bepositive11:


He's dating with the intention of marrying her so he has to show how he would be as a husband. What he did was very cheap.

I'm sure if a woman did that to you, you would feel that she's cheap too. Just a few thousands and he's even well off

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That guy is extreme though. How can he ask his gf to pay him back a few thousands? What will he do if they should get married? Ask her to pay for everything he buys for her? That's madness

Stingy and financially responsible are 2 different things

Kondomatic:
First, because it's his money. It doesn't matter if it is one, a couple or few thousands


Second, because he wasn't planning to spend a few thousands.


Third, because it's possible that she doesn't spend on him because he's rich.

Fourth, because if the reverse was the case, the girl will collect everything back, inflate the price of the things she bought, collect money for transport and pure water and expect him to give extra for buying it for him.




Yes, but once you're responsible financially, an entitled woman will think you're stingy.
Ask the OP how much her friend has spent on him let's see who is stingy.

Ritzybeauty:
Pretend like he isn't there and hustle on your own to be your own boss, get thing for yourself, dress elegantly, go out with friends, have fun and you don't owe him any explanations whatsoever, if he feels you are a gem and can't afford to lose you, then you both should talk things out and be clear on what you both want for the relationship to work.. Most importantly don't close doors to others that would treat you like a queen because you don't know if he sees a future with you. I don't really have time to stress myself dear because our mental health matters a lot and you guys can frustrate a lot

slimman007:


Please go and work.That guy is not your father neither your financial so leave him alone.it people like you that won't contribute anything in your matrimonial home even common maggi and salt you won't contribute rather you will be waiting for the man to come back from work before you can buy salt at home.Shame on all stingy ladies and please guys take note this is one of them

Rozcol:
My friend is financially very OK but there are certain things that portrays a red flag in a relationship, his own is just too much,he's too stingy

chatinent:

She is.

Ritzybeauty:


Then they are certainly better options.. Its gonna get worse when it gets to marriage and trust me its not gonna be funny, because same would apply if she give birth to his kids. This is a big red flag.

Rozcol:
You still don't get it,there are certain things any lady should not overlook in a relationship, a man who doesn't priotize your needs clearly shows you are not part of his life and if you eventually marry such man he won't care about your needs and that of the kids and besides my friend is not materialistic but a reasonable man should know what to do.There was a day they went out together and he stopped to buy some banana and my friend wanted some as well,he bought his own and paid and stretch forth his stingy hands to collect money from my friend to pay for her own,who does that?stop taking sides and hit the nail on the head

slimman007:


Leech and entitled lady spotted here.Why do most Nigerian ladies have this terrible mindset most the guy provide for you when he is not official married to you answer me,can't you provide for your needs while in relationship.Look here young lady that guy is not your father neither your benefactor so leave him alone and walk away.To me you are a liability to him and you have nothing to offer him expect your pucci which he can get anywhere so what makes your own special.If I may ask you ever since you have been with him what meaningful impact have you added into his life rather than to demand which is the emblem of an average Nigerian lady

bepositive11:


That guy is extreme though. How can he ask his gf to pay him back a few thousands? What will he do if they should get married? Ask her to pay for everything he buys for her? That's madness

Stingy and financially responsible are 2 different things

Rozcol:
We are exhausted, he won't just go,he's somehow annoyingly very smart.My friend just don't want to appear as been materialistic

Kondomatic:
She's also collecting sugarcane

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks