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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by a4cube: 9:41am On Apr 04, 2021 |
doggedfighter:Do not be surprised some family members reason that way. And when you don't agree to this their wack reasoning you become a bad person. It's unfortunate. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by BRATISLAVA: 9:41am On Apr 04, 2021 |
lecturer50: Your mother sounds very reasonable. However, it sounds like you're painting your mother with a bad brush by coming here and acting like she got sick on purpose and as if she's draining you. You simply don't want to have responsibilities towards your family, and that is understandable, but stop acting like she got sick to spite you and drag you under. Sons are fond of this attitude. They will live lavish while their families are struggling then act like their families don't know what they are passing through and nagging them. Your uncle is right about one thing: your mother is your responsibility. How you choose to go about it is entirely your business. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by writeprof(m): 9:41am On Apr 04, 2021 |
lecturer50: Use godly wisdom and patience to calmly explain while you cannot meet the demands being placed on you as putting off your phone will not solve anything. I hope you are also not living a lifestyle that also sends out the wrong message to all them. For your mum, if possible, move her from the village to where you could watch her closely as she is being used by your uncle. About people getting sick as ways to drain resources is a clear and true situation brought about by ungodly demonic forces. Anything demonic or ungodly can only be faced by/with a godly response/actions. GOD BLESS YOU � |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by CapedBaldy: 9:43am On Apr 04, 2021 |
ImaIma1:all that's left is for him to create percentage for himself as payment for creating the formula. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by michlins(m): 9:43am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Here's some facts, .. your village people are after you and hates your progress. Your mom is old and will eventually die. So what happens when she dies and you don't have a job If you resign your job and she becomes sick and you can't take care of her and she dies. The uncle will still blame you |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by seunny4lif(m): 9:43am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Solution no need of fasting and prayers Take your mom away from family people and village people Simple solution that as worked over 100% Else more problems for you I few friends that were suffering from similar problems and that was their solution. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by seyz91(m): 9:44am On Apr 04, 2021 |
you right about other things except for the part you said "to be great, you have to be stingy" thats so fucking wrong on all levels chatinent: |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Sirlins(m): 9:44am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Die |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by fashrola(m): 9:44am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Mindlog: Take this guy's advise!!!!! 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by pansophist(m): 9:45am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Tell your uncle to come look after your mum, while you supply cash. If he refuses, don't pick his calls again. It would send a clear message that you're not subservient to him. Don't also quit your job, it's your power and bargaining chip. Let one of your siblings look after your mum, while you supply the funds necessary until your family gets over this challenge. Make it clear that quitting your job is not negotiable, of what use is a man when he can't even provide ? Don't make that mistake. The responsibility to look after your mum is also on them, not just you. Telling you that they will hold you accountable if your mum dies should only worry you if you're not providing funds, as far you're providing, ignore their words, even a stupid person have something to say, and you must accept that many times, stupid people are not far, they are within your circles, even families. It is your conscience and "being right" you should care about, not some threats and opinions of someone that is probably lazy, haven't work and have a low milage of ambition. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Basilekeh: 9:45am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Why not bring your Mom to the place you are.....that's the best thing to do na.....that way you can take care of her.......maybe she and your sister.... |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by udemzyudex(m): 9:45am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Well this is my own advice, call a meeting among your siblings, all of you should decide whether to bring mama to stay with one of you or hire someone that will be taking care of her at home. According to their financial capability, they should also send money to her too. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by seyz91(m): 9:45am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Got a point there if one person rich in a family the burden and pressure will be too much Ebuka78: |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Duplexxx: 9:45am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Bullshit dem when ever next time they will call they are crazy people your enemies will die before you no progress they we see All because they are jealous of you having a gvt job They want you to come and sit in the village doing nothing Witch dem |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by wisemaster(m): 9:45am On Apr 04, 2021 |
I can perfectly relate to your situation. There's only one key to use at this time. That key will give you absolute rest and peace of mind and your mum will forever be grateful to you. You would be shocked that her recovery may even be tied to this key. What is the key? Simply relocate her to be with you. You only need to get another caring sibling to temporarily stay with her while you're off to work. The blessings you would reap from this is immense and this will silence all opposing and discordant voices of your people. Nothing can be too much to do for your mother if you truly love her. I read where you asked why some bad things happen to other people sometimes parents inclusive when one is making progress in live. Don't allow this philosophy to put your mum in bad light. That school of thought is faulty. Quit from that school. Prayerfully take care of your mother and leave the rest to God. All the best. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by BarrElChapo(m): 9:46am On Apr 04, 2021 |
lecturer50: |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Owopariola: 9:46am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Ebuka78: while I agree with you, the bolded one no follow. did the boy begged to be born? or if the mama no born am, another woman no go born am? please we should stop thinking that anybody, either parents or even "God" did us good by giving us life we never begged for from the start. Na the mama want born pikin, not the pikin want to be born by the mama, if at all he chose to be born. Also, giving birth is part of life, almost inevitable. It's not only humans that born children, other life forms including plants also give birth to new life. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by kaboninc(m): 9:47am On Apr 04, 2021 |
maximunimpact: You should first change yourself. Because you need the uplifting even more than the op. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Walkee: 9:47am On Apr 04, 2021 |
lecturer50:it's funny. You should have laughed and end the call. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by spotmataz: 9:48am On Apr 04, 2021 |
lecturer50: You should expect things like this when you come to an open forum to ask for counsel. That is by the way though. Pls don't stop your job. You will regret it. Is there a way you could bring your mum to where you are, this will allow you actually monitor her treatment get someone to follow and stay with her while you work. As for your Uncles don't quarrel with them o, use wisdom and explain why to them. Maybe that treatment money you send is used to cater for some others things too. Your mother is your primary responsibility o. Some elders here must have said more on this too sha. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by BRATISLAVA: 9:48am On Apr 04, 2021 |
writeprof: How can you believe that thing about people getting sick to drain others? What if the years of suffering are having their toll? And if they fall sick and are draining, is the way out running away? Children care too little for their less well off parents nowadays. Me, me, me. Yet these parents were selflessly bringing them up. You'll see a guy lavishly living life to the fullest, once he hears his mother, father or siblings are in need he begins to act like he's under pressure and there's no money. Money is truly the root of all evil. May we all be rich parents so that our children won't play us for fools. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Sundaycomputer: 9:48am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Smile brother It's well Life goes on As for me I go No were |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Sofistcatdmoron: 9:48am On Apr 04, 2021 |
This is a worst case of "your-village people" |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Kobicove(m): 9:48am On Apr 04, 2021 |
lecturer50: Just do the best you can but don't kill yourself afterall no be only you una mama born. ...ignore that fo0l that says you should resign from your job to relocate to the village to take care of your mother |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by DAramis: 9:49am On Apr 04, 2021 |
At OP, the said, Picture speaks louder than words. I do hope this picture will give you the answers you need. All the same, don't quit your job but look for a nice lady you could be paying monthly salary to look after your mum (probably the lady should be in same village with your mum and comes from a good home. Who knows, you might end up wifying her.... I mean marrying her as a wife.) CC lecturer50
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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Owopariola: 9:49am On Apr 04, 2021 |
lecturer50: if your dad is no longer in the picture, can't your mum stay with you in your new state? |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Protein0: 9:50am On Apr 04, 2021 |
lecturer50:I wonder how you roll with your mom that gave an uncle the gut to ask u to resign. People live far away and still get praised for taking the best care of their blood, we're talking about your mom here. Even if her ailments are age related, she deserves the best you can spend on her,even if it'll mean putting some personal expenses of yours on hold. This is the only opportunity for you to take care of her. On your relatives, erase the thoughts of blocking them. I understand how troublesome some might be, keep doing within reasonability for them,even if they're not appreciative, let your conscience vindicate you. Don't fight any of them,be as diplomatic as possible with them. May the Lord be with you |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Biggcake: 9:50am On Apr 04, 2021 |
lecturer50: Brother I understand what you are going through... Simply block all of them from calling you so you have some peace.... After blocking them, create a hidden channel that you can be using to reach out to your mum and also to send her money... |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by sunnnnyuu(m): 9:50am On Apr 04, 2021 |
My advice to is take your mother to your work location and since it's federal government job you will have hmo include her in your defenders and the issue will be less difficult to you lecturer50: 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by ping72: 9:50am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Just get married, you'll be suprised! |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by EBEk101(m): 9:51am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Ebuka78: ai agree with him giving his mom what she needs but brothers and relatives should give the young man breathing space Abeg |
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