sapphiere:
Not always true. Chimamanda is a feminist. Is she bitter? I don't think so.

There's always a balance that people like Chimamanda might apply. You can't be married and carrying feminism on your head and in your home. Marriage comes with selflessness, compromise, etc.

The single feminist(maybe not all) in Nigeria think being a feminist is about being rude to men or challenging them wherever they go. Feminists that have remained married especially to Nigerian men need a balance. Or they can marry white men who don't place emphasis on respect and honour.

Besides, your example, Chimamanda can claim feminism in public, do you know how she is in her home? Does she fight to be the head? Or is she submissive when it applies?

Do we not have women perpetrating such too? Or is it all men that are criminals? The online feminists generalize and accuse ALL men which is not the case. Only a fraction of men and women are criminals. We should note that and try to educate the other remaining fraction on how to be better people not stigmatized them

sapphiere:
Are they lying when they say all these things about men? Are you not on the news? Almost everyday we see rape thread on this forum and the culprits are always men.

Honest truth!

ImaIma1:


There's always a balance that people like Chimamanda might apply. You can't be married and carrying feminism on your head and in your home. Marriage comes with selflessness, compromise, etc.

The single feminist(maybe not all) in Nigeria think being a feminist is about being rude to men or challenging them wherever they go. Feminists that have remained married especially to Nigerian men need a balance. Or they can marry white men who don't place emphasis on respect and honour.

Besides, your example, Chimamanda can claim feminism in public, do you know how she is in her home? Does she fight to be the head? Or is she submissive when it applies?

sapphiere:
It beats my imagination when I see some women reject the movement. Like they are so comfortable being opressed. SHM

Why are Nigerian men so so insecure? Once the hear the word "feminism" their blood get hot.

Don't mistake your wickedness for feminism... Chimammanda Adichie.

AmazonTopaz:

Insecure about what.



Calling for better representation,equal playing field,egalitarian laws etc has nothing to do with being insecure.

Actually being against female enlightenment,empowerment,social,economic,legal and other initiatives designed to help the female gender and fight stereotypes is actually being insecure of female domination.It makes some men have insecurity issues when it comes to women and leads to lack in self esteem.

I don't see men or anyone as a competition so I am not insecure about anything.I am only concerned about helping and empowering my gender.

Anybody doesn't have to try so hard before female will get recognition.Was there ever a time when men came out that they want better representation,equal playing field,egalitarian laws etc?
Nature took it's cause already because they are more capable.
Females mostly acting under emotions while men making logical decisions devoid of emotions.....Where will the equality come from naturally?

Now what makes you think you have no better representation,equal playing field,egalitarian laws etc?(low self esteem).
Will you want to contest for a position and they will tell you not to contest because you are a woman?
Even if they know you won't win (because a man can handle the position better),you will still get the equal right to contest and be voted for.
If you want to join the music industry as a woman,will they tell you "NO" because it is dominated by men?

The women who are side by side with men now,they distinguished themselves as worthy of contending with men.They were not screaming all over the place shouting feminism.They simply developed themselves like men, distinguish themselves to be worthy of the position and they earned it!

Even among men,there is no equality,talk more of women.

Sterope:
She is showing disgust to an ideology that has contributed to her growth. Your question should be directed to her not me

So without feminism,she won't grow?
Y'all should go and deal with your low self esteem first.
You are the ones bringing yourselves lower than men and complaining why men are so above you.

sapphiere:
Did you know that without feminism, we wouldn't have gotten people like Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, Kamala Harris, Angela Merkel etc? Feminisms open doors for equality and women empowerment. I spits on any women who rejects the movement.

You need to reconfigure ur brain. Those women achieved all they did being women and raising a family of their own with men. Don't be an ignoramus thinking u can create a meaningless movement over nothing. Feeling oppressed because u have a low self esteem is your own fault. Don't project it on men.

hmmm...as long as the man does not meet a lady that does this things better!LADIES,THAT SHULD BE UR PRAYER POINT!GOODLUCK!!

sapphiere:
Did you know that without feminism, we wouldn't have gotten people like Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, Kamala Harris, Angela Merkel etc? Feminisms open doors for equality and women empowerment. I spits on any women who rejects the movement.

So who opened the do for Funmi Ransom Kuti (Fela's mum), Margaret Ekpo, Grace Alele Williams, Aba women's riot, Queen Idia, Queen Amina, Amazons of Dahomey and others? Was it feminists? Study history and stop blaming men for your incompetency

Your first sentence is disgenious. The status of prostitutes and prostitution in our society today is largely because of Feminism. The platform she has today, is because of feminism.

First, you can't comprehend. Second, you are quoting the wrong person. Which part of my posts inspired your silly assumptions?

Drella:


So without feminism,she won't grow?
Y'all should go and deal with your low self esteem first.
You are the ones bringing yourselves lower than men and complaining why men are so above you.

sapphiere:
The female teacher who raped a student wasn't in Nigeria. Point me to a female rapist in Nigeria.

