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Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by Liyastitches(f): 6:09pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
From my point of view, it is because they are gullible most of the time,they tend to trust easily and overlook the hand writing on the wall. It's also a test from God to know if your 'good heart' can stand the test of time, because good attitude attract both good and bad, but never give up doing good, if those you are doing good to does not deserve it. 159 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by Seniorwriter(m): 6:13pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Liyastitches: They are mostly unlucky because they have a very low Emotional Quotient... @Seniorwriter 173 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by midolian(m): 6:31pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
No! They are not gullible. There are just too many opportunists out there 347 Likes 25 Shares |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by Blacknote: 6:45pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
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Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by J2381: 6:47pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
midolian:You speak from experience? 37 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by MasonKendall(m): 7:21pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Liyastitches:Mine is different. When people I trust let me down, it doesn't prick me, rather it just looks like nothing happened cos am way less emotional. 47 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by Lucrativress(f): 10:38pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Liyastitches:Being overly good is not too good You need a little level of a bitch in you or else you'll ignore lots of needed points you need to take note of and life itself is a bitch, so just imagine being overly good,how will you be able to detect the bitchiness of life? Balancing your life as a good person means a bit of this and that, helps you to be more practical thereby using your head mostly than your heart 142 Likes 17 Shares |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by Lucrativress(f): 10:44pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Liyastitches:Since you brought God into it,I need you to read the book of Ecclesiastes ,read it finish,use Message Version for easier understanding, King Solomon(The Quester) had things to say concerning this. 8 Likes |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by loadedvibes: 10:47pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Real question is.. do they really have good hearts ? 11 Likes |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by Lucrativress(f): 10:57pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Liyastitches:The reason why you're using the word "unlucky" is cause you're way more emotional Being practical would have said "he wasn't as good as I am or we're just not on the same page" In no ground are you unlucky, you just used more of your heart than your head in deciphering him being good for you,he was just what he was from the beginning, you just didn't see it,Pele dear. 11 Likes |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by Lucrativress(f): 10:58pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
post=103478465:Before nko Where they're just going it wrong is by thinking good heart is a enough,they have to have as good a head also.. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by Lucrativress(f): 11:04pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
post=103478465:Why did the former quote show post.... Okay the same with this one too 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by loadedvibes: 11:28pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
So what about law of attraction and karma ? Lucrativress: 1 Like |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by Lucrativress(f): 11:41pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
post=103479366:Laws that were made by man to suit his predicament. When it comes to human dealings, they're more complex, it's not xyz Those laws are less practical,even science said the humans mind can't be overly predicted, the best one can be is being as practical as possible. Karma ko karma sutra ni,karma to me is more of time and chance, you can trigger karma to happen by working it to happen. Let's imagine a man got drenched in mud water by his neighbour's SUV,then he sulks and wait for karma, yinmu,karma ko Calmag ni,if he doesn't work towards buying a sport's car or maybe AUDII,something bigger or faster so he can splash on his neighbour's car, he'll dream on cause probability of his Rich neighbor going poor without a car is .5 39 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by LikeAking: 11:57pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Liyastitches: Thats the rule of life. The good wiil die the bad will survive. Always remember you are in a bad world. The moment you show ur good side they will assume you are stupid. Follow this simple rule and you will be fine= Be good and bad when necessary. Always watch out for red flags in your next relationship. The easiest red flags are irrelevant/manipulative complains by your partner. Its the beginning of your disrespect in a relationship. Tell your partner to keep quiet, he or she has no right to judge you and that should be the first and last time. I will suggest you end the relationship at this stage. The toxic ones will still try to to manipulate and disrespect later, continue giving them the previous treatment foreever. 23 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by LikeAking: 12:02am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Liyastitches: Another important rule. You should pick your man not the other way round. That means you have to woo the guys you like. Pick quality guys, it goes beyond been handsome with cash. Follow guys in your class. Number 2 Never apologize in a relationship or in life. Its a sign of weakness. But appologise only when your sins are greivious. You just have to be tough. Dont take rubbish from anybody and you will be fine. BE GOOD TO ONLY THoSE WHO ARE GOOD TO YOU AT THAT MOMENT. Been good is another word for been stupid 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by bukatyne(f): 12:03am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Liyastitches: What is your definition of a 'good heart'? |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by loadedvibes: 12:55am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Lol.. Lucrativress: 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by Nobody: 12:57am On Jul 08, 2021 |
