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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Dharniel600(m): 9:51am On Apr 04, 2021
Do the one your power reach and enjoy life. Family problem no dey finish bro.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by KaluwisxPRO: 9:51am On Apr 04, 2021
If you no change am for that family member wey no wan stop to disturb your phone, you no go move forward.

She’s the only way they can get to you, and they are just upset that you have become distant. They are using her sickness as a ploy to suck you dry. Tell that family member of yours to face his immediate family, and that your mother is your only responsibility in the family, and you are well in touch with her.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by BluDesk: 9:52am On Apr 04, 2021
BRATISLAVA:


Your mother sounds very reasonable.

However, it sounds like you're painting your mother with a bad brush by coming here and acting like she got sick on purpose and as if she's draining you.

You simply don't want to have responsibilities towards your family, and that is understandable, but stop acting like she got sick to spite you and drag you under. Sons are fond of this attitude. They will live lavish while their families are struggling then act like their families don't know what they are passing through and nagging them.

Your uncle is right about one thing: your mother is your responsibility. How you choose to go about it is entirely your business.


I agree with you completely.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Biggcake: 9:52am On Apr 04, 2021
Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

Crap and big pile of bullshiit..
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by BRATISLAVA: 9:53am On Apr 04, 2021
pansophist post=100472652:
Tell your uncle to come look after your mum, while you supply cash. If he refuses, don't pick his calls again. It would send a clear message that you're not subservient to him. Don't also quit your job, it's your power and bargaining chip. Let one of your siblings look after your mum, while you supply the funds necessary until your family gets over this challenge. Make it clear that quitting your job is not negotiable, of what use is a man when he can't even provide ? Don't make that mistake.

The responsibility to look after your mum is also on them, not just you. Telling you that they will hold you accountable if your mum dies should only worry you if you're not providing funds, as far you're providing, ignore their words, even a stupid person have something to say, and you must accept that many times, stupid people are not far, they are within your circles, even families.

It is your conscience and "being right" you should care about, not some threats and opinions of someone that is probably lazy, haven't work and have a low milage of ambition.

It sounds smart, but that's not the case.

Once people get married, they belong to their spouses and children in terms of responsibility. Parents are the children's responsibility as much as children were once the parents responsibility. You can't pass it off.

If the Uncle asks them for money he is a pest why can't he leave a married man alone, but if she's sick he should take care of her this is his sister? Nigerians.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by maximunimpact(m): 9:53am On Apr 04, 2021
kaboninc:


You should first change yourself. Because you need the uplifting even more than the op.

OP is stingy and selfish along with anyone sympathizing with him. I will give everything for my mother and family without thinking about it
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by writeprof(m): 9:54am On Apr 04, 2021
BRATISLAVA:


How can you believe that thing about people getting sick to drain others?

What if the years of suffering are having their toll? And if they fall sick and are draining, is the way out running away?

Children care too little for their less well off parents nowadays. Me, me, me. Yet these parents were selflessly bringing them up. You'll see a guy lavishly living life to the fullest, once he hears his mother, father or siblings are in need he begins to act like he's under pressure and there's no money. Money is truly the root of all evil.

May we all be rich parents so that our children won't play us for fools.

I believe such because it exists sir! You disbelieve such if you disbelieve the existence of evil forces.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by ivolt: 9:55am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

How did they know you got a Federal job? Bragging?

To the question. Are you the only child? If no, why are your relatives the one looking after your mum instead of your siblings.
You also didn't tell us whether your relatives were the one who raised or offer support to train you in school.

The following could be risky.
If your village has elders, then report your relative and their blackmail so you don't get wrongly accused in the future.

Relocate your mum from the village, change your number so only a few people would know. But before you do this, make sure
you have paid all your debts real or figurative and make sure you won't have serious dealings in your village again. Because they
will be waiting for you.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Nobody: 9:56am On Apr 04, 2021
Invite your mother to visit you as a ploy to get her away from those village people using her to manipulate you. Make her stay with you and get a nurse to care for her. Hope she lives long though or you will be accused of killing her. Or tell them all to fuq off and switch off your phone and live your life in peace if you can ignore your mother's wailing as she dies.



Op go with this advice, take ur mom to ur house!

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Nobody: 9:56am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:


True.

I called my mom and told her what my uncle said, she said I should not take him seriously.

Thanks

It should not end there. Your mom should call ur uncle and warn him. If she dies it's not you but him for not giving her peace
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by BRATISLAVA: 9:56am On Apr 04, 2021
writeprof:


I believe such because it exists sir! You disbelieve such if you disbelieve the existence of evil forces.

