This is a tough topic. I really do feel for you carbonate. I'm going through the same thing as we speak. I'm an igbo lady who has been with the love of my life (he is yoruba) for more than five years. We were brought up in England - without the traditional values as well. The funny thing, my father knows about the relationship, and liked my finace from the very start. When I told him we were thinking about marriage he said, "NO WAY!!" I have tried speaking to him on many ocassions, and my finace wants to speak to him also but I know it will just make things worse. Apart from my brothers and sister, the rest of the family forbids this to go ahead. I'm absolutley horrified by his behaviour, he has given me false hopes, and he at least should understand after his marriage to my mother (igbo) ended in separation. For me, I believe in doing what makes me happy, and if we're not meant to be God will let us know. If I suddenly back down and agree with my father, he has won - and he might as well find an igbo guy for me to marry.

You need to be strong for each other. If your girl wants to be with you, and she knows in her mind, soul and heart it's the right thing, she'll know what to do. One can not be happy because their life is being dictated for them. All the best - Good luck!!

I'm in a position where this situation is happening to me. I'm an igbo lady who has found love with a yoruba man and we have been together for more than 5 years. My father has met him on some ocassions and really likes him, but will not allow me to get married to him because he is a yoruba. I thought he would understand as his relationship to my mother (igbo) ended in separation, and me not having seen her for more than 10 years before she sadly passed away. He doesn't want me to get married to any yoruba man because he thinks it will not last. But this is not acceptable to me, because I feel he is just being selfish that he cannot give me a valid reason. But I know if I do get married without his blessing, he and his family will disown me. On the other hand, if I listen to my father, I will never be happy and out of spite I will not marry, because all he wants is for me to get married to an igbo man in which he prefers. I might as well have an arranged marriage!

After being with my finace for 5 years+, my father disapproves of me getting married to him. I'm Igbo lady and my finace is Yoruba. My father is saying he is not being bias, but he feels that the marriage will not work. But I don't understand why he has watched our relationship grow. He has met my finace on some ocassions, and really enjoyed his company (so he told me). But know he is so against the idea. I feel he has given me false hope, and feel that I can not forgive him. He wants me to choose between him and my finace. It is just being narrow-minded. We were brought up in a multi-cultural city (London, UK), and wasn't brought up with the same traditional values. I have tried speaking with my father, and the only reason he gives is the tribal differences. I'm so upset,

This is an interesting topic!
I'm an Igbo lady, due to get married to a Yoruba man. The only problem as some of you may have guessed,  is my father is not allowing this to happen,  I'm so upset by his attitude, but at the same time I can understand his traditions. The strange thing, he knows I'm still going out with my finace of over five years in which my father has met on some occasions. But he doesn't want us to get married, which doesn't make sense  My self and my finance were both brought up here - and were never brought up with the traditional values. My father has managed to get the most of the family on his side. My brothers and sister support me. My fiance is really upset, and can not understand what he has done. I have stopped him coming to our house, because I don't want anything to get out of hand. I'm refussing to speak to my father as he will not even attempt to see me happy. Basically, he wants me to marry any Igbo guy just to please him.