The belief is only in our heads |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by Nobody: 1:03am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Most people with good hearts are very picky when it comes to r/ship stuff & the fact is that they end up going for the wrong choice. I have a good heart & I am picky but I'm definitely not going to turn blind eyes to red flags. The good that you need may be that short & fair guy or girl,,,, & not the dark & tall that your good but lustful heart desires so much. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by ednut1(m): 1:12am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Liyastitches:if you had sex in your relationship don’t mention God again 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by Nobody: 10:59am On Jan 23, 2022 |
Liyastitches: Good, that is what is happening to me. . |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by Nobody: 11:05am On Jan 23, 2022 |
That's what happens to people who are too nice and gentle 3 Likes |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by pansophist(m): 12:49pm On Feb 19, 2022 |
@lisastitches, The reason why you don't fall when you walk is that you have passed through that crawling stage when you were probably two years old. It is the same thing about good people. They are harmless and defenseless because they have not yet been stripped of their innocence by malevolent folks. Meet them maybe in three years' time, they will be a different person. That is what life is about, to live and kill off your childlike innocence, or else you will be a burnt offering for everyone. This is a different way to look at it. 44 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by pansophist(m): 12:54pm On Feb 19, 2022 |
Seniorwriter: They are not unlucky, they are innocent and have not experienced the inhumanity humans are capable of. An example for you is, Put sand in a loaf of bread and give it to a group of three years old children, you will see that they will all eat it because they just trust. Then after they spit it out because it tastes horrible, give it again to the same group in a few day time and they will reject it. That experience has killed off their innocence. We are all naive by nature until negative experience changes us. Some of the hardened people are actually really soft by nature, but were abused and just lost faith in humanity. 103 Likes 18 Shares |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by Totiemide: 1:49pm On Feb 19, 2022 |
pansophist: That's true... I was once like that too. Too good or should I say too gullible, I tend to see the good in people even when the red flag is been pointed out to me. Let's say I learnt the hard way, that even while you're good, try add a little craziness to your good. It makes others not to mess with you. You might use other people's experience through your journey in life but you need your own personal experience to continue. 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by Magnoliaa(f): 2:37pm On Feb 19, 2022 |
''People with good hearts'' = nice people/guys/girls + entitlement mentality. What makes their hearts 'good' by the way? And 'unlucky' in what sense? Always? Life happens to everybody. Should they somehow be exempted from relationships' brouhaha and shit or what?? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by pansophist(m): 3:02pm On Feb 19, 2022 |
Totiemide: Yes, that's the balance. The notion that you choose to be good, because you've seen the face of evil, and that face of evil is you. Its a Jungian theory of the "integration of the shadows". Your shadow represent the side of you that is actually evil, while you are the side of the good. Just as your shadow follows you every where you go, it must also reflect in your behaviours in how you interact with the world. So to be wholesome and complete, you must incorporate this evil part into you, to be formidable. You should not be harmless, you should infact be capable of harm, but keep it tamed. It's not tyranny, it's for defence and to live with dignity. It's what army also stands for. They are in the barracks waiting, but if any external aggressions shows up, they go out and fight. The widelife also show this principles in full effect, that the harmless animals are the food for everyone (Impala, deer, hare etc), but no one dare mess with the dangerous one (Tiger, Lion, Croc, panther). Just the roar of a lion scare the shit out of other animals, but not the scream of prey). This is life, its not for weakness and cowardice, but only for the brave to thrive in it. 27 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by Totiemide: 3:06pm On Feb 19, 2022 |
pansophist: Thanks for the enlightenment 5 Likes |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by pansophist(m): 3:29pm On Feb 19, 2022 |
Magnoliaa: Goodheart = people + goodness - inability to be bad. In a general sense, not solely in the context of relationship. But yes when it comes to relationship, your formula works well. Now you know why I'm a wicked person 3 Likes |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by usj(m): 3:38pm On Feb 19, 2022 |
A couple on a romantic getaway find themselves stranded at sea when a tropical storm sweeps away their villa. In order to survive, they are forced to fight the elements, while sharks circle below. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FrVt0yIeWO8 |
Re: Why Are People With Good Hearts Always Unlucky In A Relationship by Magnoliaa(f): 3:38pm On Feb 19, 2022 |
pansophist: I do not understand your equation, sorry. How do you quantify 'good' heart? How do you measure or judge it? Maybe you could start with that. What are bad things? Is it possible for someone not to have the ability to be 'bad'? No matter what a person's rating from goodness - badness is, is it enough reason to base the 'workability' of their relationships on? 3 Likes |
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