@ Saintson (Mr Austin)

What could those reasons be? Is NYSC HQ. not considering the fact that it can result into ill-preparedness on the students side and in-turn a moment of suffering while away in "No mans land" all in the name of "Serving the fathers' land"?

Every Man is blessed with some chances for options in life. Your case is such one. Let me ask you, is your love for each other life?
If the LOVE between the two of is life then know that you are to make choices between two lives ahead.
Someone already gave you options and they are either to choose between
1. getting married to try your chances and or adopt kid(s) and 2. End the relationship no matter how painful it might be.

Genuinely, if your love for each other can weather storms then go adopt kid(s) after-all, marriage is not just about having kids but for companionship. State your priority for wanting to marry in life and there you go to make your choice, knowing fully well that you will take up the responsibility(s) thereof.

If you are both in love and can't try separating, make unbreakable promises to each other and stand by them to prepare you both for the challenges ahead. Afterall, you could breakup and never be able to fall/walk in love again. So what will be the essence life (relationship) without love. I hope you know, breaking up may never end your mystery(s).

patosky84 : Remember you are solely responsible for the actions.

True Love does all things!

Life is responsibility in itself. Make a choice and make your stand known.

NAIRALANDERS, May be we should all take time to think and view things from different angles especially from the perspective of the writer before responding. I think a forum like this should help people figure out mysteries and not to complicate issues. How on earth do you think someone would come up with such thing so as to get mocked? I'm seeing this to be more of psychological than any other thing.

Canibus needs psychological therapy and not mockery. He needs help and that is why he is here to discuss this. Canibus, the truth is that you have "fear of or for the unknown". According to wikipedia "Fear is an emotional response to tangible and realistic dangers. Fear should be distinguished from anxiety, an emotion that often arises out of proportion to the actual threat or danger involved, and can be subjectively experienced without any specific attention to the threatening object."

And on the other hand, Commitment is an act of obligation, charge or trust. Its simply been responsible for your own ACTIONS in life. And once again, the truth is that no one can run away from life's responsibilities. You get what you put in,

So in view of this, you need to start from the scratch by asking yourself real questions, practical questions that can help you seperate dreams from reality.

Note this: You can overcome this. Just believe and start to have the right view.

Keeping relationship(s) is accepting to take responsibilities. Because you need lots of creativity and dynamics in making it work and long lasting.

Wish you a quick recovery from this state of mind,

The issue is trying to be factual. I quite appreciate davidlan and others with the same view(s). The great religion seems to contradict itself or may be the great ones decided to practice what them feel. Think of it, how is it possible for some to believe that winning the non-great ones is by marrying their females while some are of the opinion that killing is the resort. I still wish the great religion would realize they've not been preaching love (THE AGAPE LOVE).

Not until the great ones are all sensitized, the religion will continue to be seem as though a conflicting one.

I have friends from the great religion and will never criticize them. Possibly because they are exposed, educated, and of course willing to "think out of box"

I'm not so sure Rosby knows what the bible says. Probably I should refer you to the bible passage you miss quoted. Ephesians 5:22-28. And it says "

22: Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23: For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24: Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25: Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26: to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27: and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28: In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

For Linguists and non-linguists, I dont think it will be hard to decipher what is expected of both sexes from the bible reference stated.

For non-believers, If you want peace give peace, Let me even ask our females. If you have a boss (male or female) would disrespect or disobey orders given you by your boss?