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So This Is Marriage? by robosky02(m): 10:04pm On Apr 11, 2021
Before marriage, we all thought that once the knots are tied, this life go sweet die. Only you with your man/woman, enjoying, partying, shopping, doing somersaults anyhow, this, that, yen yen yen�... Akụkọ�

Most of us didn't consider the pressures that would come from home keeping, financial pressure on the family, stress from inlaws, friends, coping with the demands of our jobs while securing the home front, etc.

We didn't even think that a time would come when little discussions could result to very big quarrels, and you could actually keep malice with your partner, and say to hell with him/her.

We thought having sex everyday would just be fun since we've gotten the licence to be weird, we never imagined that we would one day be forming tayad in the oza room�.

We thought everything would just go as planned and we will live happily ever after, never did we imagine the frustrations, the heartbreaks, the regrets, the hurtful words and actions that would one day come from our heartthrob intentionally or otherwise.

Most of us thought love texting is fun and would never cease, but here we are, sending list of things to buy, issues to be resolved, school fees, utility bills, etc ��most times even forgetting to add love you at the end of the messages.

What about pillow talks, �. We enjoyed lots of it during courtship, discussing the future, totoring each other, giglling throughout the night, and all... We thought marriage would bring out the PhD of that aspect... ��. Little did we know that sometimes we would sleep off on the couch even without having our night bath. Pillow talks haff advanced to kitchen/on-the-way-out talk�

As you're coming out from one challenge, you're faced with another. It's like a loop, we keep going round and never getting to the end.

These things are overwhelming to a lot of people, you see wonderful sweet women becoming something else, the men most times start looking for outdoor activities, some, see themselves as stuck with each other and just continue to manage and hope for a better tomorrow, while the impatient ones seek ways and excuses to return to spinsterhood/bachelorhood. �‍♀️

It takes a lot to make this thing called marriage work. If you've not been there you won't understand any of those☝️.

So the next time you see couples celebrating their marriage anniversary, rejoice with them, cos what they celebrate is beyond the beautiful appearances they put up and the fine pictures you see on social media.

Every marriage anniversary is worth celebrating, don't wait until you're 25years in marriage.

Kudos to all men and women who despite the many challenges are still keeping up with the love they saw and believed in, may God continue to strengthen your home and give you double success for every effort you make, Amen�����

If u can't forgive, please don't marry. Marriage is a Ministry of 'Offence'. So u must be a permanent secretary in Forgiveness Department,
with a Phd in Understanding,
M.Sc in Loving and a B.Sc in Tolerance.

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by Bilabong(m): 10:05pm On Apr 11, 2021
Too long


Summarize pls

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by Cutehector(m): 10:05pm On Apr 11, 2021
Well typed. God bless you robosky

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by Cutehector(m): 10:06pm On Apr 11, 2021
Bilabong:
Too long


Summarize pls
typical nigerian!

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by Yusufisraelj(m): 10:13pm On Apr 11, 2021
It is well with all that ends well.

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by HONESTFACT101(m): 10:17pm On Apr 11, 2021
If you find a right partner then MARRIAGE will be very sweet......signing out

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by robosky02(m): 10:22pm On Apr 11, 2021
Oyindidi
Re: So This Is Marriage? by dairo123: 10:58pm On Apr 11, 2021
Chai robo God bless you. You talked to we. Make I show my wife to maintain till we conquer.

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by chatinent: 11:36pm On Apr 11, 2021
What overnight-tumbo cannot do doesn't exist.

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by Nobody: 12:04am On Apr 12, 2021
Now, I'm scared.

ive actually seen this happen in so many homes and it's the men that first start dousing the fire of love in marriage. They'll start by going to viewing centers or a friend's place to watch soccer, leaving the woman all alone at home. Before you know it, the gap is formed. The Interest in each other drops and you begin to see yourselves as siblings or biz partners.

It sucks.

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by kissoflife: 3:55am On Apr 12, 2021
keeping this for reference

robosky02:
Before marriage, we all thought that once the knots are tied, this life go sweet die. Only you with your man/woman, enjoying, partying, shopping, doing somersaults anyhow, this, that, yen yen yen�... Akụkọ�

Most of us didn't consider the pressures that would come from home keeping, financial pressure on the family, stress from inlaws, friends, coping with the demands of our jobs while securing the home front, etc.