Is she not a woman like you and I have two friends who were abused by their aunts .It bleeped them up

revolt:
I guess the queens of Europe ie Mary ....Elizabeth , Amina etc ....and other queens were a result of feminism.... Bloody feminists twisting facts. What can be bigger than the queen of the British empire....

If only you knew that those Queens came as a result of no Male heirs and men were forbidden to take another wives you won't say this.

It was only recently in 2011 that there were laws put in place to stop discrimination to the throne in the British monarchy.Why name those Queens when you can name a 100 more men.

Not people like Chimamanda, more like people with common sense in healthy relationships including friendships.

Those principles are not mutually exclusive or mutually exclusive to submission or feminism. They are the bare minimum for a good working and healthy relationship.

I don't understand why you are hoping Chimamanda must be doing something different in her marriage. She might or not and I know that nothing about her views or herself is a unicorn.

Feminism like every ideology has its good, its bad and its ugly. Part of the good is that it gave you the opportunity to be able to go to school.

ImaIma1:


There's always a balance that people like Chimamanda might apply. You can't be married and carrying feminism on your head and in your home. Marriage comes with selflessness, compromise, etc.

The single feminist(maybe not all) in Nigeria think being a feminist is about being rude to men or challenging them wherever they go. Feminists that have remained married especially to Nigerian men need a balance. Or they can marry white men who don't place emphasis on respect and honour.

Besides, your example, Chimamanda can claim feminism in public, do you know how she is in her home? Does she fight to be the head? Or is she submissive when it applies?

sapphiere:
The female teacher who raped a student wasn't in Nigeria. Point me to a female rapist in Nigeria.

You got banned didn’t you? Hahahaha. I’m going to mock you till it’s over. You got banned instead of me

Susily:



Pls point me to anywhere in the Nigerian constitution that prohibits and oppresses women from participating in any endeavor they want to go into

A woman has as much rights as a man as far as the Nigerian constitution is concerned and because you're a woman you shouldn't expect to get things at the platter, you have to compete for it

The last time I checked, there's a Ministry of women affairs and none for Men affairs......for the sake of equality that Feminists preach, there should also be Ministry for Men affairs

And there are organizations that have a compulsory slot for women where women will be incorporated into the organization not by merit but by the virtue of being a woman.......a privilege men never get to enjoy. As a man you'll have to earn it but women get the slot for just being women

So pls enlighten me about your movement, what's the movement all about?? And how are women being "Legally oppressed" in Nigeria?? The last time I checked, if someone denies you your legal rights, you'll have to drag the person's ass to court but you don't have to expect to get things you need to hustle for on a platter of gold

Pls do well to enlighten the house on your movement.......unless it's no longer equality with men you guys want but to dominate men

I won't waste my time enlightening you if you wanna be enlightened step out of your comfort zone and see things for yourself.It was only a few days ago we saw a woman who was being pressured to drink her husband's corpse,daily we see where girls are being assaulted and raped and you think that rights mean implementation when the average Nigerian doesn't even know their rights and claim that Nigeria is a conservative society with cultures.If you don't see the cultural marginalisation of women then I have no time to waste on you.

I did not join nairaland to waste my time convincing on teaching people on feminism this is not a summit or workshop.
You can advocate for a ministry of men affairs no feminist is stopping you

Drella:


Anybody doesn't have to try so hard before female will get recognition.Was there ever a time when men came out that they want better representation,equal playing field,egalitarian laws etc?
Nature took it's cause already because they are more capable.
Females mostly acting under emotions while men making logical decisions devoid of emotions.....Where will the equality come from naturally?

Now what makes you think you have no better representation,equal playing field,egalitarian laws etc?(low self esteem).
Will you want to contest for a position and they will tell you not to contest because you are a woman?
Even if they know you won't win (because a man can handle the position better),you will still get the equal right to contest and be voted for.
If you want to join the music industry as a woman,will they tell you "NO" because it is dominated by men?

The women who are side by side with men now,they distinguished themselves as worthy of contending with men.They were not screaming all over the place shouting feminism.They simply developed themselves like men, distinguish themselves to be worthy of the position and they earned it!

Even among men,there is no equality,talk more of women.

There is no scientific evidence that men are logical and women emotional.To correct you many things feminist advocate for come from societal construct and not nature.Nature didn't say men are better than women,nature didn't say men should have more powers than women,nature didn't make society patriarchal it was men themselves that did that and made laws and traditions to favour them.

There is no evidence that men are more logical there are emotional men and logical women and what exactly do you even know as logic?

You don't know what equality is when you try to me that even among men there is no equality,who doesn't even know that.
You have a misconstrued meaning.of feminism if you think it is all about what and what not.It seems you don't know that stereotypes and orientation is part of what feminism is trying to change.

Maybe I will use the word equity since equality is confusing you

sapphiere:
Did you know that without feminism, we wouldn't have gotten people like Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, Kamala Harris, Angela Merkel etc? Feminisms open doors for equality and women empowerment. I spits on any women who rejects the movement.

The Spits on you. Third wave feminism is only man hating and stupid agenda pushing. And they don't fight for equality but for superiority because where women have been advantageous are never brought up. Feminism has evolved into Bull crap.

