MARRIED WOMAN SEEKS ADVISE AFTER MISTAKENLY SLEEPING WITH NEIGHBOR FOR FINANCIAL AID

My husband and I have been married for 16years and are blessed with 5children. I lost my job about 3years ago. Since then, I have been helping out my husband with his phone case and charger business, I now work at his stores so that we can make ends meet. But since all this economic crisis started when fuel price went up, business has not been so good. We hardly feed talk-less of being able to afford luxuries.

There is a man whose house is not so far from one of the four branches of my husband’s store. The man has been disturbing me for about 5years now. One day, we could not sell a single thing in our store, so on my way home, I thought to call this man to see if he could help with something. He sent me 50,000naira. I was so happy and felt indebted to this man. So a week after, I decided to go thank him at home. His family stay abroad. Omajuwa, I honestly was not planning anything than to thank him o but one thing led to another and we had sex. Since then, this man sends me money randomly. 500k today, 200k tomorrow, 300k next and has since been asking for when next we can see.

I have tried to tell him to stop because what happened was just a mistake. When I told my brother, he said I should just ignore the man and find a way to invest the money and better our lives. I am scared and confused. I have not touched the ones he sent after the 50k, should I ask for his account and send back his money? Should I keep it? Where will I tell my husband I got the money from? Should I tell my husband everything? Hope this man would not run to my husband and ruin my marriage in retaliation? What do I do? Please advise me.

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Women are too cunning and dishonest

No one accidentally sleeps with anyone...


Some people's fetish is actually married women.

One of my guiding principles in life is to never sleep with either a friend's girl friend or a married woman.

Very fast track to an early grave... Especially the married woman part!

ko mean nah! as long it didn't count meters

if u trust woman? u re on ur own! OYO

All this cock and bull crap.

Marriage is now a mystery, difficult to understand. Adultery by mistake kwa.

this is why men should be very careful of the type of women they date/marry.... some women will claim holy but deep down you are just dating/married to a low down dirty olosho. there is NO mistake in this story... that woman is a cheap wh0re and thats how you entice wh0res around the world (with money and gifts)

if all it takes is 50k for your woman to go to a man's house (someone who she knows wanna fukc her for the past 5yrs) then you are on a long thing!

What kind of mistake? For not telling your hubby when he gave u the 50k shows you have an ulterior motives.

Prostitutes everywhere!

Firstly, understand that you are a human being, and human beings are not perfect (including the hypocrites here calling you all types of names and accusing you).
As a human being, you fell for hardship (that is why poverty is very dangerous).
Understand this and forgive yourself.
Secondly, tell your husband everything now. Return the man's money, too. ALL OF IT.
I presume you are married to a mature man (not a kid like those ranting here).
I also assume that you are telling the truth about this being a one time mistake and not your character flaw.
If your husband has always known you as a normal trustworthy woman, and he is not the deeply insecure type (BTW I warn women to never marry insecure man no matter what), he is likely to forgive and let bygone be bygone.
Just like Jesus told the woman caught in adultery, GO AND SIN NO MORE.

But she had her bath and looked fresh to go and say "Thank you"...

One male, go don drink ogogoro and write one cock and bull story, una go believe am.

She mistakenly stumbled and happen to fall on an erect and willing dic*k.

It happens, let forgive her.

On a serious note, everyone has a price once hardship sets in.

The husband should bundle the 5 kids go do DNA I am very sure only the 3rd child will be his own.

Nicepoker:
The husband should bundle the 5 kids go do DNA I am very sure only the 3rd child will be his own.

funny man

This gender and mind games. She said it was a mistake; I laugh in Chinese 😂

Shit happens. If you want to know what you can do, just experience poverty first. The posters above me that are condemning her will probably do worse when faced with poverty.

When the man was disturbing you for 5 years, did you tell your husband?

If your answer is no, then your transparency level with your husband is 0.

If your answer is yes. Then don't wait till it becomes to late to tell him. This depends on the kind of person your husband is. If he will be violent don't do It alone without first of all confiding in someone he respects.

If you don't tell him, 2 things are predictable...

1) you will continue to sleep with the man and eventually, you will run into a trouble so great that you will eventually loose your family and your dignity.

2) the secret will spill out and you loose your trust. Even the children you have will require DNA.

I strongly beleive the best way to handle infidelity in marriage is by opening up under thorough wise supervison. This is the same ways to handle blackmail.

It is better you tell your husband than for him to find out by himself. Then, your apology will be needless.

Mistakenly send her back to her father's house
How will this hookup by mistake farm tool advice her daughters tomorrow?
Your husband has four shops and it was not enough?
This man disturbed you for 5 good years and you didn't voice out to your husband?
Although I see this story as cock and bull story to farm engagement still that bleeding gender especially this tiktok generation are a good definition of immorality

Don't return the money...

Divorce your Husband and

Keep Fûcking the Man.

Because a Married Woman that has eaten gbola from outside, cannot be trusted again...

She will surely continue to open her Matrimonial Toto for several other men.

It is a mistake so return the money.

Nairaland and lies. Every post here is all lies

Ashewo na Ashewo

Yeye woman

When they man gave you the money why didn't you tell your husband about it and go with your husband to thank him instead you went to his house alone just delulu yourself I really pity that man because he's in for it

Hookup pro-max. Oloso, you can not thank him on phone and rest.

Oloju kokoro.

If she has not been sexually satisfying the man, how has the man been paying such sums so frequently? If she’s not willing to spend the money, how does she keep on having sex with the man?

She don enter one chance.

Anyway, there is a way out. The way out is to STOP NOW. As for the money, it’s either she returns it or she must get ready to tell her husband the source of such amount. She can also ask the man to reset her body to her husband’s factory setting!