We didn't even think that a time would come when little discussions could result to very big quarrels, and you could actually keep malice with your partner, and say to hell with him/her.

We thought having sex everyday would just be fun since we've gotten the licence to be weird, we never imagined that we would one day be forming tayad in the oza room�.

We thought everything would just go as planned and we will live happily ever after, never did we imagine the frustrations, the heartbreaks, the regrets, the hurtful words and actions that would one day come from our heartthrob intentionally or otherwise.

Most of us thought love texting is fun and would never cease, but here we are, sending list of things to buy, issues to be resolved, school fees, utility bills, etc ��most times even forgetting to add love you at the end of the messages.

What about pillow talks, �. We enjoyed lots of it during courtship, discussing the future, totoring each other, giglling throughout the night, and all... We thought marriage would bring out the PhD of that aspect... ��. Little did we know that sometimes we would sleep off on the couch even without having our night bath. Pillow talks haff advanced to kitchen/on-the-way-out talk�

As you're coming out from one challenge, you're faced with another. It's like a loop, we keep going round and never getting to the end.

These things are overwhelming to a lot of people, you see wonderful sweet women becoming something else, the men most times start looking for outdoor activities, some, see themselves as stuck with each other and just continue to manage and hope for a better tomorrow, while the impatient ones seek ways and excuses to return to spinsterhood/bachelorhood. �‍♀️

It takes a lot to make this thing called marriage work. If you've not been there you won't understand any of those☝️.

So the next time you see couples celebrating their marriage anniversary, rejoice with them, cos what they celebrate is beyond the beautiful appearances they put up and the fine pictures you see on social media.

Every marriage anniversary is worth celebrating, don't wait until you're 25years in marriage.

Kudos to all men and women who despite the many challenges are still keeping up with the love they saw and believed in, may God continue to strengthen your home and give you double success for every effort you make, Amen�����

If u can't forgive, please don't marry. Marriage is a Ministry of 'Offence'. So u must be a permanent secretary in Forgiveness Department,
with a Phd in Understanding,
M.Sc in Loving and a B.Sc in Tolerance.

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by anthonyuncle(m): 6:50am On Apr 12, 2021
this is the best post I've read recently

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by anthonyuncle(m): 6:51am On Apr 12, 2021
AsherAmari:
Now, I'm scared.

ive actually seen this happen in so many homes and it's the men that first start dousing the fire of love in marriage. They'll start going to viewing centers or a friend's place to watch soccer. Leaving the woman all alone at home. Before you know it, the gap is formed. The Interest in each other drops and you begin to see yourselves as siblings or biz partners.

It sucks.

must you sexualize everything

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by Nobody: 7:33am On Apr 12, 2021
anthonyuncle:


must you sexualize everything

How?
I only genderized, i didnt sexualize.

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by Richy4(m): 8:31am On Apr 12, 2021
This is the kind of quality write up that used to make front page in 2009-12 before the popular Nairaland internet crash.......After the crash, everything went south...Thank you OP for bringing the fond memories of NL back with this write up!!!!

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by Nobody: 9:28am On Apr 12, 2021
Marriage is sweet as the product



Think deeply about it
Re: So This Is Marriage? by AdekolaHerbals(m): 10:08am On Apr 12, 2021
robosky02:
Before marriage, we all thought that once the knots are tied, this life go sweet die. Only you with your man/woman, enjoying, partying, shopping, doing somersaults anyhow, this, that, yen yen yen�... Akụkọ�

Most of us didn't consider the pressures that would come from home keeping, financial pressure on the family, stress from inlaws, friends, coping with the demands of our jobs while securing the home front, etc.

We didn't even think that a time would come when little discussions could result to very big quarrels, and you could actually keep malice with your partner, and say to hell with him/her.

We thought having sex everyday would just be fun since we've gotten the licence to be weird, we never imagined that we would one day be forming tayad in the oza room�.

We thought everything would just go as planned and we will live happily ever after, never did we imagine the frustrations, the heartbreaks, the regrets, the hurtful words and actions that would one day come from our heartthrob intentionally or otherwise.

Most of us thought love texting is fun and would never cease, but here we are, sending list of things to buy, issues to be resolved, school fees, utility bills, etc ��most times even forgetting to add love you at the end of the messages.