I believe there are probably evil forces.

But I do not believe that people getting sick is to spite wealthy family members. I think they are simply selfish and don't want to help, so they claim the sickness is a thing.

I've seen it play out a lot. People let their mothers die, while on trendy vacation abroad, because they just don't want to give them any money because they feel they're trying to gobble all their money.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by CapitalBank: 9:57am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

You are worried because you have not grown past the stage of putting logic over emotions. Are you the only child of your mother? Cut them off and focus on only your mother.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by replete(m): 9:58am On Apr 04, 2021
Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.
Well done last born.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Ferdinandu(m): 9:59am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?
Do the best you can to help your ailing mother without resigning your job. Time happens to us all. Everyone is gonna die if it is your mum's turn to die she will still die no matter what you did but if it is not her time she will survive. You got your life to live before any other person. This life is a mystery because at the end of it all no matter the relative or not we are all finally standing alone
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by ahiboilandgas: 10:01am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?
why not take ur mum to your current location and take care of her well.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by OkoYM(m): 10:01am On Apr 04, 2021
Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.
He has to surport his immediate family, no doubt, but u nee le
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by phorget(m): 10:01am On Apr 04, 2021
Must you resign before you can be able to take care of your mother? Must you reside in the village before you can be able to take care of your mother? So many "must yous" but I must tell you the real fact...
Your people ain't happy that you are about making a headway hence they are trying so hard to tie you down using your mother as the rope. Your uncle in particular want you to come back to the village so the family suffering can continue.

The solution...
Please do not listen to any of them and if possible do cut ties with them all. Look for away to take care of yourself mothers health issue. The money you send to them should be able to take care of that and even if you resign your job will your presence without money bring the cure?
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by vincentjk(m): 10:03am On Apr 04, 2021
Op your mother is suffering from a spiritual illness and your uncle is behind it, your mum is even suspecting him already but she's sick and don't have an option.

Go get your mum, take her to a strong pastor or to a native doctor for cleansing. Be careful because that uncle of yours is jealous and just wants to waste you both.

Enemy at the gates.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by OkoYM(m): 10:05am On Apr 04, 2021
Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.
He has to surport his immediate family, no doubt, but u need to understand there maybe misconception about his salary, how much is the salary? Sometimes people believe FG job is a big offer and they keep coming with wrong expectations. I will advice you do your best anyway, but don't die of their expectations.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Lomprico2: 10:05am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

your relatives are the real VIP village people.

if you can bring your mom to where u stay, do. if you can't keep sending what u can. but as per resigning? that your uncle is evil. they have lived their lives, they should allow u live yours.
are u the only child of your mother?
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Laturuturu: 10:05am On Apr 04, 2021
I understand what you are going thru
My uncle said the same thing to me
He said I should close down my biz at
Computer village then go back to village
To take care of my mom
I sent money regularly by God grace
At least 25k a month
My brother do send 15 as well


The advise is out of hatred and jealousy
Your mom understand I blv
They tried to turn me and my siblings against my mom telling her we have abandoned her. She was furious at them.

She personally told me that there advise is ill conceived thru hidden hatred

Na so Ibo ethnic be ....most of the time


Dont yeiled to them... Awon eni ibi
Eniyan buruku ,
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Nobody: 10:06am On Apr 04, 2021
[quote author=Klass99 post=100461588]

Lol, I swear down fear catch me at the proposed sharing formula and baseless assumptions he made about OP.

[s]What even annoys me the most is how they automatically expect one sibling who is "seemingly doing well" to be the saviour of the others, as if those ones are handicapped.

Are the other siblings invalids incapable of making their own way in life or fighting for their own success? That OP has to open salon for one and start a trade for another. [/quote[/s]]


Werey dey disguise! When u make it in life, do u all of a sudden turn a blind eye to ur family, get married to a woman from another family and take good care of her, someone that u just fell in lust with, a total stranger and u open ur properties on her name, open business for her and turn a blind eye to ur parents, siblings just cos u re told u owe ur priority to ur own family of A wife and children! Really in as much as I'm aware some family members are envious, leeches and all that, but its high time u realize if u can't help ur own family members, then u shouldn't help any other person for that matter, don't go to orphanages, don't be a philanthropist if u own family aren't well of and affluent, when the whole family is affluent a lot of problems get solved, the children's are happy and always look forward to see their cousins all the time and there's isn't talk of money since everyone is comfortable, there's nothing as sweet as when all ur siblings and parents are well of and affluent! Aswear there's nothing as sweet and fulfilling as that, and I pray for it in my own family, me and all my siblings and parents in high positions and well off, but prayer doesn't get this things so I don't believe in prayers I believe that if we work on it together by lifting each other up that we would all get there together, We rise by lifting others only applies to my family first!
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Slimjim6969(m): 10:06am On Apr 04, 2021
Oga if u know what is good for u carry ur mama from that village cos ur family want to finish u through your mama,don't say u are not warnd.
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,make arrangement with any trusted member of ur family and have ur mother move from ur village, come up with any excuse you can think off.

