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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Princewell2012(m): 4:23pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
mutter:.. I bet it with you if he ever make the mistake of telling his wife about this, she go change am foram. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by MufasaLion: 4:25pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
SimplePlan34: You still are wrong |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Midas01: 4:25pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
That's a typical example of our society's intolerance and hatred for women. Once that handler found out it was the husband complaining, he couldn't keep the same energy...Lmao. Mindlog: 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by mmsen: 4:26pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Midas01: Or save yourself the grief and marry an orphan. The man explained that when his parents want to visit they call in advance. What is so difficult about the wife's mother doing so? It's the civil thing to do, people have a right to privacy. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by dam4sam: 4:26pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
joyousever: Which one is "stopping-by", for a driving distance of 35mins? Lagos to Ibadan in One Hour, so someone will drive halfway between Lagos and Ibadan and call it "stopping-by"? Stopping-by on the way to where? How many times in a Month would she be stopping by? Is she that idle that she cant find something to do with her time again? You call the @Op "stingy", what if he was affected by the Pandemic and is just managing the little amount left between him and his wife? It is idle people and time wasters who just keep running from one place to another, under the excuse of Casual Visit. Women are fond of running around their Son-in-laws place, leaving their own husband isolated and most of them end up ruining their daughter's marriage. One "Stop-by Visit" in FOur Months is enough., for anyone who is not jobless or idle. Anyway, this busy-body behaviour, starts early in life. Edit: many people think the @Op is about her not visiting them at all, which will be wrong. The @Op is about her VISITING WITHOUT NOTICE, WHICH IS A MATTER OF RESPECTING ONE'S PRIVACY. And maybe about the FREQUENCY of the Visit, Any decent and intelligent Parent-in-law should know that newly married Couples need their privacy more than anything, let them grow together as a family, not poke-nosing into their affairs every minute. 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by wolexter(m): 4:26pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Frankly i smell hate and intolerance in your post. Gosh, we are talking about someone who gave you her daughter here. Those who enjoy marriage see their parents- in-law as their own parents. Man if you want a blissful marriage then embrace your parent-in-law and be prepared to tolerate their excesses because your wife will treat your people same way, if not worse cos na woman get house o. So don't start what you cannot finish. And lastly i think you should go double your hustle legitimately o, so you dont get to bail whenever she comes around lol |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Xkale1234(m): 4:29pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Just be patience bro, with time she will stop coming omo is not easy o na blood o so calm down she will stop with time |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by emmyw(m): 4:30pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Deathisfree:I Really Don't Like This Kind Of Stuff!!! They Should Allow You Settle Down First Na! |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Princewell2012(m): 4:30pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Theboy21: Don't mind him, the marriage is just two months old and he just want to destroy the whole thing. I bet it his wife will take it personal. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by helpee(m): 4:32pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Deathisfree:na wa o. Just visiting and you dey para like this. Look, we are in Africa. You can't really separate people from their families because of marriage. She is just there on a visit and you expect them to always call you. Well, you don't need to take things like this too seriously. It ruins home later. Enjoy people's company. Unless she is constituting herself a nuisance I see no reason why my mother in law can't drop in anytime to check on us and especially her daughter. We are in Africa NB- You are the boss in your house but the moment you start enforcing it, you will lose it. You are not in competition with your mother in law. Learn how to be friends with them rather than this. Very soon, she will notice you don't like her presence and you are putting your wife in a very tight corner. You are telling her, make a choice between myself and your mum..of course she should choose you but it isn't necessary to make that choice at all.. Remember, divorce is so common nowadays and if you start like this, the marriage is starting on a shaky ground. Once you misbehave, she will quickly get Support from her families to divource you 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by victorVIC1(m): 4:33pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
How could OP consider this a serious issue? Na wa o. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by armyofone(m): 4:35pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
She is the queen of her home. Hope the tell wifey that.....also applies to him too. His mother should inform both of them before coming. I think it is best for family members to let couples know of intended visits and wait to here from them before embarking on the trip. You can tell your wife that mom should make her visit during weekends. 2dice01: |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Klass99(f): 4:36pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by eyinjuege: 4:37pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
capitalzero: You want him to stay away from mama by visiting close friends and family members, without informing them also? That's why he walked out of his own home without notification . I'm not sure why OP sounds grumpy though, especially when the mother in law isn't staying over 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Goldenklassy: 4:37pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
