Juliearth:




It takes a bigger fool to know a fool. Since you are used to calling your mother a fool, I am not surprised that you are calling me one.

dam4sam:


You need not mention his/her Mother,The insult was directed to you, not your Mother.
It shows very bad parenting and upbringing on your part.
Stop insulting people's Parent just because they insult you, it is an anonymous forum.

Caveat: This does not excuse his use of foul language on you, it is wrong.

Princedapace:


But why is it that in marriage, it is always women that have one Wahala or the other?

Mother-in-law VS wife

Wife VS mother-in-law

Sister-in-law VS wife

Wife VS sister-in-law

U rarely see fathers in these who drama. Does the really mean that women are naturally dramatic and men are really trying living with then?

Ammishaddai:
I'm sorry. Its not you I was referring. It's one jerk that keeps mentioning me

maasoap:


As long as she's not staying, there is no need to inform you and there is no need to be hostile, complain or raise dust. I wouldn't.



Totally unnecessary comment. Your MIL deserves whatever the gift you give her.

Juliearth:





I am sorry for losing my cool too. E-hugs.

Juliearth:






You are totally right. However, I did not call his mother a fool, I cannot possibly do that. I only inferred that he is capable of doing that, since he can come on this platform and call another woman a fool. This is an online platform and people have the right to air their views even if they don't sit right. There are a thousand and one insults that I can condone and have condoned on this platform, but being called a fool is a deal breaker and I can go ballistic on that count.

Ammishaddai:
Hahaha... E-hugs?

Juliearth:




Yes

Ammishaddai:
Hahaha... E-hugs?

dam4sam:


Heeeh, dont get greedy o!
I am the one entitled to the "Real Hugs", please make do with the E-Hugs.

More E-Hugs, from me to both of you

Grandmeister:

Give me a break! How many male monikers on this thread do you see supporting the op? Majority are even insulting him. Save your victim son story abeg!

Klass99:


You just articulated my thoughts, yet they keep saying marriage favours us more than them.

From where I stand and what I've seen, it feels more like entrapment.

CHoccolaTE:


Abeg, they are lenient jor

The hostility would have been 10 times worse if it was a woman doing what op did

RMoneyInTheBank:
35 minutes drive from your house and you expect her to inform you before coming ALL THE TIME ? Bros fear God... After all she is not there to stay... In as much as it is good to inform people before visiting them, I feel it shouldn't be ALL THE TIME especially if the person is related to you and if the distance is as small as 35 minutes like you said... Is either the OP was brought up in an hostile environment or na Money yab man

Princewell2012:


I bet it with you if he ever make the mistake of telling his wife about this, this will be the beginning of their problem. Only this guy will not come here to update us.

Ammishaddai:
This is the first time I'm hearing such. Anyway, I'll remember it the next time I'm having a brawl and want to settle things online.


Peace

dam4sam:


Dont worry, we are all cool.
I am happy that both of you are at peace.
I know it can be a challenge not to get angry at times.

dam4sam:


Where in the Post did you read that she was just staying for 30mins or 3days? How would you know?

You mean a MIL will leave her house probably at 6:30am, drive for 35mins in Nigeria's early morning Holdups, just to "Say Hi" to her Son-inlaw and then drive back after staying for 10mins?
You guys need an Upgrade, really.

In-laws dont come and spend five minutes on Visits, they likely will sleep-over. and you cant tell them when to leave.

What if it was a working day and the Couples have to go to work? That means they have to leave her all alone at home.
She came at 7:30am for God's sake and it is not her first visit..

Let me give an example:
What if they have just fumigated the House at that 7:30am (since they will be at work all day) and she just bumped-in as they were about going out, will she not be embarrassed when told she cannot stay and have to go back or will she kill her self with the Mosquitoes, just to prove she can visit anytime?

Is that kind of embarrassment not better avoided, just by calling them to inform them of your intention to come to Visit?

JaneYave:
Marriage requires patience my brother, this can be sorted out maturedly, there are cases where fathers- in- law are the thorns too. Lastly, if love find you, you will live with that special woman and much more. Come to think of it, if you can endure outsiders, why not family members?

RMoneyInTheBank:
35 minutes drive from your house and you expect her to inform you before coming ALL THE TIME ? Bros fear God... After all she is not there to stay... In as much as it is good to inform people before visiting them, I feel it shouldn't be ALL THE TIME especially if the person is related to you and if the distance is as small as 35 minutes like you said... Is either the OP was brought up in an hostile environment or na Money yab man

2dice01:

Your are the King your House

Tell wifey when her mom is gone
You dont condole families visiting from time to time
and if any of them wanna visit you must be informed first
Be serious about it

But if her family member come again with any notification

Don't come home till he/she leaves

ceeceeuwa:

Would you say the same if it were the man's mother that came visiting? I am sure by now the whole Nairaland will be agog with insults for not only the woman but the whole Nigerian women. The op is just not a nice person!

RMoneyInTheBank:
35 minutes drive from your house and you expect her to inform you before coming ALL THE TIME ? Bros fear God... After all she is not there to stay... In as much as it is good to inform people before visiting them, I feel it shouldn't be ALL THE TIME especially if the person is related to you and if the distance is as small as 35 minutes like you said... Is either the OP was brought up in an hostile environment or na Money yab man

Theboy21:
Only if you have the balls to tell your mother inlaw one on one what you feel will make things better, but sending your wife to do your job will turn out bitter, trust me you won't be able to face your inlaw for five seconds when next you meet...you might need her help someday remember and she might be the most easiest person to reach base on closeness...think ahead