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by awa(m): 10:06am On Apr 04, 2021
You are not showing enough maturity in handling this issue. I understand that you are overwhelmed but it could be because of them - your family that God gave you the job for.

Make them understand what your salary range is like and if you are living flamboyantly, then you need to live moderately without things exposing you as having enough cash when you are just starting.

Helping families will keep you going in life
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by alizma: 10:07am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?
If not for your mum, I will say remove your known sim and throw it into any nearest river around you.
Nevertheless, you can start acting like a prodigal son. If they call you don't pick, only call and discuss with them when you want and anytime you travelling home, once you are through with your objective of travelling home, don't inform anybody of your coming and don't tell anyone you are leaving.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by jahrule: 10:10am On Apr 04, 2021
Get her a good, mature house help if you can afford it.
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by NuhuIbrahim(m): 10:10am On Apr 04, 2021
My brother be wise, don't you ever try to resign from your work but make sure you take care your
Mother. Mind you your Uncle is your enemy for asking you to resign.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Jackdasilver(m): 10:11am On Apr 04, 2021
[quote author=lecturer50 post=100459147]

True.

I called my mom and told her what my uncle said, she said I should not take him seriously.

Thanks


Are you the only child? If yes. Allow your mum to be staying with you in the city for now, until she overcomes her health issues.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Fhowe: 10:13am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?
Bomb dey that your uncle head ,as if the old woman would live forever .Op just get a maid that will take care of her and send what you can afford constantly also carry your siblings along it should be a collective effort not left for one child

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by hedonido: 10:13am On Apr 04, 2021
It's never a good idea to abandon a parent (especially when the other parent is late) in the village. That always hastens their death and can only bring nothing but trouble. The proverbial village people are no good.

The only solution is to bring her to the city. Let her live with you or any of your siblings, or if possible, rent a small place close by for her in the city. You can then easily get someone to cater to her health and wellbeing.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by joyousever(f): 10:15am On Apr 04, 2021
I'm suspecting that uncle of yours to be the enemy of your progress, possibly envious of your new level. My take is that, you should bring your mother over where you are, get a health official to attend to her appropriately to full recovery before taking her back to the village.
Then support her with a business set up, so that she can use it to support herself and be less dependent on you.
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Originalsly: 10:17am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:


She is living alone.

I am not the only child.

There are others trying to make ends meet at different places in Nigeria.

I am the only one whose phone is always on whenever they are calling me from the village.

Others have got new lines which they don't want the other relatives to know due to their disturbance.

Whenever they visit my mom, they would stay with her and then go back.

If any of my relatives ask for their numbers, they give their old lines which they only switch on when they are in the village,

claiming that where they are working, their lines do not go through, since they are in remote areas.


This gives us a better picture of the situation. Someone suggested you take your mother to live with you. Don't. She is used to the village ... has a routine... and familiar people to interact with. Take her out of the village and put her in a mansion with maids ... she will be lonely.... loneliness will lead to depression... depression to even poorer health and poor health is a highway to death..... the very path that leads to early death to many elderly parents uprooted and taken abroad.
On above.... learn from your siblings.... have two numbers just like them... one to work in the village and the other not to accept calls from the village. Arrange with your siblings to take turns being with her as often as possible and communicating with her as often as possible. Pay someone to stay with her.... and each time you visit.... take something for her.... new shoes.... clothing... ordinary wrist watch... etc. Be courteous to your uncle and the other extortionists....take little goodies for their children or hand out small monies. Never ever give the extortionists money.... it doesn't matter how much you give... it will be below their expectation. In life... you cannot please everybody... don't even try. Your uncle is likely an envious person.... maybe his dream was to have a government job... never did... so why should he sit in pain and have you sitting in the seat of his dream? He will do whatever he can to get you out of his dream job.... he is now using your mother's health. If this fails... another issue will come up. You are in a mind game and don't even know.... learn to play like your siblings.

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