My dear if she's not ready to confront the guy no matter what family or anyone says then she's not serious pls let her speak to the guy herself how she's hurt and end the relationship no need of pretending I'm marriage she's still the one to face it!

If you love him tarry with him

Where is the love?

You are calling your boyfriend that you "LOVE" stingy.

Does True Love exist? Or is it all about the benefits.

Sharap ya maut

Which stingy boyfriend? do you know if your friend has a bad character?

I once dated a girl who call me a very good guy but stingy boyfriend, only me and God knows that her bad characters gave me deep anger that nearly kill me. In anger I nearly drive into a taxi. Many men are currently in their grave because of their wives attitude

Nigeria women with their bad characters is what is making me wants to marry a white tiiiii babe

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

Immediately you ask a Nigeria lady out either she agrees or not, you've started owing her especially emergency 2k, recharge cards, pads, help upon help etc can't they jus work on their own? I taught one a lesson...she ask for 1k card for sub i said OK...i sent her used recharge card...she called and called till she saw the signs that she never disturb again...Nigeria ladies go and work...nonsense...

If your friend was sincere to pay for buying those stuff, she wouldn't have waited for the guy to calculate everything she sent him before giving him his money...her approach to me has a big question mark...there's different between please buy me this buy me that when u come ill pay or please dear i need this i need that I'll appreciate it if u can get it for me...if my wife tells me to get something for her and she mentioned it that she will pay me back why i no go collect my money...

kachi08:



Please ask her to mention those other things.....because she said and I quote: everything amounted to thousands besides pad is just in hundreds. Lolzzzz

Pad is now going to 600 naira, for me as a lady I buy a few toiletries like Toilet rolls and antiseptics during my period, so those ones alone are above 1k5

skywalker240:

Word's of the Wise ones are word's of life savers

Yes oooooo

He is good In what aspect ? How is he good when he is not caring and generous to his girlfriend. Abi na bed u dy say he for good. Dump his selfish ass at once

My sister this ur story. If u are tired of the relationship go ahead and tell him that u don't want again cus he doesn't spend his money anyhow on u. And also pls go and hustle he is just ur boyfriend not ur husband why do u want to see him as a maga. Better go and hustle. I wish i could have that kind of heart the guy has cus some women don't deserve to taking care of them. I need to have strong heart on them.

bepositive11:


He's dating with the intention of marrying her so he has to show how he would be as a husband. What he did was very cheap.

I'm sure if a woman did that to you, you would feel that she's cheap too. Just a few thousands and he's even well off

mumu idea, behave like. Husband when you are not a husband? Get sense for once

AutoChick4U:
You lack sense. What's bad in asking ur bf to buy you toiletries on his way to your house? Her pad probably wasn't enough or she was caught unawares. She gave him d money back but you men no even read to comprehend but rush to comment like illiterates.

Don't they teach comprehensive English in school again? Fools can't reason outside d box

You really believe that the girl cannot walk up to the shop next to her house and buy pad for herself and her boyfriend has to do it? The OP didn't mention the rest of the things he brought and only mentioned pad just to make the guy look bad.

If it was the guy that asks her to buy card or something else on her way, I'm sure she'll collect the money back. My is my money. Your money is our money; most naija girls way of thinking.

This story is even fake AF, coming from this particular OP.

Let her get a job.

MrPaul2:
He is deceiving her, He doesn’t love her one bit. That’s the reality. He will dump her when he is done with her, believe me he still have one babe somewhere that knows his mumu bot...

What nonsense! Is she the one that loves him? Let op tell us what she has ever bought for him throughout their dating, we are waiting.
See how she was quick to say a few thousand, but only mentioned pad, which is less than 1 thousand.

AutoChick4U:
You lack sense. What's bad in asking ur bf to buy you toiletries on his way to your house? Her pad probably wasn't enough or she was caught unawares. She gave him d money back but you men no even read to comprehend but rush to comment like illiterates.

Don't they teach comprehensive English in school again? Fools can't reason outside d box

Madam people like you will be liability to your man in marriage.l know you won't add any value in your marriage always waiting for the man to provide even salt and maggi

Rozcol:
You still don't get it,there are certain things any lady should not overlook in a relationship, a man who doesn't priotize your needs clearly shows you are not part of his life and if you eventually marry such man he won't care about your needs and that of the kids and besides my friend is not materialistic but a reasonable man should know what to do.There was a day they went out together and he stopped to buy some banana and my friend wanted some as well,he bought his own and paid and stretch forth his stingy hands to collect money from my friend to pay for her own,who does that?stop taking sides and hit the nail on the head

This is really extreme then, it’s best your friend talks to him. If he still continues like that, then breaking up the relationship would be the best option because if they get married, no matter how rich she might be, she will suffer financially

Rozcol:
We are exhausted, he won't just go,he's somehow annoyingly very smart.My friend just don't want to appear as been materialistic

If you know what's good for your, she should stick with the guy till eternity.

He is her boyfriend and not her father okay?

You can't be in a relationship and expect to be getting paid just for being as someone's girlfriend.

Go get a job for that.

NaijaBoy213:
Quarrel with your friend in his presence, call her names and also tell her to go and treat dat sickness that's eating her up slowly, tell her to stop spreading it from Peter to Paul.

chai! Guy i don't laf taya. Hu born u?

Make una gettat

Ritzybeauty:
Pretend like he isn't there and hustle on your own to be your own boss, get thing for yourself, dress elegantly, go out with friends, have fun and you don't owe him any explanations whatsoever, if he feels you are a gem and can't afford to lose you, then you both should talk things out and be clear on what you both want for the relationship to work.. Most importantly don't close doors to others that would treat you like a queen because you don't know if he sees a future with you. I don't really have time to stress myself dear because our mental health matters a lot and you guys can frustrate a lot

you skipped the most vital part... She should buy him gifts too... And wait for the magic buy our mentality is always demanding without willing to give at all

AutoChick4U:
You lack sense. What's bad in asking ur bf to buy you toiletries on his way to your house? Her pad probably wasn't enough or she was caught unawares. She gave him d money back but you men no even read to comprehend but rush to comment like illiterates.

Don't they teach comprehensive English in school again? Fools can't reason outside d box

You are obviously one of the parasitic women in our society.... You already arranging the story for OP "probably kee you dia"
The average Nigerian woman can't pay her transport, can't buy pad....
And how stewpeed can you people be to ve surprised at a period you see everymonth.... Was she expecting she will be pregnant......
There is nothing wrong with a woman who is getting ready for marriage being unable to buy herself pad abi
That guy better run from you and your type.... Serious liability...
Worse thing from experience its you parasitic poor ones that brag the most... Brag about things you can't afford. Looking for men to make your dreams come true

Kondomatic:
First, because it's his money. It doesn't matter if it is one, a couple or few thousands


Second, because he wasn't planning to spend a few thousands.


Third, because it's possible that she doesn't spend on him because he's rich.

Fourth, because if the reverse was the case, the girl will collect everything back, inflate the price of the things she bought, collect money for transport and pure water and expect him to give extra for buying it for him.




Yes, but once you're responsible financially, an entitled woman will think you're stingy.
Ask the OP how much her friend has spent on him let's see who is stingy.

Why would my boyfriend ask me to help him get shaving creams, sticks and a few things and I will still collect refund from him? Ahn ahn, it’s a relationship for God’s sake

slimman007:


Leech and entitled lady spotted here.Why do most Nigerian ladies have this terrible mindset most the guy provide for you when he is not official married to you answer me,can't you provide for your needs while in relationship.Look here young lady that guy is not your father neither your benefactor so leave him alone and walk away.To me you are a liability to him and you have nothing to offer him expect your pucci which he can get anywhere so what makes your own special.If I may ask you ever since you have been with him what meaningful impact have you added into his life rather than to demand which is the emblem of an average Nigerian lady

Am a guy and I won't accept that. A man should be able to show is capacity of handling a family from a relationship especially to a woman that you have began to be seeing as someone that you want to marry. I am not saying be wasteful here. Even if she is working you may not be giving her money but buy gift for her, clothes, shoe etc. At least once a while. Do little things for her that is spending little. A girlfriend of mine then told me, I like receiving money even if it is 100 naira just give me.

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Mosdii is back with the gospel

Rozcol you need to find a subtle way to tell your friend that she is unequally yoked with that his boyfriend, they have no business being in a relationship.

Their upbringing, mindset, values and focus does not align. It's more like a drug addict girlfriend trying to date a professional meticulous hard-working accountant. One person will drain the other down soonest. She is like a gaping void itchy badly to be filled, but unfillable. She is a good sample/specimen of about all Nigerian females mindset wise. Men have a natural duty to foot my bills as long as the want or are having my pussycat.

Your friend is actually parasitic, lecherous, looking for a man to live off.

She needs a rich and stupid sugar daddy not a principled boyfriend.

Tell her too that some of her fellow women take care of their men in these trying times till they can bounce back. But someone like her can't hold a brothers back when the 50cent comes asking 21questions.

Simran94:

This is really extreme then, it’s best your friend talks to him. If he still continues like that, then breaking up the relationship would be the best option because if they get married, no matter how rich she might be, she will suffer financially

does her being Financially buoyant And dependent revolve around the guy? Make una gettat jare

ThatIgedeBoy:
You are obviously one of the parasitic women in our society.... You already arranging the story for OP "probably kee you dia"
The average Nigerian woman can't pay her transport, can't buy pad....
And how stewpeed can you people be to ve surprised at a period you see everymonth.... Was she expecting she will be pregnant......
There is nothing wrong with a woman who is getting ready for marriage being unable to buy herself pad abi
That guy better run from you and your type.... Serious liability...
Worse thing from experience its you parasitic poor ones that brag the most... Brag about things you can't afford. Looking for men to make your dreams come true

Lolzz. It is what it is. Your sweat will eventually belong to a woman and her kids. Don't fight it, it is what it is

slimman007:


Madam people like you will be liability to your man in marriage.l know you won't add any value in your marriage always waiting for the man to provide even salt and maggi

You sure?

That your friends boyfriend is wise dont spend on an anonymous girlfriend till you marry her.he doesn't owe her money only a birthday present stop the stupid entitlement mentality.Naija ladies need money get a job or buisness. No boyfriend is your ATM only husbands

Diplomacy is the problem of the whole world. Drop that idea of not wanting to hurt him, tell him in plan words the reason behind the incompatible union, is either he change with you or you help the next lady he will date in future. The only way to help yourself and him is to tell him to face

Hmmm!

Just some few thousands , and she was waiting for him to bring the items to her.

See , i was waiting to hear u say something tangible .

Tell your gurl to wait for another day .

Simran94:


Why would my boyfriend ask me to help him get shaving creams, sticks and a few things and I will still collect refund from him? Ahn ahn, it’s a relationship for God’s sake

Thank you! Little things like this shouldn't b a big deal. Some frustrated mofos already showcasing their bitterness

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Mosdii....... The nightmare of Nigerian girls