What about pillow talks, �. We enjoyed lots of it during courtship, discussing the future, totoring each other, giglling throughout the night, and all... We thought marriage would bring out the PhD of that aspect... ��. Little did we know that sometimes we would sleep off on the couch even without having our night bath. Pillow talks haff advanced to kitchen/on-the-way-out talk�

As you're coming out from one challenge, you're faced with another. It's like a loop, we keep going round and never getting to the end.

These things are overwhelming to a lot of people, you see wonderful sweet women becoming something else, the men most times start looking for outdoor activities, some, see themselves as stuck with each other and just continue to manage and hope for a better tomorrow, while the impatient ones seek ways and excuses to return to spinsterhood/bachelorhood. �‍♀️

It takes a lot to make this thing called marriage work. If you've not been there you won't understand any of those☝️.

So the next time you see couples celebrating their marriage anniversary, rejoice with them, cos what they celebrate is beyond the beautiful appearances they put up and the fine pictures you see on social media.

Every marriage anniversary is worth celebrating, don't wait until you're 25years in marriage.

Kudos to all men and women who despite the many challenges are still keeping up with the love they saw and believed in, may God continue to strengthen your home and give you double success for every effort you make, Amen�����

If u can't forgive, please don't marry. Marriage is a Ministry of 'Offence'. So u must be a permanent secretary in Forgiveness Department,
with a Phd in Understanding,
M.Sc in Loving and a B.Sc in Tolerance.


What an educative write-up, we the singles would learn from it. Thanks sir more grease to your elbow

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by Seun(m): 10:43am On Apr 12, 2021
AsherAmari:
Now, I'm scared. ive actually seen this happen in so many homes and it's the men that first start dousing the fire of love in marriage. They'll start by going to viewing centers or a friend's place to watch soccer, leaving the woman all alone at home. Before you know it, the gap is formed. The Interest in each other drops and you begin to see yourselves as siblings or biz partners.
This is a case of mismatched expectations. The wife expects her husband to be with her after work, and the husband expects her to support his interest in sports as a man. The solution is compromise. The man will agree to watch only the more important matches and his wife will watch them with him. He will ignore the less important matches and they will do whatever his wife wants them to do. Both the husband and the wife will be happy.

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by FrankBass281(m): 10:49am On Apr 12, 2021
Marriage is sweet sha if you find a woman that is good,quiet,prayerful and also a good cook.if you go marry woman wey dey lousy believe me life go weak you
I have Facebook accounts for sale

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by IMASTEX: 10:49am On Apr 12, 2021
The truth is very many prepare for the marriage ceremony. And it becomes very difficult for them to survive the reality in marriage. Nice pieces!

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by Goldbw122(m): 10:49am On Apr 12, 2021
That is why if you want to marry, please marry your friends so that it would be fun, this love texting, sex, communication will be sweet, so that is it is supposed to be, marriage is sweet, and forgiveness is really and highly require in marriage, because you need to be mature and maturity comes with understanding...

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by EkelediliBuhari: 10:50am On Apr 12, 2021
One thing I know is that ... this is not a do or die affair

Don’t let it kill you.. if it becomes too stifling, take a walk... once you’re dead guess what.. you’re dead... you seize to exist... so make sure it’s on your own terms

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by WiszyFraud: 10:50am On Apr 12, 2021
God forbid me try that rubbish called marriage



angry

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by folake4u(f): 10:50am On Apr 12, 2021
Nairaland men will complain that they're not benefitting anything from marriage, but will go ahead creating threads upandan.
Lol

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by Coproso: 10:50am On Apr 12, 2021
In other words, if you get enough money, you won't have to worry about any of the problems mentioned in the opening post, and your marriage life go sweet die.

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by Nobody: 10:50am On Apr 12, 2021
grin Marriage isn't child's play, require a great deal of maturity; emotional even more than physical

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by GeneralPula: 10:51am On Apr 12, 2021
Problems for people getting married!

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by Seun(m): 10:51am On Apr 12, 2021
HONESTFACT101:
If you find a right partner then MARRIAGE will be very sweet......signing out
What makes a person the right partner?

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Re: So This Is Marriage? by maureensylvia(f): 10:52am On Apr 12, 2021
This is apt.
Alot to learn and endure(keep aside) in marriage(talking from experience).

Marriage is sweet
Marriage is bitter
It's just like a season
May the unmarried ones out there not fall into the wrong hands

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