I wonder what this generation is turning into....u mean u cant tolerate the visit of a woman that nurture that girl till she became a full grown woman and a wife.,that means her siblings cant even plan for stay in your house....thats too harsh man.pls readjust that attitude of yours,a visit wont make u less of a married man. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Map1(m): 4:38pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Deathisfree:it's just a pity that we African have throw away our culture due to poverty and bad orientation,as an Africa Man there is nothing like me and my wife, we have a very large family and we always leave together in peace either you are married or not as a family man your doors must be open for family and friends no one can tell what tomorrow will bring create a familiar environment,in olden days Africa Man don't go into depression or commiting suicide because they always bring family around them and in time of crisis these people will be there for you and you won't die loneliness. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Deathisfree: 4:38pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
ezugegere: Yes right. But it’s immature same unreasonable not to inform someone you are coming over. Who’s not matured here ?? |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by habsman(m): 4:39pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Deathisfree:If them allow u u go say na civilization be this abi? |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by helpee(m): 4:40pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Deathisfree:obviously you. You are still young in marriage. Listen to people that have been in it for years |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Coronavirus1: 4:40pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Deathisfree:Please don't behave as if you are a child your mother inlaw is also your mother let her in anytime so long she is not there to stay my mother inlaw can come to my place anytime no notice so please I know this publication is not true but I just tell you the truth |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by capitalzero: 4:41pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
eyinjuege: Did I say he should not inform people before visiting? It is bad habit. If you visit me without Notification, I would disappoint you. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by BuddhaPalm(m): 4:42pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Ammishaddai: Very funny... So if she comes unannounced again, then you move to another continent? |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by ZooOga: 4:42pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
I'm with op on this one. a simple call before visiting is the correct manners and protocol. I've read stories on NL where in-laws move into a couples home an take it over one by one and destroy the marriage. Newlyweds are supposed to be bleeping each other's brains out and need their privacy for intimacy, or resting between rounds. Soon the thrill will be gone and then comes the nagging, bills, and all kinds of marital wahala that comes with life. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Princewell2012(m): 4:42pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
alizma: You have a brilliant idea but some people think differently, may not understand like you. This might make her angry and she feels you don't like her mother, and she might take it personal. Some people love their mother so much. And this singular action might make their early marriage begin to crash. He will need to apply caution in handling this issue. Beside this man is a stingy person and not accommodative. The way he is going about it and don't see this marriage lasting for too long. I have been married since close to 20 years now. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Mariangeles(f): 4:43pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Kriss216: Kriss, it's the same personality. Maybe a bit less playful... It's all in your mind sha. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by deavicky(m): 4:43pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Deathisfree:imagine you. When people say their inlaw comes to their house unannounced does not mean u too falls into that category. 35m drive to ur house is just a stone throw and it is also possible she was going somewhere and just decide to branch off or did she tell u she is planning to start leaving with u?. She also might just be missing her daughter. Taking u unaware also means she is not expecting anything or any kind preparation to receive inlaw from you. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by glogirlie(f): 4:46pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
I guess what is eating you up is the financial aspect thinking of money to give to her, highest when she comes welcome her and go inside the room when she is done with her daughter she will go home. Telling your wife is not a good idea except she decode herself and tell her mother remember you have a mother also if your wife does that to her you won't like it. Try to accommodate her since is not everyday visit. Once in two weeks for 35mins drive is not bad. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Midas01: 4:46pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
God bless you abundantly for loving that woman like your mother. omosuper: |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Princewell2012(m): 4:46pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
themanderon: With the way he is behaving I don't see this marriage lasting for too long. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by frozen70(f): 4:46pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Deathisfree: Talk with your wife to talk with her and inform her that she should always inform you guys before coming because of economic situation If she can't say that to her, then be the one yo do that in the presence of you all Besides, you guys need to settle down and doing so means giving you guys a break |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Ammishaddai: 4:47pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
BuddhaPalm:Oga be realistic here. Let's say you're living in Ikoyi and your in-laws are living in Ikeja, would they just pop-up for regular visits? No. They will consider so many things like distance, the traffic and the stress added to make the trip. So in such a scenario they will call and ask if you're at home. This will save you the discomfort of sharing your space with your in-laws irregular visits, and at the same time, give your home the peace it needs |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by armyofone(m): 4:47pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
It's due to limited resources. Map1: |
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