family , even your own parents won't call you to know they care except money is involve.

Relationships are now based on what you have not because of your personality. Is painful to know no one cares truly except you have money .
I try to advoid borrowing and if situations warrant I borrow, I must pay back for I do not borrow what I know I can't afford to pay back .
But it hurts to know no one's cares except you are rich .
No matter how many people flock around a rich person , that person is lonely for no one cares about him except the money and if the money goes away , then he )she will see how naked they are

She is jobless if not she will be preparing to go out , too. Who knows , she might just be a student who is faking it to make the guy feel she is a keeper . She's a manipulator

You have lost out on first class even if you score As in the reminder years . But 2.1 is possible therefore work harder . Don't let those crew of "school is scam " deceive you . I have had so many opportunities, but have been disavantage because of my result , therefore I am going for a secondbdegree even as a mother my aim is first class or nothing. Giving it my best like my oxygen depends on it .

If you are in doubt, run another test .
If the girl says the child isn't yours and could easily allow you run DNA test then the child isn't yours. Go and get your own woman and have legal kids where you won't be worried if the children are yours

tarantino1:
Ability to swallow.

I read a book years back, I think it was Ben Carson's book where a guy had brain issues and he could not swallow food or water.

The guy underwent multiple surgeries to fix the condition, something wey I dey do without thinking.

That's a big thing to be grateful for. Recently I had my brush bristles stuck in my throat swallowing was hell even my own saliva . I suffred for close to two weeks and then I know the ability to swallow without any ish is a big deal and now I'm grateful even for the ability to poo without assistance.

tollyboy5:

You nailed it bro.

I remember being mercilessly flogged by my Dad when I injured my self. The injury mark is still on my leg till that, but the beating wey follow no be here.

I still carry the scar on my face where my uncle flogged me for buying the wrong item he sent me . I have spent money tired on what will remove this scar . Is a reminder of how much I hate my uncle . Thank goodness have not seen him for 14 years now and I am not looking out to finding him.

darkelf:


Story

Back it up with raw data

Many of my mates (me including) turned out well and we grew up under such conditions. Many are happily married today.

So, back it up with facts and jot what you read from a blog or magazine

There was never a place where I said all the children flogged turned our worse . I used the word broken which might be emotional wreck . And some do have natural ability to over come this brokenness just like you. But the bad thing is people take for granted what people like me who didn't have the natural ability to overcome this trauma . Although I underwent and still undergoing therapy.so as to be a healthy parent . If you hear my story you won't measure it with yours . Out story is different

cayorday89:
Balance is key in all things, some are necessary and some are not just it, it made some timid, it made some have an understanding of not doing the same to those coming after them because of the many negative effects it had in them and wouldn't want to pass it on to the next generation, while some outrightly want to revenge and mete out same punishment or forms of discipline on their own children and even children of others, junior colleagues at work, teachers on pupils, seniors on juniors in schools, big brothers and sisters on younger siblings, rich on the poor, employers on employees, leaders on followers, since it's the only way they can get relieved from their built up frustrations over the years from unwarranted sufferings from those above them.

You get it. This mentality of melting out physical punishment every time a child errs is wrong and is partly responsible for the strong bullying the weak in every sphere of life even at work place and school. We are not patient because we werent thought that humans are bound to err and therefore should be shown patient and understanding. What is wrong in correcting , admonishing rather than just hit that person because he / she is smaller or weaker ? That's why forgiveness is hard to come by even in relationships because we didn't receive much of it while growing up.
I'm not boasting , I don't flog my child too often but he is the sweetest when it comes to attitude. My neighbors are even jealous because they just know that bad habits is not what you expect so much from him . Even his teacher speaks positively about him and how he never lies nor intentionally hurts someone. And he is quick to say I'm sorry .
How many of we adults including me fa, can say I'm sorry without brising our ego ? But we prefer the path of revenge is less of a character.

tuzle:
is that why we have high rate of yahoo boys and also prostitute? I was beating for doing the wrong thing when I was young and I am not broken now. If they had spared me then, I would have been worse.

I am not against discipline. I flog my child only that I don't do it unnecessarily neither do I flog for all errors. If I flog for all errors when is the time to admonish and make him sober .
Out parents flogged us too often even for the tiniest error.
I also say allowing kids to do whatever without proper guide is wrong . Have you seen king Richard the movie ? Did you see how actively involve that man was with his kids life ? That's what I'm doing . God keep me alive . I will guide my kids to success . In fact that is my own life purpose to guide these little kids to become responsible and useful for mankind . So I never said parents should stop discipline. For I do not spare my rod but that is not the only parenting weapon

But we were abused in all of these just because we are kids and we do not have true relationship with our parents .
We felt humiliated, we hated our parents. This unnecessary beating is responsible for the high rate.of dysfunctional adults we have . We carry this burden of guilt and not knowing how to love truly or maintain healthy relationship with people .

Today I discipline my kids and do not beat them for every 'error' I mostly admonish and it works and we have close relationship. We the millennials guide and discipline in understanding while still maintaining good relationship with our kids .

Our parents do not seek to understand they themselves are broken so they try to fix their own brokenness by breaking us even. The cycle continues , but a new breed of parents are cropping up. But we must create a balance for we can break a child when scolding and discipline is absent for "allowing " a child to do whatever all in a bid to show love and understanding is dangerous in itself.