Try and forgive the guy that offended (oppressed) you so that you can have peace of mind.

AmazonTopaz:

I won't waste my time enlightening you if you wanna be enlightened step out of your comfort zone and see things for yourself.It was only a few days ago we saw a woman who was being pressured to drink her husband's corpse,daily we see where girls are being assaulted and raped and you think that rights mean implementation when the average Nigerian doesn't even know their rights and claim that Nigeria is a conservative society with cultures.If you don't see the cultural marginalisation of women then I have no time to waste on you.

I did not join nairaland to waste my time convincing on teaching people on feminism this is not a summit or workshop.
You can advocate for a ministry of men affairs no feminist is stopping you

aujile:
Try and forgive the guy that offended (oppressed) you so that you can have peace of mind.

I have peace of mind and no man can dare oppress me just because it hasn't happened to me doesn't mean same is said of other women.

Your thinking that women were oppressed or offended by men is reason they become feminist shows you have no idea of what you are talking about

AmazonTopaz:


I am a feminist and I am not a stupid person

Don't be so sure about that, not only after you've undergo proper psychological diagnosis

Diagnosis number one. Do you believe in the theory of patriarchy? If yes, why? If no, why ?

sapphiere:
It beats my imagination when I see some women reject the movement. Like they are so comfortable being opressed. SHM

Why are Nigerian men so so insecure? Once the hear the word "feminism" their blood get hot.

Infact it shows how dumb many Nigerian women are.

I was wondering when I'd see your comment.

bukatyne:
Funny thread.

Mercy don buy market

Is feminism against women having good character to their husbands?

Lord have mercy!

crackhaus:

This chic you're so funny...

Just look at that photo of Mercy Eke, then look at yourself. Who looks oppressed between you two?

sapphiere:
[s][/s]Never you quote me again.

As in the moon will fall on the earth. All this unfortunate creatures roaming the earth. You would have been better off a sheep.

God bless you

Susily:



Pls point me to anywhere in the Nigerian constitution that prohibits and oppresses women from participating in any endeavor they want to go into

A woman has as much rights as a man as far as the Nigerian constitution is concerned and because you're a woman you shouldn't expect to get things at the platter, you have to compete for it

The last time I checked, there's a Ministry of women affairs and none for Men affairs......for the sake of equality that Feminists preach, there should also be Ministry for Men affairs

And there are organizations that have a compulsory slot for women where women will be incorporated into the organization not by merit but by the virtue of being a woman.......a privilege men never get to enjoy. As a man you'll have to earn it but women get the slot for just being women

So pls enlighten me about your movement, what's the movement all about?? And how are women being "Legally oppressed" in Nigeria?? The last time I checked, if someone denies you your legal rights, you'll have to drag the person's ass to court but you don't have to expect to get things you need to hustle for on a platter of gold

Pls do well to enlighten the house on your movement.......unless it's no longer equality with men you guys want but to dominate men

sapphiere:
It beats my imagination when I see some women reject the movement. Like they are so comfortable being opressed. SHM

Why are Nigerian men so so insecure? Once the hear the word "feminism" their blood get hot.

...because you Nigerian Assumed Feminists (NAF) don't know what feminism is all about especially you.
You people's assumption about feminism means fighting men
Showing men that they are useless in your lives while you go home every night crying over the man's vacuum in your lives.
Your assumption about feminism is that you should be disrespectful to men to show them u are not afraid of them and when the table turn, you will start crying that he doesn't know that you are a woman and that you need to be pampered.
Your feminism means equal right wth men but not equal responsibility.

wpadmin:


Are all the women in the world being oppressed?

A woman posted this.

The Feminist ideology thrives on victimization of women nothing more.

www.nairaland.com/attachments/13719462_a9f837d94b9242d7bdfe38c72c95f19d_jpeg_jpeg22c9f0107ce4c65aa019dc8c9a2014c3

She will totally avoid this. She will pretend as if she did not see it.
Ndi Feminist.

sapphiere:
Married women who are the head of their families. Probably feeding their husbands.

Please, I am a woman and that is not what feminism is truly about.
We don't believe that men need to be disrespected or not tolerated.

Rest.

SimplyFacts:
No one wants to associate with feminists. The worst tragedy that can happen to a man is getting married to a feminist. They are so embittered & turned daylight witches later.

God, na beg I dey beg oo,,,,

I swear, she would want to control you

sapphiere:
It beats my imagination when I see some women reject the movement. Like they are so comfortable being opressed. SHM

Why are Nigerian men so so insecure? Once the hear the word "feminism" their blood get hot.

rest.

sapphiere:
It beats my imagination when I see some women reject the movement. Like they are so comfortable being opressed. SHM

Why are Nigerian men so so insecure? Once the hear the word "feminism" their blood get hot.

It’s not everything we copy sweetie.
Most people that gave you the feminism would not tell you the truth.
You can see the resultant of this ugly movement you called it.
I pray you understand this before it’s too late.
The man is the head of the family and no two captains can sail a ship.
Be a woman God has made you to be and don’t make unnecessary comparisons to find equality with another gender.