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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Ebuka78: 10:38am On Apr 04, 2021 |
joyousever: Only in Nigeria on would hear that words of yours. The same uncle that was there when he was raised. Stop all these your nollywood comment. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by silento(m): 10:38am On Apr 04, 2021 |
kaboninc: people like this dont have up to 30k in there account me am like the back bone of my family omo some months i dey spend up to 200k without buying cloth for my self , still most of them dey complain say i dey stingy , na only my mum dey most time pity for me based on she know say e no easy to be caring care of others while no one is looking after you 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by myk1759: 10:40am On Apr 04, 2021 |
. lecturer50: |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by BRATISLAVA: 10:40am On Apr 04, 2021 |
kaboninc: To be stingy, married, or what? |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by blaise26abj(m): 10:40am On Apr 04, 2021 |
lecturer50: My 5 kobo advice is this . If you have siblings , ask one of them to bring your mom to where you stay . Try to give her the best medical help you can afford under your roof . Let her fully recover before she returns to the village . That way no one will be asking you for money when she is directly under your care . |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by kaboninc(m): 10:40am On Apr 04, 2021 |
silento: Nor mind them. Forgetting that you have to stay strong so you can still support. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by samuelson06(m): 10:41am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Ebuka78: Story! You know it's easy to preach. So he should become the sacrificial lamb because he got a federal job? Did you even ask him of the salary? Suddenly, his own problems are insignificant and it's going to be about his family now. You've forgotten that he's also trying to raise a family. Isn't the mom and dad that brought him into poverty? Did they plan for anyone? They'd tell you it's God that gives children, so let God also take care of her. Allow the young man to take it easy with his life. Allow him to breath and respond to them at his own pace. When you have your own job, use it to settle everyone in the family. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by kaboninc(m): 10:41am On Apr 04, 2021 |
BRATISLAVA: Go back and read the entire conversation. So you'll make very good productive use of your brain. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by itsmepareto: 10:42am On Apr 04, 2021 |
I don't know how easy it is for you, I would have advice you relocate your mum to stay with you. They are using her as an avenue of extorting you. If you don't act fast they will eventually charm you or do you evil. You need God protection. Pray always and back itt with fasting with a strong prayer point. My advice lecturer50: |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Reelmii: 10:42am On Apr 04, 2021 |
lecturer50:why not relocate her to the city where u are, rent a room for her, get her a private nurse/caregiver... that way u can monitor her and have opportunity to see her frequently, Make her ur primary responsibility, ignore other relatives and even if u must help, not all the time They should work for themselves, once ur mum is happy, every other thing is secondary.. her prayers and God's grace is all u need to succeed in life And if u must give money to relatives, please do transfer, no hand to hand transaction |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by BRATISLAVA: 10:42am On Apr 04, 2021 |
kaboninc: You didn't sound like you were making good use of yours. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Nigra(f): 10:42am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Sorry to say,some relatives are sent by the devil, my advice is help your mum out 1st and do what you can for your relatives,if you can't, don't do shit,cos if you become broke now,they will be the 1st to abuse you #imtalkingfromexperience#.You can't come and kee yourself oh |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by omotoyossi(m): 10:43am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Bro, you are only useful to them cos u have small cash. The moment you lose your job and the money stops coming, they forget u. Do not ever quit that job. just take care of mum. My regards to her. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by JONSYN7154: 10:43am On Apr 04, 2021 |
lecturer50:Thank God your own village people came out openly and you know them. God will punish u if you resign. They don't want you to succeed. change your phone number. let you immediate family have the new current one. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by IgboWarlord(m): 10:43am On Apr 04, 2021 |
BRATISLAVA: Bros,i know a lot of impoverished FG employees..It all depends on the FG department he works for and his level.. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by reubenobi(m): 10:44am On Apr 04, 2021 |
maximunimpact:lol.. please, how do you define real men? |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Quim2: 10:44am On Apr 04, 2021 |
lecturer50: I have severally in my life |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by kaboninc(m): 10:45am On Apr 04, 2021 |
BRATISLAVA: Alright. Thanks. So go make good use of yours |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Kei144(m): 10:46am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Ebuka78: It doesn't always work like that. When I was young, I spent a lot of my money on my siblings, to make them to stand on their feet, but none of them was able to stand on any foot. Now that I am much older, my siblings hate me to the extent that they have used every kind of witchcraft and demonic attack to try to kill me. They say that when I was younger, I helped my relatives, but now I no longer help anyone. Meanwhile, paying my children's school fees is often a big challenge. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by elmagnifico411(m): 10:47am On Apr 04, 2021 |
