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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Ishilove: 1:13pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
We oftentimes don't know what we have until we lose it. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nobody: 1:20pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
Please let us hear word and for your information she's right about that number 2,in marriage a man should provide everything and its solely depend on your wife's decision to assist you or not,its not a mandatory task.Women are care givers and not providers, you can't expect a woman to provide and still respect you it usually don't happen that way.She's not here to say her own side so nobody has the right to condemn her yet. No be Nigerian men again mtchewww 34 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by elay44: 1:38pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
Bro I only read stuff as a guest. this your post made me register on nairaland. I am in this same boat the, threats, jealousy, anger, no support financially,( I earn very well to take care of the family but it can be exhausting sometimes) etc. but we have Kids . I salute your courage bro. you need to be in this shoes to understand what this bro went through. you can comment and call names but you just can't understand. I feel you and I am very happy for you. thanks for speaking up and being an encouragement. a lot of men are going through shit all in the name of love. forget redplliers. we are not built to be violent, we geniuely care for people, that just how we are wired. but we are taken for granted and our nature taken for weakness. 228 Likes 14 Shares |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Frenzy01(m): 1:56pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
Why does everybody keep advising single men to avoid ladies raised by single mothers ![]() Contact me for your pedigree dog of your choice. Waybill available to any location free of charge |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nobody: 1:58pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
Ladies and gentlemen... breakfast is served. Fun fact is pretending not to know anything when in fact you know everything. Sorry brother. If you're reading this, read his words again and again. Those are pieces of advise I can't give to anyone because I believe in experience. I see through his pain. Sad. 35 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by AutoChick4U(f): 2:04pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
Pecoleee345:Aeya sorry. Im a single mom but definitely raising my kid in love. Not all single moms bad sha 84 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by AutoChick4U(f): 2:06pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
TarOrfeeek:Like seriosly? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by AutoChick4U(f): 2:09pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
Pecoleee345:Its simply a reality that cannot change. Many will get it right while many wont 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by greatbrian(m): 2:18pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
I think there is a stereotype about single mother stuff here. Truth is if you are crazy, you are crazy. If you are bad you are bad forget single mum ish. Lots of mofos out there who came out from a perfectly good family but are much more bitter and I'll mannered than whatever you say. And for the records, I was raised by a single mum alongside 2 elder sisters and not for once have my sisters exhibit those traits you dare not even raise your voice in my house even with all I think I am mum still slapped me few months ago and just last week my woman sent my mum money and she tagged it for raising him right. So stop condemning the parent who choose to stay condemn the one who can't take up responsibilities but choose to die or walk away. 101 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by inumidun2010(m): 2:21pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
TarOrfeeek: Ahhhhh, AWON ELEYI TU GIRAN OOOO 2 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by ITbomb(m): 2:27pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
Pecoleee345:Alternatively (very cost efficient), once most of the box ticks and you have made up your mind and reserved enough cash for the marriage, give am belly, if e enter proceed 11 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nobody: 2:30pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
Two Captains cannot be in one boat. ( the both of them should calm down) The problem lies with both of you. She cannot take shit. You cannot take shit. So, who will now take the shit? Pride. Pride goes before a fall. That is what has befallen your marriage. When you learn to get off your high horses, you both will be cohabitable. The problem with many couples is that they place themselves higher than the other. Now you talked about her trying to measure up to you ( equality). What made you see her as trying to do that if you yourself have not placed yourself so high.? Even before God, we all are equal. So why think you are higher than someone else? Your better half for that matter. It's normal for two people to have a misunderstanding. But you should learn to to let go immediately and also try to avoid anything that will cause any further misunderstanding. If you see it coming, quickly turn it to a joke. Is she sees it coming, let her do same. but no. Rather you'll feel, "Why should I be the one to backdown" let him /her go to hell!!!!!!. Ego. If you can't manage your first marriage then you'll not be able to manage the next. mind you the other woman will be coming with a baggage of her own character flaws. No one is perfect. MODIFIED: for those misconstruing my first point. My point is not contradictory because in this context, i only used that first point of mine to stress the fact that where two people are acting the boss, the end result is always the OPs predicament and I wasn't trying to place or stress any hierachial order here. The both of them should /kolm/ down. You guys misconstrued my first point. Thats by the way though. Now, when i say we are all equal, I'm simply saying they both have equal rights to respect for each other. That it shouldn't be one sided. The fact that the man is the head doesn't give him the right to abuse the woman and expect to be respected in return just to prove a point that he's the captain. What's good for the goose is also good for the gander hence my advice for them to drop the mentality of who is the head and treat each other equally with love and respect. After all, they twain have become one. I'm not trying to displace the man's position here but simply saying he shouldn't rub it in her face but lead by example as the head. Shebi, all of una like wetin Booboo they do us, since na him be the head? Ok. 50 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by ITbomb(m): 2:34pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
elay44:Some people will not understand this Most men going through this will never talk about it. If you want to take a stand as a man, the noise from her just keep increasing and the society supports her and treats you as not being able to handle your marital issues. 51 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by BigDan69: 2:36pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
Not just single moms, same effect if they dad is hostile to the mum (domestic violence). My ex was already wired to attack my every word and action. We tried to help her get counseling but she still was same. She ain't violent physical but damn, she is a psychopath. She used to say she is damaged psychologically. Had to let her I know I need my peace of mind, after doing my best but since change was forthcoming. My peace is mind is important. I just pray she finds someone who can handle her and most importantly, I pray she changes as well. 59 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by obinna58(m): 2:36pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
If she says she was raised by a single mother then you'll need to unlock your third eye and sense. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by kacglobal: 2:36pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
I have a feeling I know this person 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by BigDan69: 2:37pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
TarOrfeeek: Ha! This one dey find excuse to break up since 29 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by BigDan69: 2:38pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
obinna58: No be lie ![]() |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by debbydams(f): 2:38pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
Pecoleee345:Jesus Christ 2 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Pecoleee345: 2:39pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
She is in father house.....I don't expect her to spend her money.....her father should continue from where I stopped. They want right but not equal responsibility... Rozcol: 115 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by djon78(m): 2:39pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
Ishilove: So make man pikin die because no one is perfect This thing called marriage If it ain't working Na to find the exit door Cause one can't die of unhappiness Many human being carry plenty baggages 69 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by debbydams(f): 2:40pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
TarOrfeeek:what if she is a good girl,study her very well before u leave her,,u can't judge because of the story u read here 4 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by djon78(m): 2:46pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
Rozcol: Abegi make we hear word A woman must bring something to the table when coming into marriage A topic was trending on Twitter some days ago where one guy put his condition for marrying any woman includes her financial assets/ capability and her academic potentials And many guys affirmed to that Many guys are now considering a woman's financial capability before marriage unlike before where they shoulder everything 87 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by ravensckar(m): 2:52pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
Ishilove:A typical Naija lady's defensive argument. Una no dey ever change tactics ni? ![]() ![]() ![]() Meanwhile, I'm patiently waiting for that deranged one to come and scream the future is 'female'. 92 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by djon78(m): 2:53pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
elay44: Before I used to berate redpillers but I come to realize they are talking facts The worst that can happen to a man is married to a woman that you cater for everything but she doesn't appreciate it but rather makes everything miserable for you 103 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by IbrahimSkiba(f): 2:54pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
Such an interesting novel #applauds 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by ravensckar(m): 2:59pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
CharisEleos:I think you're missing the point. Although I won't mind engaging you intellectually sha, but I just need to ask you one question; are you married? Unless you're married, you probably won't understand half of what the OP typed up there. PS- I'm not in any way taking sides o, especially when I haven't heard from the lady involved. However, I hate to see someone miss the point of a discourse all in a bid to express his opinion. 70 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by djon78(m): 2:59pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
CharisEleos: But in marriage The man is the captain The main issue is that many ladies no dey gree nowadays And men too are becoming much hardened So the marriage don already get k leg 58 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nobody: 3:09pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
ravensckar: My response was not to this post here. after reading this, I knew it was an update of a previous post somewhere. So, I went to his profile and found the previous post. That was what I responded to. Maybe you'll want to read that first so you can understand my submission better. author=djon78 post=104184179] But in marriageDrop this mentality The main issue is that many ladies no dey gree nowadaysExactly my point. 4 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by ravensckar(m): 3:14pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
CharisEleos:My apologies for misunderstanding you then. ![]() ![]() I've been a bit bored, hence I needed someone to have a 'word match'. 2 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by djon78(m): 3:14pm On Jul 28, 2021 |
CharisEleos: Why should I drop the mentality I am the captain in my relationship My woman understands that fact and accedes to it wholly Maybe you can tell that to the men that believe otherwise 59 Likes |
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