budaatum:nice one brother.. this is about the best advice I've read. God bless u. Op, please, I want u to consider what this man has said. Oil dey him head. And I'll also love to add; please, for now, do not visit that village. All they want to do is reduce u to nothing. You being bale to make money and have a stable life gives them no joy. If possible, make use of some mad man approach.. promise Dem hell if anything goes wrong, threaten their lives too, that you'd come with weapons if they do anything to cut your mother's life short. Whether u believe me or not, those your people have a hand in your mom's I'll health. D ploy is to distabilize u, and reduce u to nothing. May God help u in this cos. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Ebuka78: 10:47am On Apr 04, 2021 |
myk1759: After blocking their numbers, out of lack of fund his mother dies. Who would pay for the burial? Who would find the burial? He would never forgive himself if he hears his mother died. He would start misbehaving, and from there other problems would emanate and from there he becomes dry. I repeat "a river that forgets his source will surely runs dry." My uncle made money when he was in Qatar. He never helped anyone, he hid his contact from every one. His pictures and luxurious life styles was seen on his status and Facebook post. In the next 8 months, this went hard for him and he came back to Nigeria empty handed. He was so a shame to go back to family. Why? Because he was never here for them when he was rich. A river that which forgets it source will surely runs dry. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by SpeciallyUnique(m): 10:48am On Apr 04, 2021 |
pansophist: Thank you |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by lapazi(m): 10:49am On Apr 04, 2021 |
lecturer50: This is a simple case, move your mum to where you are, cut them off. Take care of her! You can even get a nurse specifically to care for her. Move her from that village asap. Just tell them that you want her to come and spend 2weeks and keep her with you. She will be alright |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by ogub(m): 10:50am On Apr 04, 2021 |
chatinent:To be great, you have to be stingy. That's not correct because a liberal soul shall be made fat, give with discretion |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by pansophist(m): 10:50am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Regex: The Uncle it the archetypal "village people". Those ones that believe because they are older, your uncle and you respect them, they can lord authority over you no matter how ridiculous. Everyone have those people, I have them as well, but I realise that in their madness, when it comes to me, they are cautioned, because they've seen clearly that I'm not easily manipulated, and will withdraw my respect, infact block you instantly if you cross the line. Respect is not cowardice. The Uncle could make such ridiculous demand because he knows that he is soft, and his respect for him can be overstretched to a point of tyranny. Hence, he could suggest such ridiculousness asking him to quit his job. How about asking him to bring his mum to live with him? That way, he can retain his job and care for him mum. One of the superpower people should learn is the ability to not feel guilty because someone is trying trying make you feel it. Saying that he is responsible for his mother's death because he will not quit his job is downright wrong, and unfair to someone that is providing. Those are the kind of family members I blocked off, love unites people not blood. You can't say you love me and mounting such allegation on me, especially when I'm providing and you can't even do half the shit I do. 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Mofranky(f): 10:50am On Apr 04, 2021 |
If there's someone who will help you look after her when you go to work, take her to your place of residence and continue treatment until she's fit to return to the village. Family people and wahala |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Ebuka78: 10:50am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Nigra: Another comment based on Nollywood. Stop calling the devil. If it were his girlfriend, he would spend everything on her. Let us be realistic. Our rich brothers and sisters find it hard in giving or helping the family. Remember his blood is his mum's blood. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Blackdisciple(m): 10:51am On Apr 04, 2021 |
But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom. You shouldn't try that oo,cos if you do na still that your uncle and the rest of them will make hell out of live for you. I like what the first guy that commented say, you can set up a biss for your mum to take off some stress from you. Don't mind them ooo. A friend once said to me that if papa die no be first born kill papa oo, so the burial na everybody burial no be only first born go carry am for head ,what am trying to say here is that you mum illness is everyone illness so that one wey ur uncles and other family members are saying na Rubbish. In life we all face such but some are more while some are mild. do your best . NB. Never resign as asked by your uncle cos that's not a wise decision for now. If your work has HMO and provision for parents then register her too. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Nobody: 10:52am On Apr 04, 2021 |
Coronavirus84: Please are you married? If yes, do you give your mother in law. I just got a federal job and my wife always suggest I give her mother salary rhough when I frown at it she calls it a joke but she has suggested it severally and I'm sick about it |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Bianda24: 10:52am On Apr 04, 2021 |
I quite understand what you are going through. Inside of you, you will be thinking how did I get here particularly now that I just get a job, federal job for that matter. Then you have to use your brain, you need to take care of your mum. Don't ever think of resigning from your job cos if you did where will you get money to take care of mama. Take a leave maybe part of your annual leave and go home to sort out things with your mum and dad and not one sort of an uncle. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by ImaIma1(f): 10:52am On Apr 04, 2021 |
CapedBaldy: ![]() 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by sirk98: 10:53am On Apr 04, 2021 |
My simple advice is this.Firstly,ur family members are your enemy,secondly ensure u have someone inolace that will monitor her and give u reported about her health,thirdly,don't resign from ur work.They want u to come begging oo.Federal government job is not easy to get ooo.,Thirdly,once ur mother is OK.Distance your self from ur family member,don't let them no ur worth.